JUNE/JULY CYCLE

[randa2006]

Date pushed back to early June. Hope there's room for one more in this group

[lumi]

Good to see our numbers growing!

Can I ask anyone if they think this business gets easier? This will be only my second ET and although I am proud of myself (DH and I have regular mutual appreciation discussions about how well we think the other has coped!!!) it would be nice to think some aspects get [slghtly] easier.

Any opinion?!!

Take care all

[Joanne104]

I agree with you Lumi - the more the merrier!!!!

Cheryl - I have same problem as you - my embies just won't impant! Not sure why - consultant didn't seem to know why either, but have decided that acupuncture, healthy eating (not at the minute, enjoying chocolate too much!), and plenty of vitamins and PMA will be the way forward!!!!!

Lumi - in my humble opinion certain aspects do get easier as you begin to understand scan results and how things are going etc etc - last time my dh predicted correctly when I would have EC!!!!!

On the downside (for me anyway) I found the -ve result this time alot harder to cope with than the first time, it certainly took me alot longer to come to terms with it.

I really think it will help having tmt in the summer - I have got all my windows open this morning at home and can hear the birds singing - it's lovely!

Take care everyone

Joanne
xxx

[debbieed]

Hello All,
I don't think that this gets easier the more times you do it. This time (2nd time) I knew what was coming next but I found myself comparing how I was doing with the 1st time and that didn't help - in fact it made me more worried as at different points I seemed to be doing worse!!!! Then when af showed up before I needed to test I was REALLY upset - much worse than the first time. I guess I didn't think it would work first time so was kind of expecting a -ive result, but then I thought that 2nd time it really might work so was really upset with the -ive. I'm not sure how I'll feel on the 3rd attempt. I guess it will be the worse of the lot as we have agreed that we're only going to have 3 attempts (due to the emotional strain and my age!!). So if this time doesn't work I'll never have a baby of my own. I kow I need to find some PMA before the next try as I'm sure that makes a difference. I am also going to make sure that I get really helathy first - I usually have a pretty healthy lifestyle anyway - just need to lose a few pounds. I'm also going to try accupuncture (as far as I'm concerned it can't do any harm).
Take care all and have fun

Love
Debbie

[CC]

Hi all - yes it's great to see our team growing - definitely the more the merrier.

Lumi - I agree with all that's been said - I think like Joanne that aspects of the physical treatment get easier because you know what to expect but I have to agree with Debbie in that the emotional side is definitely harder. Don't want to spook you Lumi but it would be wrong to pretend that it gets easier and easier - but I'm sure you'll cope just fine. Anyway, we've all got each other which makes a HUGE difference.

Joanne - I'm going to do like you and go for the really healthy life-style again (just need to motivate myself to get started). If it doesn't work again I'm going to look into more tests to see if I need any other treatment like Ellie's having. Let me know when you're well into healthy living and it might be the kick up bum that I need to get started.

Debbie I really hope this time works for you - do you absolutely have to think of it as your last try? Just wondered because that seems like a lot of pressure for you. Don't want to sound like I'm butting in to personal life just worried about you starting treatment with that feeling of 'last chance'. Anyway, let's not worry about that because it it going to work so there's no need to even think about whether it's the last time.

Hi Ellie - how are you? Haven't seen a post recently but I might have missed one

Hi Randa - great to have you with us - we're going to be the most successful test dates thread yet - I can feel it!!

Have I missed anyone? So sorry if I have,

Cherylx

[Joanne104]

Hi all

Isn't Spring GREAT?! I am about 30000000000000000000 times happier than when it was raining and snowing and cold and yukky outside!!!

It is nice to see our group growing and Cheryl - I agree our thread will be the most successful!!!

I am thinking about the healthy lifestyle change after Easter (no point in wasting all that chocolate ) so I will let you know and it would be great if others joined in too to spur me on!

Hope you are all ok?

Take care
Joanne
xx

[CC]

Yeah, I'll be up for that - a healthy start after Easter. Great that gives me a few more weeks to indulge. I feel tonnes happier too - it's amazing what a bit of sunshine can do! Have a great weekend, Cherylx

[lumi]

I think getting healthy is a great idea. It will certainly take my mind off things and give me a focus.

Jan 04 I joined a gym and spent 6 months getting really quite fit (for me) I dropped a dress size and felt great. During this time 'investigations' had started and I left the gym in June as I needed hysteroscopy, was going away to visit in-laws for a month, and then starting ICSI. It seemed a waste of money and between EC and frozen cycle I just wasn't motivated.

However, I have decided to rejoin and lose weight - all my clothes are too small and I want to wear them. Had hoped this wouldn't be an issue I think this glorious weather is helping

Love Lumi (I wiil wait 'till Easter though!)

