Cycling In 2012 Board (formerly Fall/Winter 2011-2012)

[Gina1976]

Well ladies my Grandmother passed away today. One of her lungs shut down yesterday and my Mom called this morning to say she had 48 hrs. I guess the 3 weeks was right. So I just saw an update from my cousin. I wish someone would have called instead of her putting it on there but at least I know and I am sure everyone is busy and upset. It's hard to use cell phones to call here.

I'm glad she's in no more pain and she's now with my Grandfather and their baby they lost when it was born. They are together now. She's been saying she wanted a new body for a couple of weeks now and she has that now. I will miss her greatly. It will be sad going back there and not having her around. She made me about a gallon of potato salad every visit we made there which have been tons over the years.....I will miss that.

I haven't told DS yet. I'm not until tomorrow. His Birthday was yesterday and so glad it didn't happen on that. Today was his party and don't want to cause him pain after a great two days. So please be with me and him when we have to tell him.

I'm at a loss at when to go. We have two dogs and money isn't so great right now with Birthdays and Christmas..I know my Dad would help us but the boarding place for them might not have room and hate leaving them there, but we have no one to help and last time someone did it was awful. They didn't hurt the dogs but it was other things. I HATE leaving DH because I don't like traveling without him. Heck his work may not give him leave because it normally has to be a blood relative. If he gets it and we can put the dogs somewhere we may can fly space a. With emergency leave it would help, we'd only have to pay $7 except need a flight from MD to GA. Since they only go to Dover.

[Gina1976]

I need some advice here.....

My moms side of the family can be horrible to my mom and Dad. My Uncle (her Brother) has been so jealous of my parents they say the meanest things. My parents never rub things like money in their faces. My Dad worked (he's retired now, 6 months ago) hard to let my mom be a stay at home wife/mother. He did very well for them. Anyway that's how they are and their kids/Grandkids are as well because of them. My Uncle would curse my Grandmother out but she'd to anything for him anyway!

So their Grand-Daughter post asap about my Grandmother passing. I mean just seconds after. She was first to post that she had 3 weeks to live also. Now she knows I'm over here and that no one has called because she's been there with every one and their cells won't call here. It upsets me that's how I found out today. I really want to "confront" her about it. Telling her she needs to make sure everyone knows before she goes and posts. She did this win my Aunt found out she had breast cancer. They got all over her.

I don't want to be rude but just let her know that she shouldn't do that because we don't like finding out online. Should I do this or just wait? I don't want to cause more issues at this time but she needs to use more common sense about it. If she would have messaged me, I would have been okay with that because that's why I friend'd her again on fb so I could find things out when they couldn't call.

~About 30 mins ago my mom called to tell me. It happened 5 hrs ago, give or take a few. I'm sure things were hectic and busy. All my mom told me was that she passed and the time. Then said she was making cornbread for their dressing. I only got to say I'm sorry it happened.....and she said she's let me go. Maybe it's just shock I don't know. With my Grandfather she hyperventilated and just couldn't handle things for a couple of months. So this is totally opposite. Over these last month and 1/2 she's taking it very well. I think it's because they've known maybe? She did say she's cried some but still. I just hope she's okay.

Sorry for venting so much. I feel closer to y'all than I do with those I've known since HS and even family.

[Sunshine1576]

Gina,

I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother, I really am. I wish I had some advice to give you about what your cousin did, it's very inconsiderate to others and her parents really should be all over her about doing that! It must of been shocking to read facebook post expecially when nobody else had even told you yet, I don't like that you found out about your grandmother this way at all.

I know what you mean about friends here, because there are so many days that I go into work in a better mood because I feel maybe the ladies here understand completely and it means alot that someone out there cares. I care too and you all have become my family more then anyone out there knows. This forum has saved us in so many ways!

As for grieving, I personally feel it's sometimes easier when we know and can mentally prepare ourselves with what is about to happen. Each one of us will experience grieving a little differently sometimes in different stages: denial, anger, bargaining, crying and acceptance, and each stage of grieving could happen at any time. I know Ninde could explain better, but we all need time to grieve and each person has there own individual needs when it comes to acceptance, and we know more then anything it will take time. Some days will be easier then others, one thing is for sure she will be greatly missed. As I said before Grandmother's are God's special people and you will hold onto her precious memories keeping her warm in our hearts.

I will certainly be praying for your family this week and if it is ok I will be making a pound of my grandmother's potato salad in memory of how much you loved your grandmother's potato salad. xoxo Much Love- Christy

[Gina1976]

Christy, thank you. That would be great of you to make that. Thanks I'm sure my Mom will call tomorrow and hopefully we can talk more then. I pray everyone can be peaceful during this time. It's about keeping her memory alive and remembering the great times. Those I will cherish forever.

[Ninde]

Gina

Im so sorry about your grandmother. She sounds to have been a dear, dear lady and i know you will miss her terribly.

I dont know why I didnt realise your cousin had posted both the details of your grandmothers estimated time left and now her death on facebook. I can only imagine she did it to get some support from her friends on facebook. However given that you didnt know its a horrible way for you to find out. I think you have already given yourself the answer when you said in your post that she could have messaged you first as cells dont work to you in germany. Maybe she could do that for anything in the future?

As for grieving - christy you have the stages bang on and in fact I much prefer your stage of 'crying, we call it 'depression' but crying sounds a much nicernway of explaining it and less scary so if you dont mind I'll use that in the future? And you are right, we all grieve differently. You sound sad and a little upset your mum didnt call you and then ended the call so quickly. Im so sorry you are left with that. And you may be right, your mum may not be handling this well even though she seems to have cried and spent some time getting used to the idea. My two close experiences of death were sudden, my best friend who took his life and then my mum who died instantly of an anuerism 6 months later. The shock that comes with sudden death is horrendous and thats why I feel so bad for Maria at the moment. But i know that even though ypu expected your grandmothers death that it doesn't take away any of the pain and the rawness. The fact that you are not in the same country is also really difficult.

