EGG DONATION FROM FAMILY

[Rileydee]

Hi! I am new to this site, and so happy I found it. I have unexplained ovarian failure (they never worked and are pretty much not there). My sister is going to be donating her eggs to my dh and I, and we will be doing our first cycle in July. Has anyone else on here had a donation from family member and was it sucessful? She asked me if it works, are we going to share the information about how the baby came to be with the child? I really don't know what to do. Any info would be appreciated. Thanks!!

[bucko1976]

Hi there

I know how it feels to be in your position, however I don't know if I have been successful just yet.

Like you I have poor ovaries and my sister was also kind enough to be an egg donor for me. It has taken us a long time to get where we have got as the contraception my sister was on played havoc with her body. We have now been through egg collection and I had two embryos implanted on the 4th May, I will find out on the 18th whether or not we have been successful.

The thing is if you have had all the blood tests done and the doctor says that your sister is a suitable donor then you have jsu as much chance of being successful with your sisters eggs as you do with an unknown donor.

Good luck with your cycle and just stay possitive - and take good care of your sister because they have to go through so much to give unlucky people like us the chance to have such a longed for baby.

[Rileydee]

Jacqui,
I am so glad I found you. Thanks for the encouragement. I do believe you are right, and only started thinking about how much this is going to affect my sister physically recently. I have read a little about OHSS on this site and am affraid something like that is going to happen. They make it sound so simple at the clinic. She lives 5 hours away from the clinic and I live 3. She is going to have to take her two kids (6 yr old and 1 yr old) and dh to this place and stay for a week before. I guess they have to take shots and all that? We go to the clinic on the 26th of the month to go over the timeline and what's going to happen. I am so blessed that she is so willing. I hope you are doing well. How are you holding up? I will cross all my fingers and toes for you. Thanks!!

[bucko1976]

Hello again.

Yes, it really is good to have someone to talk to even if we are from different countries. I don't know how you manage to travel for that long to get to your clinic - my clinic is 45mins to 1hr away, which is far enough. My sister also has children a 10 year old, 7 year old and 2 1/2 year old. I took her to the clinic when she needed to go and my Mum looked after the children as and when needed - when they were not at school.

I was glad to be there for my sister as her body had to go through so much and at least I could help out where needed. I know it is not going to be possible for you to do this, but just remember to let your sister know how much you appreciate her and that you'll pay her back some day - hopefully with a beautiful newphew or niece.

As for your concerns about OHSS - it does happen but I know in this country it is very rare as they monitor you closely whilst they stimulate. The advantage is that if it does happen but they are able to harvest the eggs you shouldn't have to wait because your sister is providing the eggs and you are receiving them.

As for me I am trying to stay positive - keep looking for signs of pregnacy but not sure if the signs I have had are real or wishful thinking. I'm just glas that I am half way through the 2ww it hasn't been as bad as I expected. The week went slower than usual but not as slow as I expected - I think going back to work has kept my mind occupied I just hope I don't regret it.

So are you doing anything in the run up to your treatment? Have you had all the relevant tests needed for egg donation?

I hope things go the way you hope and remember to stay positive throughout - even if you do have some bad times. Always take each stage of the treatment a step at a time.

In the meantime take care of yourself.

[Rileydee]

Hi Jaqui,
I have not had the tests yet. My Coordinator lady at the clinic is having us come in on the 26th and I do not know if they are going to be doing any test then or what. I know my sister has to go in on monday, which is the 2nd day of her period, to get blood drawn(they can do that in her home town thank goodness). I quit smoking a month ago, no more alcohol and I've been eating well and working out. Take care of yourself. Keep up that Positive vibe.

[bucko1976]

Thought I would up date you as today is my test date. Well I can now confirm I had a BFP so this gives you some hope, I hope.

I bet you can't wait to get started and the time will come around before you know it.

I wish you all the best in your treatment and am sending you lots of positives thoughts and baby dust.

