December-January Cycle Buddy's Our New beginnings

[sassynlv]

ssalgado: Wow. Can't imagine how hard this must be for you right now with your father and IVF. Don't have much advice for you, not having been in a similar situation, but lending you tons of support. I agree w/Mia... if you can go into the FET w/a sense of peace (despite the sadness) about what is happening to your father, then i say go ahead. But only you can determine that. Either way, you and your father are in my prayers. We are here for you!

Mia: Good luck tomorrow!!

[AuntyPebbles]

TESTING TODAY

TWW
Angie65...FET Testing 11th2 Embies Snuggling in
Carolyn...IVF Testing 12th3 Embies Snuggling in
Jaby...IVF Testing ???? Embies in waiting
Hopeful-in-LV...IVF EC today

IN OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS AS YOU MOVE FORWARD
Dory so sorry wishing you well in the future
Gbnut in our thoughts and prayers

STIMMING

Sokru8...IVF...9th December... EC WooHoo
Becleo...IVF...9th/10th? December... Poss EC WooHoo
Sassynlv...IVF...9th/10th December... EC 17 Follies so far
SSalgado...FET...11th December... Transfer
Jordan...FET...21st December... Transfer
Julie2039...IVF...7th December... Start Stimming


HAVING WARM MOMENTS
amcsmith...FET...2nd December....... Lupron (4th/5th January Transfer)
Sanny...IVF...22nd November.......
TransRN...FET...26th December....... Start stimms(On Lupron)12th Jan pos ET)
TCBalgord...IVF...13th December still praying.injection class(On BC)(24th start stimming)

COUNT DOWN
BabyBlue...IVF...12th December....... Start BC(Lupron 3rd Jan)
ArizonaKiwi...IVF...13th December....... Planning Appointment at clinic
Vickie...IVF...15th December....... Start Down Reg
Macca...IVF...16th December....... Start Down Reg (4th Jan start stimming)
Fed7281...IVF...18th December....... Start BC (20th Dec NP meeting)
Haylie...FET...??st December....... (waiting for AF)Start Downregging
Ems1971...IVF...21st December....... start Buserelin
Lori...IVF...24th December....... Start Stimming
Lara312...FET...28th December....... Start Downregging
JackieG...IVF...29th December....... Start Stimming
Mominwaiting...IVF...??th December....... Start Downregging
Aunty...IVF...2nd January....... Baseline
Paula...FET...10th January....... Possible Transfer?
Shantala...IVF...10th January....... Open Day at clinic

WAITING FOR START DATES
Mrs M.......??? November ......waiting for app from new clinic
HelloKitty.....Dec/Jan ....... FET
Mom20....11th December ..Appointment at clinic
Sully.....8th January....... Meeting with Dr
Jemima.....?? January.......New Cycle start
Tony.....?? January.......New Cycle start
Michela.....?? January.......1st Cycle start
Nimble.....Jan/Feb....... Start new Cycle
Souris.....Jan/Feb....... Start new Cycle
Charity.....Jan/Feb....... Start new Cycle
BigWhiteHapyDog.....Jan/Feb....... Start new Cycle

BABY DUST TO OUR FEBRUARY BUDDIES
Charity
Bigwhitehapydog

Birthday Count Down
JackieG..23rd December,Lori...28th December,Aunty....8th February,Nimble.....7th March,Shantala.....9th March,Angie.....20th March,Becleo.....3rd April

[ssalgado]

Becleo, Sassy, Hopeful and Aunty

Thank you so much for the words and the support it is well needed , i will try to update as i can tomorrow i do have my us and blood work to check the linning at 7am i will probably update from the office since that is my "hiding place" now where i can try to keep my mind away from everything that is going on...

I will mention it to my Dr tomorrow but i will continue with the process till i can. So wish me luck tomorrow and for Monday Dec 11 for my Transfer and prayers for my dad...

