1st Scan - bad news

Clara 1 · Post by **Clara 1** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 3:57 pm

We went for our first scan today after testing positive 3 weeks ago but there was no heartbeat and nothing at all to be seen. Had a blood test which shows the hcg is still high and have to go for another on Thursday. There wasn't any sign of an ectopic pregnancy but I don't know if that would show up yet?? We both feel numb. We did keep saying to ourselves not to get too excited until we could see something, but of course you can't do that totally. I know a lot of you have been through similar things and I know that we'll survive. Love, Claire x

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 4:22 pm

hi claire so sorry to hear about your scan I really do not know what to say but i'm thinking off you and dh. so sorry from july ann

Jo Radley · Post by **Jo Radley** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 4:29 pm

Hi Claire, I'm so very sorry to hear of your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your DH. Lots of love and hugs to you both, Jo xx

nicolam · Post by **nicolam** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 6:10 pm

Oh Claire, my stomach just sank as I read your email. I don't know what to say. It seems so weird though, to have the hcg levels and no period like symptons yet. It's not an area I'm clued up on, as I've never got to this stage before. I am just so sorry and just want to you to know I'm thinking of you. I've been getting the odd niggle in the ovary area so am already thinking mine's ectopic.... This is just such a horrible business - how any of us manage to get through it keeping sane I don't know. Take it easy now, Love and best wishes Nicola x

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 6:10 pm

Oh Claire, I'm so sorry, what an awful thing to happen on what should have been an exciting and happy day for you both. Of course you're upset because you can't but help to get excited and think that this will be you're time. I hope that they're able to tell you quickly what has happened so that you can grieve for your lost baby. As you say, this does happen, and I know that lots of the girls who are now well into their pregnancies have lost babies early on before, but even so its not fair that this should happen to you. Thinking of you and wishing you lots of love, Alison xx

fi · Post by fi » Tue Aug 19, 2003 6:33 pm

claire, i can't begin to imagin what you are going through right now, i hate this and all the emotional turmoil that goes with it. if you need hugs, chat or just a rant we are here for you, luv fi XXX {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

SBROWN · Post by **SBROWN** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 8:41 pm

Sorry to read about your news. although I have not had a similar experience I can imagine how you are both feeling right now....... To be up one minute & then this.......this whole experience is such a rollercoaster You sound very positive & strong-tough I know but try & hold it together & be there for each other...... Your time will come, Im sure Take Care Sarah xxx

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 5:22 am

I'm so sorry to read your news, this must be a hard time for you both, just take time out and spend some precious time together. Words fail me but thinking of you. Love Shell. xx

MichelleS · Post by **MichelleS** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 8:40 am

I am so sorry. I know what you must be going through - we went through the same thing in January. It will hurt for a long time, but as the old saying goes, it does get easier as the days go by. We would be expecting on 27th August, so we are still thinking about it, but it doesn't cause a pain anymore. Take care, and grieve as much as you want. Michelle

Di · Post by Di » Wed Aug 20, 2003 3:14 pm

So sorry to hear your sad news, Claire. After what we all go through it makes it even more sad to have to go through this as well. Thinking of you and DH - TAKE SOME TIME TO BE TOGETHER AND BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER! Di

Amanda A · Post by **Amanda A** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 5:30 pm

Claire, We have not spoken before but I just wanted to say how sorry I am. I know how it feels having just gone through the same thing earlier this month. Like you, we kept saying to each other and to relatives etc. that it was very early days and not to get too excited but inside you are already making plans and letting yourself dream (and why not, if anyone deserves some happiness we do!!) Anyway, just wanted to say that the first few days are the hardest and we are now able to pick ourselves up again and look forward and I know that you will too. My advice, for what it is worth, is to plan something for the two of you as a treat. I know that may sound really inadequate at the moment but it may help in a few days time in giving you something nice to focus on. We were lucky, we had not yet had a holiday this year and so we went straight out and booked to go to spain. It has been the one thing that has kept me going over the last few weeks! Take Care & I hope that hearing about other people and their experiences may help a little. Love Rach X

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 7:37 pm

hello claire, Im so sorry for you both, its so sad to get this far and then for it to be taken away from you. take your time to grieve for your little loss. We still feel raw and I was expecting it. It must of been devastating for you both. Im thinking of you and remember we are all here for you if you need someone to talk to. take care claire much love and a huge hug kathryn x

Becky28 · Post by **Becky28** » Thu Aug 28, 2003 11:12 am

To Claire and Kathryn, I wanted to let you both know that you're in my thoughts, and I hope you're bearing up. I'm so sad for you both - life can be so cruel. With much love, Beck xx

bertie · Post by **bertie** » Sun Aug 31, 2003 11:27 am

Claire & DH Thinking of you both. Be good to each other. luv Bertie x

Zed2003 · Post by **Zed2003** » Sun Aug 31, 2003 4:40 pm

No words are comfort enough. Find strength in each other and take care. Thinking of you both Zoe x

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