The Sisterhood of the Blue Stilettos

[sassynlv]

So, i was searching through some of my old fave albums looking for a particular song, and found a few gems i had forgotten about. This one in particular reminded me of you all (and Angie particularly at this time). So, in honor of the Sisterhood... here goes.

From one of my all time fave groups... Everything But The Girl...

WE WALK THE SAME LINE

If you lose your faith, babe
You can have mine
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

Now I don't have to tell you
How slow the night can go
I know you've watched for the light

And I bet you could tell me
How slowly four follows three
And you're most forlorn
Just before dawn

And so, if you lose your faith, babe
You can have mine
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

When it's dark, baby
There's a light out shinin'
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

And I don't need remindin'
How loud the phone can ring
When you're waiting for news

And that big old moon
Lights every corner of the room
Your back aches from lying
And your head aches from crying

And so, if you lose your faith, babe
You can have mine
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

When it's dark, baby
There's a light out shinin'
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

And if these troubles should vanish
Like rain at midday
Well I've no doubt there'll be more

And we can't run and we can't cheat
'Cause baby when we meet
What we're afraid of
We find out what we're made of

And so, if you lose your faith, babe
You can have mine
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

When it's dark, baby
There's a light out shinin'
And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

And if you're lost I'm right behind
'Cause we walk the same line

Walk the same line

[Melissa112]

Sassy- That is a great song for us! That should be our theme song! I want you to know that I read your blog, and I know exactly how you feel - I have gone through all of the same emotions that you are going through! I actually have come to the realization that if I don't have kids I am okay with that, I went through the Ovulation Tests, the tempature readings, the Clomid, the drugs, the drugs, the drugs... and the complete obsession over am I, Could I be, is this our month, what's wrong with me - and it hurts, I did it for 10 years! These past few weeks, I am finally at peace with if I am not a mommy - ever, that I am okay with that. It is a tremendous weight off of my back, and I pray that you find that peace too.

Jen- I loved your post about the bed, DH and I were just talking about getting a new mattress, because we have worn out ours.... but then he said that we haven't had s3x enough - well than why do we need a new mattress - he just blushed. Boys can be so cute sometimes. (only sometimes!)

Wanna - I'll be thinking about you alot this week, I hope that you find great peace this weekend when telling your families (which I am totally excited for you!!!!) And best of luck when telling your friend, I hope you can in a round-a-bout way tell her about us, and our stuggles (heck you never know, her problem might be her DH?!?!?)

Vicky - I totally know what you mean, when Brittany came back from her honeymoon and she was freakin' pregnant, I could have cried right there! I was so p!ssed off and upset and hurt that I couldn't even see straight, but I had to keep it sane and seem as if I was happy for her, and then when my non-married friend got pregnant her 2nd month off the pill and claimed it was an oops, I was just in shock, I couldn't even pretent I was happy - those people totally take it for granted that they can have a baby and start a family with out any outside influence, they'll never EVER understand what we go through, they'll claim to, but they won't.

Angie - I cannot stop thinking about you, all I can think of is that it might be an issue with your progesterone and maybe it's not enough, I don't know, I am not rambling, but I want you to know that I am thinking of you, ALOT! And you are in my thoughts and prayers, sweetie! (I woke up this morning thinking about you... I just think about you all of the time... strange how someone you've never met, can just tug at your heart strings so much)

Vicki- Damn all these freakin' fertile people, we should come up with a name for them! Fertiles, or something, I could rant again, but we've been there and done that... I am sorry about it though... where are you in your cycle?

Well there isn't much going on with me, but work, work and more work! I wish there was more, but there's not. The Gators are in the NCAA tourney and are playing Ohio State tonight, that's a biggie around here. But other than that, DH is buying out is business partner, I have been waiting YEARS for this, so that's good, he's gone at the end of the month! Thank GOD! IT's an Easter Miracle!

I got a card in the mail from the new IF clinic, I guess they don't have time for reminder phone calls, so they send out automated mailers, huh? Personalized much?

I wish I had more, but not really....

[vicky77]

Hello there!!

