The Sisterhood of the Blue Stilettos

[meg12]

Hi guys. Sorry I haven't been my chatty self lately. I'm unsure what I should and shouldn't post here just because I don't want anyone to think I'm pushing my pregnancy in their face---I know how crappy it makes you feel to hear about anybody's pregnancy. Maybe you're not all mean and bitter like I was, though!

So, here's just a few things about the baby--skip this paragraph if you want! We had a ultrasound this week and found out that it's a girl! She looks good and healthy so far although she's measuring about a week earlier than what we thought so we might have to change my due date. We'll go back next month for another one just to double check the dates and make sure she's growing according to schedule. It still feels a little unreal...

Melissa--I'm praying that you don't have butt cancer! That just would be to unfair at this point. Good luck this weekend....how fun. Take some pictures!

Sassy--Wow, your trips sound great. Sorry your BIL is giving you such grief. Good lord, the drama never ends in life, huh?

Fee--How's noggin doing? Sorry you're so busy at work!

Vicky--I bet it's a good feeling to know that you're starting again so soon.

Well, I'm going to Vegas this weekend with my family. Should be a good time although the weather reports aren't looking great. I don't know what I'm going to do with myself all day if it rains...the rest of my family will be boozing it up so that's hard. I guess I'll just gamble!

Hope everyone else is hanging in there!

[jenn]

Awww Meg, a little girl!!! That is great! Don't worry about posting stuff like that. I like to hear it! Glad everything is going good!

[Angie65]

Hear hear! Always happy to hear from you Meg and very pleased all going well - a little girl, eh? That's wonderful.

Hope we can get some updates too from Wanna and Fee too.

Sorry haven't posted much - I do check in regularly but not much to say at this stage. Waiting for AF - could be 1, 2, 3, 4 or more weeks....I can take Primulet?? to bring it on but have decided I won't (don't want to take more drugs than I have to ). Also going to see the counsellor next week to off load.

have a great w/e girls - we have spoken nicely to the tenants in our new house and they have agreed to let us in to measure - so we have a kitchen designer coming with us on Sat. V exciting - will be the first time I have seen inside the house since the initial viewing - I hope I am not too shocked at how daggy it is . But it doesn't matter coz we are going to do lots of work on it - nothing like stripping walls and doing the garden to take your mind off things.

Bye for now.

[sassynlv]

Mego: Oh congrats! A little girl, how cute! How fun will that clothes shopping be??!!

Angie: Exciting about the house... ooo a kitchen designer, huh? sounds fun, how exciting to move in with a new kitchen!

[nickster]

Hello ladies! Happy Friday to all!

Melissa~ I'm so sorry about your butt problem. wow..that sounds terribly miserable. Don't you love that pregnancy question? It's so funny because I don't remember before all this infertility crap that they would say "are you sure". It seems like before they would ask if you were pregnant, you say no, then they go on. Now it seems like they almost make you explain the whole story! The colonoscopy itself shouldn't be bad but like you said it's the prep that's not fun. You said you are having that done May what? I can't believe you have to wait that long. That's just more time for your mind to go crazy. As if you need that right now!
Good luck at the contest this weekend!

Sassy~ Wow...travelin' lady! That sounds absolutely WONDERFUL! You deserve to be spoiled. That will be great for you and dh to get away for a while.
Sorry about bil. What a mess. Has he been arrested for breaking in to the law firm yet? It sounds like you and dh will be safe where you live at least. That's nice to have and hopefully brings you some piece of mind.

Meg~ Congratulations on your baby girl! How exciting!
Have fun in Vegas this weekend.

Vicky~ ET right around the corner!!! Is it still going to be on the 26th?

Jenn~ Waiting for af huh? Since you just ovulated, I hope it doesn't ever come (we can always hope)!
So you're a teacher and looking to do something else? I understand that feeling. I am a nurse and a lot of times feel the same way. I just want to start over completley with a new career. I love nursing in general but I hate the politics and the fact that hospitals are so greedy and all about the money. So, I completely understand but am not much help!

