FEELING REALLY SAD

[ANGELA]

Hi girls how are you all, just got back off my hols yesterday spent a lovely week in the lake district with my partner and daugter just wish i could have stayed there is so lovely there peaceful,quiet and beautiful, am still at assesment stage still waiting for period so i can get my bloods done have just missed a period due to stress and tension so my doc said am now due again just hoping it arrives this time so we can get going. Was feeling really down about everything anyway but today my best mate told me she is pregnant i'm happy for her and everything but its really affected me bad we see each other every day our daughters are in the same year at school i really dont know how i am supposed to cope with this as well as everything else i feel like im on the verge of a breakdown my sister is also trying to get pregnant so i know thats only a matter of time b4 she does. please girls i really really need you now i so want to be happy with all i have but i cant be i try so hard to be but things just keep pulling me back maybe i should go see my docter but i dont want anti-depreesants but i need something, any help or advice would be really great girls i hope you are all well am sending you all my love <br>Love Ang

[Traci]

Hi Angela<br>Come on girl you can do it , dont be a slave to anti depresence, once you get past the Assesment stage and you are going through the Treatment you will become more possitive , as for people getting pregnant around you Its a bummer and we cant help our emotions except try and feel positive cause you dont want - vibes cause that dosent help Treatment. When you feel down do retail therapy or have a damn good cry dont hold it in , It must come out. We are all here for you so you can rant and rave as much as you like .<br><br>{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}<br>Trace x

[ANGELA]

Thanks trace i will do my best to be strong and will def have a good cry later i cant wait for treatment to start the sooner the better retail therapy sounds like a damn good idea may have to call my sister and arrange it mmmmmm what to buy loads of new clothes sounds good thanks again trace hope all is going well with you lots of love Ang <br>p.s thanks for the hug there always good

[vickib]

Hi Angela<br><br>Sorry to hear you are feeling sad, I’m sure if you dig deep you will find the strength, be strong. I know how frustrating this all can be. I’m sure your AF is just around the corner every time I was due to have tests my af turned up late and usually I’m always on time. <br><br>Best of luck keep us posted we are all here if you need us.<br><br>Love Vicki B X<br>

[Amanda A]

Angela,<br>Sorry that you are feeling so down.<br><br>I think lots of us can relate to how you are feeling about people around you getting pregnant. This is all really hard to deal with and when someone you are close to falls pregnant, it feels like even more of a kick in the teeth. We may be really pleased for them and never do anything to hurt them but we would be absolute angels if we didn't feel a bit resentful!!<br><br>The only advice I can give you is to talk the feelings through with someone who you can trust enough to keep them confidential. I have told my Mum how I feel on several occassions when people I know have become pregnant, about how unfair I think it is that it isn't me etc etc. I can get it out of my system without being judged and I think it helps. If you cannot think of anyone suitable to have a real rant to, do it on here!<br><br>The others are right, you will feel better when your treatment starts and you are moving forward.<br>Love Rach XX

[phil]

angela, i know it's hard. it can seem that other women fall pregnant with no trouble and for others like us it is so difficult. try, try to not go on prescribed drugs just in case they interfere with your fertility and make matters worse.<br><br>go to a book store and find out about natural herbal solutions. i know these remedies are not a quick fix but they must be better in the long term. also, some of the girls here have acupuncture/ reflexology/etc (me too). it can really help with stress. maybe you could focus on researching some of these methods. let of steam here too. it will get better.<br><br>phil

[becky]

Hi Angela<br><br>We can hold hands together on this one..my best friend also told me today that her and another one of our friends are pregnant!<br>Must be a day for it..I am so happy for them but as others have said it is very hard not to feel some sort of resentment. I am careful not to be too hard on myself and take time out and enjoy all of the things that they can't..often having a glass or two of wine and hot bubble baths over flowing with essential oils. Please think twice before taking any drugs from the doctors..homeopathy or another complementary therapy would be so much better - often we just need a good cry. I know myself that I try to be too strong and feel a failure if I do shed a tear or two until I think of the journey I am traveling on.<br><br>I am hear anytime if you need me<br><br>Becky B

[Cath H]

hi<br>i know how you feel about others be pregnant.my brother's wife just had a baby girl and my sister is due on christmas day. it can really bring you down but you have got to try and stay positive. i just kept telling myself .our day will come. i'm due for ec on tuesday et on thursday.but this whole ivf thing is all about waiting and hoping.hope you feel better soon .take care of yourself and i hope it all works out for you.chin up<br>cath xx