Apprehensive for 2nd attempt

Marycamp · Post by **Marycamp** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 9:22 pm

Hi everyone, posted before when had first failed ICSI. Got first injection 2 weeks ago and go for first scan on Monday. Will then have to jag for a couples of weeks, some scans in between, should get eggs around 2 October, reimplant around 5th. Don't feel the same this time, feeling scared of jagging (because I know what its like) and upset a lot as I don't know what I'll do if it doesn't work. Last time it was exciting and full of hope. How do you cope. Mary

Amanda A · Post by **Amanda A** » Fri Sep 19, 2003 11:16 pm

Mary, It is really hard, there is no getting around it, but you have to think that this time you stand a better chance because your clinic will have a lot more info on you than the last time. People who get pregnant first time round are really really lucky, more often it takes longer. I have often thought that the experience of IVF/ICSI is very different if you get pregnant first time round because it is so much easier and like you say, you are full of hope that first time. Anyway, I wish you well. Sometimes the cycle seems worse before you start it, the apprehension can be worse that actually getting on with it. I am sure that others will be able to give you some good advice too. Rach X

Marycamp · Post by **Marycamp** » Sat Sep 20, 2003 5:54 pm

Thanks Rachel, maybe when it all starts again I will feel much better, I guess I would like to be one of the lucky ones but there we go, I guess everyone would.... Mary

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Sun Sep 21, 2003 11:13 am

Hi Mary I have just completed my second attempt at IVF and am due to test on Thursday. I know exactly how you feel, because I felt the same. The first time is all new and exciting and also you can't understand how it can NOT work when its all so scientific. So when it doesn't you are devastated. I was. I think this time, I tried to be a lot more matter of fact and almost detached about the whole experience. I guess you don't want to end up being quite so torn apart if it doesn't work again. Also I think second time round, you know exactly what to expect, and understand the whole protocol. You also realise that it is only a one in four chance of being +ve and the last bit comes down entirely to luck! My advice, having just completed the cycle is to try and stay positive but just take each bit at a time and if its going to be your lucky turn then what will be will be! I truly hope that luck is on your side this time. fingers crossed love nikola.xx

beckym · Post by **beckym** » Sun Sep 21, 2003 7:35 pm

Hi Mary I'm in the same boat as you - just started sniffing for second ICSI attempt and scared stiff. I seemed to sail through the first one - jabs and everything, very relaxed, up until egg collection and then got OHSS and was in hospital for a week so am really worried that it is going to happen again even though I have changed clinics to the ARGC and they assure me they will monitor me very carefully this time. But trying to stay positive and distract meyself between sniffs as much as possible! good luck for the jabbing. beckym x

bertie · Post by **bertie** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 10:52 am

Hi Mary Some of what Nikola says is how I was on my 2nd go. When we did our 1st IVF it was exciting and new and the prospect of failure never crossed my mind. I was devastated when it failed. On my 2nd attempt I was much more detached. It was only when I got to the 2nd week of the 2ww that it dawned that it could fail again. My dh was positive it had worked and he was right. We are now 8 wks 7 days. They have a lot more info about you this time. Good luck. luv Bertie x