Thanks for advice about 'easier' or not

[debbieed]

Hello All,
Glad that everyone is feeling happier with the sunshining. I too have thoroughly enjoyed being able to go out today without a coat!!! And to make the day even better I've just watched Wales win the Grand Slam on TV . Just what I needed to help get myself in a better frame of mind for returning to work on Monday.

I've also decided to get fit again. I need to lose a few pounds and just generally tone up before our next tmt.

Cheryl - I guess this doesn't need to be our last chance but before we started this whole thing we said that we'd give it 3 tries and to be quite honest I don't think either of us could cope with going through this again and again, plus I'm now 40 so time is not on my side. If we are going to adopt a child we need to begin sooner rather than later because of our ages so we have some tough decisions to make. If we continue to try IVF then we must delay begining the adoption process and we then may risk the IVF never working and then also being too old to adopt so we may never have a child in our lives. That is something that I find too hard to come to terms with yet (although I have to keep in my mind that may be what happens). If we were younger then I'd probably be willing to give it more goes but unfortunately I can't turn the clock back.

Still, have to move forward now and get myself fighting fit for the summer.

Keep smiling everyone.

Love
Debbie

[CC]

Debbie - I understand what you're saying - it must be really tough to be making such critical decisions. I don't fully understand the ins and outs of adoption but I thought you could start the process anyway but do they ask that you have finished with IVF? Is that part of the selection process? A friend of mine I work with adopted last year after years of IVF and it's been the best thing ever for her - we were talking the other day and she was relieved to be off the roller coaster and to be settled with her family - she is so happy and fulfilled and it's certainly been the right decision for her. I too am happy with the Rugby result - I'm from Ebbw Vale but have since moved to Warwickshire but my heart is always firmly rooted in anything Welsh. Enjoy the sunshine and the post game celebrations!

Hi to everyone else and I'm looking forward to some serious post Easter health. I'm going to do some research and see if I can find us any tips. Anyone else got any particular things they're going to try?

Cherylx

[debbieed]

Hello All,

Cheryl - I have begun to make tentative investigations about adoption and have thoroughly quizzed my friend who adopted a baby last year. Unfortunatley they do like you to have 'concluded any fertility issues' prior to embarking on the adoption route. I'm not sure why but they don't want you to get pregnant during the process either! My friend was in a very similar position to me (same age and undiagnosed problems) and they successfully adopted a beautiful little girl in October last year. The process was very long and very traumatic so it won't be something we start lightly. At least it gives me some hope if the last IVF doesn't work though.

Hope everyone has had a good weekend.

Love
Debbie

[Ellie]

Hi Everyone
Just checking in to say hi and I hope ypu all enjoyed the lovely weather this weekend, doesn't it just make you feel so much more positive?
I have just bought some flaxseed oil supplement to take . I cant remember where I read it or why I am taking it but I have a note to get some 3 months before starting the next cycle!!!
Also just got my prescription through for the humira so I am going to start that soon.

Hope you are all doing well.

[Joanne104]

Hi all

As you can see I am on a countdown to a healthy eating plan, I have already lost 2 stone since last September (figured I would enjoy putting it all back on when pregnant!)

Have decided April Fools Day is as good as any to start!

Must must must read up on vitamins etc to take, Ellie - did you get that from a health shop? Will see if I can find out what it's benefits are!

I think (in my humble opinion) I am going to have 3 meals a day, stick to fruit and veg snacks, cut down on coffee (can't cut it out altogether just yet!), drink water and only occasional glass of wine.... that is how I lost my weight so feel comfortable doing that

Maybe swimming, cycling - then having acupuncture and reflexology?

How does that sound?!?!?!?!

[CC]

I'm going to join you for 1st April Joanne and I'm definitely up for pushing my water consumption up - I'm better cutting everything out or else I get addicted to Coca Cola! I'm going to sort out my 5 fruit + veg a day, get back to acupuncture and start taking my vits more regularly - I was also taking Co-enzyme Q10 (rec by Zita West) not sure if did any good but I'll start that up again. What is the Flaxseed oil for Ellie? Sounds intriguing - let us know, that could be another one for my shopping basket. I drove DH mad on first cycle with my healthy diet - we couldn't go anywhere cos no where catered for my needs! I won't be that obsessive this time but I definitely want to improve on last cycle where I decided healthy didn't work and slobbed out for 2 weeks - I even had a burger King on way home from Embryo transfer I'm ashamed to say! Hope you're all keeping well - any hang overs day after match Debbie? Cherylx

[lumi]

CC you have just made me smile! I did even worse on way home from ET - fish and chips! Yuk! It was more for DH than me.....but we were both STARVING after and early start and nervous energy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lumi xxx