February Has My Heart - February Cycle Buddies Wanted

[Jen1d]

yyyiiipppee for good news

Congrats to Wisconsingal and Steph

More good news, i finally got my two blue lines this morning. I felt a little upset as i was standing staring at it wishing it was a preg test Anyway i called the Doc and we start the hrt drugs on the 2nd Feb. I'm full of mixed emotions as i just want everything to work out well this time, i'm fed up of the stress and disappointment --- but PMA all the WAY

Nerms - You hang in there girl, your time will come and you will have your day to be all smug about your pregnancy

Am thinking of you all but must dash as i am on a sleepover at work

Love Jen x

[mominwaiting]

Way to go Wisconsingal and Steph and Jen!!!! Keeping everything crossed for you!!!
Well as for me I went to RE today and had baseline/E2 everything looked good so I start stimming tomorrow night. with ER being on Feb 8th as of now, I will try to keep you updated as I can, I still have had no side affects at all from Lupron and I am on day 10, so that is great I stopped BCP on tues. and got AF immediately after, still got it but RE said not a problem, so I guess I am off and running.

[sat14]

Hi girls,

I know I have been so inconsistent with my posts. It's been tough since Charity has been gone. She used to keep me on track and highly motivated. We miss you Charity and I hope you are well!!!

Just an update- starting Lupron on Feb 12th until I get my AF, then I will start the stims as well as being on the Lupron. RE is increasing my stims dose this time as I only had three mature eggs last time. So it looks like I will have the egg retrieval sometimes at the end of Feb. I am not looking forward to the hormones again... I turn into a psycho! And the weight gain.... ughhh. The price we are willing to pay for little ones! Good luck to everyone!
Talk to you soon.
Susan

[Charity]

Oh Susan...You're such a sweetie...I miss you all too, and I am doing okay...Dh and I are trying to conceive the old fashioned way in the meantime, but hopefully in 2008 we'll be able to give it another go if we have no luck...We gave up on the IUI game early, because my regular OB/GYN said dh's sperm were really in bad shape, and we didn't want to dwindle our coverage away on treatments that may not get us to our ultimate goal of a baby. However, when we went for our first IVF, the RE said his sample wasn't bad at all...A little sub-normal in a few categories, but nothing they couldn't work with...So, now I've been mulling over the idea of going back to the IUI's through the clinic where I had my IVF done...Still thinking, but at least there's hope to look towards in the short-term...

Susan...I so understand what you mean about the hormones and weight gain...I know it sounds weird, but I was a bit relieved when my cycle was canceled. That's not to say that I was at all happy about it either, but I think it's only natural to be apprehensive when going through such a life-altering event. There is so much pain and stress with this whole IF thing, and it's so unfair that we have to go through this additional hurdle. I know people try to rationalize it as being something a higher power is putting us through to make us appreciate that baby even more than we would have if it came easier. I personally think that's hog-wash. I think these are medical events completely unrelated to any higher power. I need only to go to a Wally-World on the first Saturday of the month to know that there's no higher power that would do this to us. We're obviously intelligent, financially stable (or at least were before treatments), loving, and entitled men and women trying to conceive a child to bring them into a healthy relationship and home. There's no higher power that I know of that would deny us that blessing. So, while I can't explain why we're having to go through this and others don't, I can say that we're obviously the most determined, strong, and focused women that are not to be messed with. So, our moods with the hormones might be hard to deal with, they are just a sign of our strength and determination. Anyone to deny you a little crankiness in having to go through what we have, to make this baby, just better step off, cause we are a force to be reckoned with.

You stay strong Susan, and just get through the next few weeks...They'll be so worth it in the end...And this ordeal will be a faint memory. The experience will never leave us, but the moods, weight, and medical poking and proding certainly will...And on to a bigger and better experience to mold us and change us forever...Motherhood...Take care dear, and keep us posted on your progress...One step at a time...One hurdle at a time...Don't overwhelm yourself...All my best...

[mominwaiting]

WOW Charity that was very inspirational, you should be a speaker
Well as for me I am on day 3 of stimms and I do know what you mean by moods whew and they were here the very first day. Also having hot flashes and night sweats. I did not have any side effects from Lupron, but the stimms are making up for it.

[pep23]

Hey ladies, hope you all had a great weekend! So I have a question of the day for you all. What are your feelings on telling people about IVF and that you are going through it? So far DH and I have chosen to only tell our parents who have been extremely supportive and then we recently both told our bosses because we knew we'd be missing work and didn't want to stress if we had to be out on big days that our bosses would be angry.

