May/June Cycle Buddies

[PMApsy]

Hello ladies,

Quick note again because I'm at the hospital. Doing well today, a very normal day! Though I'm sick of being bloated... if I knew I'm pregnant for sure, then I would have some comfort, but knowing this might just be for "nothing", hehehe, makes not fitting as well in my clothes a little more frustrating! Ah, well, I lost it so quickly last time, it shouldn't be a problem if I have a BFN. And if I have a BFP, then I'll be allowed to do a little more soft exercise and I'll hop on that stationary bike to burn some calories!

Other than that, some frustrations at work. Still waiting for my transfer in another office. Tanya, you probably know, but things are so SLOW! I'm not officially hired, though I have the job (job has to be posted till June 19th before I sign the contract... now I'm the replacement on my own job ), so I can't make the calls myself... so we've been told my office was ready there, but my boss didn't have the time to go check in person... because in hospitals, when they tell you something is ready, you have to see it with your own eyes... the office might be completely devoid of furniture, or packed with boxes... or it might even be a closet! And my boss leaves for a week in France next week... *SIGH* What really annoys me is that I have to be there to talk to some people... they asked me to write a research project for the urology department, and I'm not familiar with the specific needs of their patients. But I can still not make any phone call or talk to anyone right now (I'm in another building). ANd I'm not mentioning my current patients! I have to give appointments and I don't even know which building I'll be in next week! Bureaucracy.... ACK!

Mybaby: don't know if you wanted to join the thread or not, but I added you to the list. Welcome to the nut house! This is your first IVF, so trust the advice of a second-timer... NEVER have an agenda with IVF. NEVER! It usually doesn't go according to plan! So let go of that, and stop worrying! There are solutions for everything; wait and see what happens. It will all happen in time.

TansRN: sorry you're working this weekend! I'll see two couples tomorrow morning! Let's hope they behave!

arizonakiwi: Angela, my sweet friend... I'm so sorry to hear that you're still very emotional. It's normal... it was a big shock and you guys had lots of expectations for that little fighter... I completely understand how having no frozen embies makes it worse. Do you have any precise plans for the future or is it too soon to talk about it? Please hunny, please... don't see your embies as weak! Remember what my embryologist said; usually only 40% of embies make it to blast stage! That's the best conditions! It doesn't mean that other embies, transferred or frozen on day 3, wouldn't have made it just fine! I send you lots of hugs and love sweetie. Come back whenever you're ready; we'll be glad to have news.

jenn: Okay, that number is FABULOUS! I'm willing to place a bet on twins now! You must be SO impatient for your u/s! Hehehe I see we shared a brain on the baby vibes! Maybe I should rub myself on the next pregnant woman I see in the subway, tummy to tummy... mmmmh... she might freak out a little bit though... Yeah, better stick to the vibes in my office!

kerribell: the other ladies gave good answers. The intensity of the pain depends on many factors. I had OHSS symptoms for a week and believe me, I was glad whenever I could sit down. The day of ER, you want and have to stay home. There's the side effects of the meds, and the intervention per se. Then for one or two days after that, the pain usually intensifies. It then peaks, and starts fading out. The week post-ER, at least for me, is usually the worse in the whole IVF cycle. Good luck, though, and I'm sending lots of baby dust to you!

jen: hehehehe sorry the choice is so nerve-wraking! But whatever you choose hunny, you know we're all here, cheering you!

jul1e: glad you found the info useful! How are the hormones treating you?

mandeeq: last but not least... my sweet darling, you posted while I wrote my post yesterday, and I only saw it today. I'm so sorry about your BFN... you waited for so long to test... But you seem to be like me. After my BFN, I felt relieved to know for sure, and I turned right towards the future, telling myself that there was no use crying over spilled milk. I send you lots of good vibes sweetie and you'll see, it gets better. *HUGS*

Have a good day ladies,

Sophie

[My2LnT]

Ok I'm a wee bit behind. I have been reading just no stinking time to post.

Tanya - Yes it is cool our appts are on the same day again... I have not heard when I will be released yet. I'm sure I will be a bundle of nerves. I am considered high risk and have to have cervix closed because of a biospy. Oh what fun.

