July Cycle Buddies?

Dawn Blake · Post by **Dawn Blake** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 10:49 am

Now that the injections have started (jabbing rather than sniffing), and my first baseline scan is this week, I was hoping we could have a `buddy page' for all of us going through this whole adventure together! For info, I am 30, DH is 33, we have been married for 7 years, and have been ttc for probably 6 of those, found out my tubes were in a bad way (Hydrosalpinx) and have been undergoing IVF since 2000 - 4 failed attempts, good amount of eggy's, but the little blighters just won't embed! Have had further tubal surgery to detach both tubes from uterus so fluid doesn't continue to leak and wash away eggs, so am very hopeful (yeah right) for this attempt! I am being treated at The Lister by Sam Abdalla, who is fantastic! Have been taking pronatal multivit, drinking lots of water, milk, eating lots of fish, and trying to prep as much as possible, and am also having acupuncture, which is lovely (thank you Alison, Dr Zhu is fantastic!), and highly recommended! If all goes well, hoping to have et around the w/c 21 July, see how I respond to the drugs. I hope there are a few more out there, this site is fantastic, and if there are a few of us working through it together, it makes the emotional rollacoaster of IVF that little bit more bearable! Looking forward to hearing from you! D x

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:20 pm

Hi Dawn I won't be joining you in July but wanted to wish you very best of luck as you start out on this cylce. Hopefully this will be your lucky one. You certainly sound healthy enough, I think it really helps you to feel stronger when you are as healthy as possible (says she who is just polishing off a Magnum ice cream...yummy) I am a Lister girl too!!! I see Dr Wren. I will be starting my sixth ICSI there later in summer, August probably. Like you I have had good embryos throughout but they just don't stick around very long! Trying acupuncture this time too! Keep us informed on how you are getting on. Really wish you lots and lots of luck. Take care. Gracex

louli · Post by **louli** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:31 pm

Hi! Dawn and Grace, Think I have posted with both of you before. I am also a Lister Chick and and seeing Sam again on 3rd July. Went back to work today after 8 weeks off having had a laparotomy to remove both my tubes. Had one failed attempt. They could not see any follies but that was pre-surgery.Hoping to get started again but at present all going badly as no sign of AF since surgery. I am 38 and only have one ovary from previous endo. My sister had her first baby yesterday only 8 months after they got married so feeling v. fragile today and loads of tears. Praying hard for AF so hopefully will join one of you at some time. May see you in the waiting room for a glass of water! Bye for now, Lou

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:34 pm

Dawn - Hi, I wondered where you'd got to! Thought you must have been to see Dr Zhu, as when I saw him last week he started telling me about a woman who'd gone to see him at the weekend who was in such a similar situation to me...! Anyway, he was very pleased when I told him we'd been in touch and I'd recommended him. You are being so healthy - because I'm not taking any drugs yet it seems a bit unreal that I might be having FET in 3 weeks or so. I'm waiting for AF - she's due tomorrow-ish (bit unsure as my cycle was a bit odd last month after the op.). Last week I was convinced she'd be early but now no sign so guess I'll be late. But if she does arrive soon I suspect I'll be on a pretty similar timetable to you, with e/t around day 21 of my cycle. I'm sure there are others around on a similar timescale - with this site being tempremental I think a few haven't been around for a while, but I'm sure they'll be back! Keep in touch, love Alison x

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:41 pm

Lou - our posts must have crossed. Lovely to see you back, but sorry that AF has arrived and that its so difficult with your sister. New babies are so hard when its just friends but with family too... I'm thinking of you. Try not to feel pressured into doing more new baby stuff than you want to do, Alison x

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:10 pm

Just wanted to say hello to Lou and Alison too. Lou, sorry you are having a fragile day. I posted earlier this evening as I was feeling a bit low too. Spent the weekend with my little nephews and while I really adore them, it hurts too. I remember when my sister had her first son who is three now, I found it so difficult because on one level you are so happy for them but I also felt really jealous. My sister is three years younger so I always felt I would be first!! Great that you are starting again soon. Keep in touch. I think most of us know how hard the after the birth of a new baby in the family are. Hi Alison, I remember you were going for your op before I went on my break. Glad it all went well. All systems go now for your next cycle. I really hope nothing goes wrong with the site again, it makes such a differnce knowing you guys are around. Talk soon. Gracex

