Hi girls - Not good news here I 'm afraid - AF well and truly arrived yesterday. Just can't seem to make it to the end of the 2ww without AF showing. Me and DH are gutted, deflated and empty.
Just a well I did some retail therapy yesterday. Take care all - you've all been such fun through all this - I need a bit of time out now but I'll be back soon.
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Angie--I'm so sorry. This just doesn't make any sense, does it? Just wanted to let you know that I'm mentally cussing up a storm for you. So sorry.
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Angie - OH my goodness, I am so sorry! It doesn't make any sense, why OH why! My heart just aches for you, I don't understand!
I'll keep you in my prayers! If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know!
I'll keep you in my prayers! If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know!
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Angie, I felt like hurling my computer out the window when I saw your news, instead I'll swear up a storm like Mego. It's not bloody fair especially after the rough times you've had on your fresh cycles. Hopefully you and DH will feel better after a little time and be ready to have another crack...come back when you are ready, until then we'll miss ya. Fee
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Angie: THIS SUCKS. Ok, really this F*CKING SUCKS. Bloody h*ll... with everything you went through this cycle. I am p*ssed for you. I am hoping that you rip up the stores... it never makes it better... but sure as h*ll is a lot of fun. We will be here whenever you are ready to come back.
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Angie, sorry I didn't read this sooner, I feel so bad, I had a lot of hopes for you, we are all here for you, take your time and then come back to your sistas that will miss you a lot!!!. Take care...
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Just took my time to read back all the posts...
Sassy.....so great about your DH!!!, I am happy he finally come into his senses and decided adoption is an option ( wow have a little rhyme here)(actually, I read your post a couple of days ago and didn't have time to answer due to crazy work, but since I read it I dreamed 2 nights in a row that I was adopting, the first night I dreamed I adopted twins and the second night it was the cutest baby boy!!, just wanted to share...). BTW, how was the conference?...
Wanna....oooo, totally understand your situation, it must be so hard!!. If I were you I would tell her that you didn't want to tell anyone until your pregnancy was a bit more advanced, but the only person you really wanted to share this with was her, but not over the phone, so that is why you have been avoiding her cause you know what a bad liar you are and didn't want her to find out that way, and you were waiting for the moment when you were going to meet to be able to tell her the right way (but make emphasis on the fact that you wanted to share this with her b/c she is your best friend, not because you are trying to be empathetic due to her IF....that is very important).
Talking about friends and pregnancy, a friend of mine chats to me on Friday through MSN (she is in Argentina) and tells me that she needs to tell me something, but I thought it had to do with the preparations for a friend of ours that is getting married and we are all organizing her bachelorette party and all that, so I tell her that I was crazy at work, but to tell me and I will peek the MSN while I could. And I see the MSN tab turn orange (you know when it means she already said something) and I keep working cause it was totally crazy as I said before, and when I decide to go and see what she wrote, I see the dreaded words "I'm pregnant!!".....OMG, I was in shock!!, the last time I spoke to her she told me they were not even trying to conceive!!, so I wasn't expecting those news from her......so I was out of words, I said congratulations and everything, and then ask her how come if they were not ttc, and she said they stopped BCP's 2 months ago (aaarrrggghhhhh, why is it that some people are sooo lucky!!!.....sorry, I am happy for her, but at the same time I can't help to feel like this reminds me of my problem too......it is so hard....), so she tells me to let her know if this issue was making me feel bad or something cause she knows everything that I went and am going through, so of course I said no, that I was ok. And then she hits the second bomb.......that she is expecting twins naturally!!
......I didn't know what to do at that time, to be happy, to cry, do both, what!!. I almost fainted!!. But she was very good about it, I mean she was trying to protect me all the time, and I just feel so bad that I am so resented about the subject, my DH tells me I shouldn't be like that and that makes me feel even worse...... 
. Of course I called her to Argentina and we chatted a long time about it, and don't get me wrong, I am very happy for her, but also sad for me......I guess you all understand........ok, that was my rant for today...
