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Wannababy--Wishing you great luck tomorrow! 2/16 seems like a good date to me--I'm sure good things are going to happen. I'm ready to scream about Grey's Anatomy. Man, that show is not recommended for an overly hormonal woman like me. What the heck. She can't die, can she??????? Geez.

Mia---I'm so sorry you're feeling sick already. It didn't really hit me until the 6 and 7th week---I suppose that's a benefit of twins....twice the babies, twice the fun! I seriously recommend the ginger cookies...There are these ones that we found at Whole Food Market that are not too bad (I'm not a huge ginger snaps fan, normally)---They're made by the Shasha Bread Co--they're real little and in a heart shape. And they're very low in fat, so you don't have to feel too guilty about eating them. They did seem to cut my nausea a little...Anyway, as my doctor said to me this morning: "I'm glad you're feeling sick---that's a great sign." (I know, it's little comfort!)

Amy--Snarky=fun.

To all the other Sisters--hope you all have (or had depending on where you are) a great, great Friday!
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wanna: gl tomorrow! will be looking for a report!

Mia; glad to see you back. sad to hear you feeling so crappy.. yep probably early due to the twins. Along the lines of Amy's song for Wanna... during 2ww when i had 2 blasts transferred (#2 cycle), he used to sing "Eat for 3, walk for 3...". So... eat up as much as you can, but i hope you aren't stressing. sounds like you have a good plan going. Know ginger is supposed to help, so hoping the ginger snaps do you some good.

Angie: so, babe... how many days 'til another dildocam date??? btw.. you know vegas would be a GREAT stop for your NA trip :lol:

meg and wanna: you guys are killin' me w/the grey's anatomy... won't have a chance to watch it until tomorrow... now "dying" to know who is dying!

To all of you... yep, my comment was a bit snarky... but as you all seem to be fans of snarky, and as i am currently in the midst of anxiety attack... snarky is "back in black"!!! SOOO, for those that missed it, i just mentioned that it is hard at times for me to be on cycling threads over and over where masses of 1st timers get preg and i still am trying to coax one chromosomally nl egg out of my ovaries. Not that i don't want them to get preg, i do... just the ugly green monster gets me feeling a bit self-pitiful on some days (believe me, not proud of it, and know it says nothing good about me... except i suppose, that i am human). so have been going back and forth about whether or not to join cycling threads for my mega-cycle. Just the thought of going through 3 more cycling threads (or even 2), plus one for my FET... well, i just think it would make it much harder on me (translation: i might just shoot myself in the head :roll: ). Ahhh, then again, maybe i will join April. Hmmm.. i think this would be called "free association posting"! Anyway, here is where i feel safe and comfortable (thus the ability to be snarky)... and thinking i will just stay here instead, and jump onto other threads to be supportive of those i know. Which... in all fairness i should warn you... means you guys will be bearing the brunt of my anxiety, fear, stress and mood swings (ahhh, IVF, the gift that keeps on giving!). So there it is... the much longer version of my snarkiness. Blech! I am thinking it will remain unedited... that is unless i am overcome with anxiety again... :roll:

Good night to all!
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Sorry have not checked in sooner, have been in Court all day dealing with idiots.

Thanks for your support of my guilt rant. I've calmed down a bit now (well actually channelling my rage towards the idiots at court as opposed to my family).

Amy, glad you like us as your audience, we like your material. I will take you up on your cycling tips, its all obviously in the timing. Totally agree with you about the Drs having social issues. Some of the stuff that comes out of them sometimes.....I can't help but recall (again) my Dr saying with worried look "We have to stop your ovaries exploding." What a fantastic bedside manner....I pity his wife. Cracked me up about dr procreating his masterpiece, that has definatley been a Hallmark movie probably based on a true story if I'm any judge of quality made for TV drama (and I think I have earned my judging stripes just quietly). Thanks for asking after my assistant. She hasn't been fired, not many firings around here, last was the receptionist who was dealing drugs from reception - our IT people alerted management to the fact that she was dealing drugs using email. Quality people. My assistant actually apepars to be quite sober at the moment. She is apparently doing some sort of ocean swim race tomorrow so hopefully she won't drown. Drinking and swimming never a good combo. We have a lovely rapport based on constant threats of violence towards each other.

