first ivf need some buddys

CHVONNE · Post by **CHVONNE** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 12:50 pm

hiya im chvonne im starting my first ivf tomorrow feeling very emotional just found out five people i know are pregnantfamily members and friends badtiming or what although im trying to be happy for them i cant help but cry.has anyone else been in the same position and how did you deal with it?also is there anyone out there thats had insensitive comments made by others or am i just taking everything to heart?

geckogirl · Post by **geckogirl** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 1:19 pm

Hi,

I know just how you feel!!! I just finished my first IVF cycle and am in the dreaded TWW but I have had lots of people say insensitive things to me along the way - things like "If you aren't pregnant yet, you are not doing it right, ha, ha" and the worst was a colleague who said to me "You have a nice house, a great husband, travel frequently, why would you want to mess that up with a kid?" Another said "don't spend all your money on this" and when I asked her the price she would put on her children she shut up. Basically you have to ignore people. You have made a decision that is right for you and forget about the others. Not very encouraging but it helps me.

CHVONNE · Post by **CHVONNE** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 1:46 pm

hiya thanks that did help i dont think anyone can possibly understand unless there going through it my partners sister is pregnant and shes due in 6 weeks just around the time im going to be awaiting my results she said she wanted to name the baby after my partner if it was a boy although she knew that was my plans when and if i eventually get pregnant why are people so insensitive.im also newly married and everyone kept saying pittar patter of tiny feet soon i just wanted to scream but your right we have to ignore them.thanks for the reply ill be thinking and praying for your good news xxxx

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 2:59 pm

Chvonne~

It's hard to ignore those comments but just try to concentrate on what you doing and the goal of having that little baby. It's so important that you surround yourself with supportive people who have some compasion for what you are trying to do. It's a great thing you found this web page because there are tons of women, and men here who understand.

Best of luck and take care of yourself. Think Positive!
I'll be thinking of you and praying for a BFP!

nimble · Post by **nimble** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 3:03 pm

Hi chvonne, welcome and you've definitely come to the right place. You'll find lots of support here and so many of us who have been through what you are going through now and also what you are about to go through.

You're not alone how you feel at all and it is only natural to be upset when it feels like the whole world is pg apart from you.

As for those insensitive people around you, there isn't much you can do about those, unfortunately there are a lot of people out there who truely do not understand how it feels to be in this position or think before putting their size 9's in and open their large mouths !! So this is where you come to rant and rave, jump up and down and scream ...... and get it off yr chest.

There are a couple of threads up and going for those starting in Feb/Mar IVF where you can go through your cycle with others in the same position as you...... you can then share feelings or just basically ask questions. I'm on the March thread so yr more than welcome to come over and join us.

I'm just about to start my 2nd cycle and really found these threads helpful when I did my first cycle.

Nice to meet you
Nimble x

kandice · Post by **kandice** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 5:40 pm

i'm right there with you- starting ivf/icsi this month too (1st lupron 2/11/07) and this am just found out that one of my sorority sisters in pregnant- unplanned- 1 night stand... ugh! it doesn't seem fair that the people who don't want to get pregnant can and do by "accident" and then we try and try and try and nothing happens! I'm right there with you- it sucks!

just keep looking ahead and we'll have our own babies some day soon! best of luck to you!

ps- there's many many posts on here- please don't get overwhelmed! I was so scared of everything- shots majorly, but it's really not so bad. there are some great people on here that are going through the same thing you're going through and it really helps to chat with them and know that you're normal and they have those feelings too!

want2bpreg · Post by **want2bpreg** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 7:19 pm

I had my first IVF embryo transfer on Saturday (2/10/07) and wondered if there's anyone out there that can share their experience if they are going through a similar time frame? Here are my details:

- Out of 12 eggs, 7 mature eggs were used
- ICSI was performed on all 7
- 4 of the 7 fertilized
- 1 of the 4 had too many nuclei and was not used
- The remaining 3 were grade B eggs and all 3 were transfered.
- Assisted Hatching used

I am 32, DH is 36
I have been on bed rest since the transfer and only getting up to use the bathroom, eat and shower.

