February/March Buddies

[mbelle1019]

Well, I had my retrieval yesterday. Just like last time, the retrieval and fertilization went fairly well. I was a little concerned because kyle and i had not had sex within the window. I believe they say you should wait no longer than 5 days. Well, we were closer to 2 weeks. But, looks like he did his part. They retrieved 16, of which 13 fertilized. I am not getting my hopes up yet, though. Because out of 12 which fertilized the last time only 2 were normal and able to be implanted. We will not know until Wednesday, probably right before the transfer how many are normal and able to be implanted. But as Mel said, it only takes one.

Michelle (ShellBell) I am sorry they cancelled your IVF cycle, but there is still hope if you are going through IUI. I am praying for you. One of my very best friends just was inseminated last week with IUI. We should all be finding out about the same time. It is good you are open minded and considering many other options. Unfortunately, I do not know anyone who has gone the route of donated eggs. Should this not work for Kyle and I, and if I cannot talk him into a surrogate, I will go the route of adoption. The pregnancy experience for me will not be easy, requiring bedrest and likely even hospital bedrest. I am not sure I want to go through that if I am not using my own egg. We had actually started looking into adopting a little girl from China, through Great Wall. I wanted to pursue a China adoption as the girls tend to be healthy and the mothers cannot change their mind. I do know there is an adoption agency in St. Petersburg which you pay one price and you are guaranteed an adopted child. I know of two families that used them and were very happy. It is called Gift of Life. However, first things first and prayers that the IUI has worked. God will lead you the rest of the way.

Sue, when is your 2ww up? It is good you are keeping busy. I find the waiting weeks to be the hardest, because of the feeling of helplessness regardling the outcome. I am amazed at your PMA. Keep it up, you are an inspiration to all of us. : )

[Jen1d]

Hi girls

Well we are finally home after our short break so can keep in touch more often now.
Finally we start our 2nd cycle tomorrow. It seems to have come around so fast and i am so full of mixed emotions. After the 1st cycle i was fairly positive but this time i keep thinking "it's failed once so why work this time". It's hard to stay positive as i try to protect myself incase we get a BFN again. I know,i know, i must keep my chin up but come on girls you know what it's like.
Anyway enough of that. I am off to bed early and will start fresh tomorrow with a positive mind. Thankfully i have a great bunch of girls to help me along to my BFP.

Catch up with you all soon

Love Jen x

[Yogi6]

Hi there,

I hope you don't mind me jumping in & joining you girls I am currently in the throws of my first IVF, & great to be able to chat to others going through the same process!!!

I'm currently on cd8 of injections and my EC should be approx 13/03!!

Injections are making me very very tired, hard to stay awake at work

Anyway would be great to talk to you girls.....[/list]

[mbelle1019]

HI Jen,

I know exactly how you feel. My first IVF, I was very positive, especially when I did not have any spotting during my 2ww, plus my boobs were extremely tender, etc. And, as a Christian, I had prayed and prayed and prayed. I was really hopeful that I would be pregnant. When it did not work, it was very hard. The disappointment of a life long dream not coming true, and even worse, I felt let down by God. There is a bible verse I grasp to, that if you have the faith of a mustard seed and tell a mountain to move into the sea, it will. What did this say about my faith. Why would God not allow people who so desperately want children have them. Yet, there are so many children born to teenagers or to families who abuse or neglect them. It did not seem fair. Unfortunately, there is no magic answer or solution. But without faith and hope, we have nothing. Everything is possible with God, and even if we have failed in the past, faith and hope enable us to move forward. I do not know if you are Christian or not, but there are many stories in the bible of God blessing barren women with children. I am not telling you this to try and convert you, but to let you know we still have hope.

I am in the midst of my second cycle now. Unfortunately, I am having the same issue I had last time, thin uterine lining. I am praying now for healthy embryos...and clinging to "with God, anything is possible."

What is nice about this website is there are so many of us going through the same thing, feeling the same emotions, experiencing both the joy and disappointment with the results. You will have many people praying for you.

Michelle (mbelle1019)

[Jen1d]

:lol:Hi Michelle

Thanks for your prayers, hope they work.

What stage are you at in your 2nd cycle? I started downregging today so the wheels are in motion but still have a good few weeks to go.
Keep me updated with how you're getting on.

Yogi6 - Welcome. This is the best place to be for help, advice and support as the girls are great. Let us know how you are getting on with your cycle.