Angela - I send you hugs and PMA. I do wish you well!

Sophie - Hey there how are you? Hope things are going well with you.

Jenn - OK Sophie said twins can I place a bet on triplets???? LOL Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy no matter how many is in there.

Jen779 - Soooo how nuts are ya? Sending ya all the best.

Will try to do more later if I can stay awake.

Steph

[kerribell]

Thanks for the advice. I hope for the best for all of you.

[ltaylor]

Hello Everyone,

Mandeeq-I’m so sorry to hear about your BFN. I hope next time will be the “magic” number for you.

Arizonakiwi-Hang in there! I know it’s hard but don’t give up.

Sophie-Hopefully the crazy stuff at work is keeping your mind off the 2ww. It seems during IVF we spend a lot of time “waiting”

TransRN/My2Lnt-I’m glad to hear everything is going well with your pregnancy. Enjoy this precious time!

Jenn-I think it’s twins. I know you have to be so excited!

Gbnut-How are you doing?

As for me, I just got a call from my clinic saying my lining and blood levels look great and it’s a go for the FET on June 15! I feel like I’ve been waiting forever to get to this point and then another loooong 2ww after June 15.

Hello to everyone I missed. Have a great weekend!

L

[ltaylor]

I don't know how everyone feels about stem cell research but I got this link e-mailed to me and thought I'd pass it along.

L

[jenn]

Sophie- yeah, I would refrain from rubbing yourself on a pregnant lady, take my word for it- they don't like it!! Just joking- i've never gone that far! Although the thought has crossed my mind. Not long now for you to go! Sorry work is giving you troubles.


Steph- OMG!! Triplets We would be happy with whatever we are blessed with, but if I said that word to DH he would pass out!!

Gotta go! I am supposed to be packing, we are out of here tomorrow for a couple days. Off to a wedding!

Take care!

[My2LnT]

ltalor I am so happy your FET day is finally getting near !!! All the best to you on the 15th. You must be so excited! Thanks for the best wishes.

Jen - I only guess at least triplets because of the lady on the other post her first was 950.

[Jul1e]

kerribell, the day of ER is definitely out but I worked the day after and the day after that. I was bloated so just had to wear baggy clothes as waistbands really dug in. I think you'll be ok as long as you're not over stimmulated.

mybaby, welcome, I'm afraid I don't know the answer to your question but hope you'll share your journey with us here!

tanya, sounds like you're doing well apart from the sleepiness, I wonder if it's the drugs or just because you're preggers. Have you managed to keep your secret at work?

sophie, I'm with you on the bloating, I hate it, I'm finding it hard to find clothes that don't bother my crampy, bloated belly! I'm also missing the exercise and taking it very easy.

Steph, good to hear from you. Glad to hear you'r doing well too, I look forward to hearing about your next scan. Did you do HPTs, I think you did, when did you get your first positive?

ltaylor, looking good for your FET on 15th - just realised that's my test day, soooooo scary!

Jenn, people are saying triplets, how many did you put back, is that a possibility? When's your scan? Enjoy the wedding, are you going to tell people your news or keep it mum?

Mandeeq and Angela, how are you both? Hope you're doing ok and just taking the time to recharge before trying again. It took my friends 3 ivfs and my bro and wife four, it's hard at the time but it's all worth it in the end.

well I'm fine, still pretty relaxed about the whole thing which is weird, I was wired last time, maybe cos I've been through it all before. I am of course day dreaming about getting good news next week and how different my life will be and then I think but what if not and feel a bit blue and then I just kick myself in the behind and try to forget about it. I'm extremely busy workwise at the moment so that's keeping me from thinking about it 24/7. I know next week will be sooooooooooo much harder though.

How are you other two week waiters getting on.

I have my friends hen night tomorrow night which is going to be tricky as these tend to be boozy occasions, I'm going to drive and say I have a lot on at work and hope that people don't start asking questions, I do hate lying. I also hate being around lots of people drinking while I'm t-total but it has to be done.

