HAS ANYONE HAD SUCCESS AFTER NO FERTILIZATION WHEN DOING IVF

[WISCONSINGAL]

HI JEN:
SAW JILL THIS MORNING, SHE'S DEFINITLY DUE THIS MAY.....IT WILL BE HER (5TH) GIRL......WOW!!!! GOOD LUCK W/ YOUR APPOINTMENT, LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES!

[jenhope]

well, things went good. Next week wed or thurs, will be the ER day. So did you hear anything back yet? What time were you there? We might have been there together. Just curious if you were one of the girls. If you want let me know what you had on and what color is your hair. But I understand if you don't want to let me know. But any how, I hope things are good for you today. Did they say anything else to you?

[MYNALA]

HI JEN: OMG, I'M SO EXCITED FOR YOU, NEXT WEEK HOW COOL! HOW ARE YOUR NERVES DOING ? DID YOU TAKE FRIDAY OFF? I'M NOT SURE AS EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT BUT IF YOU CAN TAKE OFF DO IT? DID YOU GUYS DISCUSS ET YET? I NEVER GOT THIS FAR, BUT I DID NOT KNOW AFTER ET, THAT HE WANTED ME TO STAY HOME FOR 3 DAYS AND JUST LAY AROUND, THAT WAS SO WEIRD FOR ME, BUT I FEEL IT REALLY HELPED TO JUST RELAX AND THINK ABOUT WHAT JUST TOOK PLACE AND WHAT I WANTED THE OUTCOME TO BE! I WORKED, SO I'M SWEARING BY IT!

ABOUT MY APPOINTMENTS, I'M USUALLY THERE RIGHT AT 7:00 FOR ANY OF MY APPOINTMENTS, DO YOU EVER GO THAT EARLY? I'VE ONLY SEEN A FEW PEOPLE THERE THAT EARLY, AND ONCE IT WAS SOMEONE THAT I KNEW. I WAS SICK TO MY STOMACH AND IF SHE EVER TOLD ANYONE AND IT GOT OUT, I'D BE SO BUMMED. LIKE I'VE SAID BEFORE, I'M 41 AND MOST OF MY "FRIENDS" WON'T UNDERSTAND WHY I'M DOING WHAT I'M DOING, WE HAVE A VERY BUSY LIFESTYLE AND I GUESS TO MOST PEOPLE I SHOULD BE DONE TRYING TO HAVE A BABY. AT LEAST THAT'S HOW I HEAR THEM TALK. I HEARD THROUGH ANOTHER PERSON THAT THIS GIRL I SAW THERE, JUST WENT THROUGH HER 2ND IVF AND GOT A BFN, I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER BECAUSE I KNOW HER AND HER DH WOULD MAKE GREAT PARENTS TOO, I JUST HOPE EVERYONE THAT GOES THERE KNOWS THE CODE OF SILENCE AND KEEPS IT.

I'D LOVE TO MEET YOU SOME DAY, IF YOU EVER HAVE A 7:00 OR 7:15 APPOINTMENT, WE'LL HAVE TO VISIT AFTER OR BEFORE!

RIGHT NOW I JUST WANT YOU TO RELAX AND KEEP THINKING POSITIVE!

[jenhope]

Hi-

I have been wondering where you have been. Is the numbers till good? I had the ER on 2/14, still alittle sore. The ET is 2/19. They took 17 eggs, 10 mature, 8 of those were normal, and 6 of them fertilized. So I think we will get something to transfer. It is all going so fast. I started my Progesterone and it doesnt' feel the greatest. I keep thinking that I will have 12 more weeks of this. But oh well. I guess it will be worth it. I hope we get a BFP. I am usually there around 7:30 when we have to. I don't know what time on monday yet, So when do you go for your first U/S? I hope things are good. I have to run. Keep me posted.

