3rd Trimester bumps!!

Announcement of pregnancy and birth following assisted reproductive treatment.
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Toni
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Oh Elizabeth

Your poor thing you sound so low - im not surprised. With everything being early for me I guess I was the other way around - so tearful and fed up in hospital knowing it would all be over fairly soon and wanting to keep going so the babies would be healthier.

I don't know if it will make you feel any better - but one of my closest friend is nearly 2 weeks overdue. she was due on the 20th, which was 2 weeks ago this wednesday. She is just as fed up as you are - and she also has pre-eclampsia now! And she is due to be induced on Wednesday!!

Please try not to worry too much - your baby is in the best place possible -as frustrating and emotional as it may be. I had lots of stuff going on in my delivery - including them having to break my waters for me and ventuose - and everything turned out fine.

I really hope the membrane sweep works for you - and i really really hope to hear from you soon, that you have had your little one and are all safe and sound!!

keep in touch and take care honey

Toni xx
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Hi Toni!!

Thanks for your e-mail. It does make me feel better to know there are others, how can I say this? in the same position as me? Your poor friend, with pre-eclampsia on top of it! I wish her all the best, and am sure she and her baby will be just fine. I do know that this being overdue is not unusual, so it really does help to be reminded that I really am not the only one..Trying very hard to be patient!

It is amazingly thoughtful of you to reply so quickly-I know you have your hands full with those sweet little twins- and I'v ebeen thinking about what you went thru in hospital, well that does give my situation a different perspective (though I know that is not what you were intending so thanks too for letting me have my moan!!).

Looking forward to posting with my good news-thank you again for cheeering me up. Give your little ones an extra snuggle and kiss for me.

Love,
Elizabeth
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hi elizabeth,
i am not surprised you are feeling really down, i know i would have been pulling my hair out if i was late. lets hope the midwife can get things going, although they may want to leave things for nature. i really do hope it happens soon, so that you too can be cuddling your baby.

hi to everyone else. i guess we are all absolutely knackered ... i know i am even though she can sleep for 7 hours if i let her. she can however also be fractious and miserable at night for hours. She also wont sleep in the moses basket so i am off to pick up a carry cot from a friend. At the moment she is sleeping in one of those soft bouncy chair things which i'm sure is not great for her posture. The most hilaroius thing i am finding about her is the bottom explosions ... her pooing is verocious!!!!!!

Kim - glad to see i'm not the only one who still struggles a bit with breastfeeding.

Valli - only 3 days until your c-section!!!!!!!!! Can't wait to hear your news.

bye all for now
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Hi sophJ,

Thanks for your e-mail. Yes, I do feel like tearing my hair out at times..today I had period like pains/contractions and spasms in my back one afer another for about a half-hour..not comfortable, but then went off as usual. It really drives me crazy. I honestly feel like I'm going bonkers with all o fthis-it is just insane.

These diffculties you're having with little Freya, sounds like you and she are coping admirably through them.. It makes me wonder what litttle surprsies my baby has in store for me?? I said to baby out loud today and made my husband (poor thing is suffering right along wioth me and is fed up too!) laugh 'Little man, you're being bloody evicted soon if you don't show up soon'

Does Valli have a c-section scheduled for this week? I thought her Dr's were playing it by ear? How are you holding up Valli? All the best for you this week if you really are having the c-section( I guess I missed a post along the way..). :shock:

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E.
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Oh Elizabeth,
Poor you, I can imagine your situation how frustrating it is. Because I am also in the same. Atleast mine is better, they are doing c-section on this 5th thou my due date is 11th(because of the diabetes). But still I want it happen earlier(even at this very moment). Its very difficult to wait at the end I believe.
Please dont worry. I know its very easy to say. Hope the membrane sweep works for you.
Sophie, yes its two more days. I am too excited. I feel like I have to go a long way to spend these two days. I am very happy to know how well you gals are coping up with the kids. I think its just the nature that does the trick.
Love Valli.
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Post by Jackie S »

Hi

Valli -Good luck with your c-section. The best advice I can give you is to take deep breaths, relax and be determined to enjoy your special moment. I was so aware of how long it had taken to get to that point and wanted to remember every single second of it.

I know you are very worried but everybody in the theatre will be there for you and to make it all a happy time, believe me when the time comes it will feel like it is just you and your husband in the room.

