CRANKY RANT

[bnb]

if i wind up with a negative i am never, ever telling another soul about doing an ivf cycle. except my husband. maybe. if he's good.

not that i tell a lot of people now but the few who knew are all calling and wanting information. i know that the hormones are making me cranky and nutty and that these people mean well. but for god's sakes if i had anything to tell them i'd call them. the transfer was just YESTERDAY fer chrissake.

i mean, if they're curious how do they think i feel? and it's NOT HELPING for them to be sniffing around for information.

yours truly,
cranky b!tch

[gigialex]

I LOVE A GOOD CRANKY RANT!!!!!!! I got a BFN today so I am on one myself.
Hang in there (and turn the phone off!!!)
Another idea, we set up a care page at www.carepages.com and left updates so everyone could check in there rather than us keeping people posted with everything.
Just an idea...

[bnb]

i'm sorry to hear about bfn gigialex. it's so hard.

wanna come over and kick my dog?

(totally kidding)

good idea about the care page. i'll check it out.

hang in there.

[boonie]

Yep, I know how you feel. I've told my family, DH's mom & sister and a few friends(plus people on this board). I don't mind the boards at all, it's my family and friends who keep asking me questions. This morning, my dad was telling me how expensive it is to have a baby and there's alot of responsibility. Umm....I'm 35, I don't need to be lectured on having babies. Than you have to explain and go through the emotional rollercoaster with EACH individual person. There's just days I don't want to talk about it!

Than I have a friend that took the liberty of telling a couple of other friends who I haven't talked to in a while about ME. So now I'm thinking Great the next time I see these people are they going to say anything to me or should I mention it. I don't think people realize how delicate and personal this stuff is, c'mon it's not like the daily news.

[sassynlv]

bnb: ooooo gooody *wrings hands* i love cranky rants!!!!

I had the SAME thing happen. And it totally sucked! Is this your #1 IVF? On my #1, my entire family, dh entire family and 3-4 friends knew all about my schedule. Many would call for daily or every-other-day updates. It wasn't too bad... until i got a bfn. Then it was killer. I didn't even have any embryos for transfer. So reliving it with each of them was torture. I felt the need to comfort and take care of each of THEM. Yep, not doing that anymore. On my last one, very few (maybe 3-4 people total) actually knew when my transfer was... and i told them i would talk to them about it after i had my beta. In general, they respected that and i was able to breathe much easier. I have used email to tell people.. and tell them i will talk to them about it soon... that took the pressure off. I recently started my own blog.. partially for this reason... that way i can put it on the blog how i am feeling, instead of having them call me all the time. And if i have another bfn, i can post it there, but won't have to deal with their disappointment while i am still trying to deal with mine.

i am hoping you won't have to deal with the bfn.. i am hoping that you have good news to tell them... but in the meantime, consider telling them to back off!!!