The Over 40 Crowd

NickiMark · Post by **NickiMark** » Tue Jun 14, 2005 7:59 pm

Big J, My dear!! Oh you poor thing. Ive been away on hols and been finding it hard trying to find you. I just thought u were keeping a low profile. I was sad to read that you have been through it already and such early days I bet you were beside youselves. At least all is ok now and little tapas is hanging on.

Hugs to you.

Keep us updated ok. Love Nicola x x

PS: We are going again in August.......

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Wed Jun 15, 2005 6:20 am

Debra,
I'll miss you, but totally understand. Go find the couple and family you are outside of IVF and we'll be here when you're ready to come and play with us again.
God Bless!

taylorjools · Post by **taylorjools** » Wed Jun 15, 2005 6:42 pm

just popping in to say hi to you all

D - I have PM'd you
Randa - how are you feeling now??? I am so sorry that your cycle was cancelled. Am thinking of you sweetie.
Emily - glad you are back on track. I have 3 fibroids, all intramural. 2 were not near the endometrium but the bigger one (3cm) was. At my 6 week scan, tapas sweetie has embedded well away from it. so should have no major effect but they will monitor. I also didn't wnat to take the risk of removal so I feel for you.
Hi Debbie, welcome back and good luck to you.
Jill - sorry you are having a lot of disasters, it's always the same. I had lots of rubbish with lawyers and German beaurocrats in my 2ww but it kept me busy

try and rest a bit wont you, poor thing.

Caroline, how are you sweetie???

Kat??? how is the sperm coming along, I saw D's comments, the sperm are mission critical so make sure dh knows that wont you???

Love and kisses to everyone, sorry if I missed you

bigJ

debbieed · Post by **debbieed** » Wed Jun 15, 2005 7:56 pm

Hello All,
Things don't seem great on this board at the moment - guess we all need some good news to cheer us all along - shame I don't have any.
Debra - taking a break may be just what you need. As you know I've also taken a break from the board and now feel much more like my old self (assuming that is a good thing!!). Just remember to be kind to yourself and get any support that might be helpful. Come back when you are good and ready.

Take care everyone.

Love
Debbie

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Fri Jun 17, 2005 6:34 pm

Jill, I'm sorry I missed your post about AF yesterday. Testing tomorrow and getting a firm answer will bring closure if nothing else. I've found it impossible to move on when there's even the smallest possibility of still being pg after bleeding.

I'd also suggest taking as long as you think reasonable to decide what next. Rushing into the decision may not be the right thing to do. Your situation, with DF away so much, is twice as difficult. One lovely thing to remember though is that we still think of you as a fresh faced youngster

Debbie. You're right, we're in a lull but that's OK. We all know how it goes, the ups are really, really high and the lows about as crappy as it gets. One joy of maturity is knowing and understanding ourselves so much better.

Randa. How are you? were you taking a honeymoon? how did the ceremony go? I hope it was a wonderful day for you both.

Hi to everyone else. Although I'm keeping a very low profile over the next month, I'm around until next Thursday so will appear from time to time.

My update? well, nothing exciting. AF arrived last night. I'd been told to expect a wait for it of anything between 4-6 weeks and this was 5 so pretty average. Hopefully July's AF will be closer to 4 weeks and then back to normal.

hugs
Debra.

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Mon Jun 20, 2005 3:43 pm

Bit late with this as I've been trying to spend less time on the pc, but Jill I just wanted to say how sorry I was that it didn't work out this time. I hope you're getting plenty of rest and time doing nice things to pamper yourself. I guess you'll need space to grieve and decide where you go from here. You don't have to stay on this rollercoster forever.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, even those of you who are just in a "lull" phase. I've got my first scan on Wed to see how my follies are growing and then I guess the whole process will speed up.

take care

Caroline

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Mon Jun 20, 2005 5:19 pm

Caroline, good luck on Wednesday. This will probably be the first step to it all feeling real again?

Jill, how are you? I assume you tested but it wasn't good news? I hope DF is still around to help distract and treat you well.

