August 2012 Transfer Buddies

[suzyq]

Tonya-Sorry to hear your cousin was so insensitive. You have every right to be pissed. This waiting game takes it toll on each of us. Try to find some way to keep yourself busy. I have found doing some kind of service takes my mind off my own troubles. I seem to find I would much rather have my trials than someone else's.

[Ninde]

Tonya: I would have murdered her - so I think you were very restrained! I'm sorry though - she was really stupid and insensitive.

Suzyq: I'm really pleased for you - well done And thank you for your words.

Annette: I've left them a mesage and I've asked if I can come in for beta tomorrow rather than wed.

Afm: This is definately a period, I have all the usual symptoms and the flow is pretty heavy. I really don't think we have the money to do another IVF and with such spectacular bad failures on this cylce and the last despite really good embies this time I'm not sure if it will work. Im actually amazed the first one did. I'm finding it hard to visualise a life without children and although I'm dealing with how I feel I just feel so disappointed

Patricia

[Sunshine1576]

Crashing for Patricia...
I understand how disappointed you feel right now, it makes absolute no sense especially when the embryos were good and you had a BFP last year. Regardless I still believe you shouldn't give up on having children...There are other ways around it, other options and one way or another you WILL be bringing home a baby. Right now know that we are here for you and you take the time to grieve with this loss. May TIME help you heal...and when you are ready maybe discussing some options with your RE and dh will certainly help you determine these next steps but whatever you do don't let go of this dream. Your perservance and determination will certainly bring you the greatest miracle. Remember anything worth having in life is not meant to be easy.

[Ninde]

Thanks sunshine and its not that I disagree, im a huge believer in going forward and thinking creatively and we have another adoption government meeting on wed but that's not looking good with dh's MS. But i dont necessarily think that being determined enough will bring us a child, I would like to think it would but i know various people who wanted this desperately, did all the right things, stayed strong, prayed, all of it and it didnt happen. Im not at all pessimistic by nature but I do know my will alone or even with dh can do this. I wish it could though and i thank you so much for thinking of me x

Patricia

[Sunshine1576]

Patricia,
I'm sorry you feel that way, only you can know when "enough" is actually enough. My heart goes out to you tonight, all we really can do is let you know you are never alone no matter what. X Christy

[leorira11]

Patricia - can you get a beta (or take a HPT) to get confirmation that this is really BFN? I don't want to hang false hope, but I've had bleeding in two of my three pregnancies that made it out of the first trimester.

"When is enough, enough?" I don't know. I wish I did. If we lose this baby, I don't know how we could ever jump back into this sh*t. Try finding some websites or books that talk about living child-free after exhausting fertility treatment options. I know that a lot of people like the book "Navigating the Land of IF" which has a chapter on stopping treatments. I bought it, but haven't read it yet.

Everyone always tells me "it'll happen one day - just keep trying" and doesn't understand that there are lots of people who come to the end of the IVF road without a baby. I really wish that happened to no one, and that IVF could give everyone a miracle baby, but it doesn't happen that way - and that breaks my heart.

[Ninde]

Christy: I appreciate your kindness so much and thank you for your friendship. My head is so screwed I don't know when enough is enough - I wish I was a little younger and that I had a little more money for this. We are nearly 20,000 euro down in the last year with this and no insurance covers, etc. How are you doing?

Leora: Thank you for remaining hopeful - that really is extremely helpful - we all tend to think more negatively than positively around this so hope is a good thing. Unfortunately I think the difference is that I've been bleeding steadily since Sunday which is before the beta. There seems to be a better record of successfully hanging on to a pregnancy when at least the beta happens.

Afm: I've had my beta and just got the results. Result was less than 2 so there was absolutely no pregnancy whatsoever. I have the wtf meeting next Thurs. Last time she went on and on about the shape of the embryos and how the quality wasn't good and that when you have a miscarriage and then have a bfn then the stats show you continue to generally have bfns. So I'm not exactly hopeful for this meeting. However, I had beautiful little embies this time so she can't say its a quality issue. Does anyone know what sort of tests I could ask for around implantation at this point - because I certainly seem to have a problem actually having anything stick (other than the first time)? Any advice would be gratefully received.

Patricia

[BRMommy2B]

Ninde - I am so sorry. I know too well how that feels!

