New to forum & 2nd IVF

Frances j · Post by **Frances j** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:27 pm

Hi there, Finally got the courage to register after been reading everyones stories. Our 1st attempt failed right at the last moment back in February & it has taken me this long to feel strong enough to try again. I am due to start sniffing this week & I have never wanted my period to come so much just so i can get started again. The worst thing i feel is the isolation no one knows what it feels like not unless they have experienced it. I can't cope with pregnant friends & have had to cut contact with 2, which of course makes the isolation even worse. Unfortunately, my job is a stressful one anyway but added to this is the fact that i can't let them know about my IVF. I'm out on sick leave at the moment, as my health had really gone down hill & it has made such a difference to starting the 2nd IVF. I would love to hear from anyone but especially anyone starting a IVF cycle - it would be lovely to have some company. Frances

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:51 pm

Hi Frances Glad you have joined us. You have come to the right place, it really does help knowing that other people are going through the same as yourself. It has made a huge difference to me just to know that someone else understands exactly what it is like. It is probably a good thing that you have taken some sick leave as it does tend to take it out of you all this business. I started down regging myself on Friday - I inject. We will probably be going through everything at around the same time. If you look for the heading October Cycle Buddies you will find there are lots of girls starting around now. You have done the right thing joining us, you will find lots and lots of support. Hope to hear from you soon. Gracexx

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:52 pm

hello frances, well done for taking the plunge! now you have though, you will become totally addicted! say hello to the october cycle buddies as you will be going through your cycle with us! of course everyone is at different stages, but its great to have the support from your cycle buddies plus the rest of the girls. there will always be someone there to answer a question or lend a listening ear. when we started ivf my best friend became pg (deliberately within a few weeks of meeting her man!!!) ive never felt so on my own. I had to be the supportive one as she doesnt have her mum and she was always very dependent on me. My emotions were all over the place , it was awful and she kept saying I was lucky not to be feeling like her (morning sickness). nearly a year later everything is ok (nearly!) and I adore her little girl, however there are times when my eyes turn really green and I become really envious. a few of my customers also became pg and now my neighbour. Its so hard to deal with!!!!! anyway welcome to the boards and I wish you all your baby dreams arent far round the corner! lots of love kathryn x

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:56 pm

Hi Frances Welcome to the site. I'm sure you'll find lots of people here to share all your worries with, you won't need to feel isolated ever again!! Sadly I won't be cycling with you because I'm sat on my 2WW and due to test on Thursday, but I'll be watching out for your progress. Join in the october cycle buddies thread and you'll soon get engrossed and forget about feeling isoloated!! Good luck with your tmt. love nikola.xx

Frances j · Post by **Frances j** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 4:50 pm

Thanks Guys, Comforting to know i'm not as mad as I thought...no really i will keep in contact & feeling better already...will let you know which day i start sniffing this week. Frances

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 6:07 pm

hi frances welcome to the mad house. I have found everyone really great on this site and you can get all your question's answered here.I'm on the 2 wk wait so will not be joining you but best of luck with your tmt. from july ann

SBROWN · Post by **SBROWN** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 9:41 pm

Hi Frances & as July Ann says welcome to The Mad House I too am on the 2ww but wanted to wish you the best of luck Sarah xx

vickib · Post by **vickib** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 8:47 am

Hi frances I fully understand how you feel I'm about to start my first cycle of ICSI, AF due 28th so I will cycle with you it will be really helpful to have someone to talk too. There also seems to be a new thread going for cycle buddies around our time called start down reggin and chat room. I told my work about treatment not sure if I have made the right decision they have given me time off as compassionate leave but have not decreased my workload and offered no other staff support so when I have time off I find myself taking work home or staying late as my job like yours is very stressful. I know what you mean about everyone around you having babies I feel the same and when you talk about having treatment the attitude is just have a few needles and at the end you get a baby, I WISH IT WAS THAT SIMPLE. Hope your period arrives on time. Good luck keep posting. Vicki xxx

beckym · Post by **beckym** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 10:52 am

Hi Frances Know what you mean about other people getting pregnant. After my first cycle literally all the secretaries in the office got preganant and kept on coming in to chat about it - ofcourse I couldn't tell anyone what i was going through so it was awful. Then my brother-in-law phoned up (on Easter Sunday!)to say my sister-in-law was pregnant. i was in the house on my own and nearly went to pieces. I am very close to her, she is like a proper sister, so it really hit home especially as they only got married last year and we had been trying for ages. Plus it is going to be the first baby in the family etc..In fact they had delayed telling us, as they knew she was pregnant when they came to see me when I was in hospital with OHSS. I saw her for the first time the other week when she was 5 months pregnant. I still found it really difficult but at least we are laughing and chatting together on the phone now. At first I could only correspond by letter as i was so upset. Maybe you can write to your friends as I'm sure they will be very understanding. Join us on the October cycle buddies. i have just started down-regging. see my posts also on stress and work!! hey, we discuss it all!!! best of luck. beckym xxxx

Frances j · Post by **Frances j** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 1:12 pm

Sorry guys for not posting earlier, the days just seem to have gone by so quickly. Thankfully my period came on time & i'm sniffing since Thursday. I'm finding the spray buserelin acetate more difficult this time,it seems to be giving me a terrible taste in the back of my mouth which is puttig me off my food - small price to pay! Thanks for all the advice re approaching preg. friends/family & i think writing may be the answer. I am going to go back to acupuncture again & of course being off work is making a huge difference & my other half is seeing a much more positive me. Promise not to leave it so long to talk again. Thanks again, Frances

Cath H · Post by **Cath H** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 5:02 pm

hi i'm just starting my second icsi. i start injecting monday.so we can have all the ups and downs together. i found this site just before i went in for the last tmt and found it a god send. i know what you mean about the baby thing my 2 brothers just had babys and my sister is due dec so at the moment feeling quite low. hope to speak to you again take care cathxx

TracyJ · Post by **TracyJ** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 7:14 pm

You never feel a lone on this site, it has been a huge help for me, everyone is so friendly and helpful. I started my 3rd attempt 12 days going, been down regging, start second stage tomorrow, day 1 again. Will be looking out for you all Love Tracy x

Frances j · Post by **Frances j** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 1:59 pm

Afternoon all, Feeling low today as on top of everything I have managed to pull something in my arm so badly i can't even drive or wash my hair, so house bound. Thanks Cath for your message & yes i do feel very up and down since starting back...hope you are ok today. Can't wait till today is over & hopefully will be well enough to drive tomorrow & escape!!!! FrancesXX

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