Angie~ Good luck with your new house. How exciting. It sounds like it needs some work but that will be fun! When we were looking for a house 3 years ago, dh wanted a new house. I on the other hand, wanted a fixer upper that was a little older and we could make the way we wanted to. I just always thought that would be fun to do all that stuff. Needless to say, I am sitting in a 3 year old house!

Well, I had one of the MOST irritating weeks at work that I've ever had! I told you guys before I am a Labor & Delivery nurse and most of the time I can do it without any problems. I tell myself over and over "it's just a job" and am always reminding myself to think positive. Well it didn't really work this week! One of my patients was a high school teacher telling me about all of her students that get pregnant. In particular she told me about a 17 year old freshman (yes you read that right, 17 year old freshman in high school) who was pregnant for the third time. She has kept the other two kids and is planning on keeping the third too. Now tell me what kind of life are those kids going to have. That is absurd! Those kind of people should be fixed! Then, I've had 2 patients that have had more abortions than they can count. One of them, literally, didn't even remember how many times she had been pregnant she had so many abortions. She was having her third baby and "thought" she had been pregnant 7 or 8 times. She lost count! It's just amazing to me. Sometimes I just don't understand it. Why do we all try so d**n hard to just have one baby and then there's people like this roaming the world?
I need to find a new line of work girls. (See Jen why I'm not much help?) I don't know why I ever thought this would be a good idea! It can't be good for me to always be this frustrated. I just love the people I work with and really don't want to move on but I don't know how much longer I can take this.
Sorry, I got off on a major rant there!

Have a good weekend everyone. My sister and I are going to visit my mom and dad in Kansas City this weekend. It will be nice to get away for a few days.

Wanna, where are you? It's been a long time since we've heard from you and the twins!

Patie, Fee, Amy...how are you?

[wannababyIVF]

Hi Ladies,
Here I am! Sorry, I’ve been MIA for a while. But work has been kicking my butt. I haven’t had any free time and it’s killing me. Then by the time I get home all I want to do is go to sleep. I never do but the last thing I want to go is look at a computer when I get home after I’ve been looking at one all day. I’ve missed you ladies so much! Also, I have been feeling the same way Mel has lately. Not sure how often I should post. I know how hard it was for me to hear about pregnancies. I don’t want anyone to feel the way I felt during my “trying to conceive time.” I don’t want to feel like I’m throwing my pregnancy in anyone’s face. I have decided that I will come and chat with you ladies but won’t share too much about what’s going on with me if it’s pregnancy related.

Jenn—By the way, I am a database administrator. IT nerd. Stare at computer all day.

Vicky—Wow, not long to go now huh? Are you getting excited? Aw, tell Sanson I miss him. Give him a belly rub for me. I’m sure he loves belly rubs just as much as my little one does. It’s funny to watch our puppy lay on the floor and roll over on his back then give us that look. He has us trained so well. lol

Sassy—The vacations sound wonderful. Can I go? I promise not to eat much. Please take plenty of pictures. I can’t wait to hear all about it. DH and I were just discussing where to vacation to this year. It was suppose to be Paris but I think that’s out of our budget now. So now where????? Sorry to hear about your stupid BIL. But don’t let it get you down. Hopefully he knows to stay clear of the Sassy household. He doesn’t want to have to deal with the sisterhood!

Mel—Sorry to hear about your bottom issues. That really sucks! I’m sure it’s not cancer. Don’t give that any thought or energy. I pray you will feel better soon. Good luck with the pie contest. I hope you win. Then we will have two winners in the sisterhood. BTW, I would love the recipe or a sample. Also, what is the clomid test?

Pattie—Great job on the dress contest. I love it! Wow, you are a local celebrity. That is awesome. How did it feel to be on television? I probably would have froze up and stared at the camera like a dummy.

Meg—Congrats on your little girl! How fun! Any names yet? Have fun in Vegas!

MANnnnnnnnnnnnn, got interrupted while writing this post. Be back shortly…hopefully!

Ok, back. Where was I? Hmmmm….

