Medical negligence!

[Lizzie]

Hi

Have not posted for quite a while but log on every now and then to read other people's experiences. Makes me feel a bit better that I am not the only 1 going through this.

After 6 years - 2 failed vasectomy reversals, 7 DIUI's, 1 ivf treatment and 3 superovulated di's, resulting in 1 ectopic pregnancy(June 2003) and 1 missed miscarriage (May 2005) (all self funded because of husband's vactectomy) my husband and I decided after last failed attempt in August 2005 that we could not afford any more treatment or heartache.

Looking into adoption but this is a very long, drawn out process. Social worker visited us in October 2005 and said that she would give us a positve recommendation but the adoption course does not start until May 2006.

In between all of this I still did not want to accept that I would never have my own child and in a last desperate attempt to try and get some nhs funding I was referred to my local gynocologist in November 2005 who suggested that because of my medical history that I probably would never have been able to carry a baby full term. She performed an xray of my uterus (HSP) to find out if this was the case. HSP showed that my uterus was extremely small and so chances of carrying a baby full term was highly unlikely.

Wow so after all this cost, heartache, emotional roller coaster etc I cannot understand why this was never mentioned to me when initial laparoscopy was performed back in Dec 2002.

Feel that somebody has made a major error here and have been advised to write to Chief Executive of hospital trust that dealt with me. I have also been advised to get my notes from the hospital before writing to them and also that it would be my word against theirs.

Just wondering if anybody has had any similar situation and could offer any advice.

Obviously I cannot afford expensive legal bills as we have already spent enough with the treatment.

Trying to write the letter to the trust has opened up old wounds as I have had to go back to letters etc about treatment not working etc. Also looking at old invoices and seeing how much money we have literally wasted. It was hard enough to even become pregnant without knowing at the time there was little chance of ever getting a baby at the end of it.

As you can imagine this is not the easiest of times. Also to add insult to injury my stepdaughter had a baby at beginning of January. 3 weeks after mine should have been born if I had not miscarried.

Trying to keep sane - not always easy!!

[CC]

Lizzie, bless you, what a terrible situation to be in - I really feel for you. I think you sound like you've got a strong case (I'm just a lay person though) if you've been paying for treatment that couldn't have ever been successful. I know that you can usually get all your notes from clinic by paying small charge (approx £10 in UK) and signing a form but they do ask you whether you are intending to use info in legal action (don't know why and not sure if you have to disclose this). Why not ring around solicitors or law firms asking whether anyone offers a free advice service as a starting point as some firms charge you just to ask very basic questions? I really hope you get some help with this and some release from such a difficult situation. I think you are very brave and I admire the positive way that you are handling such a hard situation,

Best of luck

Cherylxxx

[Luga]

Hi Lizzie
I have had very bad experience with dr. in my clinic also.
I have had 3 IVF and ET with no successes. They never request from me to do analysis, even hormonal, or immune, or laparoscopy, or hysteroscopy.
I’m from poor country, it was very expensive to me all of that. Since 2004 when I begun treatments, even today I’m in doubt. Dr. is very cool; sometimes I think that he has not human feelings.
I want to find a cheap clinic, with higher success rate.
Last year I was very depressed. Today I think I’m fine, but even today in my mind is how to make money, and go another treatment.

You are not alone Lizzie

[Lizzie]

Thanks Cheryl for the kind words and warning about hospital asking about the notes. Will bear that in mind.

Lizzie

[Lizzie]

Hi Luga

Thanks for your reply. You too sound like you have been through an awful time. i think your doctor should have done some basic testing to find out what was wrong. I think you are right to look elsewhere for advice and treatment.

I know what you mean about looking for ways of getting the money for ivf. I kept hoping that I would win the lottery!!

I am glad that you are not feeling depressed at the moment. Try and keep positive, which I know is not always easy but you never know - it works for a lot of people.

Be lucky!!


Lizzie x x x