Im so so very sorry and I will ask arch angel azrael to cross your grandmother over with love and gentleness so she can be reuinted with your grandad and their baby. I'll also ask the deity Ganesh to remove all obstacles from your oath to allow you to travel smoothly and to help ensure there are no hitches with boarding the dogs.

May your grandmother rest in peace

Ninde

[leorira11]

Blessed - the first Friday in December is the 2nd. Only a week and a half away! Sorry about your laptop...

Kim - I hope you are just too early, but I know that sinking feeling of dread with each passing day - as the hope gets smaller and smaller but still stays alive. {{big hugs}} Good luck on Wednesday

Christy - Yeah -- you knew me too well! While you were posting... I was peeing. Geez. How did you hold out for your blood test? I'm just crazy. I use leave in conditioner (ie, hair creme) and it keeps the frizzies away completely! Better than any expensive product I've ever used. I would never have picked this stuff up in the USA. I used to buy expensive gels and mousse and sprays. But here, so many people just use leave in conditioner. You have to experiment with the amount - with too much you look like an extra in "Grease", but with the right amount, my hair is soft and smooth.

Rosie - WOOOHOOOO! That is such a fantastic beta! I'm so excited for you!

Bodie - every single day that passes, your odds of having those 2 babies arrive safely goes up! Enjoy yourself, this really will work out for you!

Tuffy - hi! How are you doing? thanks -- I really hope this is a BFP for me!

Jayne - Christmas stuff already? Wow! It's not even Thanksgiving yet!

Neffi - ugh. The next two tests were totally negative. I'm hoping I'm just too early... I'm glad the Viagra is working out well. And yes, after all the research I've done and all the cycles I've been through, I think I could at least be a nurse, if not a RE!

Patricia - you want the IMG code and you need to put in HTML format. Copy the IMG code (from photobucket, it'll look like this "http://i1238.photobucket.com/albums/ff4 ... /10dpo.jpg" ) and put it between brackets (like this "[" "]"that say "IMG" and "/IMG". If you click "Img" from the menu above in your reply, it'll give you the brackets and you just put the code in between. [_IMG_] (without the underscores). Does that help?

Gina - I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I don't know what to say. Just that I'm thinking of you.

AFM - not good... UGH. Last night's test and this morning's tests are completely negative. I think I'm just seeing some "wishful thinking" on yesterday afternoon's. I'm hoping that I'm just too early. With the boys, I took a test on the morning of 5dp5dt and got a BFN, but got my BFP that evening. So maybe I'll try again tonight.

UGH.

Here it is for those who want to obsess with me....

[Gina1976]

Leora- Thank you.

I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!!

[Gina1976]

Ninde- Thank you again. I did let my cousin know that she needs to make sure everyone (esp those not there which is just me) knows before she makes a post. Yes I was a little surprised that my mom didn't talk long but maybe that's all she could just manage at the time. She's been tough with all of this and I know some of that is how she's treated and the other is probably just shock it's happened. I had a nice long talk with God and my Grandparents that are with him, last night. It really did help. I'll be telling my son not long after he gets home today. I need to be strong for him.

[Ninde]

Leorira: thanks ill try that later I havnt used those tests so wasnt sure what to look for. Itmight be wishful thinking on my part but when I scrolled back up I can see a very faint pink line. So maybe its our eyes or maybe its just a bit early but I think I saw a line!!

Patricia

[Ninde]

Rightio - lets try this!



Can anyone see this - I'm on my laptop in work which is a bit old and doesn't always display things - i.e. I cant see it!

Ninde

[leorira11]

Patricia - Nope! That didn't work! Not sure why....

Here is my edited version of my HPT from this morning. Not tweaked, just cropped.

[Ninde]

Leorira: Right, I think I may have been looking where the plastic meets the strip - but its really hard to tell from a photo. Having said that I thought I was reasonably computer literate but wow you take the biscuit! How is your stomach - has it settled down?

I'll try that image code again from my laptop at home with Ken reading out your instructions and hope that works!

Ninde

[WeHaveHope]

Gina-I am very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

Sorry for the lack of personals. I promise, I will try to get back to posting and updating the board after the service on Ftiday. Still having a tough time. I am keeping all of you in my prayers. Sending you all my love.

Your friend,

Maria

[Gina1976]

It appears to be a VERY faint line to me. Can't wait to see how it progresses!

[Sunshine1576]

I really need to stay awake passed 1am CT on Sunday nights to join you all for the POAS party!
Leora, I never laughed so hard where I had to walk away from the computer for a moment...because I do know you well and knew you would not hold out... hehe you really crack me up! Yes it is too early but I do see a faint line, maybe I'm obessing too but I will be definately checking back tonight. Oh thanks, a little bit of leave-in conditioner should do the trick. It's crazy my hair looks "tamed" before I leave the house, but after church we went to Sam's Wholesale Club and I looked into the mirror and the humidity had my hair growing like a chia pet.

Ninde, yes I highly recommend Ryan Gosling's washboard abs in "Crazy, Stupid Love" lol and knew it was going to be a funny movie when Steve Carell jumped out of the car when his wife told him she had an affair. A must see... I will also have to check out Idles of March, thanks for recommending some good movies.

Gina and Wehavehope, My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and the family.

AFM: Sleeping alot here lately, I think my body is trying to mentally/physically prepare for Black Friday as a retailer.