The Over 40 Crowd

[gailbunny]

Hi Girls

Today has been a horrible day from start to finish. Found out last eve that DS is being verbally bullied then this am my sister got stuck in traffic trying to get here to look after him and make sure he got to school ok as scan was supposed to be 8.45 and we have 45 min drive to get there. We ended up taking DS to school and not getting in for scan until 9.20. Somehow I think this was a message from above that we were due for bad news.

Bad news was what we got as Wed scan revealed 4 follies now we only have 3 of which only one is easily acessible. We had to decide whether to go for it and hope or cancel and look for a donor because the consultant said she would not run IVF again unless we find a donor.

We have decided to go with it and hope that we get 1 egg as it does really only take one. Hope is all we can look at now.

Presently I am not sure I want to try looking for a donor or that I want to go through all this emotion again.

I read through some of the posts and thank my lucky stars I have my darling son. Yes he can be a handful but its certainly a handful I wouldnt do without.

My only dilema is that my DH hasnt got any children of his own, I share my son and to he honest you wouldnt know he wasnt his father when you see them together but I do feel guilty than I cant give him a little one of his own.

Had my Pregnyl this evening and really am praying hard that one folicle shines through and a nice little eggie comes through and wants to be an embie for us.

Heres hoping that Sunday is a good omen.

Regards
Gail

[teachertam]

Happy Friday!

Gail: You are right that it only takes one egg. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you on Sunday. I would go for it too!

Anna: What is provera? I always take a month of birth control and that always gets rid of my cysts. Last month I did not take any meds and I had one small cyst. However, it was too small to affect the process and my nurse said it was leaking. I am doing the short protocol. No lupron, just straight to the gonal-f. I am on day 4 of the stimming meds. I go back to the doctor on Monday to check on my harvest. I'm hoping for a bumper crop of follies

We go to another adoption meeting tomorrow. I feel a little conflicted at the present time. If I hope for the IVF to be successful, I feel like I am betraying the adoption and if I get excited about the adoption I feel like I should not be doing the IVF. DH and I were having lunch today and I mentioned that if we get pregnant, that I will delay the adoption for a few months and then proceed. He rolled his eyes and said, "you are going to get your two children one way or another." He thinks that I will have a difficult time raising two young children, since I have never done it before.

Regards,
Tammy

[032323]

Hi Gail

Go for it girl!!!! I have been where you are - I started out with 2 follies then a few extra small ones came along - but ended up with 1 at egg collection - it did fertilise but unfortunately failed to take. But it could have cause like you said IT ONLY TAKES ONE!! That happened on my 2nd attempt - at 3 attempts i only ended up with 1 egg and thought thats all i would ever get until attempt 4 when I ended up with 3 retrieved and 2 put back!! For me that was a fantastic result although it still failed even though the embryos were good quality!! But i will not give up until they tell me i have no eggs left!!

My situation is the same as you - I have a 3 year old daughter from a previous relationship was sterilised and would love a child with my now hubby who doesnt have any children.

Anyway - GOOD LUCK AND DONT GIVE UP ON THE EMBIES!! KEEP US INFORMED!!

CAZx

[gailbunny]

Tam I am sure you will do ok.

Wont say bringing up any children is easy because it isnt but many people say that two close together is easier cos they help bring each other up.

When all said and done if you have plenty of love to give you will be rewarded. I think you will be giving both the best chance and you certainly are not betraying either.

Hope your crop is a bumper one and that you get your dream whatever.

Regards
Gail

[032323]

TAMMY

GOOD LUCK ON MONDAY!! HOPE YOU GET LOTS OF FOLLIES!!


CAZx

[cmg]

Just a quickie to say thank you all for your support after I my "pop up out of nowhere and get depressed" post. Kat I read your post on the "life after" board. I'd forgotten that board was even there, so thanks for pointing it out. I may visit there again.

I am no further forward but keep telling myself that 4 weeks isn't very long to come to terms with something like this, especially so soon after my Mum died. On the one hand I'm giving myself permission to just "not know" what to do for a while, but on the other hand it's killing me to live with the uncertainty, particularly when DH is so clear about what he wants (ie let's move on).

Anyway, I'm off to watch that amazing Planet Earth programme. Tammy and Debra, good luck for your scans tomorrow.

love Caroline

[gailbunny]

Good Luck Tam & Debra for your scans tomorrow.

My EC was ok although felling very sore now. We did get three eggs but now on tenter hooks awaiting call re fertilisation.

