Now as far as The Secret…Let’s be real, the reason it’s causing such a stir is because the authors were on Oprah and other television shows and talk shows. People listen to Oprah. People listen to the media. It’s called advertising. lol Someone told me about it a long time ago, but I didn’t give much thought to it. I have no idea why they make it seem like it’s been hidden for years and no one wanted to share it. I think that is also advertising….people like a scandal. They want to be in on the latest, hottest thing that people try to keep others from getting. It’s like a new weight loss pill or something. Personally, I think they just recently decided to give it a “glorified” name….other than “positive thinking.” As a matter of fact, my mom has been living her life like this for years. She always tells me to put out into the universe what I wanted. Not sure where she got the idea from but…I have heard her say it half my life. I’ve just been the negative person who really didn’t take heed to it until recently. I have always thought…expect the worst so you won’t be too disappointed. That has been my philosophy for many years. But I have no idea why it’s call the “The Secret”…when it really isn’t a secret. Or maybe it is to some who have never heard of it. Who knows? But, plenty of people know about it and have been living their lives in this respect for some years now. To say that is has been hidden is a bunch of baloney. Now I don’t agree or believe in everything that is said in The Secret. Like I said, there are some things that are just going to happen that are out of our control no matter what we think, feel, ask, believe, receive…etc. I just think it’s a nice way to have more PMA. As far as the woman healing herself from cancer with laughter and positive thinking…hmmm, not sure about that one. Also, how do we know that is the truth? How do we know that laugher and positive thinking “really” did cure her? How do we know she’s not just saying that to sell more books and DVD’s? I mean there are cases of medical miracles so, who knows. I couldn’t tell you if it were true or not. I believe there is an explanation for everything…whether or not “we” know the actual explanation is another thing. You can’t believe everything. I like to believe nothing I hear and only half of what I see. lol
I do believe that if I focus on negativity then negative things will happen. I feel this way because this has been the case for ME in the past. So now I chose to think positively and visualize it happening. The other way of thinking was not working for me so why not try something different.
Now, do I believe that a person should just think, feel or ask their illness away….I don’t think so. But if that’s what they want to do, who am I to judge. Would I? No. But I do believe that they can think of their illness in a positive light. In other words, think and feel about getting better while going to the doctor and taking medication and treatment. I think there has to be an action. Thinking positively when going thru chemo or before heading to surgery. That’s what the secret means to me. Not sitting at home willing your illness away. It’s about thinking, feeling and actions. Every action has a reaction. I honestly don’t think the secret is just saying to “think” anything away. I didn’t get that if it did.
I agree that it has been so dramatic and sensationalized. Someone is just making money off of what people already know or knew. And yes, I am one of them. lol I wanted to hear more about it so I purchased the DVD. I’m glad that I did. I don’t have any regrets about it because I feel that it is helping me. Now it might not help everyone but everyone is different. I have to do what I think is best for me. Not what someone else thinks is best for me. Now if it works for me getting my BFP…then wonderful, if not…I will keep being positive until it comes! If that’s how I chose to live my life…who’s right is it to say I am wrong and vice versa for those that don’t agree with what I believe. Like I said, you have to do what’s best for you and handle your situations the way you see fit.
Now for someone to say to me that’s the reason I am not pregnant yet….those are fighting words! I totally disagree! Maybe it’s because I am dealing with Infertility problems and it sickens me that someone would say that to me! I don’t think any of us would ask for this. I don’t think our thinking has anything to do with our IF. Honestly, I think someone had to go thru IF and we just happen to be the unfortunate ones to get it. I really don’t know why “I” have endometriosis, fibroids, luteal phase defect and am having trouble getting pregnant. My aunt seems to believe that our ancestors were sluts and that’s why we have reproductive issues. That’s her little way of dealing with it. lol She has the same problems and was not able to conceive. In regards to the secret and woman dealing with infertility, I think it is saying to ask for a baby, believe it, and receive it. To do that, you think about that you want, develop feelings about it and take actions to achieving it. Which is what we are all doing..going thru IVF. Is the secret the cure to IF….hell to the nah! But it is a way to handle the 2ww. lol I see the secret as an explanation on how to handle situations that you are currently in. Not that your thinking is what got you into the situations. But how your thinking (along with the other principles) can help you change the situations. Does that make sense? But there is the opposite that you are referring to. I see your point about people saying your (or our) thinking is the reason why you (and I) are not pregnant yet. Hmmm…..
I am interested in the names of the books, please share.
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), but it has definitely changed how i SEE and FEEL about the things that happen to me.
). I think MOST IMPORTANTLY in situations like IVF, women need to do whatever works best for them... as so much is out of our control, and what is normally a very intimate act between dh and dw becomes an invasive medical procedure. And i am hoping that women who now have learned these principles as a result of them being so publicized, will not only find a path to happier lives, but also to pregnancy.
. But that is what i am concerned about, as i have been feeling some of that coming from some people who are real excited about the secret. I guess really the issue i have with this is not so much the actual principles, or that others follow it as they see fit... its more that i already feel that it has been used by others to justify why i am not preg... therefore putting the blame on me.
I apologize if I did or if I weren’t sensitive to your feelings. That’s not how I felt at all. As a matter of fact I agree with all you said. Especially the part of us being to blame for IF.
). I appreciate hearing what others think about it. Have decided, like i think you are saying, to take the good parts of it, and hope that my concerns re: how fertiles may use the secret "against" us doesn't become a big problem. The three people who have mentioned it.... well, i have to say, i would have expected it of them 
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