failed IVF
failed IVF
i just got result from our RE...my wife is not pregnant...BFN..i am so sad...no words to describe....i am just sad..i have to tell my wife...not getting guts to say to her...i feel bad for her..becoz of me she has to go through this....
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Smita
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Hi there,
welcome here..
I'm sorry you got a negative..BUT PLEASE REMEMBER its not anyone's fault if a cycle fails..each of us and our partner are in this together..
Just think that each passing day is bringing you closer to your positive result and making you and your relationship stronger in the process..
Wishing you lots of luck,
smita
welcome here..
I'm sorry you got a negative..BUT PLEASE REMEMBER its not anyone's fault if a cycle fails..each of us and our partner are in this together..
Just think that each passing day is bringing you closer to your positive result and making you and your relationship stronger in the process..
Wishing you lots of luck,
smita
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me-32, dh 40
ttc 4+ years
4 failed IUI's
1st ICSI +ve 17/6/05:)
Baby girl Dhruvaa born on 14/02/06
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ttc 4+ years
4 failed IUI's
1st ICSI +ve 17/6/05:)
Baby girl Dhruvaa born on 14/02/06
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meadowlark
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Hi Vjshanker, I'm really sorry to hear it didn't work out for you two this time. I read some of your earlier posts.
My husband and I are just about to go through the process and we have what is probably a similar situation - male factor issues. I am worried about him because he doesn't talk very much about how this all affects him. I can't imagine that he doesn't, even though he seems to be fine and upbeat. I have always been afraid he would think it was all because of him, especially when I had to go through all those uncomfortable hormone treatments.
I've thought about that long and hard. I know plenty about physical limitations. I'm severely visually impaired, so I can't drive, and my husband has to drive me around a lot. Treatment for my eyes has cost us a large portion of our income (oddly enough IVF is covered by the insurance but my glasses aren't). To make a long story short, he often has to go through a lot of things because of my vision impairment. And it has never occured to either of us to think of it as "because of me." I don't think it would occur to most people to see a vision impairment that way.
What is odd is that people don't see a fertility problem the same as a different kind of physical disability. There is all this extreme emotion and sense of personal responsibility attached to it in our society, even among people who say we shouldn't have any feelings of inadequacy.
I don't know if this is of any help. But for what it is worth, it is not only that each of us are in this as couples, but that this is simply life. Having babies is a key part of living, just like reading or running. It is possible to have a disability around any of those things and any such disability will impact our partners. But that's I suppose why they put the part in about "in sickness and in health."
In any case, take care of yourself and good luck in your future choices.
Arie
My husband and I are just about to go through the process and we have what is probably a similar situation - male factor issues. I am worried about him because he doesn't talk very much about how this all affects him. I can't imagine that he doesn't, even though he seems to be fine and upbeat. I have always been afraid he would think it was all because of him, especially when I had to go through all those uncomfortable hormone treatments.
I've thought about that long and hard. I know plenty about physical limitations. I'm severely visually impaired, so I can't drive, and my husband has to drive me around a lot. Treatment for my eyes has cost us a large portion of our income (oddly enough IVF is covered by the insurance but my glasses aren't). To make a long story short, he often has to go through a lot of things because of my vision impairment. And it has never occured to either of us to think of it as "because of me." I don't think it would occur to most people to see a vision impairment that way.
What is odd is that people don't see a fertility problem the same as a different kind of physical disability. There is all this extreme emotion and sense of personal responsibility attached to it in our society, even among people who say we shouldn't have any feelings of inadequacy.
I don't know if this is of any help. But for what it is worth, it is not only that each of us are in this as couples, but that this is simply life. Having babies is a key part of living, just like reading or running. It is possible to have a disability around any of those things and any such disability will impact our partners. But that's I suppose why they put the part in about "in sickness and in health."
In any case, take care of yourself and good luck in your future choices.
Arie
Arie
Me 30, DH 41 - ttc 4 years
(Male factor)
1st IVF
Jul 06 - EC + ICSI (No ET)
FET Aug or Sept 06 depending
Me 30, DH 41 - ttc 4 years
(Male factor)
1st IVF
Jul 06 - EC + ICSI (No ET)
FET Aug or Sept 06 depending
I'm so sorry for the negative result. Please don't blame yourself though. there could be a number of reasons and to be honest, noone ever knows why it fails. this is not the end of the road, you can keep trying and one day it will happen. its hard to believe and I never thought I would ever be pregnant.........I honestly believed it would never happen. but it has and it will happen for you too. please don't give up.
I don't know the extent of your problems but if it is male factor sometimes there are things you can do to increase your sperm count. My dh took vitamins like vitamin C and zinc and I think this helped. My friends dh had a very low count and got it to normal within months just taking zinc and they had a baby.
this is not your fault, its noones fault. Nature is cruel at times. we have all faced numerous negative results and we know how you are feeilng.
take care of yourselves
love terri
I don't know the extent of your problems but if it is male factor sometimes there are things you can do to increase your sperm count. My dh took vitamins like vitamin C and zinc and I think this helped. My friends dh had a very low count and got it to normal within months just taking zinc and they had a baby.
this is not your fault, its noones fault. Nature is cruel at times. we have all faced numerous negative results and we know how you are feeilng.
take care of yourselves
love terri
PCOS
TTC 2.5 years
BFP April 2006
TTC 2.5 years
BFP April 2006