Good luck

[Rileydee]

Jacqui,
I am so extremely happy for you. I really does give me hope. You have given me the PMA I needed. I'm taking your situation as positive omen for me. My sister is coming down in a week to go to the clinic with me. I'm kind of nervous about running into hurdles. But at least I found this site so that I am aware that some hurdles may come. I was just thinking we would go there in july and we would they would take the eggs, fertilize them, do the transfer and then we'd be waiting. But we haven't had all the test and don't know what will happen. Thanks for the PMA and I am soooo excited for you. I told DH about you and he was excited for you too. Good luck and enjoy!!!

[candy_shafer]

I am going to be 27 this year and my doctor told me I have premature ovarian failure or I guess menopause, and he said my only option is to have an egg donar or adopt, My younger sister said she would be an egg donar for my fiance and I but he feels weird about the situation and says he wants to have a baby the normal way....unfortentaley I dont have that option, also my sister just had a baby and she is only 18 does any one know if she can even donate her eggs to me?

Candy

[BevT]

Candy, if you are in the UK, I think the minimum age is 18 - so you should be okay. Good luck.

[mariab1976]

I just wanted to comment on the issue of telling your child (or not) about how they were concieved.

My son will be turning three in a week. He was concieved using my sister eggs. I carried him for the pregnancy and I am his mother. But my sister holds a special place in his heart. And he has a strong bond to her son. Stronger than any of us ever thought it would be.

Will I tell him? More than likely. But he will probably be an adult when I do. I will sit him down and tell him all about the trouble we had concieving. About my having given up hope of ever having kids and the struggle it took to get him here.

I hope that as an adult he can handle the amount of information he will need to process to understand this. But I feel that if I don't tell him, I am cheating him. He has these strong bonds to my sister and her son and one day I think he will want to know why.

But that is my 2cents. Everyone is different. I say take it as it comes. If you notice that your child begins to develop a strong attachment to your sister and her kids then you might want to tell him when he is an adult. But that is a long time coming. And if not, it's your child--You can make that decision.

Maria

[Rileydee]

Hi all,
Candy, I'm sorry your fiance feels wierd. I'd be willing to bet that over time, there is a good chance he will change his mind. My dh and I just feel like this is just a part that I do not have, and my sister is just is going to help us with that. He didn't always feel that way, but he just needed time to stew and really think about it. I am just figureing out that it is not quite that easy because my sister lives 5 hours away from the clinic, and she had to go there two more times and stay there for a week. I will be telling my kidlet that my sister helped us and hope that my child is close with her and her two kids and dh. I just think you have to tell them because, my 7 year old niece has already asked my sister what is going on with aunt Riley. She knew something was up. So my sister told her what we were doing. And my nephew is 18 months, but I sure that it may come up in niece and nephew conversasion and maybe eventually to my child, and I do not want my child to ever feel bad or wierd. If we are blessed enough for this to work, I don't want any bad feelings about it anywhere. Speaking of which, Maria, does your nephew know?
Thanks

[mariab1976]

My nephew is only 5. So we haven't told him yet. But they are the only boy grandkids for my mom, so when we get together ( which is often) we tell my nephew he is suppose to act like a big brother to my son. My son already worships the ground my nephew walks on. My nephew spends the night constantly and my son loves spending the night at my sister's house.

I don't think it will make a huge difference at this age. I just don't want to confuse them. They just don't have the power to process this information yet. They could understand about being brothers but won't understand the why and how's of it.


Maria

[Rileydee]

That is understandable. Its really cool to find someone that is already dealing with what I might be dealing with. I'm glad I can learn something from someone with actual knowledge. I was thinking after I wrote earlier that kids might be able to understand, and from what you've said, might not even care. If I do get pregnant, and have a boy, my nephew would be 2 years older. That sounds like fun. Thanks for the info.

[sriche]

Hi Candy and others, glad to find someone around my age with the same problem - tho I know this is an old post and don't know if you'll still be looking at it! I am also considering using my sister for DE but she has never had children so I'm hoping clinics will accept her. She's 21 and very willing to help me. We're looking into clinics in the Ukraine as that is much cheaper than where I live in Ireland. I'd be glad to know about any similar experiences. I've researched a bit into the ISIDA clinic in Kiev which looks good, anyone know anything about it?