Quick question?

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 11:45 am

Not sure if this will make much sense but here goes - I'm on the 2ww, day 10 and still using the lovely pessaries twice a day! As this is my first et, last time I had a poor response only one egg and it didn't fertilise normally, I wondered whether if af doesn't arrive before the test date is this much more encouraging? When I had iui I never made it longer than 10/12 days but there were no pessaries - do they make the difference? Is it therefore possible to have no real af type pains and have a -ve result? Then for af to follow later than usual because of the drugs? Any info would be helpful, I am trying to be +++++ive but would also like to have as much info as possible and I know from reading through old threads that there's nothing that you girls out there don't know about tmt! Hope this isn't too rambled, Thanks Claire C -x-

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 2:46 pm

hi claire Hang on in there on your 2ww its nearly over!!! Everybody gets different symptoms (I had bad af pains throughout and still managed a +ve result - yet other girls can have no pain and also do the same!) If you get to test date without a period then obviously this is more encouraging. However, it is possible to bleed during 2ww and still get a +ve result. If you have two embies put back, one may hang on while the other drifts away, which is why you get blood. The pessaries encourage your body to think its pg and usually stops you having af. On my first tmt I didn't get my af until after I stopped taking the pessaries and had had a -ve result. I know how frustrating the waiting is and how you want to analyse everything, but it will soon be over. Good luck on your test date - fingers crossed. love nikola.xx

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 4:07 pm

(5.10pm) Nikola, Thanks for that, its very good of you to reply esp as you have your extremely good news to celebrate! I just keep thinking that once the weekend is over its only a couple of days - strange this is probably one of the only times that I've been wishing the w'end away and to be back to work! I haven't bought a hpt, like you I may wait until after the blood test result but I didn't want any temptation and no matter how much you tried to ignore it , I'm sure it would be calling out! I am trying to lead a normal life (whatever that is!) but as dh is working today and tonight its a bit difficult to keep occuplied - I found earlier that I had 2 cd's playing in different rooms and I seemed to be flitting from one job to another - I'm trying to convince myself that I was multi-tasking but Im sure its more a case of not being able to concentrate on one thing for very long! Has you news sunk in yet, have you told a lot of people or are you keeping it to yourself for now? You must be over the moon, how long have you and your dh been on this rollercoaster? My dh and I have been together for 19 years and have been trying for a baby for the past 7, so we think this will probably be our last attempt but who knows? We have unexplained infertility which I think is worse in some ways as there is nothing that can be fixed or explained? We have endured years of family gatherings with people asking when we'll be starting a family - the dreaded question but I think that most people now have some idea that all is not well. I feel for my in-laws as they have no grandchildren and are very excited by all the tmt whereas my sister has one child (16) so my parents have the one. Sorry for wittering on, I have just developed very sore boobs again esp at the nipples - just like when you are extremely cold, so I'm going to get a hot water bottle for them! Take care and thanks for your good wishes, Love, Claire -x-

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 8:07 am

hi claire I'm still glad I didn't do a hpt even now when I know what the result would have been, because I would have got into even more of a panic and not believed the result and would have wanted the official test date to come round even quicker!! As it was on test date I couldn't be bothered to go up to the hospital, so convinced was I that it hadn't worked, I was happy in blissful ignorance not knowing!! You hang on in there - do you test Wed? Do you have to go and do a blood test at the hospital? My dh and I have been together for 7 years and ttc for about five. We got married in July and so my mum is convinced the reason it hasn't happened before is because we were not married!!! Whatever.... I warn you once you get the +ve result you then have to wait another two weeks to get your first scan. So I'm on another 2ww, doing exactly the same as the last 2 weeks - as little as possible. Difference is you want to wrap yourself up even more than before becuase you know you are pg! Its funny I've been on this site for nearly a year and I never really knew what happened after the +ve result. This is probably because I never thought I'd get there and so wasn't that bothered, but I can tell you (so you are ready for when it happens for you next week!!!), things get even worse!!! More bloody anxious waiting. I really hope you get a +ve result and we can buddy together through our pg! I'll be keeping everything crossed for you and here if you need someone to chat too. love nikola.xx ps sore boobs is a good sign - I had to remove each one separatly at night from my bra because they were soooooooo painful. Still are.

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 11:48 am

(12.40pm) Hi Nikola, Thanks for your encouragement, I'm really beginning to believe that it could work this time. DH doesn't want to be too optomistic but I think deep down both of us are really praying that it has worked, altho' it would mean big changes we've had so many years of thinking about all of this that I hope we'd be prepared. I have to go to the clinic on wed morning between 8am and 9am, its just over an hour's drive so we usually set off about 6.45am so an early start! Hopefully they will phone about lunch time and we can try and keep calm 'til then, I'm sure we can squeeze in some shopping as I am a bit of a shopaholic! That's another thing, if I'm pg (dare I even type it???) it opens up a whole new range of shopping opportunities - not that I haven't had a sneaky peak already! That reminds me I have some soft toys hidden away in the blanket box that we bought over the years, I get them out from time to time but sometimes its a bit too upsetting. One of them is almost 7 years old now - hopefully they will get some use. I am feeling fine, just a little more tired than usual and anxious but I suppose that's understandable. I believe you when you say the next 2w may be more of the same, at least I have my holiday in Poland to look forward to but in saying that I haven't even ordered my currency yet! The sore boobs seem to happen about the same time every day for some strange reason and its not something that I'm prone to, not even during af? I really hope that its a big ++++++++ive on wed for me and I can join you in the new adventure! Hope you are keeping well, Love Claire C -x-