Sue25 · Post by **Sue25** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:40 pm

Hi Girls well I,m also at the Lister but I,m having some of the tmt at my local clinic in Windsor. Started injections on Friday going for the blood test in the morning, I think ec should be about the 2nd July if all goes well .This is our first ivf and I have found this site a great help Good luck and best wishes to all Sue

Dawn Blake · Post by **Dawn Blake** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 10:29 am

There are a few of us then?! Lou, I am sure AF will show soon, and then you will know what's what, typical, she comes along when you don't want her to, and when you do....! My baseline scan has been confirmed for this Thursday26th at 4pm, so hopefully the drugs are doing what they should be and I can start the Gonal F! Alison - thank you so much for sorting me out with Dr Zhu, he is a real sweetie, going again on Saturday morning (only been going once a week, how often do you go?)and can't wait - those herbs he burns in the room and on the needles is fab (smells a bit dodgy, if you know what I mean)but sent me right off to sleep, I was soundo! I bought some to burn at home, and have been sleeping like a log since - not like me at all! Emotions and hormones are kicking in, getting the tears etc, what a nightmare this all is, hope the sunshine will cheer us all up, it looks glorious out there, while I am sitting at my blimmin' desk! By the way, I am no mother Theresa in the eating department, although I am eating and drinking the right things, chocolate does appear most days - well, we do have to have some vices surely?! D x

louli · Post by **louli** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 12:53 pm

Hello Everyone! Alison, good to hear from you again. Are you the same Alison who had the tubal surgery around the time I had mine? Dawn, the chocolate problem must be very widespread. I have it too especially around lunch time. Have given up almost all other things to try and be healthy and ready for this cycle if AF ever comes along but chocolate....mmmmmm....no can do!! Grace, glad to hear it is not just me struggling with my sister's baby arrival. I just cannot talk to her at all. In fact I have told her to just ignore me and maybe one day we can get together again. There are a few other issues between the two of us which have not helped but truly I do not even feel tremendously happy for her. I sound like such a miserable unfeeling person but it is just easier not to think about her at all. Sue, hope all goes well with your scan. It must be handy not having to go into London for all the treatment, Good Luck!

louli · Post by **louli** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 12:53 pm

Hello Everyone! Alison, good to hear from you again. Are you the same Alison who had the tubal surgery around the time I had mine? Dawn, the chocolate problem must be very widespread. I have it too especially around lunch time. Have given up almost all other things to try and be healthy and ready for this cycle if AF ever comes along but chocolate....mmmmmm....no can do!! Grace, glad to hear it is not just me struggling with my sister's baby arrival. I just cannot talk to her at all. In fact I have told her to just ignore me and maybe one day we can get together again. There are a few other issues between the two of us which have not helped but truly I do not even feel tremendously happy for her. I sound like such a miserable unfeeling person but it is just easier not to think about her at all. Sue, hope all goes well with your scan. It must be handy not having to go into London for all the treatment, Good Luck!

louli · Post by **louli** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 12:54 pm

Hello Everyone! Alison, good to hear from you again. Are you the same Alison who had the tubal surgery around the time I had mine? Dawn, the chocolate problem must be very widespread. I have it too especially around lunch time. Have given up almost all other things to try and be healthy and ready for this cycle if AF ever comes along but chocolate....mmmmmm....no can do!! Grace, glad to hear it is not just me struggling with my sister's baby arrival. I just cannot talk to her at all. In fact I have told her to just ignore me and maybe one day we can get together again. There are a few other issues between the two of us which have not helped but truly I do not even feel tremendously happy for her. I sound like such a miserable unfeeling person but it is just easier not to think about her at all. Sue, hope all goes well with your scan. It must be handy not having to go into London for all the treatment, Good Luck!

