Cycling In 2012 Board (formerly Fall/Winter 2011-2012)

[Sunshine1576]

Leora, ER is right around the corner and I'm sooo egcited for you!

[fvrogers]

Leora - wishing you all the best and a successful transfer! So happy that you are back on track.

[Julia73]

Leora-what a relief! I'm so happy for you!!

Gina- feeling any better? I'm sorry you're sick

[annashope]

Hello girls sorry I have been MIA but it was a very busy weekend and I was out of town so no access to the computer.

Leora I am just thrilled that you are finally triggering I was thinking about you all weekend and wondering how things were and I am so happy that things are finally on track. I am ok. Very morning sick now I am thinking of asking my RE for a little bit of meds to help with the nausea because this is so rough. My due date is Dec 21st but I am pretty sure my c-section will be scheduled for 38 weeks so I am thinking around Dec 7-10. With Paul I begged to be given till 39 weeks only to deliver at 37 weeks 4 days so I am not too ambitious about reaching my due date. I only have a quarter of the normal cervix length left so even with my abdominal cerclage its pushing it.

Gina I hope you feel better soon. What was your DS sick with that caused nose bleeds?

Julia how is the spotting? all better I hope. When is the next scan? when are you being released to the ob? With my RE if things are good I graduate to an OB at 9 weeks. ( God willing)

Sunshine I am so sorry your husband is going through a tough time its hard...My best friend has been going through a rough patch for the past 6 months because the man she is in love with will not commit to marrying her and I know its so rough to have someone close to you always down even if its completely justified. Hang in there you will be pregnant soon and then his mood will change right?

Wehavehope/Maria it is nice hearing form you. I am so sorry about the low iron but hopefully you will be feeling better soon.

Hopethisworks I think the cramping is normal I too had that for a while but not so much anymore. Any other symptoms?

Lauren 319 how awesome a boy and a girl I hope they both stick!!! how awesome would that be!!! How are you doing my friend? when is your beta? Will you POAS?

Amanda 1979 yay on being PUPO and your embies look great Good luck

I am sure I am missing many of you but the morning sickness is killing me so before I get sick again I better send this off.

AFM Had a fun weekend in Wash DC with family visiting my best friend. We got to see the White House and the monuments and the Smithsonian for a bit. Also friday my SIL gave birth to my 2nd nephew and he is just a doll so this was a busy weekend. Everyone have a wonderful week

[Lauren319]

Anna - Hope you feel better and congrats on the new nephew!!

Leora - YAY!!! Goo duck with everything! How exciting!

Maria - I'm sorry to hear about your iron deficiency, but hopefully, it'll get all cleared up. You have so much going on!! Crazy!

Gina - I'm so sorry you're sick. Did you ever get your son to the ENT?

Ninde - YUM. Thanks for your suggestions. I've literally seen ALL TV. Like EVERYTHING. It's a problem

Amanda - Congrats on being PUPO. We can survive the 2ww together


Sorry I can't get to everyone. Gonna take a nap. I moved from the bed to the couch today. Exciting news.

[sunshine.12]

Leora.. Yey!! Your ER is here!! Good luck my dear!!

[blueeyedreamer]

Amanda, congrats! Pupo! Your embeds are gorgeous. Fingers and toes are crossed for you.

Leora, ER is so close. My clinic typically does ER in the am and ET in the pm, but it can vary based on each person. Can't wait to hear your report.

Christy, sorry dh is in the dumps. Academia is a tough place to work.

Julia, glad the spotting is minimal. Frustrating that you dr and nurse don't send the same message.

Maria, good to hear from you. Sorry about the iron trouble.

Annashope, I love DC. I scored on my last visit and happened to be there for the White House Spring Garden tour. It was awesome.

Patricia, I hope you feel better soon.

AFM, the race was awesome! The weather was perfect and Vancouver, BC is a beautiful city. The race course was new and great. We both had great runs. Dh did the full 26.2 miles/44KM in 4:16:00. I did the half 13.1 miles/21KM in 3:10:00, which is an avg of 14:30 min per mile. That's a PR for me for that distance. Im working to break 3 hrs. My long term goal is to make 2:30:00. I'm pooped, sore, and ready for sleep. Have a great Monday!

[Julia73]

Blue-your race sounds awesome! I think your race time was great but I know nothing about those things i'm very proud of you nonetheless!

Leora-Woohoo its er day!! I'm praying for a fruitful safe retrieval for you.