PMA

Gail

[BevT]

Good luck for scans tomorrow Tammy and Debra, and goodluck Gail with your eggs - hoping they all fertilize and grow well.

LOL Bev xxx

[teachertam]

Hello Ladies:

Thanks for the support.

Gail: I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you regarding fertilization. I remember when I was going through IVF #1, my morning centered around the daily call from my embryologist letting me know the progress of my embies. Will you go for 3 day embyo transfer, or does your doctor do a 5 day tranfer? Mine does transfer on day 5.

Debra: Good luck on your scan tomorrow.

I'm ready to see how many follies I have. Tonight I have to start with the Cetrotide shots. That will make 3 shots today! My stomach is very bruised.

Regards,
Tammy

[lara]

Hi everyone, sorry haven't been keeping up with you all for so long, I really hope you're all okay - I haven't been able to really read up on where everyone's at as I've had some big matters to attend to - my stepfather's dying and I've been legging it up and down to Leicester to the hospital to support my mum, who got extremely ill with acute pancreatitis last year through looking after him, and we're worried that might happen again, also one of his daughters I think has borderline personality disorder - she's fine for most of the time and then completely turns on my mum and I can't repeat what she says to her - but my mum wants us to keep the peace because of her DH dying - it's all very difficult, but you have to respect people's wishes and just support them in what they're trying to do.
Caroline and Kat, I totally understand where you are at from what I've read of yours, and you're both extremely good at expressing the situation you find yourselves in - how hard it is, having to let go, or maybe just have another go before you let go - that's how I was before this last go - which turned into a complete nightmare anyway, for reasons I won't bore on about now, but suffice to say I'm never going to do another IVF. It's possible I'm pg, but that doesn't mean a thing because I'm one of those who has missed miscarriages each time, so if I am pg I have to wait 4 months before I'm sure, so I'm getting on with work, masses of it and a huge deadline looming. Life is totally random, I have no control over what happens, either this happens or that happens, and I can't be bothered worrying about it any more. I might get run over tomorrow, so I'm going to make the most of today.
Good luck Gail, good luck Debra, good luck Tammy, I truly hope things turn out for you this time, it would be so fantastic it really would.
Tammy, Lisa, onward and upward with all your plans, I know lots of people who've fostered and gone on to adopt, which of course is very sad because it means the birth parents are too ill to cope with having their own children, but it means they've got to keep the children. It's an ill wind that brings nobody good. and also of course adopting from abroard is a wonderful thing to do because of the terrible conditions so much of the world's population have to live in.
Bev, Anna, thinking of you, hope things go well, you never ever know, you read amazing things on these boards and people have a dream come true, it happens all the time as we all know, and it's like with the lottery, you can't win if you don't buy a ticket! Anna, I hope you can still use that follicle despite the cyst, perhaps with a natural attempt as someone suggested!
Don't know how Randa is, but sending my best wishes to you.
Once again, sorry I haven't been able to check in, I did log on at one point but before I could type anything I got an urgent phone call and that was the end of that.
Don't know when will check in again, but sending everyone the best of everything.
lol Lara

[gailbunny]

Hi all

Tam hope all is well today with scan.

Good Luck Debra with yours too.

The eggs we have I beleive have fertilised this morning. PMA that they hold on and grow through the rest of the day & night.

If they make it, it will be down to me to nurture them after 9.30 tomorrow as that is when they plan to do ET.

And I also had long conversation today with school over DS and she didnt realise that he was being bullied so she is going to supervise odd playtimes and catch them at it.

Lara good luck with possible pg and hope everything around you gets better too.

Regards
Gail

[DebraP]

No good news for us today. No heartbeat and egg sac small for dates at 7wks 1 day the fetus should have measured 9mm but the egg sac was only that big. He also saw a small pool of blood close to the egg sac and whilst will scan again on Friday, has told us to expect to m/c this week.

Tammy, I hope today went well. Gail, good luck with treatment. Lara, I've PM'd but good luck with tmt and sorry to read of your family troubles.

Debra.

[BevT]

Oh Debra, I am so sorry that things haven't gone well. Will be thinking of you and DF. Take care of each other.

LOL Bev xxx

[Kat]

Debra - so sorry to see your news. I know nothing I say will make you feel any better but you are in my thoughts. What a shitty thing this all is.
Kat x

[taylorjools]

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I can't believe life can be so unfair, my heart goes out to you

Jules