Hi, All,
I have just got my beta test result, it is again negative (the 3rd IVF). I am very sad and want to cry now, but I am still at work…..
I will have to start with a new cycle again because I have only one frozen embryo and the chance for me to get pregnant is low because I have endometriosis.
I did HPT test two days ago and it was negative, I was very upset and had a very bad day, so I decided not to do another HPT. Now the blood test has confirmed that I am not pregnant.
Tried to call my husband, his phone has been always busy.
Thank you all very much for your wonderful messages.
So long.
ZhuBaoBao
-ive again! very down now
-ive again! very down now
Me 35 DH 35
1st IVF 29th March 2006 BFN
2nd IVF 05 July 2006 BFN
3nd IVF 04th Oct 2006 BFN
1st IVF 29th March 2006 BFN
2nd IVF 05 July 2006 BFN
3nd IVF 04th Oct 2006 BFN
I also just got a BFN. I am coping quite well - go the docs on 21st November for follow-up etc...
I just feel like I am to blame - it is now three days since I got the bad news.. each day seems to heal.. but I still have these funny dreams and keep waking up in the mornings thinking I have just dreamt everything.
I cannot understand it - the doctor said he was really sure he thought it would succeed - put it down to the fact I am still relatively young, have no bad habits etc...
I just do not know what to do to maximize chances should i ever have to repeat. Of course now I wish i had frozen some embryos, as I think maybe the whole procedure was too much of a strain on my body, which is why it failed. So if I do have to repeat it will have to ba a fresh cycle.
It is hard picking yourself up and to carry on. My follow-up is 21st November - what do the doctors say? after failed BFNs?
This whole thing has put me off for life and I am finding it difficult!!
Bekki xx
I just feel like I am to blame - it is now three days since I got the bad news.. each day seems to heal.. but I still have these funny dreams and keep waking up in the mornings thinking I have just dreamt everything.
I cannot understand it - the doctor said he was really sure he thought it would succeed - put it down to the fact I am still relatively young, have no bad habits etc...
I just do not know what to do to maximize chances should i ever have to repeat. Of course now I wish i had frozen some embryos, as I think maybe the whole procedure was too much of a strain on my body, which is why it failed. So if I do have to repeat it will have to ba a fresh cycle.
It is hard picking yourself up and to carry on. My follow-up is 21st November - what do the doctors say? after failed BFNs?
This whole thing has put me off for life and I am finding it difficult!!
Bekki xx
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First off I am sorry for your BFN. I just had my 3rd BFN and I am gutted. I have my follow up today so hopefully I will get some kind of news to figure out the problem......
Be strong and just remember what the prize is at the end of this journey.
Be strong and just remember what the prize is at the end of this journey.
LISAMARIE
Me 36 DH 31
April 2007 - BFP!!!!!
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Me 36 DH 31
April 2007 - BFP!!!!!
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I am sorry for all of you ladies who have recently received BFN's...I just got over my first cycle and had zero fertilization, so never made it to the stage you ladies did. So, you have made little successes through this processs, that maybe you haven't even realized...I know when I was feeling the lowest, I tried to think about who I was before all of this IF started, and realized, I will be okay. I have an identity and am not defined by my IF. Also, I realized how thankful I should be for the opportunity to even attempt this procedure. There are so many other couples that never have the opportunity to attempt IVF, and how fortunate I was. It didn't help every moment of the way, but it did help me put things in perspective from time to time. The tears and frustration of how life is so unfair still pop-up, but I bring myself back with these thoughts. I'm sure this is something you've already thought, but it gets through the rougher moments, so thought I would share. I might just be full of you-know-what, but there are moments when this helps. I am fortunate enough to have new hope for new beginnings in January, which took me several weeks to reach, but with each day, your spirit will be restored. Maybe not to its former self, but to a better more experienced self. Take care...