Wanna, thank F*ck that your E2 levels etc are ok, sounds like you are good to go missy, I will be checking on you over the weekend (will be in the office due to excessive down time spent in this forum causing missed deadlines etc...) to see how you went. Oh Geez the smellets cracked me up. what a gross name I love it. What are the smellets, Dr Smelly's fingers or his little assistants....and damn your mate who keeps getting prego. I have an "acquaintance" not a mate by any stretch who is like that it is dis-bloody-gusting.

Sass that wii thing sounds excellent, it's obviously firing up your imagination. Hope your Valentines Wii was everything you imagined...and I LIKE SNARKY TOO and I missed it damnit!!! I pride this thread on being the snarkiest one on the board. I decree that snarky is not just acceptable but encouraged and maybe rewarded...Don't worry about not remembering why you have to take four shots a day, you've probably blocked it out, some sort of psychological protection mechanism??

Angie WOO HOO on starting stims... doncha just love it??? How long do you reckon you will be stimming this time??? Shooting up in beach toilet sounds muy romantic, a valentines day to remember. Glad you understand about the prego sister thing....its a bit of a tough one.

Mego, glad to hear your US went well. I can't imagine why they would pressure you into doing a test for downs unless there was a question whethr you would proceed with the pregnancy, otherwise why stress yourself to get an unnecessary test????

Mia great to hear from you, sounds like all (except morning sickness) is going well. Keep us posted with your progress!!!

Patie, glad to hear that you have cheered up. Good luck on your other tests, when do you fire up on your next cycle???

Well, i'm slowly going mad in the TWW. It's now day four after blast transfer, am itching to use an HPT at some stage in the next five days....

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Sass

Just missed your post, thanks for re-posting snarky...loved it. You know we love ranting and we are well equipped to deal with it here so feel free to cut loose I say. fully understand not necessarily wanting to be on other cycling threads especially since you are not going to be doing a transfer with each collection....I say do whatever you want!! We value you here and we love your work...Frankly this is the thread where I feel most comfortable too....

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Fiona - YOU KILL ME! I just read your post and I insert an Austrailian accent in my head like you are sitting here with me. Throw a crikey out there once and awhile just to keep it spicy! Is your assistant in the water yet? I was reading my son your post about the ocean swim as he is OBSESSED with Bear Grylls - and he wants you to tell her to swim diagonally with the current. Apparently J's good friend Bear taught him that on the Desert Island episode.

Girls - hate to leave you all so soon but it is 72 here and BEAUTIFUL! Taking the dog for a bike ride on the townie...

For this I dedicate the song "Slow Ride.... take it easy..."
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Hi Ladies,
Hope you all are doing well this evening. As for me, I’m a bit drugged up and loving it. The anesthesia did a number on me this time. I can’t snap out of it. All I want to do is sleep. I guess it doesn’t help that I just popped a percocet. I LOVE that stuff. lol There isn’t a pain killer that I don’t love. I probably sound like a real addict now. But really…I’m not. Just don’t like pain at all.

Transfer went well today. RE got 13 eggs. That’s 5 more than last time. I do feel like that’s still not a lot considering I read somewhere that a fellow IVF’s had 40 something eggs. Wow, that’s a lot. This time I did spot a little. I didn’t at all last time. RE said something about it happening because of so many eggs. Again I thought about the person with 40 something eggs. Wonder if she spotted? Okay, I am babbling here.

Dr. Smelly Fingers will call me tomorrow to tell me how many fertilized. Continue praying ladies. I’m hoping I have some strong soldiers that are in this for the long haul.

Smellets, I have no idea who they are. I would say the fingers maybe..or it could be his assistants. Whatever is funnier.

