The Over 40 Crowd

[Nuala]

Hi Girls,

APologies it has been some time since I posted on this site. As you know after two failed IVF's last year I got a natural BFP in MArch this year aged 45+!! This is my first pregnancy so we did not want to tell family or friends until we had seen the little one on the scan end of May.

Well, we saw a baby in there May 31st - I cried and my DH went F**K and then broke into the biggest smile. We then knew we wanted to do testing to ensure little one was ok and had a CVS June 7th - results all normal - yippee!! Went on an amazing holiday mid June for two weeks and felt great as I have throughout my pregnancy. Returned when 17 weeks+ and at 18 weeks + suddenly had a bleed and cramps so a couple fo trips to the hospital who were all wonderful and bedrest.

Today at 20 weeks had my Level II ultrasound and baby is all normal with no sign aof any bleeding. As I type it is jumping around and so we can now look forward to the rest of my confinement.

I just wanted to update you all to inspire you that it is possible to get pregnant at 45 for the first time.

Love and hugs to you all - will post again soon - promise!!

Nuala

[teachertam]

Nuala,

We had our first scan last Friday and it was very emotional to see the embryo and the heartbeat. We also had 2 failed IVF's and then got pregnant while we were waiting for a frozen cycle. I could not wait to tell me family and friends, but I am only 7.5 weeks along. We have our next scan next Wednesday and I can't wait. It is good to hear that your testing came out fine. I am scheduled to have the 1st trimester screening at week 11, so hopefully everything will look good. I really do not want to have the amnio or CVS test, just because of the slim chance of a miscarriage. I guess I will have to wait to see the results of the screening.

Take care,
Tammy

[erjumper]

Was just checking in on everyone but there is no posts showing since July 7th. Could that be right? Is everyone doing ok? Was hoping to read about some heartbeats and new BFP's.
Lisa

[teachertam]

Lisa:

I posted earlier today. Yasmina, Bev and I have all had our first scan and have seen the heartbeats. My next scan is next Wed. Bev's should be coming up soon and Yasmina's should be next week too.

How is Mia doing?

Regards,
Tammy

[BevT]

Hi everyone, sorry I have not been around too much lately, my DH has been frowning at me when he catches me sitting at my PC. Only another 6 weeks to go before he is back at work and I can do as I please again LOL.

Lisa, good to hear from you. How is motherhood coming along? Is Mia growing quickly?

Nuala, great news that your results for little one are all normal. At 45 that is a great relief, I am sure. Did you find out what "flavour" you are expecting? They can normally tell at 20 weeks

Hi Mags48 and welcome. I have just had a BFP from DE tmt at Isida in Kiev. If there is anything I can help you with, please do not hesitate to ask.

Kat, I feel for you. It is so hard to be joyful for others when they tell you their news. I am sure deep down you would be pleased for your friend, but it is so difficult not to feel a tiny tiny bit jealous/envious. I know I did, everytime I heard of some one else's success story. Don't beat yourself up over these feelings, it is perfectly natural. When we lost our precious baby girl, every time I saw a newborn or very new baby I just collapsed into tears, funny though, I was the other way round, could cope with friends' babies and even cuddle them, but strangers completely "hijacked" my emotions and I could not contain them. Take care of yourself Kat, I wish there was something I could say or do to take away your pain.x

Tammy, I won't get another ultrasound until week 12 or 13 (8th/15th August). Just the way our NHS system works. I could have one earlier if I went private, but we have spent SO much money recently, I don't feel I can justify another £150 just to put my mind at rest. I will just have to be patient. Hope your scan goes well today.

Yasmina, good luck with your move.

Son, how did the scan go? Eveything on track? I do hope so.

Will sign off now as I don't have too much news at the moment, only to say that this heatwave we are experiencing in the UK is really taking it's toll on me. Apart from being sweaty all the time (TMI) the heat compounds the sickness/nauseous feelings. Groan. Hey ho, maybe our usual drizzle and wind will be back soon, LOL.

Take care all, and hi to everyone else who visits this thread.

