Im wondering does everyone have iisues with family members being insesitive and distant....saying all the wrong things or is it just me that Im such an emotional wreck..........
any feedback wld be so good
Scared
Scared
Hi there evrey-one, Im a newy to this whole emotional rollercoaster of IVF, after 5years trying and one go at IUI and have jst gone through the IVF month awaiting, hopeing, doubting, fighting my thoughts and anxiety within me is just all to much....how do people find the strength to go on?
Im wondering does everyone have iisues with family members being insesitive and distant....saying all the wrong things or is it just me that Im such an emotional wreck..........
any feedback wld be so good
Im wondering does everyone have iisues with family members being insesitive and distant....saying all the wrong things or is it just me that Im such an emotional wreck..........
any feedback wld be so good
Hi Benny,
You are completely normal to feel all that you are feeling. Every day I asked myself how I'm going to cope with it all. I even told DH that there was no way I could do it again if it didn't work and this was only our first attempt!
With the amount of medication we've been taking it's only natural to feel like an emotional wreck. And no, no one understands what you're going through unless they have been there themselves. I didn't want to tell anyone we were doing IVF but I did in the end with mixed reaction. But at the end of the day my family is who lives here with me in our house. Not sibblings, mum, dad, mother-in-law etc.
Where do we get the inspiration to go on... very good question. I got mine from here. Just looking at people's signatures and reading other people's stories. The people here give you the strength. They are there to listen to your moaning, they understand your feelings, they share the joyous occassions and even the really sad times. They understand completely as they are going through it too. Some of them way too often but they don't give up and their patience pays off and their prays/dreams have been answered.
Cheer up Benny, you've found a good board to be part of. Maybe post your thread in the general board, there's much more traffic around there.
Best of luck
Jo
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You are completely normal to feel all that you are feeling. Every day I asked myself how I'm going to cope with it all. I even told DH that there was no way I could do it again if it didn't work and this was only our first attempt!
With the amount of medication we've been taking it's only natural to feel like an emotional wreck. And no, no one understands what you're going through unless they have been there themselves. I didn't want to tell anyone we were doing IVF but I did in the end with mixed reaction. But at the end of the day my family is who lives here with me in our house. Not sibblings, mum, dad, mother-in-law etc.
Where do we get the inspiration to go on... very good question. I got mine from here. Just looking at people's signatures and reading other people's stories. The people here give you the strength. They are there to listen to your moaning, they understand your feelings, they share the joyous occassions and even the really sad times. They understand completely as they are going through it too. Some of them way too often but they don't give up and their patience pays off and their prays/dreams have been answered.
Cheer up Benny, you've found a good board to be part of. Maybe post your thread in the general board, there's much more traffic around there.
Best of luck
Jo
xxxx
Me 35 DH 37 1st IVF ET 27 June - BFP!!!!
Ellie was born on 11 December 2006, 14 weeks early!
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Ellie was born on 11 December 2006, 14 weeks early!
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Hi Benny,
Welcome! I posted to you on the General forum suggesting that you come over to the Aussie and Kiwi thread but thought I'd say hi here too.
We are doing our last IUI at the moment. Its our third and I'm currently on the 2ww (12 days to go!) Ifthis fails then we will also start IVF next cycle. We have been trying for almost 5 years and have Unexplained Infertility.
Are you also on the 2ww? When do you test?
As for family, I have had no probs with family and friends except for my sister. We are very close normally but we have spoken for 3 months after a fight. She called me upset over breaking up with her boyfriend (of 2 months) a couple days after our first negative result. I listened to her cry and carry on for 30 mins (she broke up with him btw) then I said that our cycle had failed, thanks for asking and she screamed that I was selfish for making everything about me....
So I understand about the rellies not always understanding and being helpful. I think that those who are truly concerned for your happiness will be there and are true friends. Thoses who are a bit strange about it all, well, perhaps they have no idea how to act around you or they don't understand what it is you are going through. Distance yourself from them if you can because you don't need any negativity around you at the moment. I have done that with my sister, and although I miss her, I just don't have enough emotional energy to get through this and deal with her dramas. You need to be selfish and focused on your goal.
