My Ivf Friends.....
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LISA@BELLASALES
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My Ivf Friends.....
So I have crumbled and I am attending an adoption seminar next Friday. DH thinks I have given up, and maybe part of me has but I just want to know what my options are and what is in store for me if I can't get pregnant. I am still going to do the cycles as I have 9 Frosties. I am just disgusted. I just want to be a Mommy. We are thinking of going to Russia. I am afraid to adopt from the states as the Mother has 90 days to change her mind. I dont think I can handle that. Dh has agreed to come to the seminar, But I know he is reluctant about it. I just cried all day and he felt bad, so I guess that changed his mind. I wish there was a reason behind all these failed cycles but so far nothing. They say they think it is Anuploidy. I read an interesting article regarding IVF yesyerday and it says that 60% of IVF eggs are Abnormal. That is a very high number. I guess I haven't found the 1 yet. Well thanks for letting me vent.
LISAMARIE
Me 36 DH 31
April 2007 - BFP!!!!!
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Lisa...Lisa...Lisa....let me ask you....why are you so negative???
this is one of the reasons why we've getting all this failures.....man....my wife is just like you,.......did you say that you have 9 frozen embryos??
at least you've got something ,we aint got nothing.....ok so maybe your body for some reason is rejecting
your embys ......what if.....some one will carried for you??some one in the family or a good friend that will be pregnant for you?????
look i know is hard and is soooo....difficult ..but we've got to be strong ,and find any solution possible,including adoptions ......
but...this is what i think anyways
this is one of the reasons why we've getting all this failures.....man....my wife is just like you,.......did you say that you have 9 frozen embryos??
at least you've got something ,we aint got nothing.....ok so maybe your body for some reason is rejecting
your embys ......what if.....some one will carried for you??some one in the family or a good friend that will be pregnant for you?????
look i know is hard and is soooo....difficult ..but we've got to be strong ,and find any solution possible,including adoptions ......
but...this is what i think anyways
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us
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AuntyPebbles
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Hi Lisa its good to see you i do wish it was for different reasons but here we are...i don't see it as crumbling i think it will do you some good to move forward in a positive direction we are also looking into adoption/fostering i couldn't take any more fretting about what if this doesn't work for us i needed something i could do to help make us a family and i think adoption is a wonderful idea...we are looking at our options right now... although i still pray for you that your little one/s are in your 9 frosties you know i wish you luck whatever direction you take, i may need to pick your brains i know your in NY also that's if you don't mind.
Tony it is so good to see you im so sorry your wife is still upset but she has been through an awful lot i know you have too you sound in a very strong place right now...please send your wife a hug and a prayer from me i hope things turn around for you soon...
love Aunty
Tony it is so good to see you im so sorry your wife is still upset but she has been through an awful lot i know you have too you sound in a very strong place right now...please send your wife a hug and a prayer from me i hope things turn around for you soon...
love Aunty
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LISA@BELLASALES
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Tony,
First off, Yes I am very blessed to have 9 frosties to try, and I am sorry to those who have nothing to spare. But a note to all, more is not better when it comes to IVF. The more you make the more abnormal ones there are going to be. My Husband feels the same way as you do.
After 3 failed attempts, negative is only natural. I am not giving up but I am looking into other options. Please send your wife a hug from me. Don't be too hard on her, I know you are going through this with her but it is alittle different when you feel like you are the cause of not be able to complete the family. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Aunty,
I too am praying that 1 of these 9 are the one, but if not I want to be prepared for what is ahead of us. Adoption is very expensive and I need to know if we can do it. At what point do we stop torturing ourselves with all these medications and heartbreaks time & time again? I don't know where my breaking point is, but at 35 I need to have some direction.
I do however believe that God has a plan for all of us, and if my child is in another part of the world then I will get the sign to go get him. Infertility is heartbreaking, financially draining and can lead to serious problems in a marriage. Am I negative NO. Realistic is more like it. I am hurt, Sad, Disgusted, Jealous, And feel like I have the right to be. $25,000.00 out of my pocket and no baby. Do I spend another $25,000 and then have no money to adopt.
