Hya Girls,
Great to hear of some wonderful news, in particular from Tracey S. That is really fantastic news, and wish you well.
Anyway, you may remember that I "crept" over to this board, stunned by our first ever pregnancy. Well, we had 6 week scan, and it was OK but no heartbeat. We were told that was OK, and yes, OK to go the Canaries for a fortnight.
Well - bang on 8 weeks, I began to bleed, clots, lots of them, and spent an agonising 12 hours in the apartment. I phoned the UK and spoke with my Dad (GP) As night was coming he suggested to go to hospital (all these facilities I had checked very carefully, in case of the inevitable).
Cut a long story short - I had to stay overnight (with hubby, lieing in bed beside me) The Gynae consultant, came over on Dec 29th, and had a look. My DH kept on saying he could see somoething, but I knew it was too late, blood everywhere.
Next morning, I was washed and whisked downstairs on trolley, and then I woke up - I had the D & C.
I feel so numb, and even a week has past and just keep breaking down. We booked this holiday, as a pick-up incase the 3rd IVF failed Again. As it was, we were told it was fine to fly. The Spanish registrar could only say that it was not good to fly (bloody help that was - just when she told us we had to abort.)
I thought of BeckyM a lot, and was well prepared for a bit of bleeding at the 8 week. So if you are out there...have you any survival tips. How was your holiday in France?
I could keep on rambling, but just got back from holiday, desperate for cyber hugs.
Good luck, and well done to all those twinnies,
I have everything crossed.
Nicky, Philxxx
Disaster
Nick
What a complete mare - I have been told flying is fine - then one opinion told me not first or third trimester - durr - what a mare!!! I suppose after all the c**p that has happened to us I am more of the opinion what will be........ I do so wish for 2004 to be your year - you and I have been through it somewhat haven't we. My advice for what it is worth is take some time out if that is right for you (for me it has the oppposite effect and I have to keep up and at it!) and then get stuck in matey! It is about those flaming dice again I reckon. Nick you will never relax - I am 8.4 today and still panicking most days at some point - I as you remember got to 20 weeks so for me nothing will be relaxing until way after that point. We don't have all the anwers no matter how much you want them. Take time out to remember what you had and what you have lost and try and look forward to some better times. I am around if you need me
Love
Tracey
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What a complete mare - I have been told flying is fine - then one opinion told me not first or third trimester - durr - what a mare!!! I suppose after all the c**p that has happened to us I am more of the opinion what will be........ I do so wish for 2004 to be your year - you and I have been through it somewhat haven't we. My advice for what it is worth is take some time out if that is right for you (for me it has the oppposite effect and I have to keep up and at it!) and then get stuck in matey! It is about those flaming dice again I reckon. Nick you will never relax - I am 8.4 today and still panicking most days at some point - I as you remember got to 20 weeks so for me nothing will be relaxing until way after that point. We don't have all the anwers no matter how much you want them. Take time out to remember what you had and what you have lost and try and look forward to some better times. I am around if you need me
Love
Tracey
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Hi Nik
Oh you poor thing - it's absolutely horrible and to go through that while you're away. I just think time, tears and lots of love and hugs may help you survive this.
I miscarried at 6 weeks over the Christmas - there has been too many of us going through this. I had to wait until yesterday for my D & C and now have an infection, had another huge cry when I came round but I feel better now, that at least it's all over.
I really hope you get to feel better in the future, will you try again Nik?
Take care and lots of love
Jen xx
Oh you poor thing - it's absolutely horrible and to go through that while you're away. I just think time, tears and lots of love and hugs may help you survive this.
I miscarried at 6 weeks over the Christmas - there has been too many of us going through this. I had to wait until yesterday for my D & C and now have an infection, had another huge cry when I came round but I feel better now, that at least it's all over.
I really hope you get to feel better in the future, will you try again Nik?
Take care and lots of love
Jen xx
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Hi Nick
Just wanted to give you a big hug and say how sorry I am for you. I had a M/C back in Feb and know the feeling of laying in the hospital bed praying the bleeding will stop. I hope you find some peace over the next few weeks and try not to blame yoursef!!!! This was just one of those things and nothing to do with the flight. I played a game of squash the day after I found out I was pregnant and subsequently found out that squash is not good when you PG I blamed myself for months but in my heart of hearts I know it was just not meant this time but one day it will be. and that goes for you too!! take care and lots of hugs
Aly
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Just wanted to give you a big hug and say how sorry I am for you. I had a M/C back in Feb and know the feeling of laying in the hospital bed praying the bleeding will stop. I hope you find some peace over the next few weeks and try not to blame yoursef!!!! This was just one of those things and nothing to do with the flight. I played a game of squash the day after I found out I was pregnant and subsequently found out that squash is not good when you PG I blamed myself for months but in my heart of hearts I know it was just not meant this time but one day it will be. and that goes for you too!! take care and lots of hugs
Aly
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Dear Nick
Just wanted you to know that I am really very sorry this has happend. Sending you a big hug.
I am sure you are getting lots extra affection from your lovely doggie Molly.