Angie—Nice to hear from you. I know I have a lot of nerve. You’ve probably posted more on here lately than I have. Understandable about not wanting to take more drugs than you need to. Sometimes your body just needs a break. Good luck with the counselor. I’m glad you have someone to talk to.

Nicsker the nurse—I actually think being in the medical field is cool. I often wish I would have gone that route. I seem to have a better relationship with every nurse I have had than doctor. Probably because you spend most of your time with the nurses. I don’t think you guys are paid or respected enough for all you do…not taking anything away from our wonderful doctors in the sisterhood. I just have had many experiences where I see my doctor for brief periods but spend hours with the nurse. lol Wow, I can feel your frustration with your job. I don’t know how you do it. I’m not sure I could be strong enough to work in labor in delivery. Can you possibly rotate to another ward in the hospital? Have fun in Kansas City. Everyone is going somewhere. I wish I were.

Where’s CoCo and Amy. Hello to everyone else I missed.

[patie]

Hello ladies... i am sorry didnt post yesterday as it was my w/e and i slept till 11am...wohooo finally i got some sleep

Sass...how r u babe? your holiday sounds supreme.... i hear vienna is just wonderful....and my dream is to rent a villa in Tuscany, i've been nagging for this for the past 3 yrs...hopefully DH will listen soon to me... but now since we just came back from the states and starting the new business...i guess holidays plan for some time... (but i am going alone to lebanon to see my family during summer...its just super there....)
and may bil stay away from u until he get's straight! ur pils shld really intervene severly!!! right?

Mel...well lady...seems like u have some partying planned on the 14th... . I am really sorry u have to go through this... I hope everything will turn out to be great...
GOOD LUCK on the pie contest!!! u go girl...dont let them win!!! yum....

Jenn...a little advise on work....research what u like and even ask the close people around u "where to they so u"... i.e. in which field... I am in marketing and i like it alot...but i've always wanted to work in Advertising and neither dad or DH encouraged (more or less didnt let me...) and now i am too old to join...so take ur time and really go for something u've always wanted...Good Luck!

Angie...wohoo...the remodelling here we go!!! i bet ur so excited...although i dont cook too much but i guess the kitchen is the best part in the house....Keep enough storage for cockies and make a hudge fridge for the icecream.....

Mego...u shld never be worried about us....u r one of us babe....and we would love to hear ur updates! pls do.... a little princess....yipppeee....as Sass did u have some major shopping to do then!!!

Vicky...so ur almost there....yipediii....how r the patches??? i thought they r far better then the shots...gave my touchy a break....how was the walk? kiss Sanson for me...

Nickster...so also looking for a new career....well i understand sometimes when ur comfortable at your job w at least the people and environment u think twice about moving...but here's a good book to read..."who moved my cheese" ... i forgot the author's name... but its such a motivational book, its short and inspiring....

Fee...HRH...how r u?? still too much work??/ want the sistas to petition for a break...they'd better watch it!!! hope everything is fine w u!

Wanna...what's up! álso busy at work....hmmm! they shld know better then making u work hard! how's everything else w u?? well the interview went well...the only reason i didnt freeze was because i wasnt looking at the camera... it was like a chit chat style w the presenters...so i was always looking at them...but funny enough i was sitting so straight and was serious and almost stiff!!!hehehe....it was funny watching myself on TV! kind of wierd...and so different then watching home videos or the wedding...

anyway ladies...today i start the part time...and today is my first day home...feels great! especially that DH has also Saturday as a w/e so its nice to spend 2 days together...I have some people over for dinner...willl make a pasta dish, some "shawarma" (any of the ladies tasted that??? its an arabic meat dish w some great seasoning....) w some side dishes!!!

have a great w/e all....a bientot
kisses

[FionaA]

BLOODY HELL!! I have not had a minute to come here and chat to my sisters, and I miss you guys! Luckily Wednesday is a public holiday so the plan is to come here and do a very long spiel....Hope you are all well, can't help noticing that Attorney General has gone AWOL. What's up with that? And Coco? where are ya? Fee

[FionaA]

OK Stuff it, I've decided to stay back late and try to catch up....it's taken me 40 mins to read old posts!

