BFN on home pregnancy test. - gutted

[bekkie31]

I am on day 14 post transfer. I had a 2 day transfer done on 20th OCT.

I took a Home Pregnancy test this morning and got BFN. I even purchased one of those that detect hcg before your period is due.

I am absolutely gurred. 1st failed IVF.

Gonna call the doctor in an hour r so to see if it is worth to have a blood test. I am not getting positive as I would have thought that 2 weeks post transfer should show HCG on such a home pregnnacy test.

Devastated.

Bekki

[belly belly]

Bekkie,

I'm so so sorry, I know how you feel!! Can't offer you any comfort except to say, all our positive vibes going your way.

Take care

Belly belly xx

[bekkie31]

BFN now confirmed through blood.

1st failed IVF. I have an appointment with the doctor scheduled for 21st November to dicuss why it all failed.

I am distraught. For months I had looked forward to the treatment - even as early as January and had hoped it would work. I feel cheated, conned. The doctor just kept saying I was young (fairly coming on 32 now ), had no bad habits and that he was more sure it would work than it wouldn't. I did everything right avoided all levels of stress, drank loads of water etc.. and failed IVF.

First I thought something was wrong with just my tubes (I had an ectopic last year - left tube burst ) - but maybe everything was affected from an infection at somepoint. Maybe my uterus is also sick? Thoughts like my husband should marry someone else keep going through my head and I wonder why he is with me still. So many attractive women are out there who can have children. We try so hard to get pregnant wioth my right tube but nothing happens.

oo it is horrible. I cannot break news to hubbie until he gets back. He wont be back until midnight as he going to a works dinner. Maybe it is just as well, gives me time to digest the news. But I am so scared about the future, all I ever wantewd really was a family - and now I wonder if ever it will happen.

Any advice for how I should proceed? I do not want to simply rush into the next cycle without having any further checks and tests done to me. If an IVF fails what do doctors then start to check for?

Looking forward for advice on how to proceed and what I should say on 21st November.

Luv Bekki xxxx

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Bekki
I have my appt scheduled for Nov 14th and I have made a list of questions to ask the doc. More "Whats " than "whys". I don't know if it would be soon enough for you , but I will post the answers I got then. i hope somebody else with our experiance will post some ideas for us. I have auncomfortable pain on my lower right abdomen for the past few days -it feels like the pain I had before ER, but not that severe. I had called the nurse about it. Hey.. the nurse just called me back the it seems the doc to see me today itself and take a blood test and U/S. So I might have some answers for you today itself. Will update soon..

[bekkie31]

Well I had hot sweats last night and then a stitch sensation in my left side (about where you would normally get a stitch ) - I started to think I was getting Kidneystones or appendicitis (if appendix is on your left side!! ) - but then suddenly it stopped.

Looking forward to having AF and no longer sweating or having hot flushes during the night. Taking progesterone is a nightmare!!
Yes bubble please post your answers, and I will also post mine.

I also hope we get more ideas from people who have had many BFNS - and what sort of further tests were done etc..

Bekki xxx

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Iam back from the doc.they did a U/S and blood work (check infections) which all came back to be normal. This trip to doc was just waste of time n money!I called the nurse this morning to tell her abt the pain I had on my left abdomen and thats why they asked me to get there soon. Even b4 they did U'S , the doc told that I will have pain upto a month as my ovaries are still big and is normal. They could've told me this thru fon! I aske dher if my uterus was rejecting the embies and she said its just that I had bad embies!perfect answer without any tests..I have 2 embies frozen and she said I can do FET only in february as its required to have some time off between 2 IVF cyclesand who knows if those blastocycts are good enough! I said I want to do IUI and she said I can do that this cycle itself which is a relief to me as I don't want to take any time off from my treatment. She said she dont have time to discuss further as she squeezed me in today and will discuss more on nov 14th.Iam really mad at the doc now.we were told that the protocol for IUI is the same as IVF except for the last lab part.Today she says that its safe to take Clomid pill for stim rather than injectibles.If this was the case I would have done IUI in the first place rather than spend $15000!I felt like it was pure business for them.
My body is acting all wierd now. I am not a person who sweats a lot , but now - when I stopped PIO shots ,Iam sweating profusely and getting pimples which is just the opposite of many of you guys have! I have no idea what's going on. Inshort my trip to Doc today was useless.
I can't wait to get AF and start the IUI.If that did not work , I will do one more IUI and then FET. Iam not planning to stop that easy.

[bekkie31]

Well I am determined to be firm for before <i embark on the next IVF. I felt I was fobbed off actually - I wonder if these Docs are on commission for how many IVFs they mange to "sell". I am pretty sure they must be - not really caring about us, but about their money. That is how I have felt so far. but this time I will DEMAND a thorough investigation into my body. They are also too positive (I guess they have to be ) but so annoyingly positive to the extent that if youdare to show a feeling other than one of being positive about the treatment you are having. they just tell you off!!! I cried in one appointment and got no sympathy or comforting words at all! He was male (sorry, I know not all males are insensitive ).

Still, I have already prepared a list of questions to ask. I will want ANSWERS before I start next IVF. I have around 25 questions so far in the space of five minutes thinking - with still two weeks to go before appointment !! Just like your questions they are NOT about why it not happen but what we should do next and what I want to know about my body, before I go any further. I will have a small operation to see if right tube is blocked and whether or not the uterus is sick and rejecting embies e.g immunity, infection. If right tube is ok we have more options open - possible IUI if they can get the right side to ovulate (as I only have my right tube left ) and possible we could try GIFT. A bit like IVF but they put the embies back in the fallopian tube. Of course i would be terrified of another ectopic!!!

Just broke the news to my family and a couple of friends - hubbie is yet to find out - when he returns in a couple of hours from this dinner party.

I hope to have the little operation done before end of November. If not it will be in january, and then I will be looking at either IVF, GIFT or IUI for February. All I can say is this process takes a lot of strength and courage and like VIC says, not something for the weak at heart.

Somehow we´ll fight through.
Be FIRM on the 14th November. Don´t let them entice you into rushing headlong into another form of treatment without more tests!!! That is what I have also learnt from 1st BFN!!!!!

Commission, commission. commission , money, money money...

But not this time round Ha ha!!!

Bekki xxxx