Kat · Post by **Kat** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 12:32 pm

Hi Claire, I am testing Friday and am also very conscious of every little twinge and ache. I have had sore boobs in the mornings for the last few days and sore nipples most of the time if I poke them. I don't get this with normal af and I didn't have it on my last cycle when I got a -ve so I am keeping everything crossed it is a good sign. DH is convinced I am pg but I keep telling him not to get his hopes up. Also last time I didn't bleed till 3 days after I stopped the pessaries. My relatives have also now stopped asking when we're going to have a baby - I've been with DH for 17 years, married 7 & ttc for only 4 of those. And I am not buying a hpt until Friday.... Good luck for Wednesday - will be looking out for your post Lots of love Kat xx

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Sun Sep 28, 2003 6:32 pm

(7.30pm) Kat, Thanks for your post, always good to know that someone else is experiencing the same things, even as I type I can feel the sore boobs coming on ! My dh doesn't really want to speak about it much and I think he is preparing himself for another disappointment, but I know deep down he wants it to work more than anything. He would be such a great dad, altho' we have 2 cats and he wasn't much good with the litter tray when they were kittens he has promised that he'd 'try' to change a nappy - if the need arose! Well my test day is getting nearer, only 3 more sleeps and then its here! You will be feeling the same, anxious, nervous and down right terrified - no doubt! I will post to let everyone know what happens, either way I will have my holiday in Poland to either celebrate or come to terms with everything. Good luck for your test on friday, Love Claire -x-

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 8:57 am

Claire & Kat Good luck to you both this week. I know this bit is the hardest as the test day looms closer. I'm sure you are both analysing every twitch, just take it easy, keep drinking the water and get as much rest you can and hopefully +++++ve results will come your way!! love to you both nikola.xx

Jo Locker · Post by **Jo Locker** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 10:29 am

Hi Claire - saw your post and had to reply as it reminded me so much of how I felt. I too was taking the pessaries which are supposed to support the pregnancy. Our first ICSI failed but my AF did not turn up until 2 days after test day - which is very cruel as it leads you to believe that its worked!! I had AF pains most of the way through the 2ww and sore boobs. However, the second time the ICSI worked (hoooorrraaayyyy!!) but the symptoms I had were EXACTLY the same - AF pains, sore boobs. I was convinced completely that my period was about to start. What I'm trying to say is that it is so weird but there just don't seem to be any rules. Not long til you can test and I hope with all my heart for you that its a positive - I wish everyone could experience it cos its a feeling that stays with you. Lots of Love to all the testers - Jo. XXX

JackieT · Post by **JackieT** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 4:33 pm

hi claire and kat just wanted to wish you both ++++++++++++++++++ vibes for your tests which i am sure will be +++++++++++++ i too have the sore boobs and dreadful af pains and of course to be different i now have a cold and bad chest with cough!!!!!! i test on 10/10, the same day as nikola's scan love jackieT xxx

Kat · Post by **Kat** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 5:39 pm

Hi all, reading these has made me feel a bit better (see SCB7 post) so thanks girls for the positive vibes. Claire, I hope you're still feeling OK and not too scared for Wednesday Lots of love Kat xx

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 6:16 pm

Hi girls, Thanks for all the encouragement, it means so much more when the person giving it actually understands. You know we've all heard the advice of the well meaning friends, saying just relax and it will happen and of course everyone knows someone who tried for years for a baby and then went on holiday and hey presto!!! At least on this site its all +++++ive advice, support and the sort of information that you may not ask the clinic. I am soo glad that I found this site, albeit I didn't actually register until I was almost on my 2ww. I wish I had realised this was here last April when I had my 1st ivf. I find just logging on and even reading thru the old threads useful, I don't know if this makes sense but even being on the site helps to take my mind off you know what! I am both dreading and looking forward to Wednesday, I didn't sleep well last night so hoping it will be better tonight. Must go and speak to the dh, he feels a bit neglected when I'm on line! Love and positive vibes to you all, Claire -x-

JackieT · Post by **JackieT** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 10:57 pm

hi claire you are the first of the last of the SCB'S{if that makes sense}. so it will be all eyes on computer on weds, please post a.s.a.p. because we will all be as anxious as you and your DH. wishing you lots of positive vibes and prayers. we are expecting you to set the good example, i am the last of us to test {10/10} lots of love jackieT xxx

Claire C · Post by **Claire C** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 6:26 pm

Hi Jackie, I've replied to Nikola on another thread (for Claire) basically saying that I've had bad af pains today and bleeding so its not looking hopeful. Thanks for your good wishes and support and I will let you all know when I hear from the hospital - prob lunchtime. Take care and good luck for 10th, Love Claire -x-

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