Bev xxx

[erjumper]

Hi everyone,
Turns out the last time I posted my computer had not relinked with the internet so I was seeing a page that was apparently a week or so old. Have now finished catching up on all the great news. It's so wonderful to see so much of it after such gloom and doom for so long. Mia is doing wonderfully. She's 6 lbs 5 oz. now and 19 1/2 inches long and still has not reached her official due date which was to be August 2nd so they are very pleased with her growth. We finally have the nursery almost done with the final touches and have been keeping up with baby book, pictures, hand and foot prints AND impressions. We already read to her every night before bed and can't imagine life without her. There was a hearing last Tuesday in which the Judge has been hearing testimony regarding whether or not Mia should stay in Foster Care or go to her mother who is fighting very hard to get her. They got a continuance since they couldn't finish testimony before the court closed so he will not hand down his order til next Tuesday. Two more agonizing days. I wish that we could not have this black cloud over us during this wonderfully joyous time. Every time I think that he may rule against us I feel like someone has ripped out my heart. It makes me feel sick and panicked over how i'll handle it if that happens. Her mother is a very pleasant and likeable woman but is just not able to handle a baby....or any of her other 4 children. It seems unlikely everyone says that the Judge will say anything other than for her to stay with us but until he delivers his ruling....I live in fear. Keep up all the good news!
Lisa

[teachertam]

Lisa:
Good to hear that Mia is doing well. I will keep you in my prayers for your Tuesday hearing. Please let us know what transpires.

Bev:
I have my 2nd scan this Wednesday morning. I am so anxious, as I am going without DH. I will hopefully get an offical due date from my doctor.

Regards,
Tammy

[Sonix]

Hi everyone,

Lisa, I’m hoping and praying that all goes well at the hearing today. I’m thinking of you and hope you will have good news about Mia very soon.

Tammy: take care and good luck with your next scan tomorrow. Sorry to hear that you are having to go without DH. Looking forward to your news.

Bev: glad to hear from you again. Thanks for asking about me.

Unfortunately it’s not good news for me. On cycle day 7 there were no follicles. My Dr. said there was no point in continuing the cycle or to try with meds again – I just don’t respond to them at all. This was my 3rd attempt. On the last cycle I was on a slightly different protocol. We ended up doing ET with only one embryo but it wasn’t the one.

I was stunned and my dr. didn’t have much hope to offer either. He suggested trying a IVF cycle on a natural cycle without the follistims but that means only one follicle. Of course we will try all the same but I can’t help feeling that’s it.

We were in London over the weekend at a wedding which was a great distraction but I’m just really struggling to regain some PMA and strength to think ahead. Sorry, I’m not doing too well in handling things at the moment. Determined not to give up yet though…

Love, Son xxx

[erjumper]

Hi everyone,
Just got the ruling from the judge on Mia's adjudication hearing today. She will remain with us and he will revisit the issue again in 4 months. Don't know how i'm going to handle this for the next 3 years which is how long they say it will likely take for us to be able to adopt her. But it will all have been worth it. She gets more beautiful every day. Sometimes I just watch her sleep. Hope everyone is doing well.

Lisa

[children]

Son, I almost felt terrible to post my update of my baby scan, knowing you just posted the sad news. I personally do not think one cycle of no follicles will determine the fate of the rest your cycles – assuming you will consider more cycles. You RE does not seem to be very resourceful. If it is possible, I would consult several other REs to see how they will explain or treat no responders or low responders. In the US, we have so many ways to get around this problem and your RE puts you in such a desperation which hurts me very much. If I were you, I would start shopping for good REs within your reach.

Everyone can get pregnant, naturally, my RE said – I believe it indeed! It just seems everyone has different timing issues. Germany is the country which initiated the documented study on acupuncture, if I were you, I would at least start doing it along with ivf treatment. As you know already, many miracles happened to advanced age-women (within or outside our over 40 crowd) – however, all these miracles have some kind of explanations. You may get pregnant naturally one day soon just in between waitings of ivfs – if you do not give up, if you are hopeful!

I hope you are not thinking that I am overly optimistic, I used modern technology to get myself a pregnancy, however, I also did many other things, such as message on reproductive organs, practicing yoga and not giving up! I believe every little thing counts. I am also working with adoption agency to get myself a child - I am thinking if I need to wait in line, I better start now.

I am writing only for sharing purpose, if you do not need my 2 cent’s opinion, disregard what I said.

Tammy and Bev, my baby second scan looks ok. I am now at 9w1d and the baby’s heartbeat rate is 171 per min and the CRL is 23.1/25 mm. The baby has four limbs already and they are moving like crazy. My DH was happy to see his little bug is growing normally. We did not get to see our RE after that.

Tammy, no, I may not have time to do the first trimester screening because we are moving, selling house, buying house, and trying to go for a vacation, it is not easy to schedule around. But I will do CVS or amniocentesis later. Good luck on your scan tomorrow and I am looking forward to knowing your good news.

