The Sisterhood of the Blue Stilettos

[FionaA]

Hey Sass

Sounds like you've got a good night planned, why not chuck in a a few cocktails for good measure. It's good that you can meet with RE so soon and make a plan for the future. I know that I will be in this process for the long haul if i have to and it's always easier when you know what the next step will be. You so deserve success at this, I'd give you my own children if I f**ng had any....Thinking of you

Fee

[meg12]

Sass--Hope sushi was great. Hope you threw some whiskey into that Diet Coke!

[vicky77]

Sassy, sushi and diet coke!!, sounds like the perfect dinner for me , I am a diet coke addict myself .....
I was wondering, maybe it will be a silly question for you, but have you ever had immunologic testing done with all the NK cell profile and all that?, I heard of a lot of women that couldn't get pg and it ended up being some immunologic issue, and by treating it they got pregnant right away....hope it might help......., there is this web site, www.sirm.com, where doctors answer IVF questions, maybe you know it, and they know a lot about this immunologic stuff that I am telling you about, maybe you can tell them your situation.......

[patie]

Hello Ladies....

Sass.... I am so sorry.... I am fighting the tears in my eyes...(as beleive it or not i still didnt cry since my BFN last week!) I don't know why... I know how it feels...it actually sucks... you want to start thinking of the next step...but you feel that you didnt really overcome it...

I cant say i am over it yet...but we need to move on... as freddy mercury best says it..."The show must go on"... and after all...."we are the champions".... ...here u go ... 2 theme songs... tons of hugs sass... we are all here for you and you can always count on us for cheers and support....

Amy... I am speechless....your so called lady friend is so selfish, I mean how she's so specific with the dates and alll... WOW.... she needs a lesson.... Btw doesn't she deserve a "punter"award ladies???? btw i loved your theme song...

wannababy... nice text...hopefully one day i will get to share it with my my daughter...

Meg... so you are on the emotional roller coaster... the hormones are really kicking in.... But you have too much work this week.... but make sure you take a break every now and then...don't tire yourself!!!

Vicky how's your beta level now? did you start the stems??

Hey Angie...how are you???

a bientot ladies...[/b]

[sassynlv]

Hey sista's. So back from sushi and diet coke . See, if dh and i drank alcohol, then i would have gotten plastered drunk! But alas, we don't, so diet coke it was! Now... we did get 3 pies at marie callenders as they are on sale for $5.99 per pie this month. Do you think i did something wrong... should i have gotten four? I got a chocolate satin just for me! dh got peach and pecan. Ah.. actually we probably won't eat all three ourselves.. will share w/bil, sil and n/n (nieces and nephews) tomorrow night. my nephew shares his aunt sassy's love of chocolate satin. If they eat too much, i will just go back to the restaurant to get more . Ahhhh, figure i will have a few wks off to lose a pie's worth of calories before cycling again.

Thanks for your sentiments. Wouldn't it be great if we just all got preg at the same time??? Yep, sucks it doesn't work that way. Feeling better after sushi dinner. Nice chat w/dh.. always helps when we talk things out and have a plan to move forward. so, sad of course, but looking ahead. good night/evening to everyone! "read" you in the am!

[Angie65]

ooo! Great theme songs Patie! Everyone is coming up with great theme songs - I am still working on it -waiting for that flash of inspiration. I've got to do better that "it's a numbers game" as it's not even a song!

Sassy - hope you had a good evening -well as good as can be expected. Give yourself a few treats over the next couple of weeks as you have really been though it - how about a nice ski w/e away?

[vicky77]

Sassy, I am happy that you had a great evening.....now I have to say I really believe you did a very bad thing about the pies.............you should have definitely bought at least 4!!!!!! , keep us posted on your future plans!!!. And I loved you idea of all of us getting pg at the same time, wouldn't that be amazing??.......

Girls, I don't want to say anything, don't want to jinx it, "but I think I started spotting "(whispering...)......., I am really worried about AF, because we are going on a cruise for a week starting next Sunday with DH, so if she decides to appear at the cruise what am I going to do with the CD2-3 bw and scan???...........I am in desperate need for an AF jig girls, now it became an emergency!!!!!

[patie]

Hello ladies

How are you all doing????