Now first off the rank, Nickster, damned good rant there mate. I don't know how you can do your job even without the irritation of hearing about the callous antics of "over fertiles". I hate hearing about those relentless breeders who have no freaking idea about how lucky they are. A bunch of bloody wankers in my book. Are there any other areas of nursing that you would like to try??? Back to an old question you asked me a while back, I was in St Louis for a concert. DH is a mad Doors fan and some of the original members were playing in St Louis, hence the mad dash across America to get to St Louis! As far as your SIL offering to be a surrogate I would grab that opportunity with both hands. I was considering asking my sister to be surrogate for me if i crashed and burned too many times with IVF.

Mel, well quite a lot seems to be happening in your neck of the woods. First and formost, your bum problem. I am pretty confident that it is not cancer...good that they are being careful and checking but sounds like they have already found an explanation for the bleeding (and that's my medical opinion for what it's worth..) I read your epiphany about being OK with not having kids. Seems like a large part of your ability to get to that point is that you have a fantastic marriage. You are really lucky to have that and it sounds like you and DH will live in fabulousness no matter what. As far as your mate goes with offering her eggs, would you consider that??? Your lunch with DH's grandfather brought back memories of mine. It was awful seeing mine get so frail before he died but I was really happy that we kept him at home (I used to live with him) and he saw us all the time. I hate it when people we love slip away....

Angie, great to hear from you! As far as your anti fert sentiment goes, I think it is right on. I am still carrying the banner for the anti fert movement. Had my first OB GYN appt last monday and spent most of the time glowering at all the pregnant people in the room (especially the young ones). I felt very uncomfortable in there and mighty resentful towards all the pregnants...So keep going with your resentment, I like it. As far as not telling about IVF goes, I'm with you on that one. I told very few people about it because I just didn't want to share it with anyone one. I told my boss about it because I needed time off all the time and was pretty furious to find out that he told the other partners about it. The managing partner buzzed me last week and said "so I hear you're in love with Neville the Needle." in reference to all the shots. I felt like smacking someone...As far as waiting for AF goes, am feeling your pain. Bloody PCOS. I was asked last week about when I last had AF and my reply was June 2006....yay.. keep us posted as to your progress!


Sass! As usual you have most interesting stories to keep us all intrigued! Your BIL is a walking tv drama. It's a bloody sad situation though and it sucks that you have to be on your guard in relation to a family member. As far as DH considering adoption. WOOO HOOO. I know you're not getting your hopes up but I'm getting mine up on your behalf. Is adoption easy in the States? It's a bit of a nightmare here and not that common. As far as your family and how they deal with anger goes they sound a bit like mine. Have to maintain a stiff upper lip at all times and keep emotions under firm control. I think I might also be the family loose cannon in that regard with my "anger" issues. I am very jealous of your upcoming travels. Especially the food in italy, please eat double for all of us....

Patie, well congratulations to our resident celebrity. I loved your dress it is so cool, I would have worn something like that if I had the figure (forget it!) and may I just add that I loved those red shoes that the model was wearing, did you choose those??? Fabulosity. As far as your first TV interview goes, I'm very sorry about the curly hair debacle. As a fellow curly header who straightens I can fully understand the horror of appearing on TV with a mop of curls. I also have a round face and like to think that straight hair is slimming, would you agree????

Vicky, I CANNOT believe that you are going to ET on Thursday, it seems like yesterday that we were waiting for AF to show before your cruise!!! I am going to cross everything I have for you and hope it goes well....As far as having dreams about being pregnant, well I'm not surprised, all of this IVF stuff is so consuming it occupies both waking and sleeping thoughts....

Jenn how is that mattress thrashing going??? I cracked up at your DH's comment about the $12,000, must lend an air of desperation to proceedings??? As far as jobs go, I'm a lawyer, woulnd't recommend it. You could try paralegal work??? As far as books go, I have not read a book in ages. the last book I got was for Christmas and it was called Marley and Me about a man and his very naughty dog. I have picked it up and put it down (put it down when I started reading about the man and his wife having children - couldn't tolerate even that). It's a good read though if you like dogs....

