Just a quick question, does anyone have any experiences having pets and introducing them,im very worried how are 3 cats will react when Kieran comes home, coz when we have freinds over that have children they all do a runner.
They are so spoilt, they have been our babies for years as we thought we would never have any, nearly every minuite we are at home we spend spoiling them with coudles and cooking their favourite fish.
So how did they react? could they get jelous and hurt the baby?
If so how do you stop this?
Thanks charlie xxx
Pets and new babies?
Pets and new babies?
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How lovely to see someone so concerned about her pets! As a fellow animal lover myself............I have the same concerns but with my dog.
I know many people who have cats and have had babies and they eventually adjusted. My sisters cats (she has 2) reacted the same as yours at first but very soon just got used to the baby and the noises he made! She has 2 kids now aged 5 and 2. One cat is pretty indifferent to them and the other allows them to fuss her. It has helped teach them how to behave around pets and to treat them with respect.
I have had a lot more experience with dogs but I guess the same goes for cats. As much as you will be run off your feet when you get home, try and spend some time with the cats if you can so they don't feel pushed out and see the baby as something bad.
I believe its important to start now to get them used to a baby. You could either get your friends to bring their babies round more often so they get used to them. Or you could buy a CD with baby noises on as thats what startles cats most I think. I think I actually saw a CD advertised especially for this kind of thing! I have friends with young children and babies and I have already started getting them round often to get my dog used to them! I haven't had him long and he didn't know what a child was and was terrified at first! Now he goes up and gives my 2 year old nephew a kiss when he gets here, that took about a month to get to that stage. No matter how much I trust him though, I will never leave him alone with a child.
With cats I think its important that they don't have access to where the baby is sleeping if you are not there, incase they get into the cot! Cats aren't generally aggressive unless you annoy them so I doubt they would hurt the baby.
It is inevitable that you won't have as much time for them but I'm sure they will adjust.
A few people have said to me in the past 'when you have children, you won't be so bothered about your dog!' What a load of twaddle. I lost my dog in an accident in January and it was the most devastating time of my life.......and I will always refer to him as my first baby. The dog I have now, I love so much too and he will be just as important to me when the baby arrives!
I have rambled on a bit haven't I? I just love animals!
Terri
How lovely to see someone so concerned about her pets! As a fellow animal lover myself............I have the same concerns but with my dog.
I know many people who have cats and have had babies and they eventually adjusted. My sisters cats (she has 2) reacted the same as yours at first but very soon just got used to the baby and the noises he made! She has 2 kids now aged 5 and 2. One cat is pretty indifferent to them and the other allows them to fuss her. It has helped teach them how to behave around pets and to treat them with respect.
I have had a lot more experience with dogs but I guess the same goes for cats. As much as you will be run off your feet when you get home, try and spend some time with the cats if you can so they don't feel pushed out and see the baby as something bad.
I believe its important to start now to get them used to a baby. You could either get your friends to bring their babies round more often so they get used to them. Or you could buy a CD with baby noises on as thats what startles cats most I think. I think I actually saw a CD advertised especially for this kind of thing! I have friends with young children and babies and I have already started getting them round often to get my dog used to them! I haven't had him long and he didn't know what a child was and was terrified at first! Now he goes up and gives my 2 year old nephew a kiss when he gets here, that took about a month to get to that stage. No matter how much I trust him though, I will never leave him alone with a child.
With cats I think its important that they don't have access to where the baby is sleeping if you are not there, incase they get into the cot! Cats aren't generally aggressive unless you annoy them so I doubt they would hurt the baby.
It is inevitable that you won't have as much time for them but I'm sure they will adjust.
A few people have said to me in the past 'when you have children, you won't be so bothered about your dog!' What a load of twaddle. I lost my dog in an accident in January and it was the most devastating time of my life.......and I will always refer to him as my first baby. The dog I have now, I love so much too and he will be just as important to me when the baby arrives!
I have rambled on a bit haven't I? I just love animals!
Terri
TTC 2 years
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
I'm going to ramble again................
since you have asked about your dog Madiva, I'll add a bit more. When you arrive home with the baby, introduce the baby to your dog as soon as possible and praise her for being good (as long as she is). if she does the wrong thing, like jumps up or gets over excited, don't tell her off or anything as she will immediately associate the new baby with something negative. Just make sure the baby can't be harmed but just ignore the behaviour from your dog that you don't want. Dogs learn very quickly if you ignore bad behaviours because they don't like being ignored! Also they love praise so if you praise the behaviour that is good, she will learn to keep doing that. so if she is relaxed and calm around the baby, tell her what a good dog she is.
If she sleeps on your bed or in your room and you are planning on moving her out when the baby comes home, do it now rather than when you get home as again she will associate the baby with negative stuff. Try and make sure she still gets her walks even if you have to get someone to help out and take her.
If she is very very spoiled it might be an idea to start training her now. If you make a fuss of her a lot, then try ignoring her sometimes so she becomes more independent. Do you think she thinks she is the leader of the pack? If you do, try and change that as that can lead to problems. Terriers do like to be top dog!
theres a great book by Jan Fennell called The Dog Listener I think. Its worth having a read and you might recognise potential problems you could fix now.
My friend has a border terrier and she just had a baby. She said the dog is slightly neglected but she has been fine with the baby. Her dog is still getting its walks and still getting attention even though its less than before.
since you have asked about your dog Madiva, I'll add a bit more. When you arrive home with the baby, introduce the baby to your dog as soon as possible and praise her for being good (as long as she is). if she does the wrong thing, like jumps up or gets over excited, don't tell her off or anything as she will immediately associate the new baby with something negative. Just make sure the baby can't be harmed but just ignore the behaviour from your dog that you don't want. Dogs learn very quickly if you ignore bad behaviours because they don't like being ignored! Also they love praise so if you praise the behaviour that is good, she will learn to keep doing that. so if she is relaxed and calm around the baby, tell her what a good dog she is.
