3rd try IVF in next 2 months

[BB2007]

Hello all,

I don't know how many other male topic posters there are here, but anyway, the main point here is to introduce myself. I'm almost 37 and my common law spouse, she's 37. We'd been trying for a child back in the late spring of '04, and tried for 1.5 years before turning to our local hospitals fertility clinic. We went through one round of IUI last year, and then when that didn't work, we skipped straight to IVF. The saddening part of it all is that we've now had 2 IVFs, both of which weren't successful.

My partner, she's doubful about going forward and doubts whether it will work. I must say I feel alot of anger right now, not towards her, but about how unfair it is that it hasn't worked for us, thusfar. So we'll go to the 3rd IVF try. I feel pretty lost right now. Anyone here who was successful on their 3rd IVF try? I need some encouragement really. The disappointment of this, so far, has started to erode our relationship and we're bickering more than ever before.

Just wanted to share this with you. I don't know what god has planned for us (I do believe in fate, to some extent), but I pray that we'll have a child soon.

Feeling lost...

// BB

[sassynlv]

bb: welcome to the board! There are a couple regular male posters around... and we love to have you guys here! I am sorry to hear you have had 2 bfns. That is so frustrating and heartbreaking. There are some women here who have been successful on their 3rd+ try. On another forum i have posted on, there are many that got preg on their 4th or 5th cycle. So it does happen... that is what also keeps me going.

When are you planning on cycling again? I am praying that this next cycle works for you. Good luck to you!

[BB2007]

Hi sassynlv,

I really appreciate those kind words of support. The second 'round' of IVF was on January 19. The 3rd round may be in April. We don't know exactly when, since the local hospital hasn't told us yet when they have a booking vacancy.

The future is very much uncertain right now. Thanks to this Board, I hope to keep my spirits up.

Bye for now,
BB

[mom20]

hi i have started i April/May thread on the IVF site you are more than welcome to come over to there we will be cyleling round about the same time Me and my DH are on our second IVF our first was in Dec2005 resulted in BFN I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT IT TAKING A TOLL ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP AS IT DID OURS you both have to be strong for each other at this time and things do get better its nice to have a male point of view not many males express there feelings about this im so happy that you can my DH has not really said much about it all its like he thinks well if it works it works. Good luck with everything please feel free to come over to the April/May thread
mom20

[sozzy]

Hi, my husband and I are on our 3rd attempt too. We have been through every emotion and are now having our 3rd and final attempt. We are ready to accept that its not meant to be if if doesn't work again and are going to apply to adopt, so either way it will be a good year as we are fed up of having our lives on hold whilst all our friends and family are all having families we have been on hold for 5 years and it will be good to move forward!
We are at a different clinic for our final attempt so maybe a change will be good luck for us!

Here's hoping its 3rd time lucky for us all!!!

Sozzy xx