Thank you for all the support and prayers. I believe it really helped. You guys were with me in spirit today. Couldn’t wait to get home and say hi to everyone. Couldn’t get internet access in the center.

Amy—Love the song. I actually sang it to myself as I was drifting off to sleep last night. But couldn’t remember the words for the life of me today. I’m so jealous of your weather. 72 degrees sounds awesome. Enjoy, as we are dealing with 27 degrees. :cry:

Meg---My hormones were an absolute mess last night while watching Gray’s Anatomy. I was in tears. I can’t take the suspense. This might be worse that the 2ww. I hope she doesn’t die. Please don’t let her die. I think I might watch it again tonight. Yes, I’m a gluten for punishment

Sass--.You shouldn’t worry about joining cycle threads. There is nothing that says you have to. Besides, I’m not a fan of sharing. I’d rather have you to ourselves. :wink: We will be there for you thru all your cycles and whatever else you need. Besides, can’t stay away from the snarkey.

Fi—Your office sounds very entertaining. Are you all hiring? I wish you could see the look on my face when I read about the receptionist dealing drugs via email. How inventive of her?? So is she sporting a orange jumpsuit and selling cigarettes to other inmates or did she just find another place of employment?? Sounds like you are keeping busy during your 2ww. Stay away from the evil HPT. :twisted: As president and almighty…I’m going to need you to tell me the same in a few weeks. :wink:

Okay Ladies, gotta go. DH just made me some soup.

Talk to you later.

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Wanna: congrats on having ER over!!! Glad to hear it went well. I'm thinking 13 eggs is fantastic. I know, i sometimes too get "egg envy" when i see others get tons more eggs. BUT it is an issue more of quality than quantity. So i will be looking forward to hearing what Smelly Fingers tells you tomorrow re: ferts. btw... i am thinking the "smellets" are his assistants... you know... "announcing Dr. Smelly Fingers and the Smellets". oooooo, in fact... that would fit very well into the "Reproducers"... just prior to the ET scene with the sparkly stilettos and soccer stadium lighting... or could be just before the REs dance with the dildocams. I could see it both places... hmmmm.

Anyway, enjoy the narcotics!
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Hi Ladies

As promised am in the office on a Saturday. Yep Wanna the workplace is pretty fun, so much so that I can't work during the week, and when you're supposed to be accounting for every six minutes of your time the leisure time can be a bit hard to explain...

Amy, your son sounds so cute. You can tell him that my assistant did not take to the water because the race was cancelled due to dangerous conditions...I will pass on his advice for next year. While my assistant will be disappointed at not competing I have no doubt that she led the charge towards the bar when the race was cancelled. I can only imagine the state of her now...

And as for Crikey! My DH likes to impress Americans by saying that word...On our honeymoon we found ourselves in a land where time stopped in the 80's, called Kenmore (near Buffalo) lots of frosted blue eyeshadow and crimped hair. Anyhoo we found ourselves to be quite the minor celebrities during one bus ride where DH enthralled the locals with his Crodile Hunter impression (which consisted only of saying Crikey repeatedley)...we quite liked the attention.

Hope you have a damn good ride sounds like beautiful weather.

Now Wanna 13 is an excellent number. Well done! I had 17 and my specialist felt that that was too much. I think the quality starts to suffer if there are too many but I may be mistaken on that one...I'm with Sass, smellets are Dr Smelly's high kickin assistants...As for receptionist, we never heard from her after she got her marching orders, no doubt she is peddling her wares in another office environment somewhere round town...

I will stay away from HPT I think at least for the next few days. Had a minor meltdown last night because I thought it had not worked, had some similar feelings to last time when I had the BFN. I had a big ugly cry and had to cheer myself up and buy a trashy mag with an 8 page tribute to Anna Nicole..

good luck on the fert report, I will anxiously await your news.

Hello to every one else. I'd better get on with some work or I'll be here tomorrow as well!!!

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Good morning ladies.... its saturday again... back at work after just one day weekend... :shock:

Wanna... I am gald all went well! 17 eggs is very good... last time i got 28 which was the first time for me as usually its like 12 or something... and i bled a bit...
I am praying for your juniors to be tough and last... good luck lady... i am so praying for you!!!