Well sassy...i hope you enjoyed the pies...there's nothing like a sweet treat... I am still pampering myself with sweet...in fact DH got me yesterday my favroutite Hagen Daz flavour the caramel one...I think called something leche....its so YUM.... i ate half of the barrel....i could've finished it all but i thought it'd be too much... so i switched to chips....

Well vicky... the AF has mysterious ways... if you got it soon will u be able to go on the cruise???

DH just got back from work...got to go make him something to eat...hmmmm maybe i can have something too

Hugs

[sassynlv]

Vicky: doing a serious jig as we speak (and getting some weird looks here at work ). must be the extra couple pounds on my hips from the pie last night!!! So, listen up you AF beotch! Sister Vicky here needs a cruise AND bw/us, no either/or is allowed. So show your ugly mug NOW! There, hope she listened... if not she will have a p*ssed of sassy to deal with .

Ah, the joys of chocolate satin pie . Thanks for the kick in the butt guys.. definately fell down on the job here... so will be back to marie callendars today to pick up at least one more pie! heeheehee Oh, Patie... i am SOOOO hearing you on the food. Every once in a while the sweet gets too much, so have to switch to the salty . I give myself three days of eating whatever i want after a bfn... 2 days left!

Will check back in later....
Ciao

[vicky77]

hahaha, Sassy I really hope this b**ch got scared now!!!!!!.
Have a good bite of that chocolate satin pie for me please!!, sounds delicious!!

[amy]

Sassy - I know you know that I know that I cant say anything to help... but I can come up with a theme song for the next round... get in your way back machine and picture a Kevin Bacon in Footloose - that's right... "I need a hero! I'm holding out for a hero til the end of the night... He's (or she's) got to be tough and got to be fresh for the fight...." I think the pies are a great idea and very economical. My last BFN I bought some Citizen of Humanity jeans for 158 dollars. Yes, totally abused my powers, but I could have gotten A LOT of pies for that. You are on the right track.

Vicky - You tell ol Tia Flo that she has wreaked havoc on you for the last time, and in the words of Pretty Woman - you tell her "I say who, I say when, I SAY WHO!!" That line always works for me.

Patie - I would believe you are referring to Dulce Leche. It is quite a good flavor, but I would also like to recommend Carmel Sutra or Phish Food. They both have a nice creamy swirl to them that allows you to eat a whole pint rather than just a half. Just a half is just not enough.

Angie - When you are ready, the song will just magically appear. You have to be listening closely to the lyrics and you own word choice. That is the key. For instance you said "Flash" ... so I am now thinking of songs from Flashdance.... You also said "Hit" so logically you might think, Britney Spears, Baby Hit Me One More Time.... that could be it.

So my Punter Friend was kind of hinting that she wanted a baby shower. Do you throw people baby showers for their third? Anywho ladies I quickly piped up at our scrapbook making night that I don't DO babyshowers or GO to babyshowers. I figure if she can be so blunt and thoughtless to me, I would try it out. Should I have been a bit harsher and dropped an F bomb in front of each of those no's??

PS... this was supposed to go in last night but I am having a hard time posting, anyone else??

[meg12]

I'm having a horrible time getting on this website---it's not working and it's f'ing pissing me off!!!!!!! See, it made me curse.

Amy--I can not believe she's hinting about a baby shower. Even if you're the sweetest, most considerate person in the world (which she's obviously not) you don't have a f'ing baby shower for your third. Come on! And yes, you really should have added the f word before each no. She is absolutely the Punter of the Week...maybe even of the month!!!!!!


And I'm with you on the Phish Food, although I also really like The Gobfather and Everything But the Kitchen Sink. MMMMMMMM. Ice cream. I haven't had any of that in a while. I'm thinking it's time!!! My DH has chosen to start a diet this month. What the freak is he thinking? Doesn't he know that I'm pregnant and eating everything in sight? On second thought, maybe that's why he is dieting---there's never anything left for him anyway! Maybe my theme song will be Weird Al's "Just Eat It". Hmmmm. This is really a rambling post. Sorry 'bout that!

[meg12]

Vicky---I've never prayed harder for someone to start AF!!! Please, crazy lady, come visit Vicky!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[amy]

Vicky - Now I am going out on a limb, BUT... is there anyway you could be the next virgin Mego and be naturally pregnant??