Hope you all have a good weekend. I'll check in on Sunday.

love Jules xx

[My2LnT]

Jul1e - Yeah I am so impatient I had to do a HPT .. apparently I am addicted to the evil HPT... I did my first at 7dp3dt and at first it was -ve and i just threw it in trash then told DH what I did went and grabbed it outta trash just to show him and it was showing positive???? I said OMG nahhhhh. SO we went to the store that night and got the FRED and I did that one the next morning which was 8dp3dt and I had a very faint line... And there it was my BFP. I am still in shock.. It is real but still sooo unreal..
I wish you all the best.... are you going to be an addict and POAS???

[Jul1e]

Steph, you're funny you addict you! That must have been crazy when you pulled it out of the bin and it was +ve! I dunno whether I will or not, I didn't last time and was absolutely gutted when the clinic called me so maybe doing it myself will help either way. I'm only 4dp5dt at the mo so I'll certainly leave it another few days

Have a good weekend babe x

[TansRN]

Hello All
I am so tired. Just finishing up a long night at work and I am so ready to go home!!! NEED SLEEP!

Mybaby
I got AF a few days late with the Lupron. I am usually on time with AF but with the Lupron it was a little late!!!

Steph
We get to get out there and become real pregnant ladies!!! Yeah!!!!

Jules
No one knows at work. At least if they do they are not saying anything to me. I am good with that. I will tell when I am ready!!! Thank you for asking...

[gbnut]

Mandeeq i am so sorry to read your news. Sending loads of ((((Hugs)))) to you. Take care

Hi to eeryone else

Sorry for my absence and lack of suport but i had to go up to Edinburgh very suddenly as my dad got taken back into hospital and was very poorly. He is terminally ill and has been in and out of hospital. They were very concerend when he was admitted but he has responded very well to the meds and is much better in fact he is doing really well which is a big relief so i came back to london this am. When i was up i also told my mum and dad our news and they were shcked as they did not know we were doing FET so soon after our fresh cycle. We will tell the rest of the family after the scan on tue. As for me i am ok. still loads of Af pains an dvery much hightened sence of smell but nothing else really. got scan on Tue which i am nervous about as the last time the scan was bad news so fingers crossed our little one is doing well.

I will catch up soon with you all but going for a sleep now

Susan x

[PMApsy]

Good morning ladies,

How are you guys doing? I'm doing real great! Yesterday, I had a very long and very difficult talk with my friend of 14 years. At times I really thought our relationship was beyond salvaging, but eventually, we both determined what we could do and we made a fresh start. My DH is absolutely convinced that in 6 months, I'll complain about the same problems again, but I think this time there's really a chance that things might be different. The most important thing is that my friend accepted to commit to see me more often. Us seeing each other onc every two months or so in the last few years, and usually in the company of our husband, really harmed our frienship link. And we both missed each other so much. So I think a fresh start is positive and if we are both careful about the things we identified yesterday, things should be fine. It's a relief. I'm still cautious because she really, really hurt my feelings, but time will tell if I was right to give us yet another chance. Hehehe when you have friends this close, sometimes, it almost feels like you face the same issues couples face!

Other than that, I'm fine. Woke up with an AF fullness feeling in my uterus and didn't like it of course, but it might just have been my bladder. Sometimes I vaguely play with the idea of doing an HPT, but I still fight against it (for me). It's been over a week already since my babies came back home and I sincerely wish they found a place somewhere to snuggle. It's hard not to daydream about how life will be if I get that BFP... and yet at times, I focus on the other aspects of my life and I'm almost indifferent about that cycle we just did, because I really let go at this point; it's really out of my hands, so... I know it will be increasingly difficult not to be nervous as the test day approaches. Last time, I had spotting two days before in the evening (that would be Tuesday this time), and AF the day before. I hope it doesn't happen this time... just so the pain does not drag for many days as it did last time. But for now, I can put my mind at rest; there's no chance I can have AF signs for a few days still.