Elizabeth -any sign of it happening yet? I really feel for you, you can tell how excited you are and it must be so frustrating all the waiting. If Valli delivers first it will be nice for you to be the last baby on the third trimester thread -very memorable & special!!!! Good luck when things finally get going and enjoy every moment of it -Joshua is 25 days old already and has changed so much.

We are still in awe of Joshua and still sit there watching him for hours while he sleeps. We are still getting presents for him on almost a daily basis, didn't realise how many people cared.

We are off to Hudderfield this afternoon -107miles each way!!! I jokingly found a demo car, with every extra eg air con, sat nav, alloy wheels etc with £4000 off the asking price -it only has 1500 miles so is a real bargain. Think we will have fun travelling with Joshua but also I'm still having a few problems following c-section so I am sore -it should be fun!!!

Joshua as been a bit grumpy the last few days, we used Johnsons baby sun lotion on him and his skin went a bit patchy and flaky wherever we had put it. Healthvisitor said that because I have asthma in my family he has probably got a touch of ecsma (sp???) so to stop the lotion and make sure he is always in the shade with cap, hoods up on pram etc We do this anyway, but thought I would mention it, it might be useful for some of you. It is such a worry trying to protect him and making things worse!!!

Anyway, good luck Elizabeth and Valli

Hope everybody's babies are doing great, and giving you lots to smile about

Jackie
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Hello girls

Valli - Good luck for tomorrow I'l be thinking of you. You must be sooo excited now. Jackie is quite right - just relax and wait for that moment when you hear your baby's first tiny cry - it's magical !!

Elizabeth - I hate to think of you feeling so low and miserable at the moment and I hope that maybe something has happened since your last post.

We're still having trouble getting Thomas to lie down. I think part of the problem is that he hates being flat on his back - it's not the most comfortable sleeping position especially if he's got a bit of wind. Trouble is that when I breastfeed in the night ( in bed ) I tend to nod off and so does he and the next thing I know an hour and a half has gone by !! At the moment DH is watching the cricket ( with his eyes closed ) and Thomas is fast asleep on him. So we're spoiling him and cuddling him most of the time ( day and night ) and everyone is saying " you're making a rod for your own back! " Well guess what - we don't bloody care !!!! Thomas won't be this age forever and if having loads of cuddles is what makes him happy then so be it, even if it does mean more hard work for us at a later date !!

Well it certainly felt good to get that off my chest !!!!

Hope all you other girls are doing as well as ever and that all the babies are happy and thriving.

Loads of love

Kim xxx
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Hi everyone,

A quick update..I'm more than frustrated and low now, fed up really, so this will be shortish as I'm terribly cranky right now!!

Mid-wife came and did the sweep-I'm 1 cm dilated so that is good. Took a long walk to try and get things going, which I have to say is not very comfortable now because basically everyday I have period like cramps, braxton hicks contractions an dbachache that never goes ANYWHERE!! Always stops, and makes me feel so frustrated. Though the mid-wife said some very nice things (wishes she still delivered babies expecailly for people like me as she thinks I will 'labour beautifully'-I guess I impressed her with how I dealt with the membrane sweep) and thinks that there is a good chance it happening in next 48 hours, well, 24 hours have come and gone already and I don't think it will happen today. I have to say that I'm now waiting for my induction date next tuesday to finally see this baby. As you know, this is what I wanted to avoid, too much intervention and I wanted as much as possible an intervention free labour as I really do think, on my own, I could have a great labour, but hey...Most frustrating for me right now, which I just have to get over, is that I took my maternity leave exactly one month before my induction date, thats a whole month that I wish could have been mor etime spent with my baby. I have 6 months leave and then it is back to work and I was so hoping that I would be with the baby almost fully during those 6 months. Like I said, I just have to get over this, but I still find myself breaking down in tears at how frustrated I feel. I guess because in reality I've waited soo long for this baby (over 8 years!) I wanted things to be close to perfect, i.e. MY WAY! HA! Life is funny, isn't it? And I'm loathe right now to be grateful and well, stoic, and say things like 'I'm so fortunate really' and thank God I have had such a good pregnancy, and that the baby seems to be just fine etc, etc..caus ewhile all of this is true, what is also true is that every hour drags and drags and my hormones and my discomfort and my anxiousness to finally see this baby just nags at me endlessly!!

Sorry not much of anything nice to say, I know all of you will forgive me.

