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alypraying
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Post by alypraying »

Oh Kathryn I really thought this was it, I'm so sorry and understand your anger. Don't feel upset for feeling sorry for yourself you are entitled to grieve. I hope you and DH can find some comfort and strength from each other and take some time to decide what you do next. My thoughts are with you both.<br>Lots of love<br>Aly<br>xx
ttc for 7 years 1 year clomid positive pg miscarried at 5wks
1st ivf poor egg quality -ve
4IUI all -ve 3 months clomid -ve
donor eggs didn't make it to transfer. 4 embies frozen waiting for go ahead for FET October 2004
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Kat
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Post by Kat »

This is not fair. None of it is fair. I really thought this would be your time this time. Everyone else has said everything already so I won't say it again but you know it will get better and you know you are strong and you will come through this and start again. <br>Take care of yourself and DH <br>Lots of love<br>Kat xx
Me & DH both 41
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
Traci
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Post by Traci »

Oh Im so sorry , IT ISNT FAIR at all What can I say , no words will make you feel better, Thinking of you both.<br>Trace x :(
1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
Wibbs
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Post by Wibbs »

So Sorry about your news....and your'e right it's not fair.....please never give up hope....<br>There is nothing anyone can say to help ease the pain, but you will get thru it.<br><br>Your turn will come.<br>Take care and a big HUG<br>Love<br>Wibbs<br>xx
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Post by gem »

Kathryn<br>So SORRY to hear your news,it just isnt fair.<br>Thinking about you both<br>Love Gem xx
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Post by Clara 1 »

<br>Kathryn, I am so very very sorry. This is all so horrible and unfair. I was really hoping it would work for you this time. Glad to hear you've got friends around you. I know you're pretty resilient from being a JCB with you, and I hope in a while you'll feel better and be ready for another go. Until then, look after yourselves,<br><br>Thinking of you both and sending you lots of love, and big hugs<br><br>Claire x <br><br>
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Post by Dawn Blake »

Ohhh Kathryn, I am so sorry, I really thought it was your time.<br><br>You feel as sorry for yourself as you want, self-pity is a good thing, and after all you have been through it is the least you can do.<br><br>Whatever you decide to do next, be it jump straight back on or take a break and have an alcoholic Christmas, you know we will all be here for you.<br><br>Thinking of you and DH, sending you lots of love and a big hug each.<br><br>You take care, and if you need anything, please don't hesitate to email.<br><br>D x
Me 34, DH, 37. Married for 11 years, ttc for 6+, failed 4 x fresh IVF tmts. 5th attempt at Lister Hospital gave us Megan on 5 April 2004 with a very straightforward pregnancy and labour. Attempt number 6 to start hopefully September 2007!
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Post by BelB »

Dear FET buddy,<br>Sending you my thoughts and support, so sorry that this has happened, is a bloody awful thing.<br>Belinda
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Post by Alison »

Dear Kathryn - I'm so sorry to read your news. Like others, I really hoped that this would be your time, and understand exactly about wondering, "will it ever be me?" You've been here before, you know how hard it is, but that as time goes on it gets slightly less hard, and that sooner than you expect you'll be eager to try again. But just at the moment feel free to have a good cry and scream at the world for being so unfair. <br><br>With much love<br><br>Alison x
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Post by Jo Locker »

Sorry you had a negative again Kathryn. None of us can understand why some people it works for and some it doesn't, it's just so unfair and sad.<br><br>You ARE grateful for what you have, but that doesnt mean its not normal to yearn for what you so desperately want too! Women especially cannot help but feel this longing, its biological and inescapable so dont feel guilty.<br><br>Thinking of you and your DH and wishing you comfort but I know its not easy. Love, Jo. XXXXXx
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Post by Karen W »

Hi Kathryn,<br><br>Just to add to the sentiments of the other girls who have posted, I am so sorry for you and DH. Having been through 1 m/c and 5 failed cycles I do know a little how you feel. Life is a b*tch sometimes, and very unfair.<br><br>I might be teaching grandmother to suck eggs, but have you had any further test other than the basics? <br><br>I have just had a letter from the consultant who I was referred to about<br><br>"the emerging field of reproductive haemostasis and the increasingly recognised role of components of the haemostatic pathways in embryonic implantation" <br><br>which I think is referring to the role of clotting agents in m/c and failure to implant (see my thread recurrent m/c and IVF failure). Plus there are other girls who have had test for NK cells. <br><br>Right now, with all those hormones and emotions flooding your body, it is difficult to see very far, but when you are able to pick yourself up again, it might be worth further investigations. <br><br>Sending you lots of love and hugs<br><br>Karen<br>xx
Me 33 DH 34
1 clomid preg m/c @12 weeks
5(!) failed IVF cyles, 4 with Blastos
Will be on Heparin next cycle
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Lisa Ch
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Post by Lisa Ch »

Kathryn<br><br>I am so sorry to read your news. I can only ditto what everybody else has said. It is just one of the worst feelings of emptiness and I think the only people who understand fully are those who have been through it themselves. Please feel free to rant and rave and be as open as you like, that is why we are all here.<br><br>Lots of love to you and dh<br><br>Lisa xx
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Post by JackieT »

kathryn<br>i was so sorry to read your post tonight, there is nothing anyone can say to take away the anger and pain and total frustration from you and DH, but you know the saying..... where theres a will theres a way... and your turn will come....you have to believe that..<br>but, do take a break,just to restock that strenght and positive thoughts that you have got inside, i will be keeping an eye out for you and i know the others will also.<br>please take care love jackie xxx
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Post by Nicky Dean »

Oh Kathryn<br><br>I have just come into work, what can I say but i'm so sorry I really wanted this to work for you and have been thinking about you all week.<br>Just want to say please dont give up, take some time out for yourself and you DH, have lots of treats you deserve them.<br>Please keep talking and posting on here, just so we know your OK.<br>lOTS OF LOVE, TAKE CARE<br>Nicky xxxxxxxxxxxx
Kate W
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Post by Kate W »

Kathryn<br>I am so sorry to here your terrible news. You poor thing - you have been through such a lot and have provided the most amazing support to everyone else on the boards, it just does not seem right that it has not worked for you.<br>You are such a good person, I hope this does not mean that you feel that it is time to give up as you obviously have such a lot to give to a little baby. Thinking of you in what must be such a tough time for you both.<br>Lots of hugs and thoughts<br>Take care of yourself<br>Kate
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