I am sorry for the negativity but this is just how I feel right now, and I am sure I am not alone.
Love to all.
First off, Yes I am very blessed to have 9 frosties to try, and I am sorry to those who have nothing to spare. But a note to all, more is not better when it comes to IVF. The more you make the more abnormal ones there are going to be. My Husband feels the same way as you do.
After 3 failed attempts, negative is only natural. I am not giving up but I am looking into other options. Please send your wife a hug from me. Don't be too hard on her, I know you are going through this with her but it is alittle different when you feel like you are the cause of not be able to complete the family. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Aunty,
I too am praying that 1 of these 9 are the one, but if not I want to be prepared for what is ahead of us. Adoption is very expensive and I need to know if we can do it. At what point do we stop torturing ourselves with all these medications and heartbreaks time & time again? I don't know where my breaking point is, but at 35 I need to have some direction.
I do however believe that God has a plan for all of us, and if my child is in another part of the world then I will get the sign to go get him. Infertility is heartbreaking, financially draining and can lead to serious problems in a marriage. Am I negative NO. Realistic is more like it. I am hurt, Sad, Disgusted, Jealous, And feel like I have the right to be. $25,000.00 out of my pocket and no baby. Do I spend another $25,000 and then have no money to adopt.
I am sorry for the negativity but this is just how I feel right now, and I am sure I am not alone.
Love to all.
LISAMARIE
Me 36 DH 31
April 2007 - BFP!!!!!
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April 2007 - BFP!!!!!
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Lisamarie..Hang in there girl. I understand the emotions going into this. This is our first fresh IVF cycle.We have the ET this Sunday. Before we began this thing I told my husband something has to give..So we started this whole IVF thing as well as got the ball rolling with adoption. We are active in a "waiting pool". We have the homestudy and everything done for domestic. It seems to have relaxed me thru this IVF roller coaster. I know something good will happen. If nothing happens within the year we will switch to international adoption. Dont forget you get a 10,000 tax credit when the adoption is final. I would suggest you visit a few different adoption agencies to see who fits you the best. You may find that it will take the edge off while trying to make your decision. Adoption is a wonderful option for those of us that can not have our own children.
We have 11 that fert with EC on 11/21 and ET on 11/26. Still keep the hope and faith. Something will work out!!
Hang in there and enjoy the adoption seminar. It will be very enlightening.
We have 11 that fert with EC on 11/21 and ET on 11/26. Still keep the hope and faith. Something will work out!!
Hang in there and enjoy the adoption seminar. It will be very enlightening.
Janine
9/05 Clomid M/C Boy 19 wks 1/06
8/06 IUI BFN
11/06 1st IVF BFN
1/07 FET BFP Its a BOY!!!
Lukas Born Oct 8 2007 8lb 15 oz
9/05 Clomid M/C Boy 19 wks 1/06
8/06 IUI BFN
11/06 1st IVF BFN
1/07 FET BFP Its a BOY!!!
Lukas Born Oct 8 2007 8lb 15 oz
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LISA@BELLASALES
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Hi Lisa ...i think that if your doctors have frozen 9 emby's for you this means that they have a very good chanse to make a grate progress...
why would they frozen other wise??....so keep your spirit up......and think positive.........hey you newer konw .....
Aunty hi....my wife and i are doing ok.....we're thinking to have an other try....so we shell see.......and yes i must agree with Lisa that it is really expensive when we talk about ivf cost........and yet.......no babys.....
well you know at time i'm also very negative about this ...with is bad
why would they frozen other wise??....so keep your spirit up......and think positive.........hey you newer konw .....
Aunty hi....my wife and i are doing ok.....we're thinking to have an other try....so we shell see.......and yes i must agree with Lisa that it is really expensive when we talk about ivf cost........and yet.......no babys.....
well you know at time i'm also very negative about this ...with is bad
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us
Lisa!