Sass, weird about the PC... how dare they???? shmucks... i am glad u posted from home with all your lovely explicit words ... btw i am not posting in any other thread... i don't know why! but i feel comfortable and happy here.... you lovely ladies :wink:

Meg, i understand how you feel about the test for the down syndrome test... who cares!!! its a baby.... but i am sure everything will be fine and you will get a healthy and complete baby....

Mia... glad to hear from you again... and i am happy everything is fine with you... and its great that you are taking care of yourself... good choice with the veggies...

Amy, nice theme song selection... how was the walk with the dog???

HRH Fee... i don't know when i am going to cycle again... welll just this morning DH and I had the karyotyping test... and it will take up to 20 18 days to get the result... this should tell us if we have any problems with our chromosome which might be causing the repeated failures... I mean i am scared... what if there was something wrong with the chromo... then there's nothing that we can i do... but at least then we know that we it wont happen... maybe i'll get the porsche then :D
I bet your about to go crazy in ur 2ww... don't surrender fot the hpt... its too soon.... get a nice book... or get a nice DVD series.... that shourld keep ur mind off!!!

ok ladies, got to go back to work.... I am trying to call a supplier but he is not answering.... the nerve!!!!
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Hello ladies!!!, I'm baaaaaaaaaack!!!!!!!!! Image

I just came back from the cruise this morning, went to pick up my furry baby and now am back home....took me a while to read all your posts, but of course I did!!!!. Not too much time for personals now since I have 800000000 e-mails, but at least I wanted to say hello!!.
The cruise was wonderful, had a great time........but regarding AF....I am going to kill that beotch!!!!!!!!!!!!, she arrived the first day of the cruise!!!!, can you believe that!!!!!, almost looks like she did in on purpose :evil: , so Sassy I guess we will both be on the April thread.......

Ok girls, talk to you back later!!!!
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Hey girls...

Vicky: glad to have you back. Hope you thoroughly enjoyed your cruise! I am expecting you have a good tan and all. As for AF... truly a grade A beotch!!! I am so sorry she didn't cooperate and that you have to wait an extra month. Since you will be on April, maybe i will hang out there peripherally... since theoretically i could stay there for all 3 cycles. We'll see... if it becomes too hard, i will just disappear from there and become a hermit over here on the stilettos thread!

How are you all doing? Fee in her 2ww, Angie with her shots, and you pregos? (ummmmm... mego the prego? Ah, sorry, couldn't help myself! :wink: ). Wanna, any news yet from smelly fingers????

All right... went on a seriously self-indulgent shopping spree this am! Got to the mall (The big one on the strip) when it opened and was there for 4 hours... did a lot of wandering around... found it very therapeutic. BUT what was MORE therapeutic was the buying i did. See, i might have mentioned... i have put off spending money on clothes for about a year thinking.... "well, i am just going to get preg and won't fit into anything anyways, so i will just wait." a few months ago though, realized my clothes for work really were a problem (had only one pair of pants and one skirt that fit me), and decided it was really getting stupid--- the whole putting it off thing. So went and bought 4 pair of pants. Buying new clothes has, for me, become symbolic of my ability to accept my bfn and the chance this will never work for me. It seems to be a statement of rebellion against how my life seems to now revolve around getting preg. . NOW.... a girl needs blouses and shoes to go with those trousers, no? So took care of that today!!! In actuality, as i do not have the disposable income of a queen... will probably have to take one or two pair of shoes back (yep, i bought 5!! :oops: oooo, and mostly REALLY high heels i would never wear when preg! ). to boot.... at the grocery store... i bought TWINKIES. Yep, miss healthy fancy-pants chef bought twinkies (a closet comfort food that i have not indulged in for years :roll: ). Ahh, trying to fill up that emptiness that no shopping can fill.... but it was fun as h*ll to try!!!

btw... found a new quote that has become my new motto... see my signature..
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Hi Stilleto’s!!! Hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.