AFM - I haven't been nervous yet this entire process until this morning. Just got a call from the nurse, who told me that of my five embryos, they are all still going, some better than others. We are at day 3, and she said they like to see 6-8 cells at this point. We have (3) 6-cell, (1) 5-cell, and (1) 4-cell. She said that of the 6-cells, they can pick the two best, so they want to go ahead and transfer today at noon (which is in 3 hours). She said to wrap up at work, start drinking lots of water, and she'll see me in a few hours.

They're assuming we'll want to transfer 2, and I'm still undecided. Our insurance ran out half-way through this cycle, so instead of a nice 10% copay, we'll have to foot the entire bill if we go on to FET. I know that money shouldn't influence this decision, but it's hard not to let it, especially considering I'd want to do it soon if this one doesn't stick. Decisions, decisions!

Please say a prayer for me and my little bambinos this morning!

[tmiddle]

Hi ladies ive just returned from my anniversary trip to Cancun, I see I have missed a lot.

Ninde, I am so sorry. You are so supportive of everyone else. This couldn't have happened to a sweeter person. I pray God gives you the strength to get through this very difficult time.

Congrats to all the BFP's out there Christie, Annette, and Ryan!!

Good luck to all you waiters hoping for bfp for all of you.

AFM : all is well feeling a little sick to my stomache. U/S is Sunday.

[tmiddle]

br2... good luck!!

[suzyq]

Lindsey- I am praying for you. We need all the help we can get in this process. I know these decisions are not easy. Stay calm and follow your gut feeling. You will know what to do. I wish I had some helpful advise, but I don't seem to have that nack. Big hugs to you this morning and good luck. I will be thinking about you.

Patricia- I am thinking about you. I know this is not easy and my heart aches for you. Take care of yourself. I hope you are able to continue trying, but know that is difficult. Hopefully your RE will have positive things to say or a new plan. Take care.

Annette, Tonya, Sorcet, and Ryan- I hope all is well with you ladies.

Tamika- Glad you got to get away and enjoy a trip. That is wonderful. We were in Cancun in May and loved it. What year anniversary was this?

Cristie

[Tawny]

Ninde- I give you props girl. This is only my 1st IVF after 3 failed IUI's but I don't know that I would try again if this is a BFN. I just don't know that I would have the umph to keep going like you have. After the last IUI I just started to figure that maybe being a mom was just not in the cards for me or in God's plan, until a girlfriend of mine (awsome preacher) talked to me about the trials and tribulations that God presents us to make us stronger people in life and through Christ so I decided to give IVF a shot. So I really do give yuo props hun I don't know if I will be able to be as strong as you are.

BRMommy- Good luck today and take it easy. I was really hesitant about transfering 2 or 1 as well but I took my chances and went with the 2 we will find out this week if I made the right choice or not, but I figure it's in God's hands anyway why not make the odds better.

AFM- Back to work today and the question of the day has been "do you feel Prego?" I have no clue what feeling progo feels like. What should I be feeling on week 2? If I sit for a while and get up I have been having a sharp pain on both Overy area's I'm really hoping that's normal. Thats the only differences I feel. I'm still a chicken and don't know if I want to POAS.

[tmiddle]

Tawny... POAS, POAS, POAS !!! just kidding i had the shrp pains I was very concerned but it turned out to be positive. Good luck hun!!

Christie yr 4. we had a really good time, thinking los Cabos is in our future:)

sorcet gteat news on the transfer I haven't even checked my work emails yet the first thing I did was login to see how you ladies were doing.

[BRMommy2B]

Transfer complete! It went smoothly. We went with their recommendation of 2, saying that their 2 rates were much higher than 1 rates. I am just putting it in God's hands!

[kiwi11]

Patricia- I am so sorry for you- especially that it always has to be a money issue as well. It is so expensive here In the US. Other countries e
Cover a lot more through insurance. But you should never give up hope. I have friend they had 2 boys through a surrogate because they couldn't get pregnant and not even IFV would have helped- when tier 2nd son was 6 month she got pregnant naturally !!! And it's not a joke - so everything is possible.

Sorcet - great news about the transfer - I transferred two as well and we will have one so good choice and good luck

Tawny- the sharp pain is normal -I had the same, it is because the ovaries are still huge. If there is something wrong with them the pain will be extraordinary and you will know there is something wrong.


AFM - we had our first US and we have one little beanie beta is rising nicely and next US will be Monday.