Miscarrying a twin?

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 8:16 pm

Hi - Has anyone been pregnant with twins and known that they were miscarrying one of them? I'm six weeks along and had my first U/S on Friday. There were two sacks but only one showed a heartbeat. Because it was so early, my RE said that it's about a 50/50 chance that the second one either is a viable fetus or is not and he scheduled me for another U/S in a week or two. I've heard and read that when a pregnant woman loses a twin this early on, she usually does not have any symptoms and the first fetus/sack actually absorbs the second one.

I woke up this morning to blood and passed a piece of tissue (much like what I've been told to look for in early miscarriage). Of course it's a Sunday and I couldn't get in to the U/S tech before they left this morning (I'm an hour and a half away). About five minutes after the blood, I then started getting cramps - not excruciating, but stronger than cramps I've had during any previous pregnancy. I'm trying to stay positive and hope that I only passed the one that didn't have a heartbeat (even though I would love twins, one is better than none), but I'm so nervous and scared, I feel sick. The bleeding seems to have all but stopped and I'm now seeing some dried blood, but I'm still cramping and bloated. I've had a M/C before but it was at 9 weeks and I had to have a DNC, so this is much different.

Sorry if this is too much info, but I'm so nervous and I would just love some input from anyone that's experienced this or knows of someone who has. I can't talk to my RE until Monday morning.

Thanks in advance-
Heidi

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 11:12 pm

Heidi~ Regardless of what help I may or may not be, I will be thinking of you and praying that everything is just fine. You sound pretty scared and I can't blame you.

I know very little but I did just see on Discovery Health that 1 out of 8 natural pregnancies is a twin that vanishes or reabsorbs into the body. They abvoiusly don't always know because normally people aren't moitored so closely. It also stated that it rarely ever causes any harm to the other baby.

The other thing is I had the same thing, minus the cramps, happen a few weeks ago and we still have both babies. My OB informed me that there is just a lot going on in there and sometime you'll be prone to blood clots or light blood. I too had a tissue like clot. Hope something here helps a little.

Don't make yourself sick with worry.

Just try to keep a PMA and know we are all going to be sending our best baby mojo your way with lots of TLC!!!!! So sorry for your stress! Take care and take it easy.

Kimberly

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 11:21 pm

Thanks for your story and your prayers, Kimberly. I went all day with just a little dark, dried blood here and there, so I thought that was a good sign. But I just got crampy again and saw bright red blood a few minutes later. I was feeling a little better emotionally but now I'm totally worried. I hope to get an U/S tomorrow, which seems to be so far away at this moment.

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Sun Mar 25, 2007 11:30 pm

If you feel like this is an emergency, then by all means head on in! I know there is nothing you could do at this point but you are PG and anything that feels this scary to you can be checked out if you want to. Good luck!!!!!! HUGS!!!!!

Kimberly

meg12 · Post by **meg12** » Mon Mar 26, 2007 4:43 am

hhb--I'm praying for you!

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Mon Mar 26, 2007 10:53 pm

Thanks, girls, for your thoughts and prayers. I went to have an U/S and saw my RE today. There is still one heartbeat (thank God!) and that fetus has already grown since Friday and the heartbeat has gotten higher, which is great news. The second sack is still there with no heartbeat, but he's not sure what tissue I lost since the sack is there. He said that I'm probably going to lose that, and some women can lose a twin without knowing, or with a gush of blood, a little spotting, cramps/no cramps, passing of tissue, etc., so I do fall within the norm of losing the second fetus. I'm sad about that, but I've had a miscarriage before and I know it's my body's way of eliminating something that was not healthy to begin with, and I thanked God then and do now that my body is able to do that.

That being said, he said I'm still not "in the clear" as far as that being the only reason for the bleeding and cramping. I haven't had new blood since last night but I've had somewhat strong cramps all day and he was a little concerned/interested in that. He wasn't alarmed at all, but I respect his honesty that he didn't just send me on my way thinking everything is perfect. I'm trying to be cautiously optimistic still, but it's hard having cramps as a reminder hour by hour. If the blood doesn't come back and the cramps subside, that's a good sign. I will see him again next Wednesday at a regular u/s appointment, and he'll see me again this week if my symptoms come back.

Sorry to be so longwinded. It just feels nice to get this off my chest. I really am very appreciative of other women's support, and it was nice to get hugs and prayers from you both!

Thanks-
Heidi

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Tue Mar 27, 2007 1:52 am

Heidi~ What a relief to see your RE. I know you said you aren't in the clear yet but I'm glad that you doing better. So sorry that you lost one of the babies. A loss is still a loss even when you have your other precious baby to be thankful for. Until the little one is totally in the clear I will keep all three of you in my thoughts and prayers. Never said so many prayers until I joined this web site!!

Hope God understands!!!

Also, take you breathers here and get your venting out here so that you and DH can enjoy all the good things and you can give each other a little break. Heaven know my dh doesn't think about this all day like we do. All of us know exactly what the other person feels like from time to time.

Take care, keep yourself relaxed and full of PMA!!!!!