Anna-glad to hear from you! I don't have another scan planned until the ob schedules one, who knows-we may be considered high risk with all this craziness and we will get to peek more often! My due date is December 11, I will have a scheduled c section too but i'm hoping to be able to carry until 12-12-12, and then my birthday is the next day hehe. The spotting has stopped again also.

Afm-as I mentioned, the spotting is gone again, thank you Jesus. I'm still worried, I swear I think i'm gonna stroke out by the end of this...waiting to hear if the house owner accepted our seconds offer on the house. I don't have a good feeling about it, he sounded stuck at his first counter offer. The house is amazing, its a 4 bedroom which is one more than we really need but it would work. 2.5 baths. Built in 2010, I want it bad!

[anton]

Hi everyone!

Leora – Good Luck tomorrow on your ET! THIS IS YOUR TIME my friend! I am SO excited for you! Finally the ET day you so much waited is here!!! I can’t deny that is been 10 months since my last IVF and I live through your IVF procedures! The excitement is almost the same as if I was getting ready for ER! Silly me! I know! But who cares! ...all my ET happened from 8:30 – 12 noon. I am sure your RE knows what he is doing. I wish you a smooth transfer and healthy pregnancy and baby ALL THE WAY! ((HUGS)) xxx




Sunshine- I am sorry about your DH feeling depressed. I totally get him. Taking it from my experience on the job part is SOOOOOO frustrating not being able to find a job for such a long time! The market here is crap and it’s taking SOOO f**** long to get the interview call or the second interview call or any call at all! It is ridiculous! But what can we do! I thank God every day for making me a patient person being able to cope with the job waiting and the IVF to start. Now I get it why I’ve always been a positive and patient person! It was for the job situation and fertility tests HE was planning on giving me later in life! ...About your DH comparing your lives to others, we are only humans and we cannot help it but compare our happiness and lives in general with others. Me and DH NEVER compared our life with anyone (e.g why they have that and we this or whatever) we were always grateful for what we had in our lives. Ever since infertility step into our house my DH ....and I have to admit that at the beginning I used to do the same A LOT... started comparing our life with others. Friends and relatives or even people we might see in the street pushing a stroller or holding their kids by the hand. I am over that...trying to... I have tried and so far its working...I say to myself ‘’we don’t know what that couple has been through to have that baby or if they have their health or if they love each other enough or if they have a big financial problem or if someone close to them is dying! We don’t know! All we know is what we see and what we see is just a pretty picture & not their whole life! And then look at us. And I know our life together and I see so many things that we are blessed with already. And we love each other so much (and maybe more than those couples that we see pushing their baby’s stroller...) and we both have our health (besides infertility!) – here my DH comment’s : but I don’t even have my health ...sperm issue- YES honey but you have both hands and legs and you can see and walk and run a marathon if you feel like it!! SO YES! You TOO have your health! And then he shut up! - ...and like you said what is perfect!? Define perfect! Well I think we are perfect in SO many ways ! So we don’t have a baby...so far...that doesn’t make us any less perfect. And who says couples that have babies are perfect! Perfect is what you want it to be perfect. Yes, I know that once we have a baby we are going to have the perfect family...says who! There are so many factors in the mix to make the perfect home. And again, perfect is what everyone sees perfect for him. we know this couple that has 4 boys (yes 4!) the older is almost 8 and the youngest 15 months. They yell at each other ALL the time! (the parents ) they don’t speak with love for each other, they don’t even call each other names. Like baby, honey etc. Nada! Does this makes a perfect family because they have 4 kids! They came to our house once and I was talking to my DH calling him ‘babe’ and ‘love’ and the oldest boy (which is btw our Godson) was SO surprise that we talked to each other like this and he goes ‘’why do you call each other babe and love!? And I said to him because we love each other and so we tell each other’’ and he goes: ‘’my mum and dad never calls each other babe and love they only shout at each other! Does that mean they don’t love each other?’’ I wanted to bite my tongue right there! ...moral of the story NO ONE IS PERFECT! And at the same time Everyone can be perfect in their own way...Geezzz!!! Christy! I wrote you al lot! I get carried away so easy! again! Of course the things I wrote goes for all of us...




Amanda & Lauren319- How are PUPO girls doing! Are you going to POAS!!! It’s been a while to see those 2 pink lines on this board and we have missed seeing them!!!! Come on girls!