Meg - I think you hit the nail on the head with Weird Al - great job listening to your surroundings and letting your song find you! Weird Al just doesn't get enough love for his lyrics. So Mego - Just Eat IT!

[sassynlv]

All right, Amy, you have inspired me. Now, to some of you, this will be an old, tired rant (so please forgive me for the recycled rant!)... and to others it will be new. To me, it just feels good to rant again... so here goes nothing!

Oh Amy I have (or i should say "had") such a "friend" as you have. Your story re: the baby shower reminded me of her. A little background... i have known her for 6 yrs (ttc most of that time). She has always been one of the most demanding people i have ever known (oooooo, girls, the stories i could tell you!!!). But... we got along well and our dhs worked closely together. She ttc for 2 yrs and got preg naturally (she actually showed up at my RE for her first consult.... she was preg!), and as a result, feels that she "understands" just how i feel (ooooo she can go f***ing jump in a lake ). oooo, see now, i am gettin' all riled up and it feels SO good!!! Ok, ok... so she had her first child 3 yrs ago. I was on vacation over her shower, A LOT of money, and hours of work into her huge, elaborate gift... and dropped it of before leaving town. I will fast forward through all the other stories abt when the son was a baby... will save for a later time .

SOOOO...She knew we had been trying now for years. several months ago received an invitation to a baby shower as she had gotten preg again naturally and was expecting another son. She called to make SURE i would be there, and kept repeating it ---was clearly annoyed i wasn't at her first. Now, ladies, at this point our dhs not working together so didn't see her nearly as much, and was a little annoyed that i apparently got no "credit" for the elaborate gift i gave her last time. So, i showed up just a few weeks before the start of my first IVF with a modest gift. Now... (and believe me, i WISH i was exaggerating...) EVERY single woman there was preg or holding her newborn. This was a shower full of women in her "mommy" group. Yep, i knew not a single one of them... all new friends who were not at her initial shower. It was so hard to smile and be polite the whole time as i was dying inside. I am kind of wondering if she totally forgot that i gave her a gift... knowing her, i think she thought i stiffed her and it p*ssed her off.

3 months ago (during #2 IVF) i got an invitation to her oldest sons 3rd bday at a "bouncy' place for kids... oooo, oooo, oooo, can i go??? can i really???As you can imagine, i begged off, and she seemed annoyed. ANYWAY... two months ago, just after my scary ER complication and in the middle of my #3 IVF, she called to "check in". When asked about our IF tmts, explained where we were. Again, she told me she "totally" understands since it was "hard" for her to get preg (i'm sorry, almost 2 yrs of ttc naturally cannot be compared to my last 5 yrs!!! ). I interrupted her and told her that "No, she didnt understand" (oooo, that would have been a good place to insert "f***cking"!). She went on and on about how well she knows my RE since she had blood work a few times a wk for the first 5 wks of her preg , and she just knows i will like "working with him". P*ssed me off. I know it is a stupid thing to get p*ssed off about, but to me she was minimizing everything that i had been going through by saying she "got it", and was much more familiar w/RE than i am. CLEARLY, she has no concept of what IVF entails. After another few choice, "maybe you should take a break or something and then you will get preg" (yes, we all know how rare that is, despite our dear mego ), and "it is too bad you waited so long to start trying", i got off the phone and we haven't spoken since. Dont plan on it... especially after another bfn.. don't think i could be civil anymore in response to her stupid comments.

I always try to give my friends the benefit of the doubt, knowing unless you do it yourself, or are VERY close to someone who is going through IVF, a person could not really have a concept what it is all like. To be honest, she is really the only good friend that i have lost over this (dh always said she was too high maintenance anyway ). But sometimes OOOOOOOOOO i just want to shake people like that (and like Amy's friend). They can't be bothered to see past their own nose!!!!

No, Amy, your "friend" does not need a baby shower for her 3rd... and by ALL MEANS, you should not be doing it!! If someone does it for her, just beg off if you don't feel like going. oooooo, i thought you did great. Wouldn't have been bad if you had added the "f***king", just since she has been such an insensitive cow lately. But having said that, you made your position clear. kudos!

All right... for anyone that is actually still reading this, thanks for the recycled rant... i needed that! And will probably be having a few more comin' down the pike!