Sassy.....so great about your DH!!!, I am happy he finally come into his senses and decided adoption is an option ( wow have a little rhyme here)(actually, I read your post a couple of days ago and didn't have time to answer due to crazy work, but since I read it I dreamed 2 nights in a row that I was adopting, the first night I dreamed I adopted twins and the second night it was the cutest baby boy!!, just wanted to share...). BTW, how was the conference?...
Wanna....oooo, totally understand your situation, it must be so hard!!. If I were you I would tell her that you didn't want to tell anyone until your pregnancy was a bit more advanced, but the only person you really wanted to share this with was her, but not over the phone, so that is why you have been avoiding her cause you know what a bad liar you are and didn't want her to find out that way, and you were waiting for the moment when you were going to meet to be able to tell her the right way (but make emphasis on the fact that you wanted to share this with her b/c she is your best friend, not because you are trying to be empathetic due to her IF....that is very important).
Talking about friends and pregnancy, a friend of mine chats to me on Friday through MSN (she is in Argentina) and tells me that she needs to tell me something, but I thought it had to do with the preparations for a friend of ours that is getting married and we are all organizing her bachelorette party and all that, so I tell her that I was crazy at work, but to tell me and I will peek the MSN while I could. And I see the MSN tab turn orange (you know when it means she already said something) and I keep working cause it was totally crazy as I said before, and when I decide to go and see what she wrote, I see the dreaded words "I'm pregnant!!".....OMG, I was in shock!!, the last time I spoke to her she told me they were not even trying to conceive!!, so I wasn't expecting those news from her......so I was out of words, I said congratulations and everything, and then ask her how come if they were not ttc, and she said they stopped BCP's 2 months ago (aaarrrggghhhhh, why is it that some people are sooo lucky!!!.....sorry, I am happy for her, but at the same time I can't help to feel like this reminds me of my problem too......it is so hard....), so she tells me to let her know if this issue was making me feel bad or something cause she knows everything that I went and am going through, so of course I said no, that I was ok. And then she hits the second bomb.......that she is expecting twins naturally!!
......I didn't know what to do at that time, to be happy, to cry, do both, what!!. I almost fainted!!. But she was very good about it, I mean she was trying to protect me all the time, and I just feel so bad that I am so resented about the subject, my DH tells me I shouldn't be like that and that makes me feel even worse...... . Of course I called her to Argentina and we chatted a long time about it, and don't get me wrong, I am very happy for her, but also sad for me......I guess you all understand........ok, that was my rant for today...Vicky
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Vicky- You proved my theory. The other day I was thinking after finding out that yet another friend was preg. unexpectedly. She has been saying all along that they weren't going to start trying until this summer. I kept telling DH "you watch, she'll have an announcement any day now" And low and behold...pregnant. Way before the SUMMER I might add. DH was like wow you called that one. I told him people lie to me about when they are going to try. I don't know why but when they announce they will try at such and such a time, I know they are really trying now!! That was like the 4th one in the last couple months. I have a friend right now who says she got off the pill, but they aren't ttc. she just didn't like being on it. Needless to say I'm waiting on her announcement soon too! They lie lie lie!! 
I'm sorry to rant about it, but your rant was contagious and I had to jump in!!
Gotta go mattress shopping... After 4 years of ttc ours has had it!!
Joking, it is for the guest room!
Enjoy your day ladies!!
I'm sorry to rant about it, but your rant was contagious and I had to jump in!!
Gotta go mattress shopping... After 4 years of ttc ours has had it!!
Joking, it is for the guest room!
Enjoy your day ladies!!
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Fertile people amaze me. And doesn't it always seem like they totally take it for granted? Maybe I'm just super sensitive about it, but it seems to me that it's always the women who get pregnant at a drop of a hat that drive me crazy. "Oh, we weren't even trying" BS--you know as a woman when you should or should not have unprotected sex if you don't want to get pregnant. Or "My husband just looks at me and I get pregnant." Whatever.
Wow, sorry that just came spewing out of me. Hmmm, it's been better since I've had a good spew. I feel better now.
