Hi All,
What have you all done to stay positive during your 2ww? I'm trying, but it can be tough. Just found out one of my co-workers is pregnant whom I'm happy for, but it just killed me and I spent a good share of the day crying which can't be good for those nesting embryos. I'm trying to turn that around. Any thoughts/suggestions?
How to stay positive?
Dear Sammy,
Just try to think that you are pregnant. Talk to your embies and ask the to stick. I did this and it worked this time. However it is not easy but be happy and I am sure they will stick.
Just try to think that you are pregnant. Talk to your embies and ask the to stick. I did this and it worked this time. However it is not easy but be happy and I am sure they will stick.
Me-36
DH-34(LOW MORPHOLOGY)
1st IUI -12/07 BFN
2nd IUI-4/08 BFN
1st IVF-July 2008 BFN So hard :0
2nd IVF-Nov 2008 BFP Beta 167 (Twins!!!!!!!!! )Thank you God
DH-34(LOW MORPHOLOGY)
1st IUI -12/07 BFN
2nd IUI-4/08 BFN
1st IVF-July 2008 BFN So hard :0
2nd IVF-Nov 2008 BFP Beta 167 (Twins!!!!!!!!! )Thank you God
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CT_Michele
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Everything I can suggest to you I am sure are things you already know, so let me offer some encouragement and inspiration.
It was almost exactly one year ago (It will be one year tomorrow 12/11) that I had my eggs retrieved and the on 12/14, 2 embryos put back in and I started the excruciatingly painful 2ww. I started taking hpt's so early and everyone was negative. I began to get defeated as it got close to christmas. My blood test would have been on 12/25 but they were closed for xmas, so it would be on 12/26. I thought this meant that I should definitely see a positive hpt by 12/23 at the latest, but I didn;t. 12/24, christmas eve morning, first pee, still negative. I had just lost about all my hope and it would be a miserable holiday, when dh read that sometimes first pee is not best, so we tried just one more time...I couldn't believe my eyes, a faint line! What a perfect christmas gift!
So here we are, a year later, spending our first holiday season as a family. Ella is now just over 3 months old and I know now that it was all worth it. Every needle, every long drive to the clinic, every tear I shed during the 2 ww, I would do it all again for the joy I have now.
So my suggestion to you is envision the positive and think about how great it will be. Read the positive stories on this board and know that someday it will be your turn and I pray it will be now for you. Try to keep yourself occupied as hard as I know it is, when all you can think about is what will come in less than 2 weeks. Good luck...and much baby dust to you!
It was almost exactly one year ago (It will be one year tomorrow 12/11) that I had my eggs retrieved and the on 12/14, 2 embryos put back in and I started the excruciatingly painful 2ww. I started taking hpt's so early and everyone was negative. I began to get defeated as it got close to christmas. My blood test would have been on 12/25 but they were closed for xmas, so it would be on 12/26. I thought this meant that I should definitely see a positive hpt by 12/23 at the latest, but I didn;t. 12/24, christmas eve morning, first pee, still negative. I had just lost about all my hope and it would be a miserable holiday, when dh read that sometimes first pee is not best, so we tried just one more time...I couldn't believe my eyes, a faint line! What a perfect christmas gift!
So here we are, a year later, spending our first holiday season as a family. Ella is now just over 3 months old and I know now that it was all worth it. Every needle, every long drive to the clinic, every tear I shed during the 2 ww, I would do it all again for the joy I have now.
So my suggestion to you is envision the positive and think about how great it will be. Read the positive stories on this board and know that someday it will be your turn and I pray it will be now for you. Try to keep yourself occupied as hard as I know it is, when all you can think about is what will come in less than 2 weeks. Good luck...and much baby dust to you!
Me- 28 DH- 33 Male Factor
1st IVF- 12/07- BFP! Ella Michele was born 8/26/8
2nd IVF- 04/09 - BFN
1st FET- 09/09 - Chemical
3rd IVF - 04/11 - Embies didn't make it to ET
4th IVF - Fall 2011??