Some quick personals and then I’ll get to me!

Sassy---Did you catch Gray’s Anatomy?? I am cracking up about “announcing Dr. Smelly Fingers and the Smellets!” Can they have white lab coats with a shiny blue stiletto on the back? I am loving the soccer stadium lights! It’s amazing how much we ALL have in common. Do you know that I haven’t done any really big shopping for the exact same reason and when I do shop I make sure the shirts have extra tummy room for when I do get pregnant. Am I nuts or what?? I’m so glad to hear that I am not alone in this thinking. Also, I received gift certificates for clothes for Christmas and Valentine’s day that I have not used because I was saving them..just in case I needed maternity clothes. It’s amazing how your life can revolve around this. Kind of scary at times. But I am glad that you were able to find some comfort in shopping and in the Twinkies. As a result of all we go thru I think it’s only right that we should be able to self indulge once in a while…especially after a BFN. After my last BFN, I went shopping and out to dinner and had lots of drinks with the girls. No one knew what was going on but it was nice to be able to have a drink again. I had stopped for a while due to trying to get pregnant. IVF consumes so much of your life.

Fee, Your highness---Don’t succumb to the wicked HPT. She’s just plain evil and she doesn’t have a good track record with IVF’rs. Can’t seem to get her story right. If I see one more magazine or television broadcast about Anna Nicole I’m going to scream. You would think she was the phucking president or something. WTH??? DH and I were just down stairs talking about names for the baby (this may be a bit superficial, hope I’m not jinxing it). But anyway, we both like the name Ann or Anna for a girl. But I really like Anna-Marie for a girl. My idiot hubby said what about Anna Nicole??? Mind you my last name is Smith!!!!!!!!! I said, you want to name our daughter after HER!! :evil: He said, oppps, yeah, maybe not. :oops:

Patie---OMG! How do you deal with the 1 day weekend. Guess I’m kind of spoiled. This weekend was actually a 4 day weekend. Had Friday off due to ER. Also have Monday off because it’s Presidents day.

Meg
—I agree about the test. You are having that baby no matter what. Why give you a test that won’t make a bit of difference. That’s just added stress that you don’t need.

Vicky—Welcome back!! We missed you!! Can’t wait to hear all about your cruise. I can’t believe that b@tch AF showed up on the first day of your cruise. She really screwed up this time! How dare she? Well take the extra month to concentrate on you!

Dr. Smelly Fingers called today. Out of the 13 eggs, 9 were mature. Out of the 9, 8 fertilized. I’m really happy about this. Last time only 4 fertilized. DH is very happy and proud of his little boys. He can’t stop smiling from ear to ear. Like he really did something. All he did was watch corny porn and make a deposit into a cup. lol I’m the one knocked out cold with Dr. Smelly in the smellets probing here, there are everywhere. But I can’t steal his glory. I’ll let him think he did something. lol He said he was so backed up that he could have fertilized a cow. Thank God we don’t live near any animals. LOL
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hello there! Thanks for the advice meg and sassy. I went to whole foods today and bought ginger ale, ginger snaps, ginger root and some childrens gummy bear vitamins :D. I drank a can of ginger ale this morning and so far I am feeling pretty good. still get a little queasy when eating or from the smell of food, but at least I'm ok in between meals. I made sure to get the ginger ale with real ginger. I noticed that most grocery store brands don't have real ginger. I can't believe how tired I am. I slept 10 hours last night and now at 3:30 I can barely keep my eyes open. Alas once again, I have 2 days worth of dishes in the sink. :oops: I agree, M/S, it's a good sign that things are moving along as normal. :) I did discover that I could eat bread without getting nauseous. I had some delicious tandori naan last night for dinner. Not the ideal food, but at least it keeps me from starving.

wannababy, congrats on 13 eggs and 8 fertilized! I think that is actually very good. 40 eggs is really too much at once. chance of ohss would be really high. Good luck with ET. You'll have your babies back home in no time. :)

fee, hang in there. I know it's hard. Don't feel bad if you break down. I did. Lot's of us do. Just be prepared for false negs and don't let it get you down. Know that the PG BT is the only one to trust. Good luck!

