Miracle08 wrote:
I feel like Dh and I are never going to be able to start tmt. We just do not have the money. We were waiting to re finance our home to take out money for tmt but out home has dropped in value over $75,000 so doesnt look like we will be able to do that anytime soon. i am so tired of waiting. I think i need to accept that we were just not meant to be mommy and daddy.
That resignation that you were never meant to be parents is NOT ACCEPTABLE!!!!! You take back that comment. Accepted that you're going through a tough time in that you don't know when you'll start tmt. But its only a delay sweetie. It will happen a bit later than you hoped, but that doesn't mean it will never happen. You can't give up that easy. Its difficult times, and it sucks that tmt costs so much when all we want is to have our own kids to love.
I've said this before but don't know what your thoughts were. Please look into studies that will take you. Some women have come out with their BFPs from studies, and you have that choice in the US. Also how about egg share? I accept that its still a fair bit of money, but maybe that cost will seem more achieveable?
Another thought was - have you looked into going abroad for tmt? I've read posts where some women say that the cost of tmt, plus flying plus accomodation is still cheaper than having it done in the US.
I wish I could win the lottery and be able to give you each some money to be able to go for tmt.
Its ok to feel down. IF is tough to deal with at the best of times.
