Dear Bella
I've got to say it too, you've done absolutely nothing wrong to get this result. If you need to talk just let us know, because we're here.
Lots of love.
Camilla xx
Bella Test Date Weds 23 Nov
Bella, I am so sorry.
you did nothing wrong, I am sure. Life is life that, don't blame yourself pls.
One day it'll happen, and it'll happen then for a reason just you wait and see. make sure you and dh go out this w/end have a fun night....
Hugs to you x xx
you did nothing wrong, I am sure. Life is life that, don't blame yourself pls.
One day it'll happen, and it'll happen then for a reason just you wait and see. make sure you and dh go out this w/end have a fun night....
Hugs to you x xx
TTC 6yrs......Have jumped off the rollercoaster for now, too many BFN's and too much heartache, to keep going....Moving on to fulfil other dreams!!!
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Bella
I am so sorry to hear your news. I know what you mean about feeling like you've done something wrong - I convinced myself last night that I was due a BFN this Friday due to changes in my symptoms, and I was going through every little deviation from the bible of Zita! "If only I'd done this, ......if only I hadn't done that". We both know it doesn't work like that, it would be easier if it was because then we'd have some control, but it's cruelly random.
Common sense tells me, as i know it tells you, that the failure rate on this treatment is higher than the success rate. We all know that when we go into it, yet as the weeks pass, it is impossible not to dream.
I really feel for you today, but your dreams can go on, and they can still come true - just not this time.
Thinking of you.
xx
I am so sorry to hear your news. I know what you mean about feeling like you've done something wrong - I convinced myself last night that I was due a BFN this Friday due to changes in my symptoms, and I was going through every little deviation from the bible of Zita! "If only I'd done this, ......if only I hadn't done that". We both know it doesn't work like that, it would be easier if it was because then we'd have some control, but it's cruelly random.
Common sense tells me, as i know it tells you, that the failure rate on this treatment is higher than the success rate. We all know that when we go into it, yet as the weeks pass, it is impossible not to dream.
I really feel for you today, but your dreams can go on, and they can still come true - just not this time.
Thinking of you.
xx
Thanks everyone for you kind words - everyone has so much knowledge & there is a world of experience here!
Amfy - thank you, and I hope every thing is great for you & you get a BFP tomorrow. I just blame myself because I can't bare to think about this being so random. It's hard not to get caught up in the fact that DH & I have created 6 little babies - each with their sex, eye colour, sporting ability etc. already genetically determined. To think it's just the luck of the draw is hard for me to handle, even though I know that is a huge part of it.
After the move interstate & appointment with my new Doc, I hope I will join the Jan buddies and get better luck then.
Good luck the rest of the Nov buddies & Dec buddies!
Bella.
Amfy - thank you, and I hope every thing is great for you & you get a BFP tomorrow. I just blame myself because I can't bare to think about this being so random. It's hard not to get caught up in the fact that DH & I have created 6 little babies - each with their sex, eye colour, sporting ability etc. already genetically determined. To think it's just the luck of the draw is hard for me to handle, even though I know that is a huge part of it.
After the move interstate & appointment with my new Doc, I hope I will join the Jan buddies and get better luck then.
Good luck the rest of the Nov buddies & Dec buddies!
Bella.
#1 -ve severe OHSS
#2&3 FET both -ve
#4 1 blasto - BFP! Lucy Bella born 3rd Dec 06
Jan 09 - FET...BFP!
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#2&3 FET both -ve
#4 1 blasto - BFP! Lucy Bella born 3rd Dec 06
Jan 09 - FET...BFP!
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Hi Bella
I had a BFN on monday and I was thinking yesterday how unfair it all is.
I'll liken it to gardening! I planted a packet of seeds that had 23 seeds in it (the number of eggs I had collected over 2 cycles), then I watched 19 of those seeds germinate into tiny seedlings. 4 of those were considered good enough (the rest were thrown away) to got 'potted on' into new compost - 2 to each pot - only to wither and die within a fortnight leaving an empty pot of compost.
How unlikey is that in the grand scheme of nature???????
At the end of the day we have both done our best to make this work - the is NOTHING else I could have done and i'm sure you are the same. Let us not blame ourselves but accept that it just isn't our time at the moment. I wont be doing IVF again, we can't cope with the stress of it any more. I wish you all the best for January, take care
Annie
I had a BFN on monday and I was thinking yesterday how unfair it all is.
I'll liken it to gardening! I planted a packet of seeds that had 23 seeds in it (the number of eggs I had collected over 2 cycles), then I watched 19 of those seeds germinate into tiny seedlings. 4 of those were considered good enough (the rest were thrown away) to got 'potted on' into new compost - 2 to each pot - only to wither and die within a fortnight leaving an empty pot of compost.
How unlikey is that in the grand scheme of nature???????
At the end of the day we have both done our best to make this work - the is NOTHING else I could have done and i'm sure you are the same. Let us not blame ourselves but accept that it just isn't our time at the moment. I wont be doing IVF again, we can't cope with the stress of it any more. I wish you all the best for January, take care
Annie
me 34 dh 42 TTC 4 yrs
No periods - maybe PCOS (docs undecided)
Laparoscopy/ovarian drilling/Clomophene unsuccessfull
IVF march 05 - abandoned poor response
IVF may/june 05 -ve
IVF Oct/Nov 05 -ve
End of the IVF road for us - had enough!
No periods - maybe PCOS (docs undecided)
Laparoscopy/ovarian drilling/Clomophene unsuccessfull
IVF march 05 - abandoned poor response
IVF may/june 05 -ve
IVF Oct/Nov 05 -ve
End of the IVF road for us - had enough!
Oh dear...
Annie, Bella,
I am so so sorry about your results...
loads of love
souris
xxx
Annie, Bella,
I am so so sorry about your results...
loads of love
souris
xxx
Me 27, DH 55
04/ 05 ICSI -tive 02/06 ICSI. No fertilisation
09/ 06 ICSI. BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks.04/07 ? ICSI -tive
04/08 ICSI BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks
Feb 09 6th ICSI has started! neg
June 09 7th ICSI. Please make it happen!!
04/ 05 ICSI -tive 02/06 ICSI. No fertilisation
09/ 06 ICSI. BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks.04/07 ? ICSI -tive
04/08 ICSI BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks
Feb 09 6th ICSI has started! neg
June 09 7th ICSI. Please make it happen!!