confused !!!!and loosing faith

[tony]

hello to all....after being bumped out from the first clinic ,my wife and i whent to this other clinic here in Manhattan called Corneil....(www.ivf.org)at the first visit the doctor told us that they have a hight successful rates of conceiving and looking at our records the md told us that we should not have any problem to be come bfp............but this place have lot more patients than the last clinic so to my opinion for nurses and md's is more
difficolt to keep up with everybodys.....and of course (unfortunatelly)i'm right!!!we lost this month cycle becouse miss comunication with the nurse....so for some reason still unclear our new md did not give us the ok (protocoll)to start the procedure this month,my wife is devasteted....
we learn the hard way that we need to stay on tap of them,they dont return phone calls,and seams to me that they dont walk you trough
step by step for what we have to do next,in other words we're filling more looser than we allready think we are or we're just over reacting: :

[faith4]

Sorry to hear about your time at that clinic. Mostly nurses at the clinic I go to do better with their communication than that. It seems like a set back to miss a cycle. It is hard getting emotionally and financially ready to start and then have the opportunity taken away. (It has happened to me when my specialist has been away.)

There are so many disapponitments and setbacks with IVF. It is frustrating when some of them are avoidable. Getting a BFP can be a gamble but returning a phone call is something they should be able to achieve!

If the success rate is really high, it might be worth getting to know their system so it all goes smoothly next time. If not, there are probably other clinics who will give you the attention you deserve. With the money we are all paying, we deserve to be treated well.

Good luck
Faith

[tony]

is hard allready has is....they make it more harder....
there is so manythings to do and they dont tell you anything half the time
we really need to be on top of everything ...so we decide to go to our new clinic for a orientation,and hopefully learn something so that we may fell a little less dumb ...so we shell see,but ...maybe and hopefully is all for the best ................................thanks

[faith4]

Hi
i hope your new clinic treats you with the respect that you deserve. It is a time when you need to be nurtured, not sent through an obstacle course. Good luck!
Faith

[tony]

hi Faith...well as you know is allready hard as is,my impression is that
they don't really care how you feel,but again that just me and my impression........so lets see what happen

[ahart]

I understand your frustration, This was our 1st time with IVF and it was a trip to remember......We had some miscommunication with 1 of the nurses in the office and actually ended up with another nurse whom have been so helpful and jolly. The first nurse was just impatient and the instruction sheet she gave us for the injections were just misdirecting....and I had to call the doctor the first night because she had us mixing six vials of the saline with menopur and bravelle instead of 1 vial mixing with all...I asked her while we were in the office if I were to use 6 and she said yes....DH was there when I asked....That night before I called the doctor I mixed it as she indicated and had to much meds, so much that the syringe we had would not hold all of it. I popped in the bravelle/menopur DVD they gave to us during our consultation and it indicated how to do the injections and how to mix multiple vials. The doctor called later and after speaking with him we did the injection. If I would've injected myself with the 1st drawn meds we would have thrown our cycle out the window and IVF is not cheap. I called any chance I got when I had questions.

[pinkiestinky]

Sorry to hear about your time with that particular clinic. The nurses at the clinic that I went to communicated very good. I definitely would recommend them..and it was more private. The clinic was called New England Institute..it is in Stamford, CT. The doctor is Gad Levy. Excellent group of people. I have been to two other clinics and the clinic I am currently went top them all.

Good Luck!

[sml]

Tony,

I know a lot of people who have used both NYU and cornell and everyone has said that they are factories. However, their success rate is very high. If I were still in Manhattan (am now living in London), I think my first choice would be cornell, but I would go with the understanding that they see a gazillion patients and that the burden would be on me to make sure I got the kind of care that I was seeking. It may be too soon to give up -- perhaps seek out more advice from NYC websites like urbanbaby.com (there is a chat board there and you could ask about specific doctors at cornell, etc.).

Wish you and your DW all the best.

[tony]

hello....well yes...is allready hard as is...and not only we're tryng to understand ther methods and asking questions , they also not returning our phone calls,with right now for us is very important that they do so,becouse is time for us to start a new cycle ...time as you all know is everything,to my knologe they think that you allready know everything and no explanations is needed, this new place is so different from the old one and so busy
and is so hard to keep up with everything living us with confiusion and more questions ,but if is this what we need to keep up with in order to build a family........well bring it on!!!!!...........tonight we're starting with the meds (shuts form)