Other than that, I had two therapy sessions this morning. One was very intense, but I'm really hoping that it shook things up. I have a couple that's very emotionally disconnected and just starts rationalizing/avoiding everything the second they get in touch with their feelings. It's a tough job trying to make them soothe each other emotionally enough so they feel safe to be vulnerable with each other. But I'm not giving up! I really like these guys and I really hope they can make their marriage work. Anyway! Personals!

gbnut: I'm so sorry to hear that your father was back in the hospital! *hugs* But I'm sure this news, this beautiful gift you gave them must have brought them so much soothing and joy! I'm glad he's doing better and I hope you have a nice u/s picture to show them on Tuesday! Sorry that you have AF pains, that must be unnerving... plus last time the u/s gave you bad news so I guess you're cautiously joyful right now... I really hope it gives you all the reassurance you need! I'll be thinking of you for sure! Take care sweetie and give us news when you can!

TansRN: poor thing! The morning sickness, the tiredness... those twins are feeding on your energy, aren't they! But give yourself a big pat in the back all the same darling, you're making two human beings right now! It's a big challenge! I'm really happy that either that co-worker kept her mouth shut, or people are intelligent enough to figure out that you didn't tell anything because you want to do it in your own time. Phew! And CONGRATS on the 7 weeks marker! woohoo! Hey, I'm sure you already know all that.. but there are really cool websites that can send you an email and tell you, week after week, what's happening with your babies. I found one that always has an extra about multiples here; it's really detailed and even includes mommy and daddy in the descriptions! I give you the link for 7 weeks:

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancy ... lweek7.htm

AAAAAAAAAAAACK! And now I just read for 4 weeks and it says "a pregnancy test should be positive by now" and I've read My2LnT's comments about seeing a faint second line 8dp3dt... and I'm 8dp3dt! It is SO tempting! My DH would not be against it if I did it, but I know I would feel SO stupid if I wasn't able to get my PMA back up if the test is negative! *SIGH* So I settled for no HTP and pasta for lunch....



Jul1e: Hey there my 2ww buddy! I see the HPT temptation is playing with you, too! Sorry about your bloating; let's hope it never resolves for the next 8 months and a half! How was the hen night?

jenn: hope you enjoyed the wedding!

ltaylor: thanks for sharing the link! I watched the video; a little melodramatic, but it raises important points. CONGRATULATIONS on the go-ahead for the FET! WOOOHOO! Yes sweetie, you've done your waiting! But it's almost there! You'll be pregnant this week!

Okay, gotta go grocery shopping... and make a couple of phone calls... take care ladies! We have the loveliest weather here right now!

Sophie

[mommytobe]

Hi Ladies,


Sophie: Thats nice you made up with your friend, life is too short. Its really hard not to share this journey with my very close friends, but I just don't want anyone bugging me and also just in case it does not work i really don't need the pity or them saying something like i know how you feel when they don't. As for the HPT I was tempted today to purchase one for monday or tuesday, but I am too chicken to do so I am gonna just wait until wednesday.

Julie how is your 2ww going. I have some cramping and a bit sleepy and tired, but could jus tbe from the meds. I trying to be hopeful.

Angela, and Mandeeq sending you hugs you are in my thoughts.

Hugs
Sticky Baby Dust To All

[jen779]

Hey Girls! Well I am feeling a little moody and down today. I am not sure if it is the horomones or hopefully a pregnancy. It didn't experience this last time, but I know everytime is different. I am still a little crampy, which I guess is a good sign. I had that last time also. It is so hard not to compare the two. I feel like I could just sit here and cry right now...so dumb! I have decided to do an HPT when it gets a little closer because waiting for that phone call last time about killed me. I just want to know ahead of time and deal with the outcome 3 minutes after I test...instead of 4 hours! I was miserable!!!

Sophie...I see you are toying with the idea of an HPT. It is very hard not to. Glad you were able to mend your friendship....sometimes that is very hard to do. Men just don't understand the power of a female friendship...hehehe!

gbnut...sorry to hear about your Dad. I am sure it made him feel better to here your AWESOME news. Good luck on your next US!

Julie...are you going to do a HPT? If so....when??? How are you feeling otherwise?

Ltaylor...congrats on your FET!!! How many are you transferring???

Tanya...you poor thing! Are you planning on working throughout your pregnancy?