But this morning I just told my brother because he is getting married in April and his bachelor party and finance's bachelorette party are on the weekends before and after the week of ER & ET. So my DH and I will both be unable to attend either of their parties. Anyway, he said that when he told his fiancé she started to cry and was all sad that I was going to be pregnant at the wedding and wouldn't have any fun because I can't drink and was also worried that people would be making a fuss over me. He was also hinting that she didn't understand why we couldn’t just put it off a few more weeks.

Well, I really had to bite my tongue on that one, I calmly explained to him that DH and I have been trying to start our family for over a year and at this point "putting it off" is not an option. And furthermore, there are no guarantees it will work the first time (although I pray every day we should be so lucky) so I may not be pregnant at the wedding anyway….And if I was (I reeeeaaallly hope I am!!) it would be way too early to tell anyone so she can be assured no "fuss" will be made.

Anyway, after that reaction I was so mad and sad and frustrated. And it's making me question if we should say anything to anyone else. I guess people who aren't going through it really don't understand the stress and what a big deal it is. It's amazing that they weren't more sympathetic. Well, just had to vent and after my mom got an ear full this morning I thought you all woyuld be a good sounding board!!

Thanks for listening to me rant! Love you all!!

Steph

[MYNALA]

HI EVERYONE, I'M SUPPOSED TO BE TAKING IT EASY, SO I AM. THIS IS PRETTY WIERD THOUGH, I'VE NEVER LAID AROUND FOR 3 DAYS BEFORE. THEY PUT TWO EMBIES BACK IN, AND FROZE 2 ALSO. I'M ON MY PRAYERFULL TWO WEEK WAIT!

HUGS TO ALL

[EYCI]

PEP23 -

Just read your post...

Sounds like your future SIL is either a complete idiot, selfish *****, or both. To ask you to postpone is completely RIDICULOUS! Sounds like you handled it as best as you could by staying calm and telling them ahead of time that you wouldn’t be able to attend. Great job on that one to rise above it and not explode at the suggestion that you were going to ruin the wedding day if you were pregnant. Arrggghh, I’m screaming in my head right now just feeling your frustration!

As to whether or not to tell people… we kept it completely private other than telling our bosses. We didn’t want to face people’s ignorance, lack of support, or the opposite which would be people asking too many questions or having to tell many people that it didn’t work. It definitely brought DH and I closer as we got through it all together on our own.

If you go the route of not telling people, you can come up with some creative excuses for stuff. Not drinking = I’m on antibiotics and am not supposed to. Resting/taking it easy = I strained my back and am not supposed to do ANYTHING. Missing out on events (like a bachette party) = last minute cancellation because I’m puking and have diarrhea. Yes, these are ALL lies, but it avoids any awkward questions/explanations.

Good luck!!!!!

[pep23]

Thanks EYCI for your post! I like to think that I am not being unreasonable by having the reaction I did but I'm so emotional lately that I just never know!! And I love your excuse about puking and diarrhea. I'll have to store that one in my memory for use at a later date!!!

Steph

[nerms]

Hi Steph, thanks for your support a few days ago...feeling a bit better now but days are passing sooooo slowly!!! I read your post re: telling people, i am inclined to agree with EYCI, I told my family recently, I found them very supportive but it wasn't quite what i expected..Dh was initially quite keen on keeping it low key, but then we both felt it was too big a part of our lives to hide it from everyone..besides i'm a talker and need to share and thought I would benefit from the support. It wasn't quite what i expected because they didn't quite understand the stress involved and how your life revolves around it, and their lives continue as normal...my sister is gettign married next summer and she joked about me stealing her thunder...i guess the way to see it is it's her big day and she expects the world to revolve around her...which is fine, any strops should be ignored i think and only focus on positive things that are said let the rest wash over your head, after all she's not going through it so why expect her to fully understand? They say expectations are the route to much unhappiness so don't expect anything and say it as it is...can't be there for party, can't drink and if she doesn't understand its her problem not yours...if she remotely understood then she wouldn't be suggesting anything be postponed for even a day!!! I hope you are pregnant at the wedding! How are things with you otherwise?

Mynala...good luck with your 2ww, thinking of you.

Wisconsignal..how are you getting on?

Jen...how come you get started on hrt drugs?

Hope all others are well

Nerms
x

ps.charity keep the wisdom coming!!!

[nimble]

hello I'm back from my sunny hols and see that I have missed loads so will take a night out later this week to catch up on everyone.