From a very emotional and hormonal/uncomfortable Elizabeth

PS-I've had my rant-VAlli hope you have a wonderful delivery tomorrow and I will be thinking happy thoughts of you and your baby, regardless of my wretched state!!
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Dear Elizabeth

God, how I admire a woman not afraid to have a good old moan !!! Go for it girl - sod giving thanks for all that is wonderful with your life, just let rip, it will do you the world of good !! I'm not being sarcastic - I really mean it !! If you can't have a good old rant on here then where ? I suppose you've tried the hot bath and the hot curry and the hot sex to try and get yourself started off ? There's also a particular flavoured herbal fruit tea that's supposed to help but I can't remember which flavour - your midwife might know though.

Hang in there

Love

Kim
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Hi Kim,

Thanks for the support and affirmation-I feel the same way, I really have had it and it makes me feel just a tiny bit better to have my moan!! To answer your questions-have had no really hot curry because it would just make me miserable with already miserable heartburn. I've had 'shows' since last wednesday (bits and blobs) and I read not to have sex once this happens (confusing though because other books don't mention this and I forgot to ask the mid-wife yesterday-DAMN!) You're thinking of raspberry leaf tea, which I have thought of. You need to drink loads and apparently tastes terrible, but the supermarkets don't sell it and I would need to go into town to get it which I haven't wanted to do as I'm so uncomfortable these days. I could ask my hubby to get it, though, but I must admit I'm losing faith in this happening before induction Dday and just feel I would be wasting my time (admittedly what I do anyway, hmmm..) Well, I'll re-consider that one...

Another worry has cropped up meanwhile, which is just how big my baby will be and how much more painful, therefore, labour will be. It never ends
does it?

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E
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Hi Elizabeth,
I feel horrible for you. I can't imagine how hard it would be to wait the extra days/weeks. I've read that nipple stimulation can actually work since it causes the body to put off the hormone oxytocin (similar to pitocin which is the synthetic substance used to induce labor). They do say to ask your doctor first though since this hormone can cause long and strong contractions that could possibly slow the baby's heart rate. Even with doctors approval they say to stimulate in moderation following your contractions (making sure not to over do it). Sounds a bit scary, but you might want to ask your doc/midwife more about it.

Best of luck to you in avoiding an induction! Sounds like your little one is mighty comfortable, but not for long =) Hang in there!
Lots of love,
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Hi Kappy

Thanks for the advice and the sympathy!

How far along are you now? I think your thread at the end of your e-mail is in need of updating, or am I wrong?

I'm going to go out today (popped two paracetamol, (tylenol to you-I'm American but live here in the UK) , to help a bit with the cramping and contractions as the mid-wife recommended). If I really go into labour then they won't help a fig, of course, but I'm going to chance it. WAtch of course as soon as I'm in town my waters break (splashdown!!) or I go into intense labour whilst eating lunch in the cafe! It wouldn't surprise me, I have to say...but I really need to get out and distract myself.

I too hope it happens before induction DDay, but I'm starting to resign myself to this date as the day I'll finally see this very, very long awaited baby.

Love,
E.
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Hi girls

Elizabeth - So today is D Day !! I've been thinking of you loads today and hope that at this very moment you are holding your baby in your arms !!

Valli - It's been a few days since your c-section now and I hope you and your baby are both doing well.

Jackie, Sophie, Jen and Toni - Hope you and your families are all enjoying these early weeks. Thomas is smiling now which is absolutely adorable !! DH is on holiday at the moment and we're enjoying some quality time together which is really great.

Loads of love to all

Kim xxx
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Hi Elizabeth!
Hoping that all went well today (if in fact you ended up having to wait to be induced)! Looking forward to seeing a posting from you.

As for me ... I'm at 36 weeks this Thursday. Still have a little ways to go unfortunately. I'm a little behind the rest of you girls, so it's going to be a long August.

Again, can't wait to see your posting and the weight of this baby that wasn't willing to leave =) Hoping and praying you had an easy labor like you wished for.
Hugs -
Kelly
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Hi Gals,
I am enjoying my time now(thou its tiring and suffering with pain after the c-section) with my beautiful daughter Priya. Everything went well. My doctor and the staff were so supportive. As soon as I heard my baby's cry I couldn't hold myself and I started crying there. It was a wonderful moment.
I am breastfeeding the baby, I think it will take time for me as well as the baby to have a good feed.
Elizabeth, hope things are going well with you. What did the midwife say? Did she give you an induction date? Don't worry, soon you will hold your baby.
Love Valli(Happy mom)
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