Sassy.....that is great news, having a break and enjoying sex for a change it all sounds terrific!!!! (sorry, the more we write this word, the less you can read this at work, I know....., but what can we do? )

Mel......great news about your DH buying his partner's side of the business, that will be a huge growth for him I guess!!!. Good luck for you and DH!!. So when are you going to your first appt at the clinic?

Jenn....that was so funny about you wearing out the mattress!!

Where's Fee, Amy, Coco and Angie (Angie you are excused cause you wanted a break....but not for long huh!!)

As for me, I am taking my last BCP tonight!!!, woohooo, can't believe how time flied!!. So AF should be here this week. On Thursday I am going for my baseline scan and bw and depending on that I will be starting the estrogen patches and progesterone to prepare my lining for the FET. So we are right on track!!!!

[Melissa112]

Hey Vicki!

Yes, DH buying out is partner is GREAT news, I cannot even begin to tell you how great it is, but really it's fantastomical news!!! My appointment at the clinic is on April 10th at 8:15AM - so I'll come back with a full report

And for you, HIP HIP HOORAY!!! Time is scooching right along!!!

[Melissa112]

Okay so I have two things, I got this email and thought of us! So here is it is:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.
BUT - Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many
miles
are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing
her.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk
it by
yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim,
cheering
you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your
behalf,
and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you,
or
come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law,
sisters,
sisters-in-law, mothers, grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins
and
extended family all bless our life.
When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of
the
incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead, nor did we know how
much we
would need each other.
Every day, we need each other still.


And – I got a call from one of my interns, and she’s pregnant! WHEN IS IT GOING TO END! I thought I was okay with everyone getting pregnant around me, but this is secretly killing me inside. She’s like 23, and her husband is 37, he’s a testicular cancer survivor, and they only got married in December – I am very happy for them, like really happy for them. But still, it sucks.

That is all.

[nickster]

What's with EVERYONE hearing pregnancy news lately??? It seems to come in waves doesn't it? I haven't heard any so far but it makes me wonder if it's not going to start bombarding me! I hope not!

Sassy~ That's a great song! It really says it all doesn't it?

Mel~ Looking forward to hear about your appt. on Tuesday.

Vicky~ So glad to hear things are going good for you. We'll all pray for a REALLY good cycle for you!

[Melissa112]

Vicki - I KNOW! There must be something in the freakin' water - and no one is sharing with us!

[jenn]

On the everyone is pregnant thing- it's just springtime. Isn't that when all the animals do it?? So all those people are animals!

Sassy- loved the song! Any advice you have on not thinking about making a baby would be greatly appreciated. I am NOT good at it. But I think I would be a lot happier if I could push it aside.

Vicky- I'm excited for you!! You are getting closer to having your babies back!

Mel- that poem was great! Congrats to you and DH on the buyout!


Well we got the mattress. Like I said it was for the guest room. We have another room all set up with a queen bed, but when parents and sister come to visit my sister sleeps on an air mattress or the couch, so we got a twin bed for the other room...which has been empty...because a BABY was supposed to be in there. Isn't that sad? I have had an empty room in every house, and I just decided no more!! I have to move on, and stop waiting for my life with a child to begin and start living the life I have now. What do you guys think? Sounds reasonable, but can I do it? I don't know.

Gotta go, large diet coke from lunch just entered the bladder

[Melissa112]

Jenn- I totally understand what you are saying, and I did the same thing, when we built our new house, we made one extra room and office with a computer, and another a guest room, we sort of refused to wait and see, wait and see, and one of our friends when she was getting the ungrand tour asked what room will be the babies room, and DH said very polietly, well Christy, we'll jump off that bridge when we get to it - and she went off on him, like seriously went off, and it's a good thing I wasn't there, because I would have decked her she said "How could you do that to Melissa, I mean she is your wife and she wants this, and you are killing it by not giving her a room for HER baby, you aren't even leaving room in your house for a child, God only knows that is probably why you aren't parents!"

What balls!

Anyway... I hate her, we aren't friends anymore... people just don't understand! They honestly don't understand what WE go through.

