The Over 40 Crowd

[teachertam]

Bev:

It is so good to hear from you. I got the results of my screening yesterday. I have a 1:820 chance of having a baby with Downs Syndrome and a 1:8100 chance of having a baby with Trisomy 18.
We are not getting the 2nd Trimester screening, since our numbers were so good. We are going to get an ultrasound at 18 weeks to make sure that the baby does not have any neural tube defects.

I had a scare yesterday. I had some brown spotting and I freaked out. I went to the Dr. and the baby is fine!! Thank God!!

I hope everyone else is doing well.

Regards,
Tammy

[BevT]

Tammy, those results are very very good for someone of your more "mature years". Well done to you both and as you say the scan later will highlight any abnormalities - if there are any! I am sure your little miracle baby will be perfect in every way.

You must have been scared with the brown spotting episode, the worry of something going wrong is never far away is it? So pleased that all is well.

Take care of yourself and your precious baby.

Bev xxx

[BevT]

Hello there anyone?

Things are very quiet on this thread, I hope that means that everyone is well and happy and contented.

Anna, how are you feeling? Any sickness/tiredness yet? Are you ready to go back to work? I know I am ready for DH to go back. It's been 8 weeks now since I have had him at home 24-7, disrupting my day. One more week to go. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly and when he starts back with a vengeance, I will probably miss him, as he works long days and quite often doesn't even get one full day off a week! But we have run out of things to do together and I am getting quite grouchy with him at times. Don't know if that is the pregnancy or just me!! Have you told any of the family/friends your news yet?

Tammy, how are you and your miracle baby?

Lisa, still thinking of you and your DH. How are you coping? Is there ANY hope of you having another foster child? Or is it just too much to think about at this stage. Take care of each other.x

Hi to everyone else out there, come on all our over 40 girls, come back and let us know how you all are.

Bev x

[teachertam]

Bev,

It is good to hear that you are doing well.

I'm doing well. I have my last appt. with my RE next Thursday and I will begin seeing my OB DR. I can't wait to find out if my baby is a boy or girl. I will be going in for the ultrasound beginning of Oct. if not before. I really feel like I'm having a boy. Do you have any feelings one way or the other?

Anna,

I hope you are doing well.

Yasmina,

We haven't heard from you in awhile. I hope that you are all moved and getting settled in.

Lisa: How are you doing?

Hello to everyone else.

Take care all,
Tammy

[AMck]

Hello ladies, just checking in to see if everyone OK. It's very quiet on our thread at the moment!

Bev, how are you? Not long now and DH will be back at school and you can get some peace and quiet! I really don't want to go back. Have got very used to being a lady of leisure. We still haven't told anyone yet....it's killing me but I don't want to jinx this until we get to 12 weeks. (8 weeks tomorrow so hanging on in!)

Tammy, good to hear from you. You sound in good spirits. Great news on your test results, well done you! When will you find out what flavour your beanie is?

Nothing really to report from me. (sorry Bev, still no symptoms!) Just enjoying the holidays with lots of trips out, friends visiting etc.... Big day out tomorrow, a charity cricket match with loads of friends. Just praying for good weather, fingers crossed.

Hope all OK with everyone
Hugs all round
Anna

[erjumper]

Hi all,
Feeling much better now. With the help of some time and a bit of anti depressant. Still very difficult to go in the nursery so I don't do it often. Very very nervous about the possibility of another baby coming to us but time will tell. I'm so happy to be reading about all your ultrasounds. It's strange how I feel disdain for strangers that i see who are pregnant but I feel so happy for all of you. I guess because I know what you all went through to get there and that you don't take it for granted the way so many do. It makes me smile to see you all doing so well and your happiness is so inspiring. Keep the good news coming ladies!!!!! All the best!!!
Oh, and Tammy. I think it's a girl for you and for Anna I think a boy. Don't know why I think that but let me know. Hope you all stay on this thread through your pregnancies and deliveries.
Hugs,
Lisa

[BevT]

Hi Lisa, I'm glad that you are "coping" with your loss and feeling a bit better. Time will help as you say, and I do understand the reluctance to go into the nursery, when we lost our first born I couldn't go into "her room" for quite a few months. Do keep dropping in to let us know how you are.

Oh, by the way, have you any feelings as to what I may be having? My DH says a boy, but he said that from practically day one after transfer, so how he came to that conclusion, I have no idea.

Take care,
Bev xxx

[teachertam]

Lisa: I'm so glad to hear that you are doing better. I hope you get a baby soon that can be your forever baby! It is interesting to hear that you think I'm having a girl. Everyone else seems to think it is a boy!

Anna: I'm so glad to hear that everything is good with you. I'm not sure when I will be able to find out the sex of my baby. I can't wait!

Bev: DH should be back to school soon right? We started last week It was nice to be back, but I'm not looking forward to getting big and having to stand up in front of a room of students.

Ladies: I had another spotting episode over the weekend. DH and I had sex on Saturday and right afterwards I had some pink blood on my tissue when I wiped. (sorry if TMI) Later that day, I had some brown blood and also some brown blood on Sunday. Has anyone had problems with spotting after intercourse?? I go to my RE on Thursday.