I wish you well in whatever your heart tells you what to do... We would like to have another child but wanting one and what God has in store for you may be two different things... Just because you didn't carry a baby for 9 months doesn't make you less of mommy than one who carried the love in her heart for many months while the adoption process takes place.... Two of my very good friends traveled to the Ukranine last year and brought back 4 siblings. Ollie 6, Anna 5 and twins LuLa and Rusie 3 and they are the most beautiful children that I have ever seen. Keep the faith and whatever happens you will be a mommy.
Thoughts to you,Jodi
I wish you well in whatever your heart tells you what to do... We would like to have another child but wanting one and what God has in store for you may be two different things... Just because you didn't carry a baby for 9 months doesn't make you less of mommy than one who carried the love in her heart for many months while the adoption process takes place.... Two of my very good friends traveled to the Ukranine last year and brought back 4 siblings. Ollie 6, Anna 5 and twins LuLa and Rusie 3 and they are the most beautiful children that I have ever seen. Keep the faith and whatever happens you will be a mommy.
Thoughts to you,Jodi
Lisa,
I have seen you throughout the forum and even prayed hard during your 2ww. I agree with you on moving forward. After our devastating ET we had decided to look into adoption. We knew of a girl about 12 years old that the mother was pregnant again and wanted to find a good home for the older one. As it turned out, we managed to get pregnant. We have decided not to adopt her because my mother in law wants to do this. She decided to adopt the girl because many years ago, my MIL adopted the girl's mother and raised her. For my MIL it was a way of showing her love to the mother. Plus the little girl will have two adults who live just for her and can give her individual attention. However, we are still open to adopting another child if the right one comes along.
On a side note, maybe for your next FET you should consider a natural cycle. I have been reading more and more about using the body's natural cycle to prepare the lining for the embies. Maybe this will be the key to your sucess. There are new advances everyday and you never know what might happen tomorrow! Stay strong Lisa!
I have seen you throughout the forum and even prayed hard during your 2ww. I agree with you on moving forward. After our devastating ET we had decided to look into adoption. We knew of a girl about 12 years old that the mother was pregnant again and wanted to find a good home for the older one. As it turned out, we managed to get pregnant. We have decided not to adopt her because my mother in law wants to do this. She decided to adopt the girl because many years ago, my MIL adopted the girl's mother and raised her. For my MIL it was a way of showing her love to the mother. Plus the little girl will have two adults who live just for her and can give her individual attention. However, we are still open to adopting another child if the right one comes along.
On a side note, maybe for your next FET you should consider a natural cycle. I have been reading more and more about using the body's natural cycle to prepare the lining for the embies. Maybe this will be the key to your sucess. There are new advances everyday and you never know what might happen tomorrow! Stay strong Lisa!
Racheal Matos
1st IVF - Oct 06 - BFP It's A GIRL!
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Lisa I'm so sorry for you that you feeling so bad, so empty. I felt every time after every treatment when I faulted.
I want to try another two IUI in January and April and one and last IVF in July or August, but this time in a clinic in Turkey where a lot of women from my contry went and a lot of them have succeses after several years.
Since now I'm prepared, after all of this, to adopt a baby, and I'm happy since now for this choice.
But when at least you accept something to be, mayby there it is.
Love you
Lisa I'm so sorry for you that you feeling so bad, so empty. I felt every time after every treatment when I faulted.
I want to try another two IUI in January and April and one and last IVF in July or August, but this time in a clinic in Turkey where a lot of women from my contry went and a lot of them have succeses after several years.
Since now I'm prepared, after all of this, to adopt a baby, and I'm happy since now for this choice.
But when at least you accept something to be, mayby there it is.
Love you
me 37 DH 47
1 IVF(ICSI) 2004 Failed
2 IVF(ICSI) 2004 failed
3 IVF 2005 failed
FET january 2006 failed
IUI september failed
1 IVF(ICSI) 2004 Failed
2 IVF(ICSI) 2004 failed
3 IVF 2005 failed
FET january 2006 failed
IUI september failed