Very sad news

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Post by sammys »

Oh Jules...what a sad thing to happen...Be brave and take comfort that your sweetie is with so many loving others and is being so well taken care of. As for you and dh hold each other close and weather the storm YOU WILL BE BLESSED, Love Sammy :wink:
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Post by ogr1 »

i just wanted you to know that i was thinnking of you

sending you a hug (((((((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))

love becky
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Post by Kat »

Julie, I was so sorry to read your post, haven't been here for a while but thought I'd check in to see how you were doing... I know nothing I say will make you feel any better, just want to echo what everyone else has said, take care of yourself & DH, you are in my thoughts
lots of love
Kat xx
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ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
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Post by randa2006 »

Our dear dear BigJ,
I just logged on for the first time in over a week and I'm crushed at your news. This is just aweful! You poor thing and your dh too. There are no words fitting. I wish I could come across the ocean and give you a huge hug.
You've been a tower of strength for the rest of us and I only hope you saved some of it for yourself.
You and I may be going again in September together (very likely).
I'm here for you.
God Bless you and give you strength in these days of coping with something that is just WRONG!
Love,
Randa
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Post by ogr1 »

bij j just wanted youto know that i am here if there is anything at all that i can do,..

i kow that sometimes you feel all alone and at times it needs to be that way.. at least for me it did and at times still does.

but please know that we are all here on the side lines for you.

my hubbys uncle and aunt are here and it is haard.. they gave me alot of stress just before my mc..

anyway i hope you know that i care alot about you and i hope your counsleing helped ..
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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BigJ and DH

I am so so sorry to hear your devastating news. I am sending you tons of hugs and best wishes.

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Post by CC »

Thinking of you both - much love and hugs, Cherylxx
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Post by eskavon »

Big J
Words can't say how sad I am for you both. My dearest testing buddy if you need anything at all let me know, always here for you.
Love and hugs
Eskavon xxxxxxx
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Post by julesg »

Big J

I just wanted to let you know how sorry I was to see you very sad news - take care of yourself

:cry: :cry:

Lots of Love and a HUGE hug

Julie
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ICSI Oct/Nov08 -ve
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Post by Alison »

Dear Big J - am logging in after a few days away and am so sorry to read your news. Glad to hear you starting to look forward, ubut do take the time for you and your partner to recover from your loss. Much love

Alison xx
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Post by Smita »

So sorry to hear your news BigJ- I can't begin to imagine your sorrow.
Please take care..
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Post by taylorjools »

You ladies are amazing thank you, and thank you again for those PM's that have also meant the world to us.

Today was really hard as it was exactly last week that the bleeding and cramps started, Monday's have a particular routine here because of dh's job, so this morning felt like a re-run of last week. We walked the dogs early and Spot - greyhound- went for another dog in the forest, he must have picked up my vibes. Then the pipe on the hoover broke so I couldn't even get obsessive about housework :cry: Luckily a very good (new) girlfreind called me and had her day off (she works in retail) and made me go to the beach with her so we had a good girlie day. She is wonderful, married to a Brazilian musician so a really interesting lady. She is 36 and her dh 47 so I spent the afternoon lecturing her on not waiting to start a family :oops: :oops: she was with me at the hospital when the m/c happened and dh wasn't there yet. At the moment it just feels like I made it through another day. just waiting now for dh to come home.

The counselling was very good, we ended up talking more about the pressure issues I (we) have regarding age/blaming myself for not persuading dh to do it earlier, and guilt because my mother is paying and fear of having good things taken away/fear of trust (need to control) which is a big issue of mine from the breakdown. Dh was wonderful and it helped him too. I am going to carry on my weekly sessions and we are going to do another one as a couple and then dh one on his own. Thank God we have that.

Love and kisses to you all, thank you for being there for me

Love bigJ
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Post by ogr1 »

big j you are going to get threw this..

there is no blame on anyone..

just try and hold on to eachother ..

what is is.. and we just have to find a way to get threw it and keep going..

i think it is great that you are looking into other clinics and that you are trying to get some test done..
i hope you can find some answers..

lovebecky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Post by NickiMark »

Big J,

Just wanted to pop in here so see how u were, not been on here much just trying to keep away actually. I find that sometimes I get down and keep focusing on this stuff does my head in. So been trying to focus energy on other things in life. Does that make sence?

Doesn't mean I dont think of you, I do. Just the way life is. I am sending you extra hugs and praying that u will get there in the end dear. You have been through a rough time I know and I just hope that soon u can smile again.

Love and Hugs Nicola x x
TTC 6yrs......Have jumped off the rollercoaster for now, too many BFN's and too much heartache, to keep going....Moving on to fulfil other dreams!!!
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Post by ogr1 »

nick it makes alot on sence..

it is all so very hard.. i have been on and off and sometimes i just pop in to see how everyone is doing..

sometimes it seems like i am just writing the same thing but that isnt the case..
i mean it each time i write it..

you go and have a great day..
love becky and big j we are always around..
sending you big hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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