Today I have cramps (this is day 3). From what I'm reading, this is normal. Honestly, it feels more like gas than anything

I don't have sore breasts. I am taking progesterone injections once per day - so it feels like a wrecking ball hit both of my butt cheeks

One thing - my back is sore. I'm guessing this is from the bed rest. I'll be on bed rest for 2 more days for a total of 5.

Just looking for a support net. The TWW is so hard and I'm only on day 3! My pregnancy test is scheduled for 2/21/07 (next Wednesday!!). I pray every second of every day that I'm pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy with healthy baby(ies).

I'll pray for all of you too!

Have a good day,

CHVONNE · Post by **CHVONNE** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 8:15 pm

kandice wrote:i'm right there with you- starting ivf/icsi this month too (1st lupron 2/11/07) and this am just found out that one of my sorority sisters in pregnant- unplanned- 1 night stand... ugh! it doesn't seem fair that the people who don't want to get pregnant can and do by "accident" and then we try and try and try and nothing happens! I'm right there with you- it sucks!

just keep looking ahead and we'll have our own babies some day soon! best of luck to you!

ps- there's many many posts on here- please don't get overwhelmed! I was so scared of everything- shots majorly, but it's really not so bad. there are some great people on here that are going through the same thing you're going through and it really helps to chat with them and know that you're normal and they have those feelings too!

thanks so much for your lovely supportive andsympathetic reply im finding my way around on here at the moment so hope this is right how you reply and hope you receive it also getting stuck with the abbreviations .xxxx

want2bpreg · Post by **want2bpreg** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:40 pm

Hi Chvonne,
Just hang in there. Ignorance is bliss and people that aren't going through something like IVF or infertility don't understand. My best friend has 4 kids - all unplanned - and she constantly makes comments to me about how fertile she is. It's annoying, but I just don't think she gets it.

Best of luck to you!

Baby dust,

charlie78 · Post by **charlie78** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 11:05 pm

Hi Chvonne

Hope you don't mind me jumping in! It is my first IVF too and like you have had to cope with numerous friends getting pregnant by accident,and insensitive people! It is an incredibly emotional journey and one that is not understood by those that don't know about it and I think you can either decide to try to explain just how hard it is or to put up your shields!
Could you speak to your partners sister about the naming of her baby and explain that you were hoping of that honour?
Wishing you a BFP (Big Fat Positive!)

Want2bepreg - I am also on the dreaded 2ww - it has been the worst part of the whole thing for me! I had 2 2 day embryos transferred and test on 16th - I have had a lot of cramping, no sore boobs and am taking progesterone pessaries - so have escaped the sore butt cheeks!
Wishing you a speedy 2ww and a BFP!

lol Charlie x

want2bpreg · Post by **want2bpreg** » Mon Feb 12, 2007 11:56 pm

Thanks, Charlie!
BEST OF LUCK to you and your DH. Please post back to let us know how your appointment on the 16th goes! You don't have much longer to go!!!!!

CHVONNE · Post by **CHVONNE** » Tue Feb 13, 2007 11:15 am

charlie78 wrote:Hi Chvonne

Hope you don't mind me jumping in! It is my first IVF too and like you have had to cope with numerous friends getting pregnant by accident,and insensitive people! It is an incredibly emotional journey and one that is not understood by those that don't know about it and I think you can either decide to try to explain just how hard it is or to put up your shields!
Could you speak to your partners sister about the naming of her baby and explain that you were hoping of that honour?
Wishing you a BFP (Big Fat Positive!)

Want2bepreg - I am also on the dreaded 2ww - it has been the worst part of the whole thing for me! I had 2 2 day embryos transferred and test on 16th - I have had a lot of cramping, no sore boobs and am taking progesterone pessaries - so have escaped the sore butt cheeks!
Wishing you a speedy 2ww and a BFP!

lol Charlie x

thanks how do you send messages on here !

charlie78 · Post by **charlie78** » Tue Feb 13, 2007 12:24 pm

Chvonne - If you want to send a personal message you click the pm button at the end of someones post. If you just want to send a general message you click post reply at the bottom of the page. Hope this is what you meant?

LOL Charlie x

first ivf need some buddys

first ivf need some buddys

thanks for the reply xx

1st IVF transfer on 2/10/07

thanks.xxx

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