Bit of a vent here

[debb]

Thanks Jo!<br>You are right, she does not feature in our lives at all and I will have to rise above it. It just makes my blood boil when she is in school, its like; this is my *safe* place for the moment so go away, kind of thing.<br>I suppose it is rather sad that she can't keep away!<br>How are you doing? Well I hope.<br>Again cheers.<br>I will be posting as soon as I begin again. Dreading it of course!<br>Love Debbiex

[rachel r]

Hi Debb<br><br>Like Jo said, pity her! She doesn't deserve anything else than that. Anyone who can be such a total b*tch is worth bugger all of your brain space and thinking time. People who are jealous of you, for whatever reason, will always hit on something that's sensitive to you, in order to get to you. What a sad little life she leads that she has to spend her days visiting the school. When your time comes, and you have your baby, you;ll have far better things to do with your time! Just look forward to that!<br><br>Love<br><br>Rachel<br>x<br>

[Annie]

Hi Debb,<br>I too work in a school(secondary) and I think it can be a particularly difficult place when you are doing what we do. I just returned to work after 2 weeks sick leave following my 2nd early mc (from FET)and thought I was coping well even when some charming child asked me loudly in the corridor if I was pregnant because theyd heard a rumour!! Then out of the blue I found out another member of staffs "good news" and I had to struggle to hold back the tears until I got out of sight of school in my car. And thats even when the woman is perectly nice etc.I definately think that the sort of situation you described is up there in the top ten of crap bits of IVF.<br>love from a fellow venter<br>Annie

[Karen W]

Hi Debb,<br><br>I think you are reacting perfectly normally for someone in such a difficult situation. <br><br>We spend our early lives running away from those nasty sperm, and then when you find out that it can be so difficult to make a baby, dealing with other people (naturally mainly women) who get pregnant at the drop of a hat is very emotionally draining.<br><br>I think having a couple of friends "in the know" is very helpful. I had that at my last work. When 1 of them got pregnant she was very sweet and let me go to see her when I felt able. Some days you can deal with it, and for no real reason, other days you can't.<br><br>I think it is good to remember that you and DH have such a strong relationship that you can cope with all the cr*p that this IVF thing throws at you. A lot of other relationships crack at less, and it means that when you finally have the child you long for it will certainly be the best loved and best cared for in the world, and will have 2 really strong parents.<br><br>Anyway, good luck with the next cycle.<br><br>Love <br><br>Karen<br>xx

[debb]

Thanks for the replies.<br>Annie, sorry to hear your news. I can understand how difficult it is for you, much more so than for me, you are very brave.<br>Karen thanks too, that is so right about people and how sensitive and compassionate they are. When another girl was pg she was really sweet and didn't flaunt it or anything and we are still on good terms now. Not like this latest drama queen! Whom I will never talk to again even when she comes back! Its like this latest idiot has gone all out to upset me even putting up a picture of the kid on the noticeboard the day we got our bad news. At least I can learn that I would hope to be more understanding and thoughtful to others.<br>Good luck to all<br>love Debbie