I hope this helps. I'm rambling a bit but I hope you get the point - you, your DH and your future babies need all your strength at the moment....people have to understand that and if they love you and want you to be happy, they'll come around.
See you on the Aussie & Kiwi thread,
Em
Welcome! I posted to you on the General forum suggesting that you come over to the Aussie and Kiwi thread but thought I'd say hi here too.
We are doing our last IUI at the moment. Its our third and I'm currently on the 2ww (12 days to go!) Ifthis fails then we will also start IVF next cycle. We have been trying for almost 5 years and have Unexplained Infertility.
Are you also on the 2ww? When do you test?
As for family, I have had no probs with family and friends except for my sister. We are very close normally but we have spoken for 3 months after a fight. She called me upset over breaking up with her boyfriend (of 2 months) a couple days after our first negative result. I listened to her cry and carry on for 30 mins (she broke up with him btw) then I said that our cycle had failed, thanks for asking and she screamed that I was selfish for making everything about me....
So I understand about the rellies not always understanding and being helpful. I think that those who are truly concerned for your happiness will be there and are true friends. Thoses who are a bit strange about it all, well, perhaps they have no idea how to act around you or they don't understand what it is you are going through. Distance yourself from them if you can because you don't need any negativity around you at the moment. I have done that with my sister, and although I miss her, I just don't have enough emotional energy to get through this and deal with her dramas. You need to be selfish and focused on your goal.
I hope this helps. I'm rambling a bit but I hope you get the point - you, your DH and your future babies need all your strength at the moment....people have to understand that and if they love you and want you to be happy, they'll come around.
See you on the Aussie & Kiwi thread,
Em
TTC 5yrs - Unexplained Infertility
3xIUI's (April, June & Aug 06) - BFN,s
1st IVF - Oct 06 - Jasper & Finlay born 07/06/07
Natural preg - Addison Grace born 15/10/08
3xIUI's (April, June & Aug 06) - BFN,s
1st IVF - Oct 06 - Jasper & Finlay born 07/06/07
Natural preg - Addison Grace born 15/10/08
Hi Em, thank-you so much it's truly comforting to find so many people alike.Being able to share my thoughts and feelings is just......I can't even find a word that covers how I feel.
I can relate so much to your experience, only it's my sister-inlaw I too have had to sit and listen to her dramas, comforting her with positives queitly suffering in my own lows and loses. i'll end up writing a book if go there....
However, chin up again....yes I'm on my 2ww hubby and me have been trying for 5years, haveen't had contraceptive for almost 10 years i think. We have unexplained infertility too. I feel unknowly I've sabotaged my body healthwise as everyone in the family and around where falling pregnant so easily, month after month it got worse I was a smoker and started drinking more...wldnt eat healthy with a combanation of working 12hr shifts along with nght shifts also. Finally I snaped out of my destructive ways after opening up and talking to people i found that i was not alone. It's a battle though!!!
To date we've had 1 IUI, a number of ovulation inductions and have just had my first IVF , results are on the 24th ( fingers crossed) The 2ww is painful, but have to be positive
I wish you all the very best Em, and thankyou again for sharing it means so much.
takecare
teresa
I can relate so much to your experience, only it's my sister-inlaw I too have had to sit and listen to her dramas, comforting her with positives queitly suffering in my own lows and loses. i'll end up writing a book if go there....
However, chin up again....yes I'm on my 2ww hubby and me have been trying for 5years, haveen't had contraceptive for almost 10 years i think. We have unexplained infertility too. I feel unknowly I've sabotaged my body healthwise as everyone in the family and around where falling pregnant so easily, month after month it got worse I was a smoker and started drinking more...wldnt eat healthy with a combanation of working 12hr shifts along with nght shifts also. Finally I snaped out of my destructive ways after opening up and talking to people i found that i was not alone. It's a battle though!!!
To date we've had 1 IUI, a number of ovulation inductions and have just had my first IVF , results are on the 24th ( fingers crossed) The 2ww is painful, but have to be positive
I wish you all the very best Em, and thankyou again for sharing it means so much.
takecare
teresa