Vicky--I'm sorry about your friend. (Wow, that makes me sound like such a bad person....maybe I'd better rephrase that...) I'm sorry that your friend got pregnant before you. It's so unfair. We're just going to have to bump up the prayers on this cycle....Where are you in the meds?
Jenn--You cracked me up about wearing out your bed.
Well, I'm off to soak in the tub and read a book for a while before bed...Hope you all had a great weekend and that nobody April Fooled you!
Wow, sorry that just came spewing out of me. Hmmm, it's been better since I've had a good spew. I feel better now.
Vicky--I'm sorry about your friend. (Wow, that makes me sound like such a bad person....maybe I'd better rephrase that...) I'm sorry that your friend got pregnant before you. It's so unfair. We're just going to have to bump up the prayers on this cycle....Where are you in the meds?
Jenn--You cracked me up about wearing out your bed.
Well, I'm off to soak in the tub and read a book for a while before bed...Hope you all had a great weekend and that nobody April Fooled you!
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Hi girls! Hope everyone had a good weekend.
Angie~ I am soooo sorry to hear your bad news. I was really hoping and praying for you! Sounds like some retail therapy might be just what you need!
Wanna~ Yikes...what a horrible situation your friend put you in, without even knowing it! That's a hard one. Can't say I have much advice except what everyone else has said. Hopefully she will understand with as much as you have been through that you would not want to tell anyone until you were sure everything would be ok. And it should help too that even your family doesnt know. It sounds like she definitely needs to go to an IF clinic. A lot of times those girls with PCOS and other minor problems go on Metformin and are pregnant in no time.
Good luck. I hope she understands however you tell her.
Vicky~ God knows we've all been in that situation more times than we EVER wanted to be! It's so hard to put on a happy face. But I think even more than that, it's so hard to deal with the fact that we're so frustrated but we really don't want to be. We truly want to be happy for these people but it is so hard. You just can't help but wonder, "When will it be our turn".
Hope everyone has a good week. All this bad news, I just hope the "funk" is not starting again...already. It can't be!
Angie~ I am soooo sorry to hear your bad news. I was really hoping and praying for you! Sounds like some retail therapy might be just what you need!
Wanna~ Yikes...what a horrible situation your friend put you in, without even knowing it! That's a hard one. Can't say I have much advice except what everyone else has said. Hopefully she will understand with as much as you have been through that you would not want to tell anyone until you were sure everything would be ok. And it should help too that even your family doesnt know. It sounds like she definitely needs to go to an IF clinic. A lot of times those girls with PCOS and other minor problems go on Metformin and are pregnant in no time.
Good luck. I hope she understands however you tell her.
Vicky~ God knows we've all been in that situation more times than we EVER wanted to be! It's so hard to put on a happy face. But I think even more than that, it's so hard to deal with the fact that we're so frustrated but we really don't want to be. We truly want to be happy for these people but it is so hard. You just can't help but wonder, "When will it be our turn".
Hope everyone has a good week. All this bad news, I just hope the "funk" is not starting again...already. It can't be!
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Jenn: Ha! dh wishes we had worn out our bed! Believe me... he has informed me he will be giving it his best shot this month (no pun.. well sure... pun intended 
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Wanna: wow. Don't know what to tell you. Tough situation you have there. I agree with the sisters... play up the fact that even your family doesn't know. Even if she is upset initially... i think she will understand.
Vicky: Ouch. Those hurt. Dh is probably telling you that you shouldn't feel that way because really, he wishes you weren't hurt by it... that you didn't have to go through all of this. But you are and it is, as we all know, a completely normal part of this whole process. I have mastered (unless it is in the aftermath of a BFN) the "smile and nod" technique. It doesn't work as well over the phone... but you get the idea.
Angie: Thinking of you.
Meg: oooo, i got chills with your "spew". I so enjoy a good rant... no matter how "mini".
so since it has been 8 months since i have been meds free (including BCP), dh is truly looking forward to my time off. Ahhhh... and you might have been thinking that he is looking forward to a non-mood swing sassy? Oh H*ll no, that isn't what he is thinking about... he is just happy that i am cleared to enjoy "trying" again. Our clinic makes us use condoms while stimming. Truly a sore point w/dh... whatever you do, don't get him started. I think secretly he hopes that his swimmers will make it up there during stims just as an egg pops out prematurely.. thus showing up Dr. D.