Mego, fantastic news! A girl just what you wanted, I'ms so proud of you! I hope that you tore Vegas up even in your pregnant state. I'm sure you managed to squeeze some fun out of the place...

And Wanna glad to hear you are going well, but sorry to hear about your workload, don't it suck?

OK echoing Mego and Wanna's sentiments. I also don't want to P**S anyone off with Noggin talk, So I'll give you a brief update and that will be it for Noggin until somthing major happens. Any Noggin talk will be prefaced by "NOGGIN ALERT" For those who want to skim over. So here goes

NOGGIN ALERT

Had my first OB GYN appt last Monday, and had a scan, heard the heartbeat, was so relieved because I was convinced that Noggin was dead...Had my testing done for Down's Syndrome today (bloods and another scan) results came back at about 1:4000 chance of Downs. Am very relieved until I find something else to worry about. Over and out for Noggin.

Hope you are all well.

Fee

[patie]

HRH Fee... u cracked me on the "worrying" part! i know u cant help it... well just like i think straight hair does slim our face.... and i think it gives a more professional look... curly tends to give the "cooool" and gipsy kinda look...so u tend to have sooo many bad hair days ... when the curls just flatten or get so frizzy... its really funny how no one is satisfied w how we look naturally...

well other sistas... i hope ur enjoying/enjoyed ur weekend....miss ya all

[wannababyIVF]

HI Everyone!
Just wanted to pop in and say hello before I start work (making up for all that missed time). I'm hoping work will not be as busy this week and I will get a chance to come in and chat.

Hope you all are doing well.

Chat with you later.

[nickster]

Hello all! I hope everyone had a great weekend!

*****All the prego people (Fee, Meg, & Wanna)************
Please, please, please quit worrying that you guys are "rubbing your pregnancies in our face". I can only speak for myself here but I like hearing how your pregnancies and noggins are doing! I don't think any of you talk about it "too" much! Please remember that you girls give us hope! We need some positive baby news in here! And you girls were on the IVF roller coaster just like we were/are. I have only been chatting in here a short time but I already feel like I have friends in here and am TRULY happy for all of you. Like i said, I can only speak for myself but I'm sure pretty much everyone else feels the same way.


Fee~ Wow...how rude, I can't believe your boss took it upon himself to tell everyone about what you were going through. And "Neville the Needle", what a jerk!
I'm so glad to hear noggin's doing good in there. I didn't have any doubt about that!
So you're race to St. Louis was for a concert? I really was wondering what brought you here in such a hurry! I hope the concert was at least good!!!
About my sil wanting to be a surrogate...I have talked to her a few times now and it's actually amazing how absolutely willing she is to do it. I mean like she is ready to do it tomorrow. She really is amazing. The only problem is her insurance doesn't cover anything. So things could get mighty expensive. I keep thinking what if she had to have a c-section (which is very likely especially if she got prego with both). There's just so many things that could happen. I was talking to my mom this weekend. She REALLY doesn't want us to adopt for some reason, and she knows these 2 frosties are pretty much my last chance. So, she was talking to my sil, and my sil is even willing to go to a clinic. You know one of those clinics that you pay a flat fee and it covers the whole pregnancy and delivery. I don't know about that. I really don't want her to have to do that. For now I think I will do the fet cycle and hope for the best with the prog injections and if that doesn't work we will probably adopt. But, I guess we'll see. I go back and forth all the time. Both dh & I seem to change our opinion of what we should do on at least a weekly basis!

Patie~ Thanks for the book idea!
Wow, you're a part-timer, huh? That's great. You'll love it. I work part time too and it's wonderful.