Charity
Me 37, DH 34
1st ICSI Oct-06 - No Fert
1st IUI w/Inj Jun-07 - BFPX2/MC
2nd IUI w/ Inj Mar-08 - BFN
3rd IUI w/Inj May-08 - Chem
4th IUI w/Inj Jul-08 - BFN
Dx Homo C677T MTHFR Mutation - Aug-08
New Hope W/New Dx & New RE For Feb-08 IUI
Me 37, DH 34
1st ICSI Oct-06 - No Fert
1st IUI w/Inj Jun-07 - BFPX2/MC
2nd IUI w/ Inj Mar-08 - BFN
3rd IUI w/Inj May-08 - Chem
4th IUI w/Inj Jul-08 - BFN
Dx Homo C677T MTHFR Mutation - Aug-08
New Hope W/New Dx & New RE For Feb-08 IUI
Thanks, I have also found a German chat forum too - as I am living in Germany with my German husband. I am also getting advice from others having treatment in Berlin, on whether or not I should change clinics. It is helping me get over it all, but I just feel my body is a failure, like it just cannot hold embryos at all. I feel I have let my hubbie down - I know the money loss has hit him hard. he is normally someone who is very careful with money and not really the kind of guy who could tolerate flushing 1000s of pounds down the drain. As we plan for a 5 day transfer the next time - it could mean we are left with no embryos to transfer as not many survive in the extended culture and of course the cost with be atleast 400 pounds more.
Its like ggambling and playing the lottery, dreadful.
Bekki
Its like ggambling and playing the lottery, dreadful.
Bekki
First, Bekki, I am sorry to hear that you have got a BFN on Friday. But I am glad to know that you have taken it very well.
I am also thinking whether I should change the clinic after 3 failed IVFs. But on the other hand, I am thinking that the doctors have got to know my problems with the time e.g. low response, implatation problem. If I change clinics, then the doctors will have to start again, I do not know.
One of colleagues just asked me why I have been very quiet since some time. I said I had been in the bad mood. Indeed, since I got the 3rd BFN, I have been very sad, worried and stressed. What makes it even worse is that I am alone for 3 weeks, so I just can not help thinking I might never get pregnant no matter how much I try.
I might start again with the 4th IVF this month, it depends on my body and the doctors. I do not whether it is soon because I got BFN on the 18th Oct.
Good Luck and Keep Ours Fringers Crossed!
ZhuBaoBao
I am also thinking whether I should change the clinic after 3 failed IVFs. But on the other hand, I am thinking that the doctors have got to know my problems with the time e.g. low response, implatation problem. If I change clinics, then the doctors will have to start again, I do not know.
One of colleagues just asked me why I have been very quiet since some time. I said I had been in the bad mood. Indeed, since I got the 3rd BFN, I have been very sad, worried and stressed. What makes it even worse is that I am alone for 3 weeks, so I just can not help thinking I might never get pregnant no matter how much I try.
I might start again with the 4th IVF this month, it depends on my body and the doctors. I do not whether it is soon because I got BFN on the 18th Oct.
Good Luck and Keep Ours Fringers Crossed!
ZhuBaoBao
Me 35 DH 35
1st IVF 29th March 2006 BFN
2nd IVF 05 July 2006 BFN
3nd IVF 04th Oct 2006 BFN
1st IVF 29th March 2006 BFN
2nd IVF 05 July 2006 BFN
3nd IVF 04th Oct 2006 BFN
Well I have the follow-up appointment on 21st Nov. I am not expecting he will be able to give me complete answers why it did not work, but he may have ideas. I will also insist for the next cycle that the thickness of the walls in the uterus is measured to ensure optimal implantation conditions. We will do a 5 day transfer. I will insist progesteron levels are closely monitorwed in the blood too.
1st step is the laproscopy to rule-out any other problems - this will get done by end of january. If I get bad results from the laproscopy and I find my right tube is blocked or the uterus is sick, then we will try second IVF in Feb.
I have spoken to some ladies on a german chatboard on the internet - some are also attending the same clinic as me in Berlin - some have the same feelings about the doctor as me, others say to give him a chance. I think I will wait to see what gets said on 21 Nov and how helpful he is in answering a few questions I have and then decide whether or not to change. The ladies have also provided me with names of other clinics which have a good reputation - so I will just have to wait until after 21st Nov.
