First IVF in August,

Champa · Post by **Champa** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:30 pm

Alicia - I am very sorry to hear about ur BFN. I know its hard but please don't get discouraged, keep faith. I'll pray for u and I am sure ur time will come and it will definitely work out for u. Take care dear!!

Mia- I can imagine, the wait must be killing you. When are they doing ur ET? It feels great. I can't imagine I've 4 little emb inside me..Thanks for the baby dust..

Friends, our group is giving me lot of support and without ur support and wishes I can't imagine how I would have survived this journey.. Thanks for all ur prayers and wishes.

love
Champa

samandaw1 · Post by **samandaw1** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:35 pm

Alicia

I am truely sorry. It must be so hard, I feel for you right now. We are not leaving you until you get your BFP! Be good to yourself and heal your body even if that takes a couple of months. You want to be in top shape both mentally and physically. Maybe do a little accupunture or anything else out there.

Hang in there and lean on us if/when you need it

Sam

Ghost · Post by **Ghost** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 8:49 pm

Can't wait to hear from Mia today. Day 5 is just about time...

suzhan · Post by **suzhan** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 11:15 pm

Shapooh - I'm so sorry you got a bfn. Like everyone else has said, we're all here to root for each other - both those who will be trying again and those who were blessed with a baby.

For those of us who were not lucky this time, I know we'll cheer each other on in the next attempt and just remember that with each try, we learn more, know more and be more prepared for the baby to entire our lives. Try to focus on the positives and make your body and spirit as strong as possible for your future. We'll all get there, I know it!

- Suzhan

hopeful-in-LV · Post by **hopeful-in-LV** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 12:11 am

Alicia, I'm so sorry about your BFN

I was so hopeful for you. I'm happy that you will stay with us. I'll be here for you ((((hugs)))).

Our clinic called this morning at 9:30 to tell me that the RE wanted me to come in at 11 AM to do my transfer

. So off we went. I went through ET at about 12:00 and we were done at 12:15. We transfered 2. The rest will have another day to grow and he said we might have 2 to freeze. The RE told us it was the perfect transfer. The 2 embryos were very good quality and they were placed in just the right spot. So now we just have to wait and see if they implant. I was in recovery for an hour. I was a little concerned because the nurse, who was new, told me I could get up and pee after only 30 minutes. I wasn't sure I should do it, but I also was afraid that the pressure on my bladder might not be so good. I think the nurse had me dress and get ready to go to soon also. They told me in the procedure room i'd rest for an hour and she had me dress after 45 minutes. So I sat in a recliner chair (in the recovery room) for another 15 minutes, because my DH left and was told to return at 1:15. I am already a worry wart

I really hated the ride home too. I hated every bump and prayed everything will be OK.

I must be nuts. You can't lose you embies 30 minutes after ET when you pee, right?

wannababy1229 · Post by **wannababy1229** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 12:32 am

Hopeful- I'm glad to hear it was a perfect transfer. I peed about 30 minutes after the transfer. I would think that is the norm. It's good to know that you could freeze some. How long will you be on bedrest? Take care of yourself and welcome to the 2ww!

Ok ladies--I must admit, up until now, I have been pretty good. Now that I know my fate is only 3 days away, I have become a bit nervous . I know that it is out of my hands but it is still unnerving! I imagine myself getting the phone call and playing out each possible scenario. Either way, I don't want to act like a fool when I speak to my nurse.

Ghost · Post by **Ghost** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:09 am

Several studies have found no beneficial effect of bedrest after embryo transfer:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/quer ... med_docsum

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/quer ... med_docsum

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/quer ... med_docsum

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/quer ... med_docsum

One of those even found some harm from bedrest.

myhb · Post by **myhb** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:12 am

Alicia - I am so sorry to hear about the BFN. I was so hoping that the HPT was wrong. Please don't give up yet. Use this time to pamper yourself and your DH and next thing you know, you'll be starting your shots again. We don't mind if you stick around, we want you to. Your support means a lot to us and we are here for you. This your place to let it all out, both the good and bad.

Champa and Mia - glad to hear your ETs went well. Just take it really easy for the next few days and I hope the 2ww flies!

Lola - not sure when I am starting my stims. If I base it on my best guess (and all of the stars are aligned properly), the earliest I can start is September 1st. But I think I'll end up starting sometime during the week of Septmeber 4th.

I went for a nice easy run today and my ankle didn't bother me. I think I savored the run knowing that this will probably be my last run for a long time.

Wannababy - hang in there, Friday will be here soon enough.

Sam - have the hives cleared up? I hope so. I have reduced the amount I exercise especially since I started the shots. By next week, I don't think I'll be doing much of anything other than climbing the stairs at work

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samandaw1 · Post by **samandaw1** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:21 am

Mia-

I was allowed to pee after 30 minutes if not earlier and I was in recovery for only about 1/2 hour if that makes you feel better. And my clinic appears to be more conservative than most. I agree with Ghost, I thought my bed rest was way too long and it hurt my back and my mental status. All worth it of course!! Mia, do not stress to much. Remember it is out of your control. I am sure bed rest and all the percautions they ask you to take is more about relaxing and not being stressed.