Debra.

debbieed · Post by **debbieed** » Sat Jun 25, 2005 9:11 am

Hello All,
Not sure where everyone is but assume that people have been busy.
I've now had my clinic appointment to set out the tmt schedule. Now feel like things are moving again. I begin sniffing on Thursday so will be glad when it starts - even though I know it will be a very tense few weeks.
This will be our last attempt. DH and I both feel that we can't keep doing this forever as the emotional drain is just too much. So I'm really keeping everything crossed for this time (not that I haven't for the other tries, but you all know what I mean).
Next clinic appointment is 18th July so think I'll change my ticker to reflect that - at least things will look closer then!

Have fun all.

Love
Debbie

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:56 am

Hi Debbie

glad to hear you've got your treatment timetable sorted. Like you, this is our last attempt (and in a way our first, because I never got as far as EC last time). It's quite scary isn't it, as it seems like gambling everything on one throw of the dice and if this doesn't work then that's it. I'm still hope for some frosties to keep the hope alive for a bit longer, but it doesn't seem all that likely.

I didn't feel that engaged with things til this week when I had my scan and now it's all very real. Having EC on Tues and ET on Thurs, so this will be quite a week.

BTW although this thread's been quite quiet, it hasn't been a good time for us 40 somethings, I'm afraid. Geordie Jill starting bleeding before test date and, as far as I can spot hasn't been back, so I guess it's all over for her. And then very recently Big J posted that sadly she has had a m/c (see thread called "Very sad news"). It's so sad as she was one of the real success stories and she really seemed to be doing all the right things, in terms of healthy eating, vits, etc. Life's not fair is it.

Big J and Jill, if you're reading this, hope you're both doing as ok as can be expected in the circumstances.

hi to everyone else

take care

Caroline

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:52 pm

Caroline,
Thank you for the update on Jill and BigJ. I'm speechless. Have been away for a while. Will check out the thread about BigJ. Oh my Lord! I hope she is not too crushed. This is terrible news.

Debbieed,
Glad to see you are so getting closer to your cycle start. Best wishes to you.

debbieed · Post by **debbieed** » Tue Jun 28, 2005 8:54 pm

Hello All,
I guess bad news hits all of us hard. I know when our last tmt failed I just couldn't bear to look on here even though I really did want to support people too. I guess in hard times we all need to look after ourselves.
I'm really wanting to begin this next round now. Getting very close - starting sniffing on Thursday. I still don't really believe that it's going to work. I know that this doesn't sound very positive but I think it's the only way I'll cope with a negative result. Last time I was soooo sure it was going to work and I really took it badly when I started bleeding on day 12 following ET. I've done this on both tries so far so that's the day I'll be dreading this time. Having the -ive confirmed by the blood test at the clinic was also awful both times so I'm really hoping I don't have to experience it this time.
I'm really hoping that some of us can get some good news to give everyone on this tread a lift. It can work for us, I just know it can.

Take care all.

Love
Debbie

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 8:06 pm

Hi Debbie,

good luck for your first sniff tomorrow. I know what you mean about not believing it can happen and I spent ages in this frame of mind that said, well I have to be prepared for a negative as that's the most likely result, etc. But lately I've realised that actually, even if I stick with that attitude, I'm still going to be really disappointed if it doesn't work. I don't really think it's possible to protect yourself from the pain of a negative.

Now that I've got past EC and have had a better result than I could ever have hoped for (15 eggs!), I am finally starting to feel excited about it and to imagine that, just maybe, this might work. ET is tomorrow so I'll keep you posted.

hi to everyone else

Caroline

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 8:25 pm

Caroline

Good luck with ET tomorrow - will keep everything crossed for you. Are you having 3 embryos put back?

Remember to get plenty of R&R especially for the first 3 days and then take it really easy as much as you can over the following days of the 2ww.

Big hugs and copious amounts of Baby Dust

Love

Little P

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Thu Jun 30, 2005 2:25 am

Caroline,
Best wishes to you for a wonderful ET!
Wow! 15 eggs! You ROCK!
You give us all hope for babies after 40.
God Bless!

debbieed · Post by **debbieed** » Sat Jul 02, 2005 9:06 am

Hello All,
Lots of positive vibes on here at the moment - kepp it up all.

Caroline - I hope yout ET went ok. I wish I could get that many eggs. I've only had 6 at each of my attempts.

Sniffing is now underway so things are moving. I'd forgotten how unpleasant it is. Still, it will be worth it if I get a +ive.

Have fun all.

Love
Debbie

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