Wehavehope – Yay for passing the 21 weeks milestone! I am happy for you! Yes! Iron is VERY important during a pregnancy! I hope you got your meds today and feel better. Constructions in your house sounds like fun! What a better way to welcome your baby girls home! Hang in there and bring someone to clean the house! I can’t wait to see pics of their nurseries! Will they be sharing a bedroom or each will have its own? Making the nursery I believe is one – if not THE one- of the best parts on getting ready to have a baby. Believe it or not, I already know the colours and the furniture etc I am going to be buying for my baby’s nursery! Hello!!! After 7 IVF attempts I think I am allowed to decide already how the nursery is going to look like! Right!

Fvrogers – Congrats on passing the 35 weeks milestone!!! Are you having a boy or a girl? how exciting! You are only a few months away in meeting your baby! Keep up the good work mama!


Gina- Sorry you are feeling sick dear. Hope your son is better at least. I wish you a quick recovery! ((hugs))

Annashope – Glad you had a fun time at the weekend! And congrats on the new nephew! Good news are running in your family! How wonderful is that!

Julia – How are you feeling? Hope no more spotting by now even though we hear spotting is so common during the first semester. I am sure is nothing serious but did you make another u/s appt? I would! Just to stop my mind from making crazy thoughts. ((hugS))


Blueyedreamer- Congrats on finishing your marathon! I am so proud of you!! hope next time you finish on your target time!

Cyn- So now that you know the results of your biopsy are ‘negative’ what is the plan? I agree with you that at least you found something is wrong so you can fix it! Instead of being in the dark on ‘why’ you didn’t have implantation so far. Good luck and keep us posted. I find this very interesting! I had 7 IVF’s so far with no implantation and maybe I learn something from you! Good luck in everything!

AFM- I have good news to share! ....and NO I am not starting my cycle yet!...

First of all we have a great Friday and weekend with DH. I don’t want to jinx it but we/he has started talking about IVF again. Ever since last July we had our 7th failed IVF he didn’t want to hear anything about IVF. He wanted his break from it all ...and that means me too...and of course I gave him this time to ‘’get over’’ (if this can ever happen, for both of us ) and a few months back he told me that yes we will try IVF again as soon as I get a job and we can be in a better place financially. So, Friday night there we are having a date like most of the Fridays lately and there was this guy sitting next to us at the restaurant looking and behaving like a real jerk to his wife and kids and DH turns and says to me ...the same old thing... ‘’look at him, does he deserve to have kids more than us?...’’ and I gave him the answer I wrote at Christy’s personal...and so we started this conversation about IVF and YOU my internet/IVF buddies. Usually by the time I say the word IVF he wants to change the subject but this time he was even making questions! I told him about your story AMANDA about having an Egg Donor and transfer both yours and hers and blah blah blah and he was like ‘’can that be done?’’ (but in a good way) and questions like: so they will know which one caught? I told him, as I told him and last year, that I wouldn’t mine doing that if he wouldn’t mind doing it. He asked what if the baby looks completely the opposite than me and other questions that I am proud to say that all that research I’ve been doing on the internet and with your input ladies, I have answered all his questions..to the best I could...successfully! he was actually impressed with the info I knew and shared with him. I even talked about adoption and that I would do either if he wanted. And we ended our night with me saying that I believe is up to us to have a baby if we wanted. And I explain... So what if this baby is only 50% of his genes (if we use egg donor) or if it’s adopted and has 0% of our genes. I wholeheartedly believe that if adopting is our last resort in having a baby then that baby from day one is going to be 100% ours genes or genes of ours is going to be raised as if I gave birth to it! I also told him that I am ABSOLUTELY sure that the minute he lays eyes on the baby he is going to fall in love with it and he is going to be able to do all the things he is dreaming of doing with his child and be the best father ever! I told him that most of the men find adoption difficult to accept and that what he feels is only natural. I just laid the idea on the table...we grow old and say what if? What if we used that egg donor? Or embryo donor? Or adoption? Target is become parents or have child that has our genes? I told him I found the second selfish.
Needless to say that during our conversation I almost pee in my pants from joy! ...that he was open talking about all that stuff!...we talked a lot, well I talked a lot and he mostly listened but point is that HE LISTENED! I know that you girls are the ONLY people in my life that can understand why I am happy about this conversation i had with DH and I am so grateful to have you for moments like this! xxx

Saturday we had lunch at my MIL and then came come to watch a soccer game and then we had BBQ night to a friend’s place. They are moving to their new house next week and they made a last BBQ at the veranda of their appt to say good bye the place. The whole ‘gang’ was there and we had a great time and for the first time it feel bad being the only ones without baby. Sunday we spend the morning washing our cars and then went to a christening in another town with my MIL and SIL. We came back in the afternoon and after we took them home we went to my BF M and hang with my Godson for a couple of hrs...when we left we passed from my parents and then came home.