Wannababy- I was excellent, a prize IVF patient until three days before the test. I was rarely even hormonal and felt positive through the whole experience. Three days before testing, my breakdown began. I cried (the ugly cry) invisioned my negative and actually planned out by the minute what i was going to do on testing date and how I was going to react. It is just horrible. Try to keep yourself busy and do some nonIVF related activities. I.e. hanging out with friends, movies, date night. Anything to occupy your time. I am praying for you!!

As for me....hives went away and the itchiness has gotten better now that they swithed me off the shots. The suppositories are not my favorite but so much better than what I was dealing with. My back is killing me but I am now wondering if it is my boob size/weight that is doing me in. I think they are growing by the second. I am 36 double E and counting.

Good luck girls, hang in there!!!

Rittie2000 · Post by **Rittie2000** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 6:34 am

Big Hug Alicia.... xxx

Lola · Post by **Lola** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 4:33 pm

Hello girls!
Here is another update:

Sam (Denver, Colorado) Aug 13 BFP!! 9/7 - u/s for h/b and to determine if it's one or two

Rittie 2000 Aug 18 BFP!! 9/17 scan to determine if the pregnancy is viable

Wannababy ( New Jersey) Aug 21 ET - after bed rest now, 1st Beta 9/1

Champa Aug 28 ET – bed rest now, 1st Beta 9/7

Mia (Las Vegas, NE) Aug 29 – ET – bed rest now

Myhb (New England) Aug 22 - Started Lupron, should start stims between 9/1 – 9/5

Malinka - Aug/27 Started Lupron

Jemima – Sep/15 Starting Stims

Lola (California) Aug 22 - cancelled cycle due to poor response, next IVF Sept/Oct

Alicia (Yuma, Arizona) Aug 28 – BFN, next IVF Sept/Oct

Suzhan (California) Aug 21 – BFN, next IVF Sept/Oct

Please let me know if there are any changes.

Mia - looks like you ET went very well

, let us know when your 1st Beta is. How great that you have 2 more to freeze. How are you doing today?

Alicia - I was thinking of you a lot, hope you are feeling better today. Do something nice for yourself today!

Love Lola

Lola · Post by **Lola** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 4:38 pm

Ghost, those were interesting articles, thanks! Looks like the bed rest is just a psychological thing....Lola

Shapooh · Post by **Shapooh** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:17 pm

Thanks Girls!!! I don't know what I would do without all of you. You truly bring me strength when I need it.

Wannababy - I am praying for you everyday. Just invision the baby growing inside you. Stay strong and positive like I know you are and have helped me to be.

Lola - You are such a sweetheart, and I greatly admire your strength. Looking forward to going through this again with you.

Mia- Praying for you and your 2 embies. Don't stress too much on the small things your going to be just fine. Relax and think happy thoughts.

Champa - Thanks for the kind words. Your in my thoughts and prayers everyday. I can't wait to get your great news!!!!

Sam - Thank you for being here and giving me the hope and faith that I need to continue on. It means more than you know.

Suzhan - Your words mean so much, I'm so glad I have this group and your support means everything to me.

Myhb - The pampering idea was great thanks! Today I am going to have a massage and pedicure. My DH made all the arrangements, he is really trying to cheer me up.

Rittie - Thanks for the hug!

Thanks again girls, and I have my fingers and toes crossed for everyone. TONS OF BABY DUST THIS NEXT TWO WEEKS!!!

Love Alicia

hopeful-in-LV · Post by **hopeful-in-LV** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:46 pm

thanks ladies and Ghost, for the reassurance. I know going to the bathroom is not going to make me lose the embies. I think you worry the most the first day. I was afraid to poo yesterday too, but I figured I better not give myself the 'C' problem, that would be much worse. I feel much better today, I get a better sense that they are still with me. I'm wondering if and when I'll feel implantation cramps. I know some people never feel it.
As for bed rest, doctors orders are to stay on bed rest for 2 days, yesterday and today. Pelvic rest for 55 minutes and get up for 5 minutes to stretch my legs and go to the bathroom. Tomorrow I can do light activity around the house. I was thinking of staying in bed 3 full days, but now that I'm stuck in bed, I really think I'll be up more tomorrow. My head feels dull, my butt is sore, I've got some weird numb feelings in my arms. I'll feel a lot better when I can move around and do some gentle activities. Our nurse told us not to worry too much about moving around. There are women at this stage who don't know they are pregant and skydive out of planes without doing any harm. They just make us do bed rest because they want us to be extra careful.

Lola, My pregnancy test is on Sept. 8

Silly side note. My silly DH named our embryos marzipan and balogney (sp?). So those are their nicknames for now.

Have I ever mention that he's a nut

wannababy1229 · Post by **wannababy1229** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 9:27 pm

Hey everyone--I'm taking Sam's advice. DH and I are about to go to the movies. We are about to go but wanted to check in to see how everyone was doing. Hope all is well. Take care!

Thanks, Sam!

First IVF in August,

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