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NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 5:52 pm

Hi Sam. Welcome!!

Hope that we can all help u along the way x x

Anyway, I am back form my break. lovely!!!

Just waiting for AF then will get going again!
Sorry no gossip this time! Hugs to you all x x x

taylorjools · Post by **taylorjools** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 7:13 pm

First Katie - no you are not crazy, I think it's great you did that. I am so scared, but I did buy some maternity stuff as I had already really changed shape at 7 weeks, and I needed the stuff until 2-3 weeks after the m/c....and I WILL NEED THEM AGAIN

I think if we terrorize ourselves into not doing anything normal until a baby is born, we lose so much. If you are brave enough there is the pg forum on this board, many girlies make it, we have to try and believe

Having a hard time this wek as my sister (40) gave birth to her second naturally conceived baby this week, I am happy for her but distraught for me(us). I can't bring myself to speak to her...and feel guilty about it, bought a little pressie for her (my new niece) and broke down when I showed it to dh...it's still sitting on the ktichen counter...

Hi Sam, I faxed all our stuff to Kiev today, but we need to wait for gentic results til August so not sure how we go forward. If the gentic results are bad we'll do at least pre-implantaion genetic diagnosis, worst scenario, we'll do donor eggs (anyway) and donor sperm...

then I am a mega donor buddy.....princess is also donor both ...princess hello?????

ElleR - love and mega hugs to you
Nicola - excited for you sweetie,. lets hope AF arrives on time

Love and hugs

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 7:40 pm

Big j. Hi ya x x

Are you doing donor sperm this next go as well as DE? Whats wrong with Dh's sperm?? Sorry have I missed something!

Hope ur doing ok. Remember stay positive! x x

SamanthaH · Post by **SamanthaH** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 7:45 pm

Hi Jools,

Firstly feel very embarassed got slightly middled on all the names when typing my last message, go you muddled with Bigj! It was meant to be a thank you to you for all your help with the clinics abaord!

DH and I have just sat on the pc going through the forms for Kiav, got to go through the whole flippin test thing again as ours are a couple of months out of date, god knows what my doctor is going to say about this again as our NHS is not that generous when it comes to repeating the same blood tests

Hope everything works out for you and DH with the testing and if you have to go double wamming with the donors so what, it just makes the little one even more special and that baby was meant for you and no one else

Lots of cyber love to the rest of you guys xxxx

taylorjools · Post by **taylorjools** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 8:12 pm

Hi sweeties - donor dudettes

first Sam - it's me it's Ok I am bigJ I am Jools (that's cos yahoo didn't have Jules left) and I am Jules and so you are cool OK?????????? and I am really happy that anything I said has helped you

Blimey that form

know what you mean, I mean I had "oh right Eastern Europe" comments" but I have to say - Kiev are much more demanding than Spain (tests 3 months, more tests etc) - luckily I have loads of support here, I think it's as they can't directly support DE (that would be illegal) they CAN do mega diagnosis.........

and what I also want to say is your comment helped me SO much, baby meant for US yes like that

thnk you for that so much

you are sooooooo right

I have to say on top, that in the meantime Barcelona have "pulled their socks up" (I can't believe I wrote that, I show my age

) and I ahve terrorized every university clinic in north Germany, so we are doing really well as far as getting tested is concerned..........

that's just bigboringscientistmeJ

Katie12563 · Post by **Katie12563** » Tue Jul 19, 2005 11:17 pm

Hey Ladies, how are you all???

bigJ, Sweetie I totally understand your feelings and I know you love you sister. Here is a simular story that might make you smile (or cry as I almost did):

I met one of my co workers at my doctor's office by accident. I had just become pregnant and I was so happy. I was shocked to see her and afraid she would tell others at work I was there...it is a fertility clinic after all. So I fessed up and told her I was expecting but wanted to keep it a secret until 3 months. Well she was just in an IUI cycle and was nervous and asked me alot of questions at work during the next 3 weeks. I confessed to her that I hoped for twins. Well just when she found out she was pregnant I found out the baby's heart rate was very slow and I would probadly miscarry.

Well she found out that she was expecting twins...and I lost my 1 little one.
She never told me about the twins but another co-worker/friend did. I'm happy for her and her husband but I feel terrible. I should have delivered 2 weeks before her and now...well her delivery of the twins will remind me that I was first and should have delivered before her. She is VERY nice and deserves this(she miscarried a year ago) but...bigJ you know what I mean here...its hard. Everyone at work will be all abuzz with her good news soon and eventual delivery. The upside is I may be pregnant again by that time but I'll still remember my little lost one...I pray that God still will bless me and not be too upset at all these feelings I have.
bigJ..........lots of hugs to you...I hope we'll be pregnant at the same time
and that goes for you other ladies too!!!!!!!!

princess · Post by **princess** » Wed Jul 20, 2005 4:10 am

OK went to the clinic today start clomid on Friday then scan on Sat the 30th.
Insemination should be sometime shortly after that. I have to look for a donor again that's always fun to oder sperm.
Kind of crazy to order sperm.