Thank you
Susette

[lara312]

Susette so sorry that you have more stress to deal with now hope that your u/s goes well today will be thinking of you and your dad we are all here for you if you need us.
Mia good luck for ec today hope they get loads of lovley eggies hope its pain free .
Wil write more after work hugs to everyone
love Rachel x x

[Angie65]

Hi Ladies,

Bec - bluck! bluck! (sound of chicken laying egg!) - don't lay one just yet! You are on your way - look forward to hearing when is EC for you.

tcbalgord - hope hubby feeling better and your cramping has eased.

ssalgado - I am sorry to hear about your dad. Look after yourself during this time and if you do decide to postpone, that little frostie's not going anyway - he/she is safe where he/she is. Personally I could not cope with anything else - the 2ww is stressful enough (see earlier crazy posts from me) but whatever you decide will be right for you.

Sonja and Mia - heaps of luck for your EC's.


Update - still spotting, still being tormented by threat of AF - tmi here but the pessary is also tormenting me, as it melts and turns into light coloured fluid too - god what a soap opera this is turning into. Anyway - HPT for me tomorrow morning - hanging in there - thanks for being here guys. A XX

[gbnut]

Angie glad the relaxation worked for you and that you are feeling more relaxed. Your bleeding is impantation bleeding. You must stay positive. I was notty and did a test the on tue and it was negative so i did sucome to the evil tests!!!! All the best the wait is nearly over.

Carolyn Hope you are doing ok and continuing to rest.

Jaby hope you are also resting.

Mia best of luck today.

ssalgado sorry about your dad. You do have a difficult decision to make. WOuld it be really hard to pospone your FET until the new year when hopeflly you will be less stressed. You want to be able to give these little embryos the best change. But havng said that there is never a good time.

Thank you all for your kind messages, they mean a lot to James and myself.

Life sucks at times but we must carry on. I want to continue with the rollercoaster and do a fresh cycle as soon as possible but James wants to have a bit of break as he feels that i need time to come to terms with things. I just feel that if i dont carry on i will fall to pieces. I like to have a plan i.e do a fresh cycle in a few months and then i can carry on. It is hard to explain. Also thinking of moving clinics ( you all probably think i am mad) but my last fresh cycle cost us nearly £12000 with all the drugs and things. I dont now if we could afford that again. I am thinking of acu at uch in London as it has good results as well, but dont know if they do much about NKcells. However i did not have IVIG with the FET ( dont know why) and at my follow up from fresh cycle the Dr said that the IVIG had not worked . James does not really want to talk about it at the moment so i am i a dilemma about what to do.... I also found the intensity of everything at ARGC quite hard especially with the double blood tests and then no changes to meds. I know they are the best but what should i do .

Any suggestions?? Anyone been to ACU??

Hope everyone is OK sorry for a me post but will do personals later.

Susan x

[AuntyPebbles]

Good Morning Lady's
Susan.i think your amazing even in your disappointment your here giving support to everyone else shows how lucky we are to have you. I completely get where your coming from i agree with you though i know the money thing is a nightmare and i hate the fact we have to make these important decisions based on finances i would look into another clinic see what they have to say maybe a fresh approach is just what you need i think your cycle was very expensive when i first read it i thought oh that's about what mines costs then i realized its in pounds wowser i think its hard for our husbands to watch us go through this and not be able to fix it for us i think sometimes we forget the emotional attachment they have to the embies too its different for us we get all the signs from our body's that it hasn't worked maybe in some way it helps prepare us a little .. we are here for you to come talk about anything you need to, i pray for a sign to point you in the right direction....hugs

Angie still praying hard for you, i can only imagine what your going through when i read about the pesseries it made me pleased i get the shots i have heard those things are a nightmare i hope your HPT shows a +ive for you i really do sending love hugs

Mia wishing you a smooth EC and many healthy eggies please know we will all be thinking of you sweat drug induced dreams

love to all Aunty

[tcbalgord]