louli · Post by **louli** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 12:54 pm

Hello Everyone! Alison, good to hear from you again. Are you the same Alison who had the tubal surgery around the time I had mine? Dawn, the chocolate problem must be very widespread. I have it too especially around lunch time. Have given up almost all other things to try and be healthy and ready for this cycle if AF ever comes along but chocolate....mmmmmm....no can do!! Grace, glad to hear it is not just me struggling with my sister's baby arrival. I just cannot talk to her at all. In fact I have told her to just ignore me and maybe one day we can get together again. There are a few other issues between the two of us which have not helped but truly I do not even feel tremendously happy for her. I sound like such a miserable unfeeling person but it is just easier not to think about her at all. Sue, hope all goes well with your scan. It must be handy not having to go into London for all the treatment, Good Luck!

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 1:41 pm

hello everyone, Im a July cycle buddy! have my base line scan on 3rd july with hopefully ec on 18th. I know there are a few more july buddies out there. had 1st attempt in January which was a no go then attempted a fet last month but they didnt survive the thaw. lost 3 pregnancies in early 20,s one of which twins. now 30 and with hubbie for 5 years and my tubes are mush. I have a friend ( I know its not the same as a sister like louli and grace) but Ive been in pieces about her little baby. She got deliberatley pg after 2 mths of knowing her man and this happened as we were just starting ivf. It was awful and still is awful. Ive had to be her support , being nice when I dont want to be! going to hospital with her and baby fairs, collecting cots etc. And it got worse a month ago when she had her baby. Ive just not had my friend to talk to, especially when Ive needed a friend in the last 8 months. Its all her and her baby, oh and her new friends........all new mums.I feel so sad now not having her to talk to. I have tried but she doesnt seem to want to be bothered by it...she doesnt really listen. All she can say is why dont you just adopt. Ive stayed away the last couple of weeks as Im just a wreck after seeing her. She just seems a different person now. anyway sorry for the rant but its really screwing me up AAAAAGGGGGHHH! heres wishing everyone their dreams come true lots of love kathryn melanie(02) , I remember you were starting about the same time, I hope everything is going ok .

jo mortimer · Post by **jo mortimer** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 2:15 pm

Hi I'm a July cycle buddy too! Base Scan on the 1st July. This is our first attempt so I don't know what to expect, I could do with some tips, ie do you feel like exercising or is it best just to try and chill out? I'm already feeling a bit hormonal (nothing new there!) Has anyone tried reflexology? I don't think friends/family do really understand what if feels like to go through this, I get "why don't you just adopt! Luckily my mum is very supportive because she found it hard to conceive and of course I have my DH who's very understanding when I throw a wobbly! Good luck gals!

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 8:08 pm

Hi again July ladies - its great that there are a fair few of us! First of all Grace, must apologise for so rudely ignoring you - I'd left you a message on "your thread" but reading this again it looked so rude of me. Anyway, welcome back! Lou - yup I am indeed the same Alison who had my tubes out, with you and Dawn one of the founding members of the inner tubeless gang! How are you? Have you gone back to work or are you still signed off? And what did you do to make your message turn up four times?! Dawn - I see Dr Zhu about once a week (although can't go next week). I know exactly what you mean about the smell being a bit dodgy! Went to see him this evening, it always makes me feel much calmer. Sue - I think I saw that they'd increased your dose of drugs - that really isn't anything to worry about, 4 doses is well within normal range - on one go I was up to 6! Jo - welcome, you're right that no-one else can really understand. In terms of exercise or chilling do whatever suits. I think the general consensus is fine up until you've had embryo transfer (e/t) - then sit still and hope they stick! On previous cycles I've found exercise good for stress levels, but when the weather's like this I find sitting in the garden more relaxing. Anyway, as I mentioned I'm waiting for AF - feeling pretty tetchy so that's probably a good sign that she's on her way! lots of love and luck to us all! Alison x

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