So that long drawn out story was to let you know that I totally approve of what you are doing, and it'll be hard at first, but know that you are living for today, and what is today, taking baby steps towards the future, and when the time comes, and it will come! I promise you it will! The room will be there to convert into a nursery!

[Melissa112]

Okay so I left work at 8PM- on my way to the car I decide I need to call Non-Married Pregnant Friend and see how she is doing - so I call her while walking to the car (sort of like walking and chewing gum) and I have the cell phone on my ear, and some paperwork in my arms including this new microplaner that I somehow won from Cook's Magizine... anyway it's really a good one, the kind that you can slide the guard off and on to the other side to catch stuff - okay so I am digressing, I am walking to the car, and as I am about to hear the first ring I slide off the curb and twist my ankle, I think I re-broke my pinky toe, and slam my elbow into the car, I don't remember if the door was open, it just hurt so badly that I hung up the phone, and I cringed, tried not to cry and got into the car, cringed some more and then called her back (she still didn't answer, but I could invision myself letting it ring long enough for her to think that I hung up on her right as she picked up)... I got the freakin' voice mail - what a waste... but when I got home, I wrapped up my toe, and took the dog for a run... what a trooper I am - I am going to pay for it tomorrow!

Ouch!

[amy]

Ladies ... ladies ... ladies

I am having such a hard time catching up.. but first and foremost...

Angie - Of course there is nothing I can say, but AF is a BEOTCH. Take your time and grieve it out. I wish I could hug you.

As for everyone else - I skimmed after reading angies and now need to go back and get down to business. I just wanted to apologize for my absence and let you know that my sweet Uncle Arne passed away in Copenhagen so we had some major work to do. It was sudden (and he was over 90!) and luckily it was in his sleep. Man I hope I go like that. It was just so sad as we had spent the summer with him. Our DS was brokenhearted. Wouldn't have been such an issue except that his daughter is a recovering alcoholic who relapsed last summer, so we wanted to go and help her through all the stress to make sure she didn't fall off the wagon. Blah blah blah... sorry to bore. Just wanted to let you know that I didn't abandon intentionally.

I am going to read and catch up more in a bit. Need to get unpacked too!!

ps..

Mel - you need to wear a protective shell on that foot of yours!

[wannababyIVF]

HI Ladies,
Sorry, I’ve been gone for a few days. Had company this weekend and then it’s been very busy at work lately. So much has happened.

Angie—I posted to you on the February thread, but once again I wanted to say I’m so sorry to hear about the bad news.

Vicky—Wow, that is something about your friend. Twins naturally and they weren’t trying. Hmmm. Personally I think people don’t tell you they are trying for fear that they might have IF issues. If you know they are trying and nothing happens you begin to wonder what’s going on? But if you don’t know they are trying and they just pop up pregnant then that means they were trying and didn’t want anyone to know. Just in case it didn’t work. Great news about AF coming and done with BCPs. That time did fly by. That was really quick. I remember when you were just starting the BCP.

Jenn—Wow, you did call that one. I have a friend that did the same thing. Her words were…”we weren’t even trying.” We are all adults here. We all know what happens when you are not on the pill and you are not using condoms. You may not be “trying” but you damn sure are not preventing! Understandable about moving on. Not putting your life (and house) on hold for a baby. But you never know. Things happen when you least expect it. That twins bed can always be used for your little one when they stop using the crib.

Sassy—Have fun not trying to get pregnant. BTW, Love the song! I think it’s perfect for the sisterhood!

Mel—You are so right. The problem might be my friends DH. Below is the story of me telling her. Good News about your DH buying out his partner! Congrats! More growth for you guys! WOW, loved the email but then read about your intern. Wow, I guess it never ends. As long as we are living there will be someone who is pregnant…NATURALLY. Wow, your friend has some big balls for saying that to your hubby. I’m glad you weren’t there. Then again she needed a smack. Glad to hear you aren’t friends with the big mouth heifer anymore. Some people just don’t get it. Ouch, how’s your ankle, toe and elbow? Man, that little toe just can’t catch a break.