Take care all,
Tammy

[erjumper]

Bev,
I'm thinking a boy for you also.
Tammy,
Purely from a nursing stanpoint. It is normal to have spotting after intercourse but some docs will tell you not to do it just to alleviate concerns and anxiety. I've seen many many patients come to the ER with spotting and have normal ultrasounds but I can TOTALLY understand your anxiety about it. It would freak me out too just because you've worked so hard to get here. I'm sure SHE's fine. HEHEHE
Hey I think that at least if all you lucky ladies are going to have babies and i'm not....someone should name it after me! hehe

Lisa

[teachertam]

Lisa:

Thanks so much for the information. I feel much better. If we have a girl, we want to name her Annalise. So she will have a combo of your name and Anna's.

Take care all,
Tammy

[children]

Hi all,

I am back to pregnant life. I almost forgot that I was pregnant in last two weeks. Had been so busy on moving, meetings, transferring funds, mice, labs, blah blah.

I quickly read through our posts and tried to catch up with everyone’s news. I am sorry, Lisa, for your baby girl, but it seems that you are coping with it well and I wish you will get another one soon. Tammy, Bev, and Anna, I am glad that you are all doing so well and enjoying your pregnancies. Oh, Tammy, I have light brown discharge all the time, but not red, not particularly increased after sex. I used to bleed each time after sex and I still do if I have not had sex more than 2 weeks - because I have a small passage for the manhood. The blood can come from the cervical or the inner wall of vagina also. But still, I would have it checked to make sure the placenta is ok.

I envy you all for not having much of morning sickness. I still have that at 14 weeks! Yet, my belly does not grow and my weight stays the same. My baby measures at 7 cm with heartbeat of 160 a week ago, but she did not waving at us (she usually moves a lot of her hands and legs) at last ultrasound, which scared me a lot, although I was told she was perfect afterwards. My DH did not seem to be concerned. I am anxious to go back, but my next appointment won’t be on until 10 days later!

I cried when my husband suggested me to have amniocentesis done because I can not take any risk of losing my baby. I missed the 1st trimester’s screen due to my move, Tammy, thanks for sharing your experience and this information. I will ask whether I can do the 2nd trimester screening so that I do not have to do the amnio.

Will keep you all informed periodically. Take care!

Yasmina

[dvrdab]

i'm 40, just turned 40 in feb. well i guess it's been awhile, any way i'm trying ivf for the first time. just started b/c pills on aug 22. ihad a tubal reversal in oct 2005 and just found out in july both tubes are blocked, i guess scar tissue. i'm just worried about all the meds i will be taking for ivf, how bad is it really? i'm a student, second year respiratory, so i don't want the meds to affect my grades. can anyone help? should i wait till i graduate?, what a bout the age thing? anyone, help. thanks, victoria

[teachertam]

Victoria,

Welcome to the "Over 40 Crowd".

The meds are not that bad. I have had 4 medicated cycles..........2 IUI's and 2 IVF's. You have to give yourself daily shots in the stomach, but they do not hurt. I worked the entire time that I was going through the medicated cycles. For me the challenging thing was the trips to my RE's office for ultrasounds. My RE's office was 1.5 hours from my home.

We were going to try one more cycle, a frozen cycle, as we still have 4 eggs left over from our last IVF. A miracle happened and we got pregnant naturally while waiting to start the frozen cycle.

You have come to the right place for support. Good luck.

Regards,
Tammy

[Kat]

Hi all & welcome to Victoria

No news from me really, just thought you'd think I wasn't here if I never posted....

I haven't really been thinking about IVF at all, been busy building a deck for the past few weekends, not too many fights with DH over it, which is a lot better than when we put up a fence last year!

Also my Dad is ill so my mind has been occupied with him and not with myself. They say he has a good chance of recovery after his operation so we are all clinging to that as you can imagine.

Somehow it's easier when the bad things are happening to you not to someone else, throw as much sh1t at me as you like but not at the people I care about please.

Maybe I just got greedy wanting a baby as well as all the good things I have in my life already. I am beginning to not be able to imagine having a child, if that makes any sense, maybe this means I am accepting that I never will, who knows. I still get sad but I don't cry so much.

Sorry, I was coming on here to say hi and not to depress you all.
I hope everyone is well, and the pregnancies are progressing trouble-free.
I still pop in here regularly to read your updates so don't think I don't think about you because I do

Speak to you all soon
Lots of love
Kat xx

PS Tania - if you're reading this - come in and say hello

[erjumper]

Victoria,
Welcome to the "over 40's". I've done 1 IUI with injectables and 6 IVF's. For some reason that my RE can't explain I respond overly well....I know, seems like an oxymoron....but I was on the lowest does of Follistim and Repronex with the last 4 cycles after overstimming with the first 2 and still had E2 levels that made me have to coast. I had alot of pain with all cycles but they feel that was due to the overproduction of follicles (we retrieved 42 eggs the first cycle) and I have extensive endo and adhesions so my large ovaries were pulling on everything else. I also had extreme mood swings. I was very emotional. The shots were not painful and the retrievals were uneventful. I think being in school will help keep your mind on something else. I wouldn't wait because the clock is ticking.
Tammy,
Annalise is a pretty name. Let's hope i'm right about you having a girl.

As for me and DH. He just lost his job. Company decided they had too much middle management. Soooo, we're thinking maybe it's a blessing in disguise. He should have no difficulty getting a new job with his degree and his management experience and i'm so hoping his new insurance with allow us another try at IVF. I thought I was done trying but now that this has come up....maybe just maybe....you never know. There's been alot of positive things happening here lately so maybe I could be one of them. Trying not to get my hopes up. Anyway my problem has always been staying pregnant, not getting there. Even with donor eggs. Who knows. No new foster baby yet. Hopefully soon. Keep up the happy posts.

Lisa