Lisa, congratulations! Mia is wonderful and I hope 4 months later, things won’t change. I do not think so, because the birth mother has not changed since last ??? years, 4 months won’t give her much chance. However, I do hope 4 months later will be the end of it – no more re-visit, no more headaches, and no more fear of losing her at all then!

[teachertam]

Son:
I posted to your other thread. Don't give up.

Lisa:
That is wonderful news about your Mia! Will it really take 3 years for the adoption to be finalized? That is ridiculous.

Yasmina:
I can't wait for my scan tomorrow! DH won't be there to enjoy it with me. I should be 8- 8.5 weeks pregnant. I hope to get a firm due date. I am leary about getting a CVS or amnio. They both carry a slight risk of miscarriage. I will have the 1st trimester screening and then take it from there. If everything looks ok, I may be done with the testing.

Bev: I hope you are feeling well. Just a few more weeks until your DH goes back to school and you can chat freely.

Regards,
Tammy

[children]

Tammy, I forgot to ask you whether you have developed any sign of morning sickness, if not, you are expecting a son! - as I was told. I am sorry that your DH won't be there with you this time – you will have to tell him beautiful story about the baby and he will feel so jealous and never put his work before the baby ever again! This reminded me that my DH was not there on the transfer day (which led to a baby, BTW) and he felt so guilty and kept calling me internationally to ask how I felt, well, he had never been that attentive before! Anyway, about the cvs or amnio, you are right, they are more invasive than first trimester screening, but the screening is not diagnostic, we will still need to do either cvs or amnio later because my age to rule out the potential problems with 99.9% accuracy. If we change our minds, I will let you know.

Yasmina

[AMck]

Hi ladies
I haven't posted for a while, since my bfn last month, but I have been lurking and reading the news. What a busy thread! Many congrats to the bfp's and hugs to those with sad news.

Kat, my old buddy, hope you are feeling Ok today and there is a silver lining on your cloud. Hugs to you x

Nuala, what fab news. You are an inspiration to us all. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregancy.

Tammy, great news. Hope scan goes well today.x

Bev, have pm'd you. Take care x

Lisa, good news about Mia. What a strong lady you are and how lucky she is to have you.

Son, my heart goes out to you. Sending you some extra strong PMA at this difficult time. Please don't give up. I too am a poor responder to the meds and after 6 attempts never got to EC, I can understand how you must be feeling. Look after yourself, you WILL get there. Thinking of you x x

Yamina, you sound very busy! What fab news on your scan!

As for me. I am in the middle of my second 2ww! We went back to IM in Barcelona and had 3 embies transferred last week. I am, as all on 2ww, up one minute and down the next! I would love to hear from any BFP's who had no symptoms at all during the 2ww. I don't feel anything. Please cross everything for us. My test date is Monday 31st July.

Hugs to all here
Take care

Anna x

[erjumper]

Yasmina,
Congratulations on seeing those teeny tiny arms and legs. Did they give you a picture for her/his baby book.
Tammy,
Will be watching for your post after your scan today. I bet you'll be watching those arms and legs kicking too. As for it taking 3 years, it takes longer they say when the issue is one of incompetence as opposed to abuse/drug addiction or criminal incarceration. They spent 2 days hearing testimony from experts that have concurred thus far that her mom is just not capable of caring for a child responsibly. She is very likeable and loves her very much....and Mia will always know that...and her mom....but I truly believe with my head as well as my heart that she is best off with us. Her mom had her for a visit yesterday and sent her home with a crayon drawing of a house and flowers saying I love you my baby girl. This is a woman that deserves to know her daughter and vice versa and I will never try to hinder that but i'll be glad when the courts decide we can keep her forever.
and Anna,
Poor girl suffering through the dreaded 2ww. Nothing much I can offer to help with that. Had a few myself and they were all torture. I think we should just be able to sleep through it. I hope you aren't too miserable...sending you baby dust!!!!

Lisa

[teachertam]

Anna:
I did not have any symptoms during the 2ww, except my breasts were a little tender. However, they were tender with my BFN too. I still do not have morning sickness........YEAH!! I'm sending baby dust your way! I tested using a HPT. Since mine was a natural pregnancy and we did not expect it.

Lisa:
It sounds like little Mia is meant for you and DH. I will be asking you for pointers, since you will be an old pro by the time I deliver. I'm not sure if I will see arms and legs moving or not, since I am behind Yasmina on the timeline.

Yasmina:
Yep, still no morning sickness. I understand that the genetic screening is just that.............a screen and the CVS and amnio are diagnostic testing. I'm not sure what we will do after the screen. I have not ruled out the tests. It just depends on my screen results.


Regards,
Tammy