For Lorraine, Caz and Jo

sharoninsomerset · Post by **sharoninsomerset** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 11:50 am

Hi Girls, Just popped in to check up on you all. I've read the odd thread here and there but I've been so busy....and also wanting to let go on the site for a little while and have a "normal" life during this period.... until the next time. Well it's 9 days to the wedding - Friday 29th - I'm off from work from next week and so looking forward to it. I hope that the fantastic weather we are having continues - especially for Scotland! I'm planning my next cycle down regs around third week of September. Everything went well with the laporoscopy so hopefully more luck for next time. LORRAINE I've read your threads in the other box. So very sorry you are feeling so depressed, but after all you have been through please don't beat yourself up about it. I believe most people go through bouts of depression at some time in there life and with everything you have had to cope with it is understandable. However, it will pass and you will be going to the V festival next year I'm sure. Big, big hug for you. JO Great that your 8 week scan looked good. Had a bit of a chuckle about how much you want to eat all the time. Looks like its a completely normal pregnancy then! CAZ I know you are going through a period of coming to terms with using Donor Sperm and you are getting plenty of help and support in that area for the girls. I hope that it all goes well for the next go - when are you trying again? Will we be around the same time - I hope so. Take care all. Love and hugs Sharon

caz1 · Post by **caz1** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 4:46 pm

HI Sharon - so pleased you started this thread -I really miss our chats. Am so excited for you - getting married is the best. My wedding day was the most wonderful day of my life - sorry to sound so corny but it just was. Weather will be wonderful. Are you going away anywhere afterwards? Whats the dress like. Tell us all!! Have just got back from wonderful hol with my mum - it was just what I needed and slightly feeling more like my old self again. I dont think we will be starting until Sept, for work, logistical type reasons. So you could be 3 months gone by the time I start again!! But PLEASE do keep us in touch- I'd be very happy to chat along with you while you are going thru the process again, Really please everything is going so well for you. Keep in touch by the way big kisses to jo and Lorraine too!! Cazxx

Lorraine · Post by **Lorraine** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 9:19 pm

Hello girls - nice to hear from you - I still come over to this side in the hope of catching up with you all. Sharon - its lovely to hear you are enjoying the run up to the wedding - after all you have been through in the past 6 weeks it is so important that you squeeze every last drop of happiness out of this precious precious time. Caz I am with you my wedding day was truly the happiest day of my life - and I don't care how corny that is!!! Have you been to Scotland before Sharon? I absolutely believe the place has a healing quality, we first went just after our honeymoon and have been back every year - sometimes 2 or 3 times! We have spent time there after each IVF and when David was convalescing, and each time have found solace in its beauty and peaceful surroundings - pure magic! I can't think of a better backdrop to your wedding. We dream of buying a small cottage but can't decide on the location - its all too pretty!!! Jo - I didn't realise you had had another scan - how was it? How are you feeling - from Sharons note I’m guessing "hungry"!! Have you told your families yet? Let me know your all your news. Caz - I have read your thread with Becky, I am so glad you have found each other to talk about the use of donor sperm - it is complicated and its nice you can talk to someone else experiencing it. I know you too were knocked sideways after the last cycle and I am glad your holiday with your mum has helped you to find your feet again. Aren't mums just great? It seems like such a long time ago since the negative - I keep having to work out how long ago it was - just to tell myself it is ok to still feel sad - after all it is only 6 weeks - I am obviously TOO catholic as I keep adding GUILT on top of everything else I am feeling!! I think missing one of my beloved music festivals made me realise just how far removed I have become from my "normal" self - but instead of that making me feel worse it seems to have sparked a bit of inner fighting spirit - about time too! I know the way back is hard, and I know its going to take a long time to come to terms with never being a mother, but at least for today - I know I want to do it. So just for a change I am ending on a positive note!! With love to you all Lorraine xxxx

sharoninsomerset · Post by **sharoninsomerset** » Thu Aug 21, 2003 11:25 am

Hi Girls, well it's only 7 days away now - this time next week we will be up there, just can't wait. Had my hen day on Saturday - which was great - 15 gaggling women guzzling champagne - brilliant! The dress is very plain and simple - cream duchess silk and strapless. It's got some detail at the back and kicks out. I've been finalising details with the photographer and car people this week and it's really hit home it's so close. In fact writing this mail I've got butterfly's!!! We hope to tour parts of Scotland for a week, so pleased you love Scotland Lorraine. We plan to visit Edingburgh and Tony wants to visit St. Andrews as he is golf mad but apart from that we are keeping it open. Any suggestions for must see places/where to stay? Any particular loche we should see above the others? Maybe you could email if you have any particular details, that would be brilliant. Anyway, most go as I've only got today and tomorrow to finish everything at work as I'm off next week. Love to you all and I'll catch up with you again when I get back. Sharon

caz1 · Post by **caz1** » Thu Aug 21, 2003 1:44 pm

Sharon - not an expert on scotland will leave that to Lorraine - but Edinburgh is great I do know that! Lorraine - so pleased to hear you feeling a bit better - theres definately fighting spirit in all of us - theres had to be -I know we wont let this business beat us!! Went to see my doc today - he suggested that we get a 2nd opinion from another fertility clinic as he thinks that the LFC was a bit disorganised about the whole process last time. But he agrees that its worth us having another 1 or 2 goes. After that he suggests we go donor or accept no children - I actually think he is right. There will come a point when I wont be able to take anymore tmt. The key - I guess - is to feel that you have done everything you could to beat the odds, and I think realistically that for us doing ICSI 2 or 3 times will be enough. Have you guys thought anymore about next steps?? Meanwhile - the girl who I work with - who got pg 3 months ago with IVF - is just about to be given 9 months unpaid leave and then her maternity leave, UNBELIEVABLE!! I asked for 3 months unpaid leave after my IVF failed and was told to bugger off, even tho I've been there longer. She apparently has the right to have unpaid leave because shes "ill", otherwise known as being pg! I wish I had her illness I tell you. Gosh - I'm bitter!! Actually am SURE in her situation I would do the same - but it just seems SO unfair. Anyway enough ranting Catch you later Cazxx

Lorraine · Post by **Lorraine** » Fri Aug 22, 2003 1:56 pm

Sharon - Have sent you an email to your home address about Scotland. My fave subject - sorry I did ramble on!! Bet those butterflies are going mad by now!!!! Enjoy!! Lorraine. xx