Love Jen x

[mbelle1019]

HI Jen,

I just had my EC on Friday. I had 13 fertilized eggs. My issues the last time were my thin uterine lining and that only 2 out of 12 embryos were compatible with life. We will not actually know how many we have to implant this time until Wednesday. I guess the older eggs are more likely to produce anueploidies (not sure of spelling).

I wish I would have started all this years ago. In the states they have many programs which guarantee you a child within 3 IVF cycles or they refund your money. But, at 39, I do not qualify.

It sounds as if you are just starting your 2nd process. The dreaded shots and all. I know it seems as if it is a long time away, but you will be surprised at how quickly time passes by.

Well, I am off to work...on a Sunday! I am taking most of next week off with the ET being Wed.

[Eminde]

Hi all

Good news - went for scan today and can do FET on Wednesday if the embies survive and then 15 March will be my test date. Am trying to be calm this time and not get my hopes up too much. Not sure how long I can keep it up though Just catching up on your news after a week away:

Debra - congratulations on your BFP!!
Shellbell - really keeping my fingers crossed that this will work for you especially after the disappointment of the IVF cancellation.
mbelle1019 - good luck for Wednesday's ET!!
Lisa - How was last Wednesday's appt?
Jen - hope the downregging is going OK? It feels great to get started again doesn't it?!
Mel P - congrats on getting to the 2ww. When's your test date?
Yogi6 - welcome! Hope you're coping better with the meds now.
Sue - under a week for you now. Well done for keeping so calm.
Donna99 - big hugs to you.

Eminde xx

[sue e]

Eminde - Great news about the scan, all the best for the little embies. Good luck

love

sue e xx

[MLG]

Hi to all

Been here before, but wasn't able to keep up with all the news and hadn't started tmt yet, so have been with Phoenixes for solace.
Am starting shots for second IVF/ICSI tomorrow. I was feeling quite calm and happy, but am getting a bit scared today now that it’s about to start. Silly!

PMA and baby dust to all

xxxxx

[Jen1d]

hi girls
Medi is going fine so far and having first treatment of acupuncture tomorrow to help destress. Will let you know how it goes as i am a needle coward.

Michelle - Can't believe you get your money back in USA if it works. Another friend in the October buddies is getting her IVF FREE until it is successful, that would never happen over here. Hope you get great news on Wed will be thinking of you. Let me know

Eminde - Good luck with the FET. Your lettle embies are finally coming
home.

MGL - Good luck, don't be scared as it will be worth it in the end.

Am off to do a sleepover at work so will catch up with you all on Wed after my acup aaaahhhhhhhhhhh

Love Jen x

[mbelle1019]

Jen, What did you think about the acupuncture? It is supposed to help the uterus accept the embryo as well as being a stress reliever.

Unfortunately, my doctor and my husband would not let me go for the treatment after the transfer. I had 3 healthy male embryos. My husband is excited. My mom came to stay with me through Sunday. Between her and my husband, my husband would not let me talk above a whisper and my mom did not want me to shower. I made her call the doctor who said I can both talk and shower. Then I had a girlfriend come over who brought over fresh pineapple because she said there is some enzyme or chemical in it which helps the embryo implant. I had some cramping last night and this morning, but am feeling ok now. I am on couch rest through Sunday. Gives me plenty of time to watch the food network!

Eminde, how did the transfer go on Wednesday?

Mel and Sue - time is getting close! When are your test dates

[sue e]

mbelle - wishing you al the best, sounds like you are being well looked after

take care

love

sue e xx

[sue e]

mbelle- forgot to answer your last question - both mine and mel's tests are tomorrow, getting quite nervous now, especially as last night i start with brown discharge.

all the best

love

sue e xx

[Eminde]

Thanks all for the good wishes. Wednesday went well - 2 embies transfered. Have had very unwelcome stress at work from my boss so am trying to think calming thoughts and will look forward to my week in Norfolk. Am flying this evening. Some good country air will help I'm sure!

Sue - just 1 more sleep! I have everything crossed for you.
mbelle - take it easy - although it sounds like you don't have much choice How sweet of your mum and DH to be so caring. Well done for your 3 embies!!
Jen - hope everything's fine with you. How was the acupuncture?
MLG - good luck for your tmt. Great you can finally get started!

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Have a lovely weekend!

Eminde xx

[Lana]

Hi everyone,
Back after a long break. Had FET today. Both my little embies survived thawing and were transferred as "hatching embryos"!!!!! Now just wait AGAIN.
Love Lana