Charity - how lovely to see that you're back, missed you loads, haven't read all your posts yet but don't worry I will!!

I've lost track where everyone is else also on their cycles too so hoping everyone is ok and things are progressing well.

As for me, spent two whole weeks chilling on a beach and waiting for AF to arrive next week (or lets hope not nudge nudge wink wink !!) Then we are back on the good old merry go round so it seems that I will be more of a March girl.

Starting to get apprehensive as now I know what is involved and the things that could go wrong and also on double dosage of drugs which feels me with dread! We toyed with the idea of doing natural IVF but feel should give ICSI a go and if it doesn't work then we can try natural as it is more affordable.

Catch up soon
lol
nimble xx

[wannababyIVF]

Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and was told to come here to introduce myself. I started my second round of IVF last Friday. WEll I started taking the shots last Friday. I believe my egg retrieval will be around Valentines day. I'm nervous and excited all at the same time. This will be our second attempt and I pray that it works this time. I am so emotional right now. Those darn hormones. One minute I am crying and the next laughing.

I felt all alone (except for hubby) until I found this site. I know have a place to share.

I am trying to stay positive and concentrate on other things. It's amazing how much this consumes you.

I would like to wish everyone good luck. I will be praying for all of you.

[Jen1d]

Hi girls

Charity - brilliant to hear from you, hang in there and pop in to see us for a chat now and again.

Nimble - I'm so jealous your on the beach , its so cold here.

Nerms - I'm doing a different protocol this cycle and its suppost to be called a flare cycle and hopefully with get me more eggs. Usually i take nasal sprays then injections, which is the same for this cycle but the hrt comes first. Just hoping i don't get loads of side effects.

Mynala - Good luck with your 2ww. What date do you test?

Steph - Can't believe how selfish your SIL is Hope your dream comes true and you have a big swollen belly to sort her out haha
We decided to tell most people at my work and my family. Gradually over time our friends found out to and i felt ok with that as long as we were telling them, i suppose it was so we felt in control of the situation as everything else seemed to be out of our control. It just depends how you feel, everyone is different. After telling people they now only talk about it if i want to discuss it, which i find is better than having people continually asking when we were having kids.

Ok off to sort out some dinner

Love Jen x
Welcome to wannababyivf.

[pep23]

Welcome wannababy! This board has helped keep me sane the past month and it's a great place to vent/ask advice/share stories etc. I will keep you in my thoughts over the next few weeks as the big day approaches!

Nerms,
Thanks for your thoughts. I think DH and I are going to really limit who we tell for all the reasons you talked about. In the end it's no one's business but ours and I don't want to feel like I'm constantly being hounded about our status. Any signs of AF??? I'm hoping it starts for you real soon because then we will only be a week off in our cycles!!

Other than that things are good. I sent in all of our paperwork today and a BIG FAT check to get us all situated with shared risk. And I also have all my drugs on order. The Lupron should be on my doorstep when I get home today. I'm so nervous! I think actually seeing the medication will make me start to realize we are really doing this!!!

How is everybody else doign? Sending LOTS of BFP vibes to Mynala and Wisconsingal!!! Is anybody else on their 2WW? I'm having a hard time tracking where we all are on our cycles.

Better get back to work. Talk to you all soon!

Steph

[wannababyIVF]

I've only been on the Lupron for a couple days and I'm already bipolar...or so I feel. One minute happy, the next minute crying over a car commercal. So weird.

But anyway, I have 2 questions, has your doctor told you how long to stay in bed, off your feet after the IUI? Last time I was told 24 hours. I had my IUI on Monday at 11am and went back to work on Tuesday around noon. I was wondering if that was too quick. I'm trying to figure out if I did anything wrong. Which I know I shouldnt and I'm sure I didn't. Everything happens for a reason and I beleive I did everything by the book. I just want this time to be a success. Wondering if there is anything I could do to change the outcome.

Second question, is anyone injecting themselves in the legs besides myself. I have read several articles posts where woman inject themselves in the stomach. Does it matter? I'm assuming the meds are still getting to the same place.

Any help advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

Also, hubby and I have decided to tell our bosses because we will be out of work again and they need to know that. Especially if IVF works, we will need our jobs. lol A couple of my friends know we are THINKING about doing it. But no one really knows that we are going thru it right now. In case it doesn't work, again. Not sure I want to hear the opinions of others. Especially those that have never been thru it. But then when people ask "so when are you guys going to have a family", I have to them my famous response....."When God gives us one" and then give them the look. That usually shuts them up.