Vicky, welcome back. I envy you. I have never been on a crusie. After seeing a Mediteranean cruise on the Travel channel, i decided that's the one for me. :D

Sassy, nice move on the shopping spree. How I long for a new wardrobe. I've been living in jeans, sweats an T's for the last year. No clothing budget here, probably not for a few years. Wall Mart and Target are my new best friends. What really sucks is the really cute maternity clothes are uber expensive, what's up with that? I't's not like you can wear it for a year or more. :x Anyway, you should keep it all, you deserve it.
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Wanna: nice #s babe!!! Funny you should ask... just sitting down to watch Grey's Anatomy from the last 2 wks.. dying to know what it is you guys have been talking about!

Mia: good to read you... glad to hear the ginger may be helping a bit. I will be relying on you to give me the detailed scoop on what works best (little nuggets i can tuck away for later :wink: ). And YUM on the naan... ooo, maybe i can talk dh into indian food tonight...

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ooooo, i am SO being the post-whore of the stilettos thread!!! :lol:

ok, RANT ALERT!!!******* (but also a golden dildocam nomination :wink: )

All right, i will set the stage for you all... we are both very tight w/my sil (dh sister) and her dh. They have 4 kids... the ones that i mention i hang w/ all the time. ANYWAY.... she conceived twins naturally and they are 10 mo old. She is on a forum for women w/twins. There are several on her thread that conceived using ivf, and they are always cheering me on. SOOOO, sil was surfing the forum today and ran across a thread where a woman preg w/twins asked if anyone else conceived using IUI or IVF (the OP got preg w/#1 IUI). Sil is EXTREMELY empathetic to me... having been through all the details of the rollercoaster... and been the person w/me for both ETs... she is very protective of me and my struggle. So, of course.... when people began posting that modern medicine is nice, but prayer and faith are the REAL reason they got preg w/their first IVF... sil lost it. Girls... they were actually saying how they are an inspiration to others because ivf worked for them... the first time, and it shows that prayer works (Hffffpppp!). AARRRGGGHHH!!!!! WTH???? What the h*ll does that say about those of us that have had at least one failure??? I happen to be a very religious person, so b/c it hasn't worked for me yet means that i haven't prayed hard enough, or the right way????? It means that i don't yet "deserve" to be "blessed". Easy for them to say as they sit there holding their twins. Ah, this just p*sses me me off :evil: . Just confirms to me that many (not all!) women who do ivf and have a baby on the very first "go" end up with a very different experience in relation to ivf than i do.

So this is what sil wrote:
Congrats to all of you! That's wonderful that you have all gotten pregnant on your first cycle. My sweet sister in law and brother have been ttc for 5 yrs. They have gone through 3 ivf cycles and none have worked. Don't mean to sound negative, but it's not ALL about prayers and faith guys. Trust me, we have prayed and prayed and prayed and prayed, fasted and prayed and prayed more and it has not worked. I still trust that God has his reasons for everything. They aren't giving up yet. They are going to try 3 egg retrieval's in a row. We will continue to hope and pray and have faith. I'm glad it worked for all of you the first time.

Wanted to add that I am sorry if I come off as negative, but I have seen the other side of IVF. The side where someone I love tries OVER and OVER and despite all her efforts and after much prayer, it just doesn't work. Glad it worked the first time for all of you, but that is not always the case.
this is only one of many times she puts people in their place on that board in regards to ivf. She has even offered to donate her eggs... but was concerned with her eggs and her brother's (dh's) sperm we may end up with some funny lookin' children :wink: . She is real funny and when i mentioned i would nominate her for the Golden Dildocam award she was very flattered... and wants to be considered for "Golden Dildocam of the Year" award :lol: !
6 fresh IVFs plus one cancelation
Last Chance FET--- Pregnant with triplets!
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