Busy day but we had a great time but the highlight of the day was yet to come! .... As we were laying on the couch he was browsing with his ipad and me on the internet (checking up on you actually ) he told me to check my e-mail and that he sent me something. I opened his e-mail and there was this article about bliging and infertility, IVF etc. A very interesting article that I am going to put the link for you to read it and explore the various article links in it. I found the one called ‘’pain Olympics’’ amazing! You should read it! Is as if I was reading OUR (mine and yours) stories/worries/pain. When you have time go to that link. ...I was SO surprised in a good way, that DH bothered to search and send me something about IVF He even told me that he was so happy for me finding this board with all of you and that he can see that it helped me so much coping with us having problem having a baby and all those BFN’s and that he SO proud of me handling everything so well and I am so patient with him. I am telling you! It felt like Xmas morning for me!!! This time I think I pissed a bit in my pants! I always believed that good days are coming and looks like they are already here!

Good thing No.2...
My Brother has given me and DH for FREE 2 air tickets to Malta with a 3nights stay at a 5* hotel with breakfast! He sent us an e-mail telling us about it and that he thought of us to go because we’ve been through so much and we totally deserve this trip more than him. Have I told you how much I love my brother! Thing is, the gift is only for this month (it was an offer he found) and my DH can’t go due to other obligations and told me that I should go with my best friend because I so deserve this trip so I told my best friend and she is coming with me. Of course she is coming! So we are leaving Friday 18th May and we are coming back Monday 21st May. Isn’t that great! Again it felt like Xmas morning but I didn’t pee in my pants this time! ...I am sure my BF did though! Is not every day you are given FREE tickets to another country and 5* stay! We told to another close friend to come with us and pay the ticket and we asked if she can pay the price difference and we all stay in a 3bedroom. I am waiting for the agency’s confirmation. Even if ever thought of going to Malta, a trip with my best friends sounds awesome! I would prefer DH but my girlfriends are the next best thing.

Good thing No.3...
Actually this happened while I was typing this...DH just called me and told me that he just run into a colleague of his (the Dean of Humanities) and asked him if I found a job yet and when DH said no we are still looking then he told him about this opening at their University and that he should sent HIM my CV! The position is the same as the one I am waiting to go for the next interview at the other University (position: Admissions Officer) is not my dream job but it’s a good, descend job that involves some travelling and a great environment to work at. Hell I’ll take it! So cross your fingers girls and wish me luck!! One of these jobs any day now is going to be mine!

OK! I have officially made the longest post EVER! But I had So many things to share! Can you blame me! I will totally understand if are too bored to read my post!

Baby dust and sticky vibes to us all!!!!!

Good days are coming!!!!! and miracles happen every day!!!! we are ALL getting ours soon!!

anton

[anton]

Julia - we must have posted at the same time ... Glad the spotting is gone!!& Good luck on getting that house it sounds amazing! and don't worry about the extra rooms! you will fill them with babies!!




anton

[amanda1979]

Julie- So happy the bleeding has stopped again. I hope you get your house.

Anton- Girl that was a long a post but I read all of it What a great weekend for you. sounds like your DH is coming around that is wonderful. I am glad you were able to share our story with him & WOOHOO on the free trip!!!!

Leora- I will checking in on you to see how your ER goes tomorrow.

Lauren319- Yes we can be in crazy, moody, feeling fat town together bc I swear I look like I swallow a small watermelon right now. (UGH)

AFM; Just got home from work. I called out Saturday but I went in last night. My co-worker & close friend did all the heavy lifting so I wouldn't have to. I am thankful for her. I have been extremely moody which I guess is the progestrone and the estradial. Just 9 more day til the 16th seems so far away to get my beta. BTW can someone post what happens when on 3 to 5 days transfer. We did a 4 day, but I would like to read it again. I can never find it.

[HopeThisWorksM]

Well, the US is now Friday. I dont know if it is just human nature but Im worried today because I dont feel anything...
I felt some slight cramps last night but the fluey symptoms have been gone for a few days and today I feel just normal/fine. im probably making too much of this but I just cant help worrying... it's like I think I should be feeling something every few hours which I guess is not realistic
-HopeThisWorksM

[Ninde]

Hi ladies

Gina: ouch you poor thing, that sounds awful. How are you now?