1st IVF- 12/07- BFP! Ella Michele was born 8/26/8
2nd IVF- 04/09 - BFN
1st FET- 09/09 - Chemical
3rd IVF - 04/11 - Embies didn't make it to ET
4th IVF - Fall 2011??
Wow what great advice from CT Michelle!!!
I am also in the 2WW and i am battling all the feelings of doubt etc and i am trying to stay very positive. I have a CD with positive thoughts, its a bit 'out there' for me, i'm certainly not a meditation kind of person, but i have to say it relaxes my body and clears my mind... Maybe you could try something similar - lay daown in a darkened room with some soothing music and try to empty your heard, i'm sure it would be the same effect.
Last cycle i was convinced it hadnt worked and i had such a high anxiety level, there were tears, freaking out, i was just a mess, and daily neg HPT's only added to my stress, so this time NO HPT's, and i'm concentrating on calm, calm, calm.
I could sit and list all the reasons i think it wont work this time, as they are floating round my head, but i chose to ignore the doubts and THINK i am pregnant. PMA is my secret weapon this cylce....
Hope this helps, and mybe we can help each other out a little with some PMA...my beta is 23rd. How about you?
I am also in the 2WW and i am battling all the feelings of doubt etc and i am trying to stay very positive. I have a CD with positive thoughts, its a bit 'out there' for me, i'm certainly not a meditation kind of person, but i have to say it relaxes my body and clears my mind... Maybe you could try something similar - lay daown in a darkened room with some soothing music and try to empty your heard, i'm sure it would be the same effect.
Last cycle i was convinced it hadnt worked and i had such a high anxiety level, there were tears, freaking out, i was just a mess, and daily neg HPT's only added to my stress, so this time NO HPT's, and i'm concentrating on calm, calm, calm.
I could sit and list all the reasons i think it wont work this time, as they are floating round my head, but i chose to ignore the doubts and THINK i am pregnant. PMA is my secret weapon this cylce....
Hope this helps, and mybe we can help each other out a little with some PMA...my beta is 23rd. How about you?
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foreverlove
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I dont know how to help except for what KAS has said - I also dont get my beta until 12/23. I am trying to stay positive - at lunch today I went into our lounge area, closed the door and just layed down for an hour and tried to concentrate on my three little ones inside trying to find a nice cozy spot. Hopefully this will help go thru this long two week wait.
Mary
12/23 beta 231 - YEAH BFP! 12/30 beta 2,273
Due Date: August 31, 2009
Lillian Born: August 13, 2009
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12/23 beta 231 - YEAH BFP! 12/30 beta 2,273
Due Date: August 31, 2009
Lillian Born: August 13, 2009
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Sammycat,
My wife and I were just torn apart after our first transfer as we though she was pregnant, but she ended up having a miscarriage. We had allowed ourselves to get so excited that we told some people and those people were so happy for us they actually sent us cards. Well we had to eventually call all these people back and tell them it didn't happen and that my wife had a miscarriage. The way we stay positive is just knowing there is some type of plan for us and we have no control over it. We are remaining cautiously optimistic this time as my wife just went through the transfer procedure for the 2nd time last Thursday. I know how you feel, in some way, obviously I'm not a women and you guys have to go through so much during this process. My wife and I almost felt bad because of the way we felt when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were becoming the odd couple with no children. Just hold your head up high and don't worry too much. That's not going to help you or your possible babies on board, it's out of your control just let it happen.
My wife and I were just torn apart after our first transfer as we though she was pregnant, but she ended up having a miscarriage. We had allowed ourselves to get so excited that we told some people and those people were so happy for us they actually sent us cards. Well we had to eventually call all these people back and tell them it didn't happen and that my wife had a miscarriage. The way we stay positive is just knowing there is some type of plan for us and we have no control over it. We are remaining cautiously optimistic this time as my wife just went through the transfer procedure for the 2nd time last Thursday. I know how you feel, in some way, obviously I'm not a women and you guys have to go through so much during this process. My wife and I almost felt bad because of the way we felt when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were becoming the odd couple with no children. Just hold your head up high and don't worry too much. That's not going to help you or your possible babies on board, it's out of your control just let it happen.
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it's a matter of choice.