If she sleeps on your bed or in your room and you are planning on moving her out when the baby comes home, do it now rather than when you get home as again she will associate the baby with negative stuff. Try and make sure she still gets her walks even if you have to get someone to help out and take her.
If she is very very spoiled it might be an idea to start training her now. If you make a fuss of her a lot, then try ignoring her sometimes so she becomes more independent. Do you think she thinks she is the leader of the pack? If you do, try and change that as that can lead to problems. Terriers do like to be top dog!
theres a great book by Jan Fennell called The Dog Listener I think. Its worth having a read and you might recognise potential problems you could fix now.
My friend has a border terrier and she just had a baby. She said the dog is slightly neglected but she has been fine with the baby. Her dog is still getting its walks and still getting attention even though its less than before.
TTC 2 years
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
Thanks. all that is good to know. As far as starting now I have been doing that. She would sleep with me every night and we are know in the process of haveing her sleep in her own bed. She is actually doing well with that. Just every know and then she will want to get up in the bed with us as to before it was every night. Yes she is very spoiled and she know it. That is what is going to be hard, but I am going work on it as much as I can. Thanks again.
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i to was thinking the samething we have a german sherard and is 3 1/2 years old we have spoiled her alot .she has been around small children and has been really good about it all.these kids have pulled her ears,given her big hugs and just really been in her face so far she takes it all so well.but really protective of them like when they fall down she's right there to lick their face and let them know its ok.i have read that if you get a babydoll and start showing the dog how not to jump on it they will learn how to be nice.but i too will not be leaving my child alone with my dog just to be on the safe side.if anyone else has anymore ideas
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you sound like you have the perfect dog to be around children! I don't think you have much to worry about!
My last dog was a X-german shepard and he was lovely with kids too. they are such intelligent doggies!
My last dog was a X-german shepard and he was lovely with kids too. they are such intelligent doggies!
TTC 2 years
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
Me 33 DH 44
Clomid 6 months - no success
HyCoSy in October - diagnosed PCOS
April 2006 Menopur - worked 3rd month with acupuncture
hello fellow animal lovers!!! loooove this topic as it was/is a major concern of mine too!! i have dax the cat who is such a little baby - erm... im serious, we hold him like a baby and hes forever following us and always always needs company... when we go out he waits at the window and coincidence or not, when we come back hes in the exact same spot so whether he hears the car pull up or he just hasnt moved i have no idea and when we walk in he gives us the biggest smooch - aw my lil pumkin!! ... anyways... when he sleeps with us his head has to be next to mine and his two front legs hug me round my neck... sometimes in the middle of the nite hes almost lying on my face... this used to be cute until we got pregnant... then i kept thinking omg what if he smothers the baby (touch wood) not that he would mean to but just for that warmth or affection.. at least we have the strength to push him off but a baby couldnt.... so we made a nice bed for him in front of the heater in the lounge room and slowly got him out of the habit of sleeping with us (before the baby arrived) as we wanted our baby in the room with us... i was told that when we had the baby to bring an outfit home from the hospital that the baby had been wearing so he could get used to the smell (ive heard that working for dogs) anyways, we had a beautiful baby boy and rite from the word go, as soon as we got home dax was curious (baby luka was sleeping so no baby noises yet lol!) dax had a sniff and kept looking at him... i gave luka to my dh and dax put his two front paws on me like usual to be picked up, which i did and gave him a big cuddle... then i sat down with the baby and let dax smell him again... poor dax wanted to be held as well and that was hard coz i had to say no coz he was sooo persistant and ignoring him sure wasnt working 
... he tried quite a few times after that while i was feeding baby luka and it does break ur heart - i felt so guilty but made sure i always made time for him... the other difficult one was a lot of the time i put luka in his pram during the day and dax loooves enclosed places and he wanted to be pushed in the pram as well!!! hes now learnt though that he has his things and the baby has his own and (touch wood again) hes been ok...although i would never leave them alone and i always close the door if luka is sleeping in the bedroom..
it was funny, there was one wee hours of the morning when me, dh and dax all yawned at the same time and theres baby luka, finally sound asleep.. hello!!
sorry, now its me that whaffled on - but i could also talk for ages about my lil pumkin, but ya know whats so brilliant?? now i have two lil pumkins yyaaayyy!!
goodluck girls xoxoxox
d, dax and baby luka!!
... he tried quite a few times after that while i was feeding baby luka and it does break ur heart - i felt so guilty but made sure i always made time for him... the other difficult one was a lot of the time i put luka in his pram during the day and dax loooves enclosed places and he wanted to be pushed in the pram as well!!! hes now learnt though that he has his things and the baby has his own and (touch wood again) hes been ok...although i would never leave them alone and i always close the door if luka is sleeping in the bedroom..it was funny, there was one wee hours of the morning when me, dh and dax all yawned at the same time and theres baby luka, finally sound asleep.. hello!!
sorry, now its me that whaffled on - but i could also talk for ages about my lil pumkin, but ya know whats so brilliant?? now i have two lil pumkins yyaaayyy!!
goodluck girls xoxoxox
d, dax and baby luka!!
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Our little man Luka, born 30th May '06 weighing 8pounds 4 - truly a precious miracle!
Our little man Luka, born 30th May '06 weighing 8pounds 4 - truly a precious miracle!