[WISCONSINGAL]

HI JEN

GLAD TO HEAR EVERYTHING WENT GOOD W/ YOUR ER. YOU MUST BE SO EXCITED FOR THE ET, JUST TRY TO GET AS MUCH REST AS YOU CAN. I GOT THE MASSAGE BEFORE THE ET.....IT WAS SO FUNNY THOUGH, THIS BIG GUY COMES IN THERE AND I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE A NICE DEEP MASSAGE SO I'D FEEL LIKE A NOODLE AFTER......I THINK I WAS LAUGHING INSIDE THE WHOLE TIME.....AND I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE I THOUGHT TO MYSELF, HE HAD TO HAVE DONE THIS BEFORE......SO WHO AM I TO TELL HIM TO "GIVE ME A MASSAGE - NOT A TICKLE SESSION" I THINK HE WAS SCARED TO TOUCH ME OR SOMETHING.......BUT I HAVE TO SAY, I WAS RELAXED THOUGH. I'LL BE PRAYING FOR YOU ON MONDAY! THEN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS SEEM LIKE A LONG LONG TIME........AND DON'T BOTHER WITH THE HPT.....I DID ONE THE DAY OF MY BLOOD TEST AND IT WAS NEGATIVE....BUT THE BLOOD WORK SHOULD A BFP......SO IT ONLY MADE THE ROLLER COASTER RIDE WORSE!

MY LAST BLOOD TEST ON THE 12TH SHOWED EVERYTHING TO BE OK. I HAVE MY U/S ON 2/26, SO I'M HOPING TO SEE THE HEARTBEAT THAT MORNING.....I'M SO EXCITED, ONE MORE WEEK, THEN I'LL FEEL BETTER. I'M NOT HAVING ANY SYMPTOMS AT ALL SO IT JUST MAKES YOU WORRY MORE THAN YOU SHOULD.

KEEP INTOUCH AND REMEMBER.......RELAX AND TAKE IT EASY!!!

[jenhope]

Hi,

I have my Beta 3/1, so less than a week a way. I have been feeling good. The ET was more painful than I thought it would be. Everyone keeps asking if I feel different. I don't, only think is I have some weird cramping, off and on since the transfer. It doesn't last long, but is wierd, did you have anything like this? Well good to here things are ok. Let me know about the U/S. I have alot to catch up on at work. So I have to run. Talk to you later.

[WISCONSINGAL]

HI THERE! GLAD TO HEAR YOUR DOING GOOD. MY ER WAS WORSE THAN MY ET.......BUT I WAS TOLD THE CRAMPING IS ALL NORMAL. ABOUT THE PROGESTERONE SHOTS......GOD, MY BUTT IS SO DARN SORE IT'S NOT EVEN FUNNY. I CRIED THE LAST TWO NIGHTS AND I'M NOT EVEN SURE HOW MANY WEEKS I HAVE LEFT, IT'S ALMOST LIKE MY DH IS HITTING THE SAME SPOT AND IT'S SO DARN TENDER!!!!! I WAS TOLD 12 WEEKS TOO.....I'LL ASK MONDAY HOW MANY WEEKS I HAVE LEFT.

I'LL BE PRAYING FOR YOU......AND I HOPE YOUR TAKING IT EASY..... AND THINKING POSITIVE!

ABOUT FEELING ANYTHING OR FEELING DIFFERENT??? I'M STILL NOT, KIND OF WORRIES ME, BUT I WAS TOLD EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND SOME PEOPLE NEVER GET MORNING SICKNESS....OR ANY SIGNS FOR THAT MATTER. SO I'M TRYING NOT TO COMPARE MYSELF SO MUCH AND JUST TRYING TO RELAX. I HOPE YOU CAN DO THE SAME AND JUST KEEP PRAYING FOR THE LITTLE EMBIES TO SNUGGLE IN! SO HOW MANY DID YOU TRANSFER?

[jenhope]

hi,

We transfered 2 and froze one. I don't know what to think yet. test is on thurs. I think I know, but I don't want to get my hopes up. I am still having wierd cramps off and on, and now not feeling good. It could be anything from morning sickness to the flu. I wish there was a way to know for sure without wondering.

So how did the u/s go? What are the details?