Anna: that was a great trip to Washington. Is your pregnancy beginning to feel real now?

Cyn: how are you doing? What is your re now suggesting?

Nicole: wow,wow, wow!!! That's a fantastic race, well done you!! Did you take a lovely long bath? You must feel wonderful and you so deserve it x

Lauren319: ah, thats a bit of a nuisance you have seen most of what's on tv. What are you like with movies?

Julia: no clue why my skype message didnt go through I have it switched on now. How are you?

Christy: how are you doing?

Amanda: how are you doing pupo lady?

Leora: yay for triggering!! Do you notice any difference between the pure on and the menopur?

Maria: you poor thing, that's really tough. Are you sleeping well at least?

Fv: I cant believe you have just a month to go

Anton: it may have been a long post but wow, it was worth it. That is just wonderful news - on all fronts. I have always admires your strength in terms of knowing how your dh felt and being able to stand back from the ivf when i know how much you want your child. And now your dh is looking at ivf options which is just great. Malta is just wonderful and you will love it and what a marvelous surprise. And now a new leqd on a job. You deserve all of this happiness.

Hopethisworks: this rollercoaster is really hard. And our brain and fear plays awful tricks on us. I know its a wait til fri but just take it mo ent by moment if you can.

Afm: bank holiday here. Throat much better so just a bit tired but thats ok. Tomorrow is my due date and dh and i are going to go to the cemetary tomorrow where the miscarriage association of ireland have a memorial stone for little ones lost through miscarriage and we will leave flowers and just sit for a while. Its a big deal for me to let dh in on this with me because i find it hard to cry in front of him but i know he feels this loss acutely too. And although its hard for me to ask for it, im also going to ask each of you ladies to think of me to sorrow and perhaps send a thought or prayer and knowing that my day is being acknowledged by others Im sure will help me a lot.

Ninfe

[Cyn22]

Hello ..
For those who don't know about Beta-3 Integrin here is the info.

Why is the E-tegrity test important?

Understanding the cause of fertility problems is important to both you and your doctor. Studies show that women lacking the Beta-3 integrin have lower pregnancy rates than women who have the Beta-3 integrin. Performing the E-tegrity Test, before an expensive in vitro fertilization procedure, could predict the success or failure of that process. Studies also show that women with mild or moderate endometriosis or other hidden problems are missing the Beta-3 integrin. This test, used along with your other medical information, helps your doctor decide which treatment is right for you.
A positive test result means the Beta-3 integrin has been detected. This indicates that the uterus is receptive to the implantation of the fertilized egg. A negative test result means the Beta-3 integrin has not been detected. A negative result can be caused by one of two conditions. The first condition, called “out of phase,” occurs when the development of the uterine lining is delayed. The second condition, called “in phase,” means that the lining of the uterus has developed properly, but the Beta-3 integrin is still missing. Your test result will help your doctor decide the best form of treatment.

Timing of the E-tegrity Test is very important. Your doctor will ask you to determine when you ovulate by using a commercial ovulation detection test administered at home. Your doctor will then collect a sample of your uterine lining 7 to 11 days after the ovulation test is positive. The sample is sent to Innovative Reproductive Solutions, the only licensed provider of the E-tegrity Test.


Anton - I will let you know once things start happening over here! Congrats & I hope everything works out for you both!!


Afm - waiting for AF!! Ughhhh . I feel it coming but it's now 3 days late & can't do much with this next step until I start!
So everyone please do the AF Dance for me!!! Thanks !!

[Cyn22]

Here's another one I found.


Beta-integrins seem to be important adhesion (help the embryos to stick to the uterine lining) molecules in the endometrial lining of the uterus to allow for embryos to implant and develop. That is the theory behind doing the test - low levels might mean implantation and pregnancy will be less likely. The only problem is that we really do not yet know how to interpret the test, what to do if the test comes back abnormal as far as correcting the abnormality (maybe higher dose progesterone?), or even if an abnormal test one cycle truly means you will not be able to get pregnant in another cycle. One study (Fertility and Sterility Volume 80, September 2003, Thomas K) showed that even with low or absent beta-3-integrin levels, 27% pregnancy rates occurred, vs 47% with high levels. So although low or absent levels may mean it is harder to get pregnant, people can still get pregnant. This study was in women with an average age in their 30s doing IVF and so it is hard to say if it can be extended to a recipient in a donor cycle.