Susan, I am inclined to say that both and you and James are right. You need to do whatever your heart tells you to. However, you need to really listen to your heart and make sure your mind is not tellling it what to think. Confusing I know; but I also think that maybe you might need to "feel" it, to regroup, to let yourself fall to pieces. There is no shame in any of that and it doesn't make you less of a person. Like you I have to have a plan for everything. So maybe your plan is just that you know in a few months you will try again, it's still a plan.
Money is always an issue and possibly switching clinics is what you need. So possibly just the act of researching clinics and finding the best one should be your focus right now. Let your body, mind, heart, and soul rest sweetie, you will be that much stronger then when your dream does come true.

SS...my prayers go out to you, everyone else has already said it best, just follow your heart.

hopeful, good luck today I look forward to hearing how it all goes. Big hugs.

jaby, how did it go for you yeaterday? My thoughts and prayers are with you.

As for me I am feeling all better this morning and ready to getting ready for the party Saturday. Sticky baby dust to you all!

Christine

[JackieG]

Well, I just made an appt for accupuncture!!! Im very excited about it but dont know what to expect.... Any help would be great!!
Please share any experience you had with it as I only have 3 weeks before I start cycling again.

Susan, take some time before you make a decision. I know how you feel about wanting to go straight away, Good luck and big hugs to you and DH.

Christine, Hows DH? Hope he's better. Have fun at the party Sat.

Aunty, Great list!! think you are waiting for my B-day. Its Dec 23rd.

Love,
Jackie

[shantala]

good afternoon all

in my lunch hour so i thought i would quickly catch up.

aunty - designing baby shower invitations - how cool!! will you do mine one day?? (i'm being serious - i'll obviously pay for them and the shipping to the uk!!). also, if you're serious about needing someone to fill you in when you do EC/ET then i'll do it you'll have to show me how to do it though! thats providing, of course, that mine isnt at the same time. which it will be now that i've offered. lol. it's so nice to see your ticker count down in days and not months anymore. way to go!!

sok - its so horrible when things get delayed but just keep thinking that the better your body is prepared = the better the embies' home = the better the result!!! BFP!!!!!! chin up, not long now!

angie - of course there is hope honey!! dont give up and keep that PMA!! let us know how you get on with your hpt tomorrow. omg, i'm so excited!! bring that bfp on angie!!!

tc - so sorry to hear about your dh. send him my hugs!! also hugs for you and keeping on a brave face. it will all be worth it in the end!! xx

ss - so sorry to hear about your situation with your dad. many people have said it - follow your gut instict. on the one hand i think i would delay the ET as you want to be as little stressed as possible but on the other hand i think one can help you deal with the other. does that make sense? if you have other major things to focus on then that can help sometimes. i admit though i think i would delay. whatever you'll decide we'll be behind you and giving your all the support we can! sorry i hope my waffling made sense.

bec - sorry hunny, i didnt realise it was your 5th attempt!! you know why i thought it was your 1st coz its your first time on here isnt it?? thats what made me think it was your first attempt. sorry! good to hear about your aching ovaries...they're making lots of half babies!! woohoo! good luck with your US and BW tomorrow. let us know how you go. xx

hopeful - good luck with your ER!!! but sorry to hear about yesterday. lots of hugs coming your way. (did you get them?? ) let us know how you get on when you can.

gbnut - i understand your dilemma but personally i think i would prefer to have something to look forward to. i love plans!! but then again, i've never been in that situation so i really dont know. but i think thats what i would feel like. again, whatever you decide to do - you know where we are!! i'm also quite amazed at your fee that you have had to pay! ouch!! we're paying £3800 which includes ICSI and meds. it doesnt include freezing so we've paid another £210 for the sperm freeze and will pay another £500 ish for embryo freezing if any are left/ but that still only about £4500, not £12000!! what did that include, if you dont mind me asking??