It was a big shock for my hubbie and me - neither of us have ever gambled away that amount of money before and got nothing as the end result. As the days go by, I am feeling better. I am just determined to start to tackle this in a different way - not to stress myself into thinking time is running out, not to care who else is happily having babies and when and just to be a bit more positive even though it is hard. The fear is of course there, that I may never be a mum, but I am not prepared to give-up just yet.
Bekki
1st step is the laproscopy to rule-out any other problems - this will get done by end of january. If I get bad results from the laproscopy and I find my right tube is blocked or the uterus is sick, then we will try second IVF in Feb.
I have spoken to some ladies on a german chatboard on the internet - some are also attending the same clinic as me in Berlin - some have the same feelings about the doctor as me, others say to give him a chance. I think I will wait to see what gets said on 21 Nov and how helpful he is in answering a few questions I have and then decide whether or not to change. The ladies have also provided me with names of other clinics which have a good reputation - so I will just have to wait until after 21st Nov.
It was a big shock for my hubbie and me - neither of us have ever gambled away that amount of money before and got nothing as the end result. As the days go by, I am feeling better. I am just determined to start to tackle this in a different way - not to stress myself into thinking time is running out, not to care who else is happily having babies and when and just to be a bit more positive even though it is hard. The fear is of course there, that I may never be a mum, but I am not prepared to give-up just yet.
Bekki
Hi Becky, I am so sorry I have only just read about your BFN, I have been out of touch for a bit due to my family problems (FIL passed away on Monday) I am so so sorry for you, pm me if you ever need to chat xxx
I am also very sorry to hear about everyone's BFN's on this thread, keep up the PMA and good luck to you all x
Angellica xx
I am also very sorry to hear about everyone's BFN's on this thread, keep up the PMA and good luck to you all x
Angellica xx
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Me 27/DH 37
Salpingectomy/Cystectomy - 1999
IVF - 2001 BFN
ICSI 2003 - BFN
ICSI, AH, ED Nov 06-BFP!! 1 twin lost @ 8wks
Me 27/DH 37
Salpingectomy/Cystectomy - 1999
IVF - 2001 BFN
ICSI 2003 - BFN
ICSI, AH, ED Nov 06-BFP!! 1 twin lost @ 8wks
Angellica!!
Nice to hear from you after so long - sorry I have not been in touch either for a while either and sorry to have heard about the family troubles you have had.
It is around 2 weeks now since I got the bad news - and I am coping really well. Infact I am back to my usual happy, chirpy self - (something which I thought would never happen!). Nothing helped me get over it all except time - and as each day passes I feel heaps better. My husband has been an amazing mountain of strength throughout, showing that we can both really cope when the going gets VERY tough. It was a test for us both - something I thought would tear us apart - but I was proven wrong!
I will let everyone know how my follow-up appointment goes on Tuesday 21st November with the doctor. But befor embarking on another IVF attempt - I will be having a laproscopy and various other tests.
Will be in touch soon,
Bekki xx
TTC since our marriage in 2000
Ectopic pregnancy 2005 - resulting in removal of left tube
1st IVF October 2006 - BFN
Nice to hear from you after so long - sorry I have not been in touch either for a while either and sorry to have heard about the family troubles you have had.
It is around 2 weeks now since I got the bad news - and I am coping really well. Infact I am back to my usual happy, chirpy self - (something which I thought would never happen!). Nothing helped me get over it all except time - and as each day passes I feel heaps better. My husband has been an amazing mountain of strength throughout, showing that we can both really cope when the going gets VERY tough. It was a test for us both - something I thought would tear us apart - but I was proven wrong!
I will let everyone know how my follow-up appointment goes on Tuesday 21st November with the doctor. But befor embarking on another IVF attempt - I will be having a laproscopy and various other tests.
Will be in touch soon,
Bekki xx
TTC since our marriage in 2000
Ectopic pregnancy 2005 - resulting in removal of left tube
1st IVF October 2006 - BFN