It is good news that you are going to try again in May, it will soon come around Nick.
Thinking of you and your DH.
Love
Gracexxx
Just wanted you to know that I am really very sorry this has happend. Sending you a big hug.
I am sure you are getting lots extra affection from your lovely doggie Molly.
It is good news that you are going to try again in May, it will soon come around Nick.
Thinking of you and your DH.
Love
Gracexxx
Nick I am so sorry that you have had to experience this , I dont think flying has anything to do with it because I opened a thread about a year agao and the responce was that of no it will be ok! Please dont blame yourself , the only comfort I can give you right now is a big hug {{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You know that you can get pregnant so when you are ready love get back out there and go again , we will be here for you every step of the way. you need to grieve though so let it all out , have lots of drink as you missed out at christmas and I am here if ever you need me .
Trace xxx
Trace xxx
Nick I am so sorry that you have had to experience this , I dont think flying has anything to do with it because I opened a thread about a year agao and the responce was that of no it will be ok! Please dont blame yourself , the only comfort I can give you right now is a big hug {{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You know that you can get pregnant so when you are ready love get back out there and go again , we will be here for you every step of the way. you need to grieve though so let it all out , have lots of drink as you missed out at christmas and I am here if ever you need me .
Trace xxx
Trace xxx
Hi Nicky,
I was really really sorry to read your news.
I too miscarried just after Christmas, I was 10 weeks pregnant and after weekly scans and IVIG drips they had finally said that they didn't need to see me again until my 12 wk scan, then it all fell apart.
Like you it was also my 3rd IVF attempt, unfortunatley I had also miscarried on my 2nd attempt in July.
I have been wondering where Beckym is too as we go to the same clinic and had cycled together. I guess she may still be in France.
If you need to talk to someone else feeling like you do right now then let me know. I am not on everyday but every few days, I like to pop on.
I am also crying at least once a day, it is normal!
Lots of love Rach X
I was really really sorry to read your news.
I too miscarried just after Christmas, I was 10 weeks pregnant and after weekly scans and IVIG drips they had finally said that they didn't need to see me again until my 12 wk scan, then it all fell apart.
Like you it was also my 3rd IVF attempt, unfortunatley I had also miscarried on my 2nd attempt in July.
I have been wondering where Beckym is too as we go to the same clinic and had cycled together. I guess she may still be in France.
If you need to talk to someone else feeling like you do right now then let me know. I am not on everyday but every few days, I like to pop on.
I am also crying at least once a day, it is normal!
Lots of love Rach X
Hey Nick,
Is a bloody awful thing. I miscarried just before Christmas, I kept blaming myself, I'm absolutely positive now that this is part of the grieving process, we want to know why, and it seems so natural to blame ourselves. I am absolutely positive that flying was not the problem, just like me falling over and skinning my knee a week before our tiny baby died while I was pregnant didn't make any difference.
It will get better Nick I promise, in the meantime, lots of hugs from dh, keep strong, and lets never lose sight of oue wonderufl baby dreams!
Belinda
Is a bloody awful thing. I miscarried just before Christmas, I kept blaming myself, I'm absolutely positive now that this is part of the grieving process, we want to know why, and it seems so natural to blame ourselves. I am absolutely positive that flying was not the problem, just like me falling over and skinning my knee a week before our tiny baby died while I was pregnant didn't make any difference.
It will get better Nick I promise, in the meantime, lots of hugs from dh, keep strong, and lets never lose sight of oue wonderufl baby dreams!
Belinda
Nick
Sorry I didn't see your post earlier as haven't been on the site till today. Am so sorry you had to go through this too. It's a bl**** awful experience and must have been even more frightening happening abroad.
Survival tips : 1)keep really busy but let yourself grieve as well. I'm ok 90% of the time but for 10% am in bits. Let dh grieve as well if he needs to. My dh has cried almost as much as I have about it. 2)it's ok to avoid pregnant women for the time being until you come to terms with it. They will just have to accept that we have feelings too. 3)Get yourself a plan for the next two years - eg are you going to carry on with IVF, investigate adoption etc? and then get going with that plan re booking appointments etc. This way you don't feel you are in limbo.
Bel - wondered where you had got to. Really sorry about your m/c.
lots of love to all of you
beckym xxxx
Sorry I didn't see your post earlier as haven't been on the site till today. Am so sorry you had to go through this too. It's a bl**** awful experience and must have been even more frightening happening abroad.
Survival tips : 1)keep really busy but let yourself grieve as well. I'm ok 90% of the time but for 10% am in bits. Let dh grieve as well if he needs to. My dh has cried almost as much as I have about it. 2)it's ok to avoid pregnant women for the time being until you come to terms with it. They will just have to accept that we have feelings too. 3)Get yourself a plan for the next two years - eg are you going to carry on with IVF, investigate adoption etc? and then get going with that plan re booking appointments etc. This way you don't feel you are in limbo.
Bel - wondered where you had got to. Really sorry about your m/c.
lots of love to all of you
beckym xxxx