Wanna~ Great to hear from you. I'm sorry work has been so busy. I can certainly understand the last thing you want to do is go home and get on a computer again. It sounds like you're pretty tired too. Have you been feeling better lately?
Thanks for all your good words about nursing. That is true, a lot of the time, especially what I do, patients deal much more with the nurses because the doctors are so busy. Usually people are very surprised that the doctor just "shows up" at the last minute just for the delivery. Usually they're like "did you call my doctor yet?" and "when's my doctor going to get here?". They're usually amazed how little the doctors do for a delivery. But they are busy and trust me I feel for the OB's. You couldn't pay me enough to be up half, or sometimes all night, all the time. They really do have it rough.
Yes I could go anywhere in the hospital. It just sucks because I am such good friends with everyone that works there. We all work together very well and it's like a little family. And, unlike everyone else, they all know what we've been through with infertility and that we went through IVF. And because of that, they are very good to pick and choose what patients I get when they can. They try real hard not to give me the teenagers and the people that coud really bother me. They really are good to me. Eventually I will go on to something else. I guess I will just stay in it until I can't do it anymore. I always say I take my job seriously and the time when I feel like I can't give the best nursing care because of my "feelings" that is when I'll leave.

Meg, Jenn, Vicky, Sassy, Angie..how are you?

Melissa~ I hope you're doing better. Let us know how things are going.

Coco~ I've been thinking about you. If you're reading...how have things been?

Amy~ Where the h**l are you???????

[Coco]

Hello Sisters!

Greetings from the N’oth! Winter has finally released her gusty grasp on us and spring is creeping into Maine. Naturally, this brings untold joy even to the most furtive Puritan hearts.

I regularly check in with you all and am relieved to learn that all is seemingly well. My motto of late has been “you’ve got to know when you’ve got it good.” And despite my present circumstance of filing for divorce and trying to figure out why I never ordered the china pattern that I really wanted, I do genuinely believe that “I’ve got it good” indeed. DH and I are best friends. Ladies, don’t marry your best friend. Well, I suppose you are all past this sort of advice by now. Anyhoo…I just love Fee’s observation that my new status is as gay divorcee. So glam, indeed. I refuse to join the Red Hat Society though. Way too young for that. I will simply be the young divorcee… Maybe someday there will be throw down sex, too.

My parents are trying to take me to China next month for a voyage worthy of a Sass. I also may go to LA for, of all things, a bachelorette weekend. God help me, I already earned these strips. Ahhh….yes. hahaha!

I decided this weekend that I am half sick of ceilings. This winter was one of looking at ceilings. Mostly the same type of ceiling, cobbly, cheap, clinically institutional ceilings hanging above doctors’ offices, massage offices, dentists’ chairs, waiting rooms… I am half sick of ceilings. Now, I will examine each blade of grass. The sky is my new ceiling.

An Excerpt from "The Lady of Shalott" for you:

But in her web she still delights
To weave the mirror's magic sights,
For often thro' the silent nights
A funeral, with plumes and lights
And music, went to Camelot:
Or when the moon was overhead,
Came two young lovers lately wed:
"I am half sick of shadows,"
said The Lady of Shalott.

by Alfred, Lord Tennyson


Love,
Coco

[patie]

Coco....i am glad things r ok w u! u go girl...party on and explore the world...i am sure u deserve it! and i guess its never too late to order that china set!!! better late then never...

nickster what's up!!! how was ur weekend??

all u pregos.... i have to 100% w nickster...u have nothing to worry about! we r so happy for us and u r the hope for us...seriously ...big kiss to all u and juniors....

[Angie65]

just a real quick one sistas as I am resuming acupuncture in preparation for the thaw cycle and have to go and see the wise old Chinese lady (actually she's not that old) so in a rush.

totally agree - we NEED updates from the preggo ladies to give us hope so Meggo, Wanna and Fee you stay right here.

Fee - glad that Noggin is thriving. Well done you. What will you call him if he is a girl - Noggin is SO a boy so perhaps Noggalina, Noggelle or Noggette. ??

yesterday on the tram I overheard a guy on his phone talking about putting the Wombat to bed - I thought that was kind of cute so I am going to name my next embyWombat- perhaps this might help to connect me with it...

Bye for now. Hi to all the sistas.