Hi everyone, I'm new

Lolly · Post by **Lolly** » Thu Jul 10, 2003 10:37 pm

It's taken me a long time to pluck up the courage to type this message. I have been scanning the message board for weeks and have been comforted by the stories and replies I've read. What a great support this site is. Okay, here we go with my story. Tried to become pregnant over two years and was unsucessful. Had a lap and dye primarily for severe period pain which diagnosed endometrosis. Had all of the deposits excised. Five months later my DH had a semen test which showed 94% abnormals, 50% swimming ok, and count of 14 million. Discovered this news only last week and have been advised to have ICSI. Help. DH is not saying very much about it. Doesn't believe anything is wrong and wants to keep trying naturally. I feel very alone with this news. And of course all my friends are preggers or new mothers. Would love to hear from anyone.

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Fri Jul 11, 2003 6:29 am

Hi Lolly First I would like to welcome you to the site, it is a great help and you just get so much advice and people do help. Just to let you know I have Endometrious and DH has low sperm count so we was put forward for ICSI. We had 1 attempt at it and luckily it worked for us I am now 12 weeks pregnant. The thing is if you have been trying for 2 years and its not happening and your being advised that there is some problems with your sperm it just means you just need a little help getting where you need to get to. Hope to hear from you soon. Love Shell. xx

alison p · Post by **alison p** » Fri Jul 11, 2003 8:51 am

Dear Lolly, Welcome to the site - it's great to have the support of so many people who are going through the same thing. Starting fertility treatment can be scary. It took us 4 cycles of ICSI to get pregnant (now 12.5 weeks like Shell), but it doesn't take that long for everyone (see Shell's reply above). My husband also has a problem - 95% abnormal forms, 40% motility and so we had no choice but to go for ICSI. It may be more difficult for the man to come to terms with the issue than the woman - you don't get any men on this website, only women. However, you may find it useful to have the counselling that is offered by your clinic. It will help you talk through your fears and worries of treatment. It's also heartbreaking when friends get pregnant without a problem when you're going through IVF. They always seem to announce it just as your cycle fails!! However, keep positive and it will happen. Best of luck with your first cycle and remember that we're all hear to answer your questions, no matter how silly they may seem, Alison xx

kateg · Post by **kateg** » Fri Jul 11, 2003 9:40 am

Hi Lolly and welcome to the site. My problem is unexplained so its not quite the same as yourself and I have had IVF not ICSI, but I do know what the whole waiting game and stress is like. So just to say we're here for you.

jen · Post by **jen** » Fri Jul 11, 2003 12:02 pm

Hi Lolly Welcome to this fab site - you'll get tons of advice and support from everyone. It's a big step that you both need to want to take together - don't give up the natural approach cos we know that still works for lots of couples. It's a daunting situation to find yourself in but remember there are loads of success stories out there. Best of luck Jen xx

gem · Post by **gem** » Fri Jul 11, 2003 4:43 pm

Hi Lolly Welcome to this site I only found it a few weeks ago and its a god send. We've just done our first IVF and we find out on Weds if its worked! Its very hard for anybody to start treatment and not get pg naturally but we will all go through it and prob a lot more to get pg and have a child,Its what my hubby and me want more in the world like every one else on this site,so you are surrounded by friends you understand what you are going through. God I can ramble on Keep in touch and we are all here for you and your DH Love Gem xx

shelld · Post by **shelld** » Sat Jul 12, 2003 5:57 pm

Hi Lolly Great that you've joined us I agree it takes courage to make that first click on the keyboard! Similarly we've been trying for couple of years and put it down to bad luck, had tests and found out DH has male factors also advised ICSI. My DH was quiet about it too has lots of reservations about going ahead with it due to emotional upheaval and risks to me and a baby. Its been a bit hard coz I am very keen to go ahead. It helped me to talk to my mum and sisters but has been a bit difficult since me and DH agreed not to tell anyone reason for infertility, they've been very supportive but probably dont quite realise how emotionally difficult it is and summer does seem to be the season for preggers Anyway keep positive and give your DH a bit of time to think it through. We're all here for you. Love shelld xx

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