This may come out snarkey (well, if i remember correctly- we like snarkey here)... but is not intended to be... just wanting to let you guys know how I am feeling now... b/c this is my "safe place" and i don't want to get all sad, dark, pissed off and then sulk off later just 'cause you guys are trying to be helpful. I am stealing a page from Meg's book (its a book she doesn't need anymore, so i'm sure she won't care )... I am not going to TRY to get preg this month, so please no comments on how maybe i will get preg, etc. I get enough of it from dh. I will not be counting my cycle days, and if i am late... it will be because i am USUALLY late. Don't get me wrong... i myself am looking forward to some non-IVF encumbered, non-conception related sex (ah, there i go, now i won't be able to access this page from work due to the "weighted phrase" i just wrote ). But I just can't take hoping for it this month. I ranted for a bit about it on my blog this am, so I feel better...
btw... the conference was fab... more fab, though was some girl time with the bf.... priceless!!!
).Wanna: wow. Don't know what to tell you. Tough situation you have there. I agree with the sisters... play up the fact that even your family doesn't know. Even if she is upset initially... i think she will understand.
Vicky: Ouch. Those hurt. Dh is probably telling you that you shouldn't feel that way because really, he wishes you weren't hurt by it... that you didn't have to go through all of this. But you are and it is, as we all know, a completely normal part of this whole process. I have mastered (unless it is in the aftermath of a BFN) the "smile and nod" technique. It doesn't work as well over the phone... but you get the idea.
Angie: Thinking of you.
Meg: oooo, i got chills with your "spew". I so enjoy a good rant... no matter how "mini".
so since it has been 8 months since i have been meds free (including BCP), dh is truly looking forward to my time off. Ahhhh... and you might have been thinking that he is looking forward to a non-mood swing sassy? Oh H*ll no, that isn't what he is thinking about... he is just happy that i am cleared to enjoy "trying" again. Our clinic makes us use condoms while stimming. Truly a sore point w/dh... whatever you do, don't get him started. I think secretly he hopes that his swimmers will make it up there during stims just as an egg pops out prematurely.. thus showing up Dr. D.
This may come out snarkey (well, if i remember correctly- we like snarkey here)... but is not intended to be... just wanting to let you guys know how I am feeling now... b/c this is my "safe place" and i don't want to get all sad, dark, pissed off and then sulk off later just 'cause you guys are trying to be helpful. I am stealing a page from Meg's book (its a book she doesn't need anymore, so i'm sure she won't care
)... I am not going to TRY to get preg this month, so please no comments on how maybe i will get preg, etc. I get enough of it from dh. I will not be counting my cycle days, and if i am late... it will be because i am USUALLY late. Don't get me wrong... i myself am looking forward to some non-IVF encumbered, non-conception related sex (ah, there i go, now i won't be able to access this page from work due to the "weighted phrase" i just wrote ). But I just can't take hoping for it this month. I ranted for a bit about it on my blog this am, so I feel better...btw... the conference was fab... more fab, though was some girl time with the bf.... priceless!!!
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Sassy~
Good for you! I know it's hard to put away the calendar, ovulation tests, etc. (at least it was for me) but you deserve that. A month or two away from not thinking of anything "baby" would be a nice break and won't make a bit of difference in the grand scheme of things!
Have fun & happy future matress shopping!!!!!
Good for you! I know it's hard to put away the calendar, ovulation tests, etc. (at least it was for me) but you deserve that. A month or two away from not thinking of anything "baby" would be a nice break and won't make a bit of difference in the grand scheme of things!
Have fun & happy future matress shopping!!!!!
Sassy--Right on, Sister! Enjoy your month of "baby-free" sex! Just the thought of it...you mean people can have sex just to enjoy each other and not to procreate????? I'm proud of you!
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