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Wed Jul 20, 2005 5:32 pm

Princess, Hi there.
With us they actually only look for the donor match on the day before insemination, which to me is scary as I worry what if they cant findone. Do they canc. the cycle! Yikes!!!
I know that donor sperm is not so readily available in the Uk after the new laws in april 05. after Sept 05 it'll be even worse.

elleR · Post by **elleR** » Fri Jul 22, 2005 5:32 pm

Hello to my donor buddies!!!

It's a BFN

for me this cycle....
AF had arrived last night. Had really bad cramps right before it showed up, thought I'd pass out. I was at work when it happened ( I work the graveyard shift!). So I had to hold back the tears until I left work. As soon as I hit the highway, that was it!....
DH & I are coping though. We are talking now of whether we're gonna go for DIUI next month and use meds or go with IVF/ICSI #2. We have decided though to seek another RE.

Nicki,
How r you? Thanks for all your support girl!
And of course, to everyone here...Katie, Princess, Big J, Princess! to all!
Your support and encouragement mean so much to me.
Sam, welcome aboard!
Baby dust to all!

Never ever giving up!

elleR

Katie12563 · Post by **Katie12563** » Fri Jul 22, 2005 9:19 pm

elleR: On honey, I'm sorry you didn't get a positive.
But I'm sosososo happy to see you post, "never give up."
Simply, it means you will be a new mommy!!!
I love your attitdue. You deserved that cry. We are all behind
you.~*~*~*~*~*~Love & Hugs

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Fri Jul 22, 2005 9:50 pm

Elle, I am so sorry to hear this news. Hugs to you. Make sure you have a good w/end. How many IUI's have you had now? Was this your 2nd? Have you called your clinic. waht did they say?
I wish u all the best for your next go, but in the mean time pamper yourself and focus on you and dh.

I knwo how u feel, I have been there. It's shit I know, but it'll pass and then you can get on and try again.

Hugs my dear x x

Hi, all you other donor buddies. Hope u are all ok........ I am at this limbo stage. Have no news at the mo......

Love to all x x

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Mon Jul 25, 2005 7:29 am

Hi Girls!

Dh and I had heated talks on donor yesterday. tears galore!

It started when we booked our holiday on line yesterday. Fine. Not a problem, maybe an hour later dh was going on about stuff we could do on holiday etc.... I said ' I might be pregnant though!' He said oh yeah, in a cant be arsed sounding voice. So I said you dont seem that bothered if I am or not blah blah blah.....

I said it seems to me as if us getting pregnent isn't at the top of your priority's.
It turns out that he's wanting his own baby and not some one else. He said it feels like I am being unfaithful by getting pregnent with some one else and i may as well just go out and pick a fella in apub. I was so upset.
I guess I can see where he's coming from.
But is there anyone else out there who has this with their dh??

We made up, and he's still happy to proceed this month with the DI but just wants his own. Obviously.

I have lots to get off my chest about this just needed to log here before work to get it out. I'll post more later.

Love to you all. x x

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Mon Jul 25, 2005 4:25 pm

Hi, Donor Buddies. Where are you?? Ive just come back in from work, no posts since mine this morning....where are my donor buddies!!!???

anyway, where was I?
Yesterday, I just felt very sad and low and dh saying that made me freak out. I thought he was happy.
I can see where he's coming from, but it just hit me when he said he would pick me a fella in a pub.

How do u girls feel about this with the donor eggs? Just trying to understand it from the opposite side!

Hope to catch you laters. Thanks for listening! x x (or reading, as the caase may be!!)

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Mon Jul 25, 2005 4:36 pm

Nicki

I know I'm trespassing as I don't belong in this thread but I just wanted to send you loads of PMA and huge hugs because you're you and very, very special.

I hope that you and DH are ok and things get better for you both very soon - maybe because you are about to go through it imminently it is on his mind more and feels the agony you go through and shows it in his own frustration. You know he loves you and that's what matters.

Take care of yourself Nicki and remember you've loads of friends here who're routing for you both.

Big hugs

Little P

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Mon Jul 25, 2005 5:14 pm

Thanks Little P, you are great. You're right he does love me. thats all that matters, I guess.

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