Amy—Sorry to hear about your uncle. Your family will be in my prayers.

Nickster—Yup, everyone is popping up pregnant. It’s an epidemic.

Well last weekend my BF and her DH came to visit for the night. They arrived at our house on Saturday. As soon as she walked through the door she looked directly at my stomach. It was so obvious! I had on sweats and a tee shirt and a sweat shirt on top of that so you really couldn’t see much. But then she commented on my big clothes. I told her that I dress up every day for work and that this is how I like to dress on the weekend (which is true). I like to be comfortable. Almost every weekend I do have on some type of sweats. But my sweats are very fashionable. That could have been my opportunity there but I didn't take it. Anyway, we are showing her DH the house (he has never seen it). While upstairs they ask which one is going to be the baby’s room. We told them. It is the room that has the least amount of furniture. Only because the other guest rooms have beds and full dressers in it. This room has a futon and a book shelf. lol So that was anothet chance right there but I didn’t take. Wasn’t ready yet. So we’re all sitting in the family room and decide to go out to dinner. I figured that would be my chance. I could tell them after they’ve had a couple of drinks. So I run upstairs to change into something more appropriate for dinner. NOTHING FITS! Everything showed my little bump. It took me forever to find something that fits. Finally I put on a shirt and a huge sweater over it. Thank God it was cold out. So at the restaurant while waiting for our table my DH and her DH go to the bar to get drinks. I didn’t know this at the time but BF’s DH asked my DH what I was drinking so he could purchase a drink for me. Find out later that my DH starts to stutter and says…”Uh ah..uh…I’m not sure.” ARGH, instead of just saying, nothing. lol But we went on a cruise last summer with this couple so they know that I drink. Most of the cruise is a blur. So my Dh and her DH come back to where BF and I are seated and he proceeds to hand me the drink he purchased for me (vodka and cranberry…which I love by the way). I told him no thanks and that I wanted to eat first. I don’t like eating on an empty stomach. Argh..Another lie. Then we sit down to eat and everyone is discussing what they plan to order. Finally I just blurted out….”I can’t keep this in any longer, but I’m pregnant.” Then I said, we were trying to wait until I was further along to tell folks but you guys are here now so we wanted to share it with you.” I then also told them that my family doesn’t even know yet and we were waiting for our trip this weekend to tell my family and also tell them while we were visiting. BF sat there with her mouth open. She was in shock. But then she blurted out that she had a feeling something was going on because I have been on her mind so much lately. Her DH was just happy and thrilled. He couldnt stop saying congratulations and that he is so happy for us. He even ordered another drink for DH so they could toast. She took the news much better than I expected. She was very happy for me. Her Dh was more happy than she was. But she said he was happy because he believed that hearing my news will make her want to go get checked out. He said, Knowing what we went through will prompt her to figure out what’s going on. He also said it might be him and not here (although he has a daughter from a previous relationship, but she is a teenager now). So I’m so glad that is over. The rest of the weekend was more relaxed. We went shopping and to the movies and I was able to put on my sweats and my clothes that showed my little bump. Now just looking forward to this weekend when we drop the news on my father, stepmother, aunt, cousins, sisters, etc. It should be a very interesting weekend to say the least.

Hope you all are doing well!

[jenn]

Wanna- I'm so glad your weekend went well, and your friend seemed to take the news well!

[amy]

Wanna - Great job on the delivery. I think you stated it all very well and I am sure she understood why you were distant and hesitant. I hope it prompts her to join us here!

[Melissa112]

Wanna - I am so glad you told her and I think it sounds like it went well! I hope it prompts her to go to an IF Clinic and talk to someone, ya know, at least here, it's cheaper to start with the boy.... so maybe she should start there, and then see where that takes her - but she has to do it in her own time. Congrats on your first personal pregnation experience!!! Good luck this weekened!!!!!! I am so excited for you!!!

I think I am going to wrap myself in a bubble, and just live in my safety net or bubbleness... I am just so a klutz lately!

I am getting really nervous about my appointment. I shouldn't but I am.