[WISCONSINGAL]

GOOD MORNING JEN:

OH, NOT SURE IF I TOLD YOU OR NOT.....BUT DON'T TAKE A HOME PG TEST....I SAID I WASN'T GOING TO.....AND THE GIRLS AT THE CLINIC SAID NOT TOO....WELL, THE 2WW KILLED ME.....I TOOK ONE THE MORNING OF MY BLOOD WORK. JEN, IT WAS NEGATIVE AND THE BLOOD WORK WAS POSITIVE, SO IT WAS WAY TO SOON FOR THE HPT TO WORK.....JUST HANG IN THERE AND TRY AND STAY STRESS FREE AND LET THE BABIES SNUGGLE IN.

I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER TODAY AFTER SEEING THE U/S. IT WAS VERY VERY VERY SMALL......BUT AT LEAST HE SAID HE SAW THE FETAL POLE, THE SAC, THE LINING AND JILL SAID SHE SAW THE HEARTBEATING......(I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT ANY OF IT WAS). I HAVE TO GO BACK IN TWO WEEKS AGAIN....AND I'M STILL WAITING FOR THE BLOOD WORK RESULTS TODAY TOO, SO HOPEFULLY WE'LL GET MORE GOOD NEWS AFTER THAT PHONE CALL. I PULLED UP "ULTRA SOUNDS OF 7TH WEEK" AND VARIOUS OTHER SITES TO SEE IF WHAT I SAW ON THE INTERNET WAS WHAT I WAS GOING TO SEE AT MY SCAN......GAVE ME SOMETHING TO LOOK FOR. I THINK I SAW THE FETAL POLE, JUST NOT SURE THOUGH. THEY GAVE ME A DUE DATE OF OCT. 14TH........

HOPE YOUR FEELING BETTER! TAKE CARE!

[jenhope]

I am so happy for you. Wow 7 weeks seems long, doesn't it, in reality it isn't that long. It went by fast. Congratulations, this has to be such a wonderful feeling. Puts your mind ar rest, for a while. October will come fast. Take Care, I Will keep you posted.

[WISCONSINGAL]

MAN, I TELL YA NOTHING LIKE HAVING YOUR FAITH AND MIND TESTED OVER AND OVER AGAIN. AFTER THE DR. SAW THE U/S HE DIDN'T SEEM CONCERNED AT ALL........THEN I GOT A CALL FROM THE CLINIC AND SAID THE BLOOD WORK WAS OK.......I MUST HAVE TOLD A DZ. MORE PEOPLE YESTERDAY AFTERNOON.....THEN WHEN I GOT HOME FROM WORK, THERE'S A MESSAGE ON THE MACHINE, PLEASE CALL THE CLINIC. IT WAS JEN......THE DR. SAID YOUR HCG IS DROPPING AND WE NEED YOU TO RETEST THIS THURS. 3/1........I BEGGED HER TO TELL ME IF THIS IS REALLY BAD.......OR IF THIS CAN VARY......SHE SAID WE'LL KNOW MORE AFTER THE BLOOD WORK. SO NOW I GO FROM BEING ON CLOUD NINE.......TO BALLING AND TOTAL DEPRESSION AGAIN.....MY DH WAS JUST DEVISTATED WITH THE NEWS THAT THERE COULD BE SOMETHING WRONG NOW.......GOD, THIS JUST SUCKS.

[jenhope]

Oh my god, I am sorry to hear that. I would be devistated. This is so emotional, you have to be going nuts. I would be. Did they say how much it dropped? I can imagine how you feel. I am so scared for my news on 3/1. I am so use to hearing - that hearing a + would be like impossible. I kindof don't want to know, because of fear it will be -. It is hard not to think of that. well I have to run. Take care, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope things get better.

[WISCONSINGAL]

HI JEN

NOT SURE IF YOU'LL BE ON TOMORROW OR NOT....BUT I JUST WANT TO SAY I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST ON THURSDAY!!!! THINK POSITIVE AND TRY TO RELAX........I HOPE AND PRAY THIS IS YOUR YEAR!

[jenhope]

Thanks, I pray for you too, I hope things get better, I hope the numbers are good on Thursday. Take care, try not to stress and worry about it, yeah right easier said than done right.

[rebeccaj]

wisconsingal, I just wanted to send you all the luck in the world for thursday and I have everything crossed for you that this is only a glitch and nothing more. You have been an inspiration to me, please stay strong, all our thoughts are with you.

Rebecca X