Kimberly

Macca8 · Post by **Macca8** » Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:11 am

Heidi,

I admire you so much honey for the strength you have shown through a very difficult time. The heading alone scares the life out of me. I would be so devastated if I lost one of my babies now so I can only imagine how sad you must be feeling. I will pray for your other baby to get stronger and stronger and for god to give you peace of mind.

Love Lisa XXX

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Wed Mar 28, 2007 2:12 pm

Thanks so much to you girls. It really means alot to me and I feel so much better just reading your notes. I will keep you posted.

-H

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Sat Mar 31, 2007 12:18 pm

Hi Ladies- Just wanted to let you know that I had to have another u/s yesterday for some issues I was experiencing and was nervous about. Well, surprise to all of us, not only was the second sac still there but it had a heartbeat (the other is still there too). I was giddy, I just couldn't believe it. But, my RE said that it's measuring a few days smaller and the heartbeat isn't the same as the first one, and they couldn't see all they wanted to in the u/s as compared to what they can see in the first one. It's still early and I have another u/s next Wednesday (prescheduled, but he wanted me to keep it). He said the second one might or might not make it and we just have to watch it.

My husband couldn't go with me, but I could hear his jaw drop when I called him on the way home. Nothing like being on an emotional rollercoaster. I'm not getting too excited yet, as I know alot can happen. I've miscarried at 9 weeks before (and had seen the heartbeat at 7.5 weeks so we new it was viable) so I don't consider myself out of the woods at all. After two weeks of thinking we were having twins and then one week of thinking we wern't, my mind is going crazy. I'm just trying not to dwell in either scenario.

I just wanted to update you all. Thanks for your support and I'll write again next week.

-Heidi

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Sat Mar 31, 2007 4:01 pm

I could just jump for joy right now for you!!!!!!! AGHGHGG!!!! So, so, so happy for you!!!!! What a ride and I hope your beanie #2 stays strong and fit. I know this is probably dumb to suggest, BUT might I suggest eating as healthy as you can and trying to get a tone of protien. I have this book that states eating soy protien is 100% absorbed by the body. I will look it up if you would like. Let me know. Every little bit helps!

So happy for you!!!!! You must just be elated! Give some extra rubs to those TWO babies for me! Tell Dh I'm thrilled for you both!!!!!

I LOVE NEWS like this!!!!!!

Kimberly

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Sun Apr 01, 2007 2:20 pm

Oh, I loved reading your response! Thank you! I'm hoping #2 stays strong and healthy, too. I'm trying to eat healthy by my nausea has kicked in and my food aversions/cravings are getting the worst of me at the moment. When I feel good I try to get something healthy in, but I actually bought pop tarts at the store the other day because I HAD to have them...haven't had one since a road trip to Florida with my family when I was probably 13!

Anyways, I have a question for you. When you first were able to see both heartbeats, were they the same rate, and did the sacs measure the same size? I turned 7 weeks yesterday, but on Friday the first one was measuring 6 wks, 4 days, and the second one was 6 wks, 2 days. I am just wondering if that's normal. I thought in the beginning (at least with singletons) that most fetuses measured pretty true to gestational age. We will be having a level 2 ultrasound around week 11-12, but I just want some reasurrance that these measurements are okay that they're not totall equal, etc. That seems so far off.

Again, thanks for your enthusiasm and support. I'm trying to remain as optimistis as possible. Back to thinking about the babys' room (it's so hard not too...).

Thanks-
Heidi

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Sun Apr 01, 2007 2:36 pm

Heidi~
So glad to hear from you! This should make you feel lots better. At 7 weeks, mine measured 5 days apart and had hb's 14 beats apart. I was pretty worried that the smaller wouldn't make it but at 9 weeks they were the exact same size with hb's 3 beats apart. My RE was not worried at all about their different size or hb so I figured it was normal. The I read it is typical of twins and rarely are they born the exact same weight so I began to feel much better. So should you! you sound better than I did at 7 weeks! Keep the grin, I think you are going to need it for the next 7 months or so!!!!

AS for the food, I keep forgetting so many of you are experiencing m/s. since I didn't get one day of this I must say if you can eat it and keep it down, HURRAY!!!!!!!!!! Pop Tarts sound really good right now that I read your post about them. We use to get them here and there and a kid and I can recall them being pretty good!!!!

I am just so happy for you and DH. I know there was still something to be happy about but it still would have been so sad to lose one. AFter this long and challenging journey, I know many of us would have been torn to pieces by a loss like that. I'm just so tickled that you don't need to deal with that right now and hopefully ever!

Have a great day and send some extra hugs to those babies for me!!!

Kimberly

hhb · Post by **hhb** » Sun Apr 01, 2007 3:11 pm

Thank you, thank you. I do feel better. I will keep you posted. I've been doing lots of belly rubbin'!

You have a great day too!

Macca8 · Post by **Macca8** » Sun Apr 01, 2007 4:11 pm

Heidi,

When I had my last scan at 8 weeks 2 days..one twin was 8 weeks 2 days and the other 8 weeks 1 day and their heartbeats 3 beats apart which they said to me at the time that can also be because of different sexes too. Girls grow faster than boys and their heart rate is a little faster too.

Hope it works out and both you babies hang in there for you and DH. I know I love carrying twins (I might not be saying that at 8 months when I cant see the floor anymore though)

Lisa XXX

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