carolyn - how you doing hunny?? i bet the weather isnt really helping!! but not long now and we cant wait to hear your good news!!

xxx

[gbnut]

Shantala

ARGC is very very expensive. The actual icsi was only 4500 which is more than most but not too bad but this does not include drugs. Also had to pay for initial immune testing which was £ 960. Then i had to have IVIG which was £2000. Also had to have clexane, dexamethasone and gestone which ended up being £300 for two weeks and i had to have that twice. Plus at ARGC you have to pay for blood tests and that is everyday and on second week it is twice a day which ended up being £ 90 a day. Once i got my BFP i had to have follow up immune tests which was £360 and Also it costs more to take them to blasts and also i had 4 frozen. it just all adds up!!!!!! But the clinic has the best stats i the UK. But moral of storey is you are ok if you dont have immune issues which unfortunaely i do, so implantation is really hard for me as my body fights anything that comes into it.

Susan x

[ssalgado]

Good Morning!!

I went to my us/and blood work this am, my linning has the 3 layers and is measuring 5.3? the thing is that the nurse said that it is withing the range but in a thin side it needs to thick a little more but that is why will be starting the progesterone this evening hopefully if blood work reveal that my levels are ok, she should be calling me this afternoon for the results and instructions.

On my dad there is no changes so far not for the good or bad.

some personals;

Lara3112- Thank you for the support and good luck to you.

Angie65- hang in there don't give up hope, keep positive, prayers for you as well, i know the 2ww are crazy believe i went thru that once on my first ICSI- IVF and was lucky enough to got pregnant on my 1st cycle fingers cross for this FET single one...

gbnut- thank you, and you are right there is never a good time, so i am going to continue forward and just pray for my little one and my Dad .

tcbalgord- thank you, we need a lot of prayers for my Dad and my little embryo.

Shantala- we bot have almost he same thinking because that is i was telling my hubby that at least my mind is focus in something else besides my sad decisions on my Dad and everything that he is going thru, and hopefully it will work my only concern like i said is the stress but i am trying to keep my self pretty calm i am coming to work everyday so that takes time from my mind and like Aunty said that it touched my heart that this might be the little angel that will look up after my father it will be my little angel to remind me how strong i was and all the strenght that he/she gave me through this difficult moments. Just want my baby to be healthy!!!!

Thank you for all the kind words for the rest of the ladies...

Carolyn- i know u are testing on Dec 11 on my FET good luck let us know

Susette

[becleo]

ok gotta be quick, but wanted to pop in.

Hopeful- GOOD LUCK IN ER!!! i hope it went well with you!!! and hope not too uncomfy~! relax and recoop!

Aunty-


SS- hugs to you today!

Angie- how are you doing sweetie? BFP thoughts to you!!!!!!!!!!!!
no eggs laying yet !! getting close! ahh honey I am praying for you!!!!

Susan- I do to think checking out a different clinic might be good for you too, it does seem so expensive, ahh I am sorry for this crap that we have to go through and you are strong, remember to give yourself time, you wll feel so much stronger mentally and physically. itis hard, and you will get there .. thinking of you both!

Jackie- so jealous, I LOVE ACCUPUNCTURE. i will be going next week before and after ET!!!! it is great, really helps me on all different aspects, but I love the feeling of groundedness... it is awesome

Shantala- no worries. each time has been a rollercoaster and getting thru them surprising myself how strong I am becoming.

so my US & BW went awesome this am. waiting to hear from the nurse so I will post once I hear. BUT eggies all around! looking really good. should have ER in 4-5 days!
yippee. hear I come!

love to all.
Bec

[CarolynB]

Dear Ladies

Firstly sorry. Have been trying to keep myself busy but not stressed. Failing badly. So not been here for a few days. And now my PC will not let me access page 69 so sorry if I miss anything crucial.

Haylie - I am jigging for you to get AF. She never shows when you want her too

Sonya - you are so close. Keeping everything crossed for you

Susette - So sorry to read about your Dad. I am sure that he would want you to carry on and get your little one back home for him. Sending you hugs. Decide what ever feels right for you

Shantala - with Xmas and the XFactor, it will be Jan before you know it!

Rachel - would you like to shop 4 me!!!? Have the hardest people still left to do..............like my nephew who wants nothing when his older sister could buy everything in Top Shop!!!!

Hopeful - so hope that ER went well for you & you are resting up well. Take good care. Your little beanies will be back where they belong v soon

Bec - I had acu before and after ET. It made me so chilled out. Even when we had to wait nearly 1 hour at the clinic to find out the state of our embryos and when full of water! It really did help me on the day. I just need every day of 2ww!!!! Great news on your eggs which are growing great

Jackie - I am a big fan of acu. have been having every fortnight since my BFN. Has calmed me down and made my AF more regular. During tmt it helped me cope with the drugs better and also made me more relaxed on day of ET. I certainly rate

Christine - Hope that dh is finally felling better

Susan - ARGC has such an amazing reputation because of the stats but I have heard all the things that you say too. Expensive. Intensive. Factory Farming. My dh and I have said that I will do 1 cycle there before I give up but it will likely be our last role of the dice. I am at Hammersmith. I think that they are pretty good. PM me if helpful for me to give you some more info on the clinic. Take time to make your decision. You have been through a lot. I know that I always want a plan of next steps - I feel myself making one for a FET in New Year already. But you & James probably need some time to get over what you have been through. Sending you huge hugs.

Angie - I am going mental with you hun. Melt down for me was yesterday. I started spotting - v little but red blood. Just like I get before AF arrives. I held it together all day and then fell apart when I saw dh. Floods and floods of tears. Just saying sorry over and over again. I hate this so much. Even called my Mum today to let her know that I was not too hopeful as would like to let them down gently rather than in a sudden crach on Tuesday. I know that we both must keep up the PMA. It is not over until the fat lady sings. 4 days to go for you and 5 for me. I think of you every day on the other side of the world as you are the closest person to me in terms of timings going through this whole thing so think of you doing all the things I am. Knicker checking today has been totally out of hand. Plus my breasts must be sore as I am squeezing them so much. Would not wish this on my worst pal. I am with you Angie every step of the way!!! I will probably try to hang on til the w/e before giving in to HPT. Think that it is still too early for me. You must let us know when you test! Crossing everything for you

Hugs to everyone that I have missed or overlooked cause of the page that is giving me an error.

A mental 2wwaiter.
Carolyn xxxxx

[mominwaiting]

Hi all,
First of all let me say that all of you ladies are wonderful. I read through these posts and it warms my heart to see so many caring people.
I am sorry that my last post was so vague, I will try to make this one better.
My DH told me the night before my injection class that he just was not ready to start any cycles yet. I absolutely tore my heart out, I cried for two days. I am 32 with no children 2 miscarriages in a ten year span. He has a son from a previous marriage. We have been together for 4 yrs. One of the miscarriages was from him. I know that his need to have a child is not as strong as mine , and I try to be understanding, I also know that he is mainly doing all this for me, and my peace of mind. He wants another child, he just says that he is not ready now. The Dr. told me that I should not wait too long due to aging eggs, and high FSH. DH keeps telling me that he knows he will be ready, but he does not know when. I am trying my best to as patient as I can, but this has to be one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. We have done everything but start the shots, which was suppose to be the 15th of Dec. Now I just don't know. I am so afraid that if we wait too long I won't be able to produce enough viable eggs for transfer. I have tried everything I could to make DH understand, Nothing works. Any ideas that you ladies could give me would be GREATLY appreciated.
Ok sorry that was so long, I am trying my best to keep up with